The only thing you should do behind someone’s back, is make Dua for them.
The Prophet (pbuh) defined backbiting when he said:
“Do you know what is meant by backbiting?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “To say something about your brother which he dislikes.” One asked, “Even if what I say is true about my brother?” He replied, “If such defects you say are true about him, then you have backbitten him, and if he doesn’t have what you say, then you have committed slander against him.”
(Related by Muslim, Abu Dawood, and Tirmidhi)
Hence, it is not allowed to talk about somebody in his/her absence, even if what was narrated was true. If it was not true, then it would be a bigger sin and it is called Buhtan (false accusation).
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT”
It is important to note that to find other’s faults or to talk sarcastically or to defame a person is called ‘Lumz’. In the Qur'an, Allah (SWT) states: “Do not defame one another.”
(Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:11)
May Allah (SWT)protect our tongues from backbiting and defaming one another.
Alot of Muslims think it will be SO EASY to say the Shahaadah when they die. So many of us think it will be a PIECE OF CAKE.
Lets test yourself this:
When u fall down or trip what comes out of ur mouth?
When u drop something & it breaks what do u say?
When ur child spill all their food on the carpet, what do u say?
When someone overtakes u or cuts across ur way, what do u say?
When someone takes ur parking spot?
Do u say ‘Bismillah", “Astaghfirullah’, ‘La ilaha ill Allah” or 'Subhaan Allah’
Do u say “Whoops” “Oh Sugar”.
Do u start swearing uncontrollably?
Do u use a foul word? Or resort to curses?
So in this Dunya while ur 100% awake & alert u cannot control ur tongue, the first thing that rolls of ur tongue is a SWEAR word
WHAT MAKES U THINK U WILL SAY THE SHAHAADAH WHILE UR IN THE THROES OF DEATH, TAKING UR FINAL BREATHS, SEEING THE ANGEL OF DEATH?
Set a good example. Everytime something happens, make sure the words of Allah roll off ur tongue. If u swear or curse in front of ur children they will also imitate u. So set a good example for ur children as well.
May Allah grant us the ability to die with the Shahaadah on our lips.
This is a really beautiful story about the hijab and da'wah so you need to read this and reflect. About five or six years ago, I got introduced to an amazing sister from Taiwan. She miraculously accepted Islam many years ago however I want to share one of the stories of how she changed someone’s life without knowing.
She told me that she lived on the outskirts of Vienna so about two times a week, she’d catch the train into the city in order to go shopping and buy things for her home. One day, she went to a gathering and an Austrian woman who she did not recognise saw her and said, “IT’S YOU! IT’S YOU! IT’S YOU!” - everyone was extremely confused so the Taiwanese sister looked at her and said, “Me? We don’t each-other? I think you’ve mistaken me for someone else?”
The Austrian woman got extremely emotional and said, “No, It is you! I saw you on the train for 2 years. I saw the way you wore your hijab and I saw how dignified and beautiful you were. I saw how much modesty and self honour you possessed. I saw how great and elevated your morals were, and something triggered into my heart that I must learn about your way of life. I looked up Hijab and found Islam. I looked up Islam and found God. I fell in love with this religion so I decided to accepted Islam!’
This is the essence of true da'wah - Lips don’t need to move because character talks. Tongues don’t have to articulate because our morals translate the secrets of the hearts. We don’t have to give a thousands lectures because our soul carry a million realities. Sisters, Allah honoured you with the Hijab. He raised you above creation. He made you inheritors of Lady Fatimah al-Zahra and the noble wives of the Prophet ﷺ. If you embody their teachings and remain steadfast with their modesty and purity, Allah will show you miracles and he will make you a means to changing lives. The people of this world are thirsty for La-ilaha-ila-Allah, but only those who love and connect themselves to the Prophet ﷺ who shall distribute al-Kawthar can quench the thirst of humanity.
اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ ، وَأَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ ، لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أنْتَ
Allahumma rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘aynin wa aslih li sha'ni kullahu la ilaha ila anta
“O Allah, it is Your mercy that I hope for, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for a blink of an eye and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshipped except You.” -
The Prophet ﷺ advised those going through great stress and difficulty to recite the dua above.
Reflect on how when things get tough, the solution *starts* by relieving one’s iman: calling upon our creator alone and declaring He’s the only One truly worth it. ❤️
“Sekarang aku telah mengenal dan menyembah-Nya, mungkinkah Dia akan menelantarkanku?”
Dikisahkan oleh Ibnu Qudamah Al Maqdisi dalam karya beliau ‘At Tawwabin’, dari Abdul Wahid bin Zaid. Beliau meriwayatkan;
Suatu kali kami bepergian dengan kapal laut, kemudian angin membawa kami menuju sebuah pulau asing. Disana, kami menemukan seorang lelaki menyembah patung. Tentu kami bertanya padanya, “wahai bapak, apa yang engkau sembah?”
Lelaki asing itu serta merta menunjukkan pada kami sebongkah batu berpahat seperti bentuk manusia.
Abdul Wahid : Di kapal kami ada seseorang yang juga membuat barang seperti itu. Dan ketahuilah, barang itu bukan tuhan untuk disembah.
Lelaki asing : Adapun kalian, apa yang kalian sembah?
Abdul Wahid : Kami menyembah Allah.
Lelaki asing : Siapakah Allah?
Abdul Wahid : Dialah yang arsy-Nya di langit, kekuasaan-Nya menyemesta, baik yang mati dan hidup di bawah genggaman-Nya.
Lelaki asing : Bagaimana kalian tahu kalau Dia adalah Tuhan?
Abdul Wahid : Dia yang Mahaperkasa mengutus seorang Rasul untuk mengabarkan pada kami.
Lelaki asing : Apa yang dilakukan Rasul kalian?
Abdul Wahid : Beliau menyampaikan risalah kemudian Allah mewafatkannya.
Lelaki asing : Apakah Rasulmu meninggalkan tanda dan alamat bagi manusia?
Abdul Wahid : Ya. Tentu.
Lelaki asing : Apa peninggalannya?
Abdul Wahid : Beliau mewariskan pada kita sebuah kitab dari Allah Sang Maharaja.
Lelaki asing : Perlihatkan padaku kitab dari Sang Maharaja itu. Jika benar Dia Tuhan, pasti perkataannya adalah baik tanpa cacat.
Maka kami memperlihatkannya mushaf Al Quran yang kami bawa.
Lelaki asing : Aku tak bisa membacanya.
Maka kami membacakan beberapa surat Al Quran untuknya. Tak lama sang lelaki asing langsung menangis sesenggukan. Ia dengar lagi dan lagi-lagi menangis. Seperti itu berulangkali.
Lelaki asing : Pastilah Pembuat kalam ini adalah Sesuatu yang Agung dan tak pernah berbuat kesalahan!
Kemudian ia memutuskan masuk Islam. Maka kami mengajarkannya syariat Islam dan beberapa surat Al Quran. Kami membawanya ikut bersama kapal yang kami naiki. Ketika telah datang malam dan semua orang tertidur lelap, si lelaki bertanya : Wahai manusia, Tuhan yang kalian perkenalkan padaku ini, apakah jika malam datang Dia juga tertidur?
Kami : Tidak wahai Hamba Allah. Dia tidak mengantuk dan tidak pula tertidur.
Lelaki : Celakalah kalian, kalian tidur di malam hari padahal Tuhan kalian tidak tidur?
Kemudian ia meninggalkan kami untuk beribadah sepanjang malam.
Ketika kapal kami telah sampai pada tujuan, temanku berkata, “lelaki itu telah memeluk Islam dan datang ke negeri ini sebagai orang asing. Mari kita kumpulkan dirham kita dan sedekahkan untuknya”
Ketika uang dan beberapa bekal telah terkumpul, kami datang padanya.
Lelaki : Apa ini?
Kami : Ini beberapa dirham dari orang-orang untuk memenuhi kebutuhan hajatmu selama di negeri ini. Terimalah.
Lelaki : Laa ilaha Illallah. Dulu aku terpencil di pulau asing, aku menyembah patung namun Allah masih mencukupi hajatku. Sekarang aku telah mengenal dan menyembah-Nya, mungkinkah Dia akan menelantarkanku?
Kemudian ia menjalani hidupnya dengan giat. Mengumpulkan bekal dan bekerja dengan tekun. Ia menjadi salah satu tokoh masyarakat yang dikenal dengan keshalihannya sampai wafat. (Kitab At Tawwabin)
[Al-Ghafur/ The Forgiver and Hider of Faults/ The All Forgiving]
This divine name appears many times in the Qur'ān, pointing to Allah’s kindness, love and mercy which He keeps showering upon his servants. We should not doubt, and rather have conviction that He may forgive our sins out of His mercy. However, we should attempt to avoid sinning as much as we can. This divine name should make us steady on the right path, believing that He will forgive our past misdeeds. “Verily, Allah is the Most-Forgiving, Very-Merciful.” ﴾2.173﴿
Allah’s forgiveness is unlimited. “Tell my servants that I am the Most-Forgiving, The Merciful.” ﴾15.49﴿
Knowing this, believers serve Allah with hope in their hearts and not despair. “O My servants, you sin by night and by day, and I forgive all sins, so seek forgiveness of Me and I shall forgive you.” [Muslim]
So, if one commits a sin, one should turn to his Lord in humility and repentance, and ask Him sincerely for forgiveness. “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if you did not commit sin Allaah would do away with you and bring people who would commit sin then pray for forgiveness.” [Narrated by Muslim, 2749]
The best way to pray for forgiveness is to say:
اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لا إِلَهَ إِلا أَنْتَ خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَمَا اسْتَطَعْتُ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ وَأَبُوءُ لَكَ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي فَإِنَّهُ لا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلا أَنْتَ
Allahumma anta Rabbi la ilaha illa anta, Anta Khalaqtani wa ana abduka, wa ana ‘ala ahdika wa wa'dika mastata'tu, A'udhu bika min Sharri ma sana'tu, abu'u Laka bini'matika 'alaiya, wa Abu Laka bidhanbi faghfirli innahu la yaghfiru adhdhunuba illa anta
(O Allah! You are my Lord! None has the right to be worshipped but You. You created me and I am Your slave, and I am faithful to my covenant and my promise as much as I can. I seek refuge with You from all the evil I have done. I acknowledge before You all the blessings You have bestowed upon me, and I confess to You all my sins. So I entreat You to forgive my sins, for nobody can forgive sins except You.)
Never think evil or bad of a Muslim woman who does not wear the Hijab. Wallahi, They are our sisters. They are our honour, they forever remain precious. They say Lā ilaha ilā Allāh and their hearts contain the love of Muhammad Rasool'Allah ﷺ, and as long as we live in this world, we honour and respect them. If we truly live with this mentality and we pray for each other, a day will come when they’ll put it on…
It’s time for me to be honest with you. I am Muslim.
All my life, I have tried to connect with Christianity and I never was able to do it at the level I desired. I dropped religion entirely for a while. But now, I believe in God (Allah) stronger than I ever have in my life. Islam has filled my heart with so much faith and love; I no longer feel the empty void I felt before.
Please remember that Islam is not what the media portrays and maybe not even what some Muslims make it out to be. If you judge a religion based on its followers, you will always be disappointed. The religion is perfect, its followers are not.
I am a Feminist and a Liberal Muslim Intellectual. I am not brainwashed and I have not gone off the deep end. I have not joined a foreign clan; I chose God above all others, even family and friends. I want God to be the number one thing in my life. I have a sincere desire to have a relationship with God directly. My heart has been touched and moved by the powerful words in the Qur'an. In fact, since I first learned about Islam, I was drawn to it and I never stopped learning about the religion over the years.
My conversion and path that led to Islam is complicated and is a deep story. But for now, my conversion in a nutshell: la ilaha il Allah. It means “There is no God but Allah.” This is the foundation of my faith and my belief. Please know that I do love Jesus and I admire his tireless service and submission to God. I don’t worship him or see him as God incarnate, but I still love Jesus. God does not need Jesus or a partner. God is God alone. I understand the trinity and I know the arguments are reasoning behind it, but it seems to separate God into three parts and that just seems unnatural to me. It doesn’t feel right for me. I need to follow my heart and I chose Islam for a variety of reasons.
Islam is to submit and surrender one’s will to a higher truth and a transcendental law, so that one can lead a meaningful life informed by the divine purpose of creation–a life in which the dignity and freedom of all human beings can be equally protected.
I want you to ask questions and support me. But sometimes your questions feel like they come from a skeptic or someone who is openly against Islam and trying to prove it wrong. This puts me on edge and is a trigger for me. When you bring up something, I am wary about where you are going with your questions. My guard is up right away, ready to defend myself and my faith against your interrogations. I don’t want it to be like that.
I hope that you and I can hear each other and come to terms with each other’s beliefs. I hope that we can listen to each other with open hearts and begin to understand the passion for God that dwells deep in each of our hearts. Religion has divided people and split families apart and that is something I never want to happen.
The Christmas season is a time for family gatherings and gift giving to those to are less fortunate. Islam is about being kind and gracious to all people. Although I do not celebrate Christmas now that I am Muslim, I do respect the holiday of Christmas, and would never mock others for their celebrations. I think kindness is easy and the best way to show non-Muslims my love for Islam. Gathering with family is nothing more than a formality to enjoy each other’s company and eat delicious foods. Spending time with my family does not mean that I am celebrating Christmas. Instead, I am celebrating peace, love, and kindness.
I actually started a cool blog called After my Shahada. I can send you the link. It has my conversion story, and everything. I am getting great feedback. I am sure you will love it, too.
I love you (all)!
Thank you for reading, liking, and reblogging this post. I will be following up with this post one week from now (January 5, 2017) to talk about my family’s response to my change in religion. If you would like to learn about how I came to Islam, please click here.
Allah’s Messenger (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “If anybody comes on the Day of Resurrection who has said: La ilaha illal-lah, sincerely, with the intention to win Allah’s Pleasure, Allah will make the Hell-Fire forbidden for him.
Sahih al-Bukhari, To make the Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq), Book 81, Hadith 12
The first thing the parents especially mums should be teaching their kids is TAWHEED.
These days people focus on teaching their kids ABCs, 123, animal names, nursery rhymes etc but they FAIL to teach them that which will save them from Hell fire - Tawheed.
Umm Sulaim (radiallaahu ‘anha) would teach her son Anas (radiallaahu 'anhu), saying:
“Say: 'Laa ilaaha il Allaah (none has the right to be worshipped in truth except Allaah).’
Say: 'Ash-hadu anna Muhammad Rasul-ullaah (I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah).’”
This was BEFORE the age of weaning [Siyar A'laam an-Nubalaa (2/305)
So u should be teaching Tawheed even before the age of TWO .
Some tips on how u can Tawheed to ur toddler age & above:
1. Repeat to them the Kalimah La ilaha il Allah Muhammad ur Rasool Allah right from the day they are born all the time until they can pronounce it (doesnt matter if they dont pronounce it correctly as toddlers have limited speech skills)
2. Teach them Tawheed ar Ruboobiyyah - teach them that Allah is our Creator, the Only One.
Tell them Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala created everything.
Ask them :
- Who created you?
- Your mum and dad?
- The animals?
Teach its Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala who created everything.
When they look at the Sun or stars tell them its Allah who Created everything. Make them focus on big & small creations.
Even the ant & apple, tell them Allah created it.
This makes them realise that EVERYTHING is created by Allah.
3. Teach them Tawheed al Uloohiyyah - teach kids that we worship only Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala we only ask Him for help.
When u pray Salaah & kids imitate to u teach them we are praying only to Allah.
When ur child needs something for example if a toddler is crying for a new toy teach them to make dua & ask Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala even for the smallest things.
4. Teach your child Tawakkal to rely upon Allah for everything - when ur chilld is scared or worried them dont tell them “Im here or ur dads here dont worry’ teach them Allah is with u. He is the Best Protector.
He will look after you. This will teach ur child to rely upon Allah rather than you or any other human being.
Even if you die or your sick & your child is lonely, they will learn to rely on Allah and trust Him.
When your child is worried tell them Allah will make things better.
When ur child is sick teach them to turn to Allah to make dua to him & ask Him for shifa.
5. Teach them Tawheed al Asma wa Sifaat- teach ur kids Names & Attributes of Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala from an early age.
Ask them where is Allah,tell them Allah is Up- the Most High, above all Heavens. When a child is naughty tell them Allah is Watching them that He sees all.
Always remind that even if ur not there Allah is with them in His Knowledge.
If they throw a tantrum or become angry tell them that Allah Hears them.
If ur child is being impatient tell them Allah loves those who are patient.
When u take ur child to the beach or when they see rainbow tell them Alllah is the Creator, He desgined everything.
Remember the happiest people are the people of Tawheed so if u want ur child to be content & happy both in dunya and akhirah teach them Tawheed right from day one .
You have 2 friends in this life: Allah & those who remind you of Allah.
You have 2 enemies in this life: Shaytaan & those who make you forgetful of Allah.
Be Smart O'Muslim .. Always be with Friends. Not with Enemies