THERE ARE STILL PPL SAYING THAT TAMLIN WAS NOT MEANT TO BE ABUSIVE AND THAT SJ MAAS BOOKS ARE TOXIC BC THEY PROMOTE ABUSE HOW CAN U LITERALLY MISS THE WHOLE STORY OF ACOTAR OH MY GOD. also calling feyre stupid for staying in an abusive relationship literally go look it up on youtube ppl shame her for a realistic reaction & refuse to read onwards im so so so fucking pissed oh my LORD
IVE LET THIS ASK STEW FOR 2 DAYS
bc the fact that ppl say those things….makes me SO ANGRY.
I think people were upset seeing tamlin go from alpha male hero to alphahole abusive prick. I dont think they really understand that he was NEVER good for Feyre, even in acotar. Some people really really shipped Feylin, and probably felt all betrayed by SJM for “ruining” his character in acomaf. But if you look closely at his actions in acotar, you can see him showing the first signs of abuse and control over Feyre (SJM herself has said that he wasn’t meant to be that great even in book 1).
I don’t see how Feyre staying with Tamlin for like, 1/8th of acomaf promotes abuse? that’s ridiculous. Real life survivors and victims of domestic abuse STAY WITH THEIR ABUSERS on a REGULAR basis. It’s INCREDIBLY difficult to get out. Escaping an abuser isn’t easy, and even once you’ve escaped, your abuser could potentially hunt you down… (cough cough Tamlin sending Lucien for Feyre) (oh god now I dislike Lucien all over again) (ik ppl love him but I have never been okay with this part of him) (obv i hate tamlin more but still)
Feyre escapes Tamlin and starts to make her own life. It’s beautiful. It’s done in a realistic manner. It takes her a while to get over her trauma, to stop feeling guilty for leaving Tamlin. The abuse narrative is so wonderfully written, and it amazes me that people would say these books promote abuse when they are LITERALLY WRITTEN TO DO THE OPPOSITE. Seriously, in the context of the romance genre, acotar is a huge neon sign saying STOP ROMANTICIZING ABUSIVE MEN AND WRITE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS INSTEAD. Because on some levels, Tamlin is SO TYPICAL for romance. And most romance authors will make their alphas into great heroic guys, who overcome their protective issues. But IRL if a guy walks like an abuser, talks like an abuser, and acts like an abuser, then…he’s definitely an abuser. People don’t change for the better necessarily. SJM’s portrayal of Tamlin is so realistic and well done and subverts so many romance tropes as does her characterization of Rhysand.
Also this ask is timely since October is domestic violence awareness month.