I don’t want homophobes to tell me that they still love me and expect me to be grateful for not murdering me.
I want homophobes to apologize for hurting me and recognize that their bigotry has consequences.
I don’t homophobes reassuring me that me coming out to them doesn’t change our relationship.
I want homophobes to recognize that they’ve hurt me and my community, and I want them to apologize and ask what they can do to earn my trust back.
I’m tired of coming out and having people who have hurt me tell me that it doesn’t matter. It does matter. Not because I made it matter, but because they did. I want them to recognize what they did and be held accountable for the damage they’ve done.