Okay, ME fandom. Gather round. We need to have a round table discussion. And I genuinely want a discussion. Anything I say below could be wrong - I am open to that. But I feel I need to say something.
There is something going around that I noticed passing through my dash but mostly ignored as being a bit silly and mostly harmless. However, I recently have been approached by two friends of mine who have been affected by it. You start messing with my friends, you mess with me, so I’m going to say my peace (for what its worth).
It’s this idea that women writing mlm fic is somehow fetishizing gay men. Now, I’m not saying that this claim is illegitimate. The lines are a bit blurry, I’ll admit. I’m certainly willing to discuss it. But I do not feel, as a gay man, the least bit threatened or cheapened by women who want to write gay characters, including smut.