im-not-desperate

i lost 2 cats to feline diabetes and that’s why western society is fucked 100 years, im a desperate man YOU BETTER WATCH YOUR FUCKIN BACK, MEOW MIX*

*ᶰᵒᵗ ᵃ ᵗʰʳᵉᵃᵗ ᶰᵒᵗ ᵃ ᵗʰʳᵉᵃᵗ ᶰᵒᵗ ᵃ ᵗʰʳᵉᵃᵗ ᶰᵒᵗ ᵃ ᵗʰʳᵉᵃᵗ

anonymous asked:

im so sorry to dumpt his on you im just not sure what to do/where to go anymore, im getting really desperate and your zine really speaks to me and it really sucks that im putting this on you, a million times sorry but i just want to know if you have info on finding a good therapist for bpd? or anyting around that, im looking and nervous bc $$ and i am just scared in general, idk any advice you might have? thank u if you answer this or dont and sorry

first off, it’s totally fine to come to me with stuff like this, you don’t need to apologize, and also, i’m so glad my zine meant something to you and that you are in the process of seeking help, being borderline is way too much to deal with on your own.

anyway, if at all possible, find a DBT program, one that follows marsha linehan’s model for how it was intended to be used (i.e. - there should be a skills group component, as well as an individual therapist who will take coaching calls out of session and has a team of therapists for her own support, it also means they are very, very unlikely to try and hospitalize you.)

however, i know those programs can be really expensive and are usually out of network, so in lieu of that i would recommend looking at psychologytoday, it’s like a therapist dating site there are so many filters and you can search for therapists who know about DBT, or borderline personality disorder in general!  read through profiles and see who feels good to you, buzzwords that usually make me trust a therapists profile are “client directed,” “empowering,” “harm reduction,” and basically anything that makes me think they aren’t going to shame me for my ~problem behaviors~ (which like, is the HUGE thing about DBT, right?  it’s a behavior therapy– meaning, it works to help you change behaviors that aren’t serving you or are ineffective to meeting your goals– paired with validation and understanding and acceptance of where you are at, that traditional cognitive behavior therapies lack.)  i’d recommend getting a copy of marsha linehan’s DBT skills book and asking a therapist to work on it with you.

also as i mentioned in a previous post, most cities have a local SA/DV shelter with access to free services for survivors (even if it was decades ago!  even if you can’t outright say what happened!), which most people with bpd are, tho sorry if i’m making assumptions.

also if you live in the DMV or PNW area i can recommend individual therapists, feel free to reach out off anon if you wanna tell me more specifics of your situation so i don’t do so much generalized rambling xx

anonymous asked:

PLEASE PUT THE YOUNG SCRAPPY AND HUNGRY THING ON REDBUBBLE IM DESPERATE (it was an iPhone wallpaper but i would love it on a t shirt)

Will do I gotchu

*hums stronger than you*

For some reason people still tend to like my old drawing of sin so I really needed to draw it again

my mom has been hinting on dating… again. 

And these conversations always end with me saying “OH MY GOSH I KNOW”

and her just continuing.

and me saying “You don’t think I’m TRYING?!”

ANd then I’m thinking, “Why don’t I have a boyfriend?”

Then im like… wait. LOOK AT MY CHOICES.

And i remember why i dont. 

SO, yeah.

Thats typically how those conversations go. Why don’t I know any quality boys??

Irrational Fears.

I have this irrational fear that I will never find someone I can be silly with or who understands sarcasm and who won’t be afraid to hold my hand in public places, despite how homophobic the area is, I just want to meet that one girl who we can equally call “mine” . I torture myself daily by throwing myself on the internet watching YouTube videos, scrolling through Tumblr, and witnessing all these adorable girls loving each other. I’m not desperate by any means because I’m sure someone is out there, because there’s someone for everyone, I just have this irrational fear.

anonymous asked:

Hulk and Black Widow are so unattractive together. He's big and brutal and she's a tiny woman. What are they gonna advertise a woman next to a monster as a couple? Or a shy nerd with glasses next to a strong redhead? Their personalities are incompatible, backstories completely different, the age difference is bizarre. They're not very aesthetically pleasing together at all. No matter which angle you look at it from, it's disturbing and I don't know how Marvel plans on trying to make it work.

well if marvel had hired someone me who could have written a better love story for them i could have then maybe it would have worked out better thanks for nothing marvel but hopefully they will hire a better writer in the future me to fix their relationship marvel please hire me

haha ehhhh honestly i dont even know why my muse had left me for so long again ^-^’ to quote parle productions on this,blame it on the cosplay..
anyway,did this quick little thing as a random present for my mum,and on this note wth it seems like its the new edgy cool thing to hate on blenderdick cupboardpatch? right,thats a trend you definitely wont see me follow in 2016….

I would seriously be the best girlfriend like I just want someone who will listen to music with me & go to gigs & get a little drunk with me sometimes & laugh & then have sex then we can travel & do fun things & see places. Maybe we can go get coffee & talk for hours once a week & just explore cool book stores & record shops idk. I don’t even care if you play video games all day I don’t even care if we don’t talk/text all day or you want to hang out with your friends.

I just want someone relaxing & calming to be around & just down to earth. Why is it so hard. I just don’t care about anything & I keep meeting opposite people to that description jfc when will it be my turn.

If you have any of those simple qualities hmu hi please date me.

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