Being nonbinary is nothing to be ashamed of. You don’t have to be bursting with pride, ready to shout it from the rooftops if that’s just not who you are, but nor should you have to hide it, keep it tucked away. It’s a part of you, big or small, and you shouldn’t have to worry about life being complicated because of it, or what other people may think.
You do you. Be nonbinary. Pin the flag to your wall, or just whisper it to yourself in the middle of the night. Lead rallying cries for nonbinary support groups, or just reblog nb posts on tumblr. Be nonbinary, whatever and however that means for you.
im so…tired of “love wins” and “love is love” being the #1 talking point in lgbt+ acceptance campaigns. for one thing, as this post points out, it completely excludes trans people who are lgbt+ because of their gender, not because of who they love
but also….i feel like i’m lgbtqia+ because of who i am not because of who i love, or who i might love in the future. i want people to accept me for who i am, and because this is a part of me, not because of who i love.
the people i love don’t define me, i define me, and i dont want people to accept me because they think my relationship is worthy of respect. i want people to respect me because they think that i am worthy of respect, no matter who i date, who i love, who i have in my life.
this is a long, heavy post, but ive wanted to make it for a while. i hope if you or someone you know has been in an abusive situation, it may help.
when you are abused, the true ramifications of this abuse do not manifest themselves until you are much older.
when you are abused (in any form) as a young person, your first gut instinct will be to turn down therapy/counselling. you might do this because you do not feel you need it, or you do not want to talk about what happened. you need to push past this.
when we experience abuse as young people, we may feel like it was ‘no big deal’. we may compare ourselves to other victims and feel that we are not as bad as them, so that means we are okay. you may feel okay. you may be a young person reading this right now, thinking ‘well, i feel okay.’
i know you do. we all feel like that we’re younger.
you will get older and your untreated abuse will manifest in your life, your body and your emotions. you may develop terrible habits. your body may start to react in strange ways. you may have to struggle with seemingly unexplained bouts of nausea and vomiting as a reaction to ‘normal’ events that have connections to your abuse. you may develop mental health issues and will not understand why. you may grow angry and withdrawn, or deeply depressed for seemingly no reason.
then on one terrible night, you will connect the dots and realise that although you felt invincible as a young person, your abuse affected you.
if therapy is offered to you or you can find it, go to it. abuse does not go away or magically resolve itself. no amount of pretending you are okay will take away what happened. it may hurt to revisit our old wounds, but it is the only way to heal.
it is never to late to heal. if you are an adult who refused therapy and you are struggling, get yourself there, find help, and heal. and if you are a young person reading this, please strongly consider therapy, even if you do not feel you need it.
even if you feel like your abuse did not affect you, let people in. give yourself the chance to heal. do not let your abuser take even more of your life than they already have.
like im sure you’re very proud of your wall of text about your own journey to discovering that you’re too smart for and personally ‘Tired of’ the humor in cool games inc or whatever other projects this guy was involved in but you know that uh….. thats so staggeringly far from the issue here? this isnt a scandal about your taste in youtube videos or podcasts women were victimized by this guy and have to live with it i sooooooooo don’t want to hear your text post dissertation on the troubling emergence “McElroy Culture” or whatever the fuck unless its truly, earnestly, purely, & un-egoistically intended to actually help prevent harassment like this from happening in the future
“the gems’ palettes are so oversaturated and gross looking now !!!! it’s terrible show design !!!”
steven universe is actually great with color design and utilizes a lot of specific color palettes for specific SETTINGS. it does so much better with varied palettes than most shows out ive watched (and there’s a LOT).
what you’re complaining about here is the day palette or “default colors”. don’t quote me on the terminology there. this is what they look like without specific lighting hitting them it’s just white light that;s the point of the day palette i’m sorry charlie please stop crying
so like bartender au again where a very drunk yuuri does a very messy body shot off of victor because twitter and im very tired and i dont know how to anatomy and idk just take this from me just take this and pretend it didnt happen leaf me alone