hi! i think im a demiboy/trans boy and i feel fake bc i havent "known" in my whole life like i havent felt my whole life tht im a boy .. it makes me feel guilty
tbh the “born this way” shit is really bad because not only does it make people like you who didn’t always know their identities feel like they’re faking, but also it implies that the only reason you’re not cis is because you can’t help it, and you’d be cis if you had a choice. Basically it turns “respect sga/trans/nb people because they’re people” into “respect sga/trans/nb people because they can’t help not being ~normal~ and they deserve pity.”
Also I know people in my trans group who realized or started IDing as trans/nb after they already had careers and kids and shit. We’ve gotten asks from people exploring gender in their 40s/50s. Identities are fluid because you are fluid. You are not a static person. You grow and change and you have different experiences, so of course your identities and the way you interpret said identities are going to grow and change with you.