ignition chemistry

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The violent reaction between sodium hydride and water. 

Sodium hydride is a salt-like hydride, composed of Na+ and H− ions, it is an ionic material that is insoluble in organic solvents, but soluble in molten sodium metal and quite often used as a base in chemistry. 

When contact with water sodium hydride releases hydrogen, turns into sodium hydroxide and generates a lot heat. Because of this heat the generated hydrogen gas ignites and because of the presence of sodium ions it burns with an intense yellow color (as seen). 

NaH(s) + H2O(l) –> NaOH(aq) + H2(g) 

Because of this, NaH is usually sold mixed with mineral oil what keeps away water and protects the hydride from moisture. However if it is stored for long time, it should be titrated by measuring the amount of hydrogen generated from the reaction of the hydride and an alcohol. 

Science!

Snow Day - Victor, Yuuri, Yuri, and a little Otabek

It’s a snow day which means thinking about Victor and Yuuri and Yurio in the snow, obviously. 


SNOW DAY

In Hasetsu, you can go to bed in the middle of spring and wake to a world changed by a freak snowstorm. Balmy the day before, the air turns to ice, and snow hides the cherry blossoms and buds on suddenly heavy branches.

And it always reminds Yuuri of Victor.

Actually, it’s like Victor in a way. Something beautiful, but also full of contradictions. Something that should be impossible, a little otherworldly, and lovely enough to be a work of art—but also real enough to touch, to make Yuuri’s cheeks redden. 

But it’s not about putting Victor on a pedestal anymore. It’s acknowledging the very things that make him so incredible.

“Actually,” Victor says, pressing a kiss like a fallen blossom to Yuuri’s shoulder, “this weather always reminds me of you. After all, the first time I came here, it was exactly like this!” 

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Just A Shout Out

Do the people at the controls of Arrow, WM, MG…  and the list goes on, think that they can write their stories solely based on ratings.  (WM on Olicity—”we’ll play it by ear on where that will go.”) Paraphrasing of course, but you get the gist. Do they not have the same numbers we have, like the percentage of Olicity fans vs the percentage of comic fans, or just the general public numbers?

if they do, maybe they should look more closely at those Olicity numbers again. Do they not hear the screams of the faithful? Have they forgotten the chemistry that ignited the show? Did they forget they’re the force that created Olicity in the first place? Does lightning in a bottle mean nothing to them?

Am I ranting? The numbers say yes.

Are we as fans only numbers now to them? if so, remember that there is strength in numbers. 

@hope-for-olicity @louiseblue1 @almondblossomme @tdgal1 @dmichellewrites @eilowyn1 @felicity-said–yes @jamyjan @ruwithmeguys @cruzrogue @wildirish23 @swordandarrow

anonymous asked:

What if the Bros have a S/O who's a theater/musical actor/actress but didn't tell the bro and the bros walk in on their S/O with a costar doing something that would make them jealous/mad/upset? Like the S/O is practicing lines about leaving the bro or grinding on the costar or french kissing. Maybe a different one for each bro too? And it could end in fluff or nsfw, if ya know what i mean ;) ;)

I’ve been pouring over this prompt ever since it graced the inbox, just thinking of the various ways this could play out.

I decided to approach this little birb from the perspective of a sort of a “choose your own adventure” kind of gig.

Essentially, I’ve provided you lovelies with a prologue that’ll set up the scenario with the s/o and their costar, and it’ll end off at a clean point where you can then scroll to your desired chocobo and fill in the blank!

Each response will differ in the costar’s nature, the bros’ reactions, and what follows afterwards.

Sound good? 😎

Ready. Set. JEALOUSY

Note: the s/o is implied to be fem + the costar is implied to be male

Envious vibes ↓

Song: “You Don’t Love Me” by Caro Emerald


PROLOGUE

New relationships are like fireworks: captivating, luminous, and full of sparks. The fresh romantic bond between these two is no exception.

From the moment they laid eyes on each other, there’s been something indescribably electric. Almost as if a chemical reaction had occured, causing fizz and bubbles to foam ceaslessly in sputters of blue, purple, yellow, green, they’ve been setting each other off through their own presence alone.

Call it love. Call it lust. Call it whatever the hell you want, because regardless of the label you decide to slap on, the ignition of energy and chemistry will only keep growing.

Having moved into their first apartment together, they’ve grown closer and closer as the days have gone on. In truth, it’s becoming harder to distinguish where one ends and the other begins, muddying the colored water into a puddle of pigment.

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"Stay with me tonight." Bruce Wayne

It was a simple confession said against the bare flesh of Selina’s shoulder.   She felt him before he even approached her from behind.  Selina was running into Bruce Wayne often.  They were attending similar formal functions, and it was aggravating to Selina.  She could see the desire behind his eyes whenever his eyes set on her.  It never failed.  Now, his attention wasn’t unwelcome.  In fact, stealing the attention of a billionaire had it’s perks.  But she wasn’t interested in bedding him.  

Red fingertips stroked at the neck of her champagne glass.  She looked Bruce over.  Tall, dark, and handsome.  Black curls slicked back with the brightest of blue eyes.  An Armani suit complete with diamond encrusted cuff links.  She took a step forward and fingered at his tie.  

“Mr. Wayne,” she began, “you don’t know what you want.”

“I do, Selina.  One date with me.”  Bruce caught her wrist in a single motion and pressed warm lips against the palm of her hand.

“It would be my honor,” he added.  “And please, call me Bruce.”

“Bruce,” she corrected.  Hands searched him.  Selina outlined his tuxedo with her hands, igniting the chemistry between them.  Selina leaned in, pressing herself against him.  She felt the heat as Bruce’s head lowered.  He kissed her gently against her forehead.

Sensing submission, Selina snaked her hands through his suit without difficulty. There was no disappointment in his build.  He was ripped underneath all the layers.  Suddenly the prospect of a date didn’t seem so dismal. She pulled him in closer.  .  

“One date, but only because I like you.”  

How To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young people make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone. A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are. The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young couples are engaging in “Christian dating,” or “Halal dating”, depending on the faith, which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.

Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place? Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase, the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential: Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry: While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love. The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:
• Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort. They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
• Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money? How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
• Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character. You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
• Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have. They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The Emotional Needs of Your Partner: Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.

To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs: Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.

To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs: Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.

It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive. When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans: In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.
• You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about? Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
• The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
• Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual Activity:
[While this is a point of controversy, and I can see the pros and cons of both, ideally, saving this til after you have made a serious commitment is preferable. Though lessons in how to please one’s partner wouldn’t go astray before marriage! ]
• Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
• Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
• Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection: There are four questions that you must answer YES to:
• Do I respect and admire this person? What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
• Do I trust this person? Can I rely on them? Do I trust their judgment? Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
• Do I feel Safe? Do I feel emotionally safe with this person? Can I be vulnerable? Can I be myself? Can I be open? Can I express myself?
• Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.

Look for the following things:
• Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time. Know the difference between suggestions and demands. Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

• Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc. You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment. Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds. If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away. Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner: Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset. Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?” It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team. When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team. Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds. How do they handle it? Are they defensive? Do they attack? Do they withdraw? Do they get annoyed? Do they blame you? Do they ignore it? Do they hide or rationalize it? Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married. People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married. If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage. Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.

Also important to consider are the following:
• Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside. These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts. They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them. Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t. They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them. These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.

• Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship. Never marry an addict. Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol. They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc. When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:
1. The fact is no one looks 25 forever. Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance. When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.
2. Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc. We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
3. Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc. Asking clear questions can clarify this. Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?” “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.
4. Be flexible. Be open-minded!
5. Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom. It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
6. Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health. The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship. If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you?

The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss. Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage. Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.

Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.

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The above article was [in part] inspired by and adapted from a presentation by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A. - Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

by Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

  • Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
  • Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
  • Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
  • Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

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Elementary – The Fourth Season DVD (Aug 23, 2016)

The investigation turns inward…  Sherlock Holmes (Jonny Lee Miller) and Dr. Joan Watson (Lucy Liu), re-ignite their unique chemistry – a relationship that allows them to solve an increasingly complex series of crimes in the Big Apple. But the worm in the Apple makes itself known when Sherlock’s father, Morland Holmes (John Noble), arrives in NYC to live full-time.

His apparent concern with his son’s increasingly intense behavior and addiction relapse does nothing to temper Sherlock’s suspicions and mistrust regarding his arrival. With new cases materializing and emotional crises building, it’s the most electrifying season of Elementary yet! Investigate for yourself with all 24 episodes contained in this six-disc collector’s set.

Special Features:  The Sign of Fourth, Father Holmes, Elementary in Villainy (Miss Taken), Wag the Dog (Hounded), Deleted Scenes, Gag Reel

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Dissolving white phosphorous in a really special solvent.

Phosphorus is a chemical element with symbol P and atomic number 15. As an element, phosphorus exists in two major forms - white phosphorus and red phosphorus - but because it is highly reactive, phosphorus is never found as a free element on Earth. From the two major allotropes, white phosphorous is the less popular, since it is HIGHLY toxic, ignites easily on air and it leaves really nasty marks after it gets on the skin. 

When exposed to oxygen, white phosphorus glows in the dark with a very faint tinge of green and blue. It is highly flammable and pyrophoric (self-igniting) upon contact with air. Owing to its pyrophoricity, white phosphorus is used as an additive in napalm.

When white phosphorus is dissolved in normal organic solvents, like benzene, toluene, ect, it ends up with a transparent solution, it may have a slight yellow discoloration. However in this case it is highly colored as seen on the gifs, it’s due radical formation and depending on the concentration the color of the solution could highly vary. 

Really important note: do not try to work with white phosphorus, it really toxic and it could easily ignite.

A really spectacular experiment: ignition of ground coffee. 

If anyone would ignite some ground coffee not this result would be obtained. The trick was that we previously liquefied some oxygen, added the ground coffee (ATTENTION: it could explode!) and then poured out this ground coffee/liquid oxygen mixture in a porcelain crucible. When the liquid oxygen evaporated, the coffee was lit and it burned as a rocket fuel (as seen on the pics).

Something interesting: Coffee beans have a high potassium content as seen from the color of the flame. 

WARNING: TFA SPOILERS TFA SPOILERS TFA SPOILERS

I saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens and liked it. Really liked it and can’t wait to see it again.

There was so much to like, but one scene was far and away my favorite. It’s on Jakku, in Niima Outpost, and marks Finn’s first sight of Rey.

Unkar Plutt’s just sent his thugs to take BB-8 from Rey by force. It’s three against one and the thugs are a heckuva lot bigger. Finn starts to react, and the shot is framed so we’re observing and thinking along with him. It’s not a fair fight, his conscience has been awakened, and he’s going to intervene. Like so many movie characters before him, he’s going to rescue her. And the camera’s going to follow him and bring us with him.

And then, before he can do any of that, Rey kicks the thugs’ butts. Flat-out thrashes them. All Finn has time to contribute is a little false start or two, after which he just watches. 

The audience I saw the movie with cheered all the usual touchstones – the yellow crawl vanishing into the stars, the familiar cruddy saucer of the Millennium Falcon, and the heroes of the original trilogy. But that scene brought a wave of delighted applause. 

I love that scene because I love characters you can root for and chemistry igniting between terrific actors and seeing a narrative zig when I think it’s going to zag.

But those aren’t the only reasons.

I also love that scene because some girl is going to go see The Force Awakens after a day where someone’s put her down or told her she can’t do something because she’s a girl. She will be working through the process of brushing off what happened but actually internalizing it. She’ll see that scene and think “You know the stuff that happened today? Well, fuck that bullshit.” And that will matter.

And I love it because some boy is going to be at the movies after any kind of day and he’ll cheer watching Rey wipe the floor with the bad guys and it won’t occur to him to think that wouldn’t have happened because Rey’s a girl, or that he’s supposed to like Finn or Poe more. And because of that, it’s less likely he’ll think that when he’s older. And that will matter too. 

Sometimes All We Need To Do Is Listen....

The words people say to each other are very important and not just because of what they mean but also because of what they inspire within and how they make the recipient feel on the inside.
When a deep connection is shared between two individuals communication can develop so much so that a few words are needed to convey what the heart is trying to say.

Carol and Daryl are bonded on a level nobody else knows about but even though the majority of their relationship now is built upon meaningful glances and soft gestures, there were significant moments on their journey where the choice of words used had been enough to ignite a change in their dynamic with each other.
What Carol chooses to say to Daryl each time speaks volumes about them as individuals and the way they relate to each other.

There are no scenes or words wasted between Carol and Daryl which is so significant because each interaction seems to push their relationship just a little bit further and the bonded intensity ignites their chemistry aflame just a touch more each time.

Carol has been loving and building up Daryl Dixon for four seasons now - she didn’t let him disappear or wallow in his anger and resentment alone, she pulled him up when failure was threatening to crush him again and she was there for him at every painful milestone he had to face.

A love like that is hard to compete with and the mere suggestion that 2 episodes of reliving some horrible version of Teenage Wasteland in the woods can even be compared to the powerful, life-changing connection shared between Carol and Daryl, is an insult to the visionary mind who created CARYL and the fans who’ve supported it and celebrated its meaning for so long.

Just hear what CAROL has been saying to DARYL (and vice versa);

Season 2 - Chupacabra

Carol; “You need to know something! You did more for my little girl today than her own daddy ever did in his whole life.
Daryl; I didn’t do anything Rick or Shane wouldn’t have done.
Carol; I know. You’re every bit as good as them. Every Bit!”

Season 2 - Pretty Much Dead Already

Carol; “I Can’t Lose You Too!”

Season 2 - Triggerfinger

Daryl; “What are you doing?
Carol; Keeping an eye on you.
Daryl; Ain’t you a peach?
Carol; I’m not gonna let you pull away. You’ve earned your place.”

Season 2 - Judge, Jury, Executioner

Carol; “Did you get what you wanted? Approval, thanks? Couldn’t hit me, so you beat up a kid - Is that who you are now?”
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Carol; “Don’t pretend like you don’t care! You want your friendship back - take it! Every kind, smart thing you’ve said, take it all back, I don’t care, I’ve lost worse!
But don’t sit back here and tend to your bloody fists and pretend you don’t care!”

Season 2 - Beside the Dying Fire

Carol; “You’re his henchmen and I’m a burden. You deserve better.
Daryl; What do you want?
Carol; A Man Of Honour”

Season 3 - Seed

Carol; “Could be romantic… wanna screw around?”

Season 3 - When the Dead Come Knocking

Daryl; “Stay safe.
Carol; Nine lives, remember?”

Season 3 - The Suicide King

Glenn; “What do you want us to tell Carol”
Daryl; “She’ll Understand”

Season 3 - I Ain’t A Judas

Carol; “I didn’t get a chance to say I am glad you came back.
Daryl; To what, all this?
Carol; This is our home!
Daryl; This is a tomb!
Carol; That’s what T-Dog called it! I thought he was right, until you found me!
(cue adorable real Daryl smile)
Carol; “He’s your brother but he’s no good for you! Don’t let him bring you down! After all look how far you’ve come” (cue adorable real giggling by both!)

Season 3 - Welcome To The Tombs

Daryl: “You know, Merle never did nothing like that his whole life.”
Carol: “He gave us a chance.”

Season 4 - 30 Days Without An Accident

Carol; “Just so you know, I liked you first”

Carol; “Give the stranger sanctuary, keeping people fed, you’re gonna have to learn to live with the love.”

Daryl in Season 5 is essentially mirroring Carol’s words from their past and taking a turn in delivering messages of support to her this time.

Season 5 - Strangers

Daryl: “Allright, I get it. You don’t wanna talk about it. You okay?”
Carol: “Gotta Be.”
Daryl: “You get the start over. All of us with each other. You saved us, all by yourself.”
Carol: “We got lucky. We all should be dead.”
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Daryl: “Hey. We ain’t dead. Whatever happened, happened.
Lets start over.”
Carol: “I want to.”
Daryl: “Well, you can.

Every piece of dialogue and scene they share is brimming with depth and meaning - neither of them “chit-chat” or fill the silence with unnecessary noise, which means that when either has something to say it’s not being said without a purpose or a specific reason. Their moments together are never wasted and always consist of one or the other expressing some kind of support or a message that carries on.

The conversations and words exchanged between Daryl and Beth have a very different tone, message and meaning.
Comparing what they shared in season four can’t be nor should it be compared to CARYL because the connections we are talking about are nowhere near in the same ballpark of intensity or significance.
On screen Beth and Daryl had no romantic chemistry and while they bonded over the loss of their siblings and there was an obligation for Daryl to take care of Hershel’s young daughter since they escaped together, the believability of their connection is not very strong.
The key thing is to remember that prior to the prison fallout neither one of them had shared any significant scenes and their established relationship status was almost non-existent - the “bond” they tried to establish was based primarily on the fact they they were forced to spend that time together.
Beth has absolutely no idea who Daryl Dixon is, what he is about, how to talk to him or what he needs to hear!

Let’s look at a few things BETH has said to DARYL ;

Season 4 - Still

Beth; “What the hell is wrong with you? Do you feel anything? Yeah, you think everything’s screwed. I guess that’s a feeling!”

Beth; “I can take care of myself and I’m gonna get a damn drink.”

Beth; “So, what, you’re like my chaperone now. Yes Mr. Dixon!”

Beth; “I’ve never been in jail. I mean, as a prisoner.”
Daryl; “That’s what you think of me now”


Beth; “I know you look at me and you just see another dead girl.”

Beth; “You’re gonna be the last man standing.
Daryl; Stop
Beth; You’re gonna miss me so bad when I’m gone, Daryl Dixon”

Beth; “It’s like you were made for how things are now.”

Season 4 - Alone

Beth; “I’m getting good at this. Pretty soon I won’t need you at all.”


The contrast between these two completely different people Carol and Beth is about as dramatic as it gets. How they talk to, relate to, refer to and even think about Daryl, is completely different and the dialogue in their scenes illustrates that very clearly.

The scene from Season 3 featuring Carol and Beth talking about Daryl’s departure with Merle show exactly how starkly unique their vision of Daryl Dixon really is;

Beth; “I am pissed at him for leaving! We are weak without him!”
Carol; “Daryl has his code! This world needs men like that!”

Beth is concerned over their safety now that the group has lost one of its main defenders and can’t help but feel angry and betrayed over his choice to leave with the brother he thought was lost. Daryl to her is a member of the group they rely on for protection and safety so him leaving to her is unacceptable because by now the group including her have come to have expectations from his presence. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t care about him because she does however Beth doesn’t know or understand Daryl the way Carol does so to her the situation elicits anger and concern for them and not him.

Carol is heartbroken over Daryl’s loss and her tears and devastation had made the depth of her feelings towards him very obvious BUT even now she finds it within herself to defend Daryl’s choices and motivation.

The scene indicates that Carol and Daryl have shared a lot about their abusive past to one another which coupled with their closeness allows Carol to understand why Daryl felt he had to leave and follow Merle.

Even in that painful moment she can’t and won’t allow Beth to think badly of him in any capacity so she finds it within herself to once again point out that Daryl is indeed a good man and good men are needed wherever they end up being in this world.

Perhaps the strongest argument against B*thyl is the fact that Daryl and Carol choose to be around one another when they had a choice to be with others while Daryl and Beth dynamic was forced and not initiated before by either of them.

The dialogue makes it extremely clear whose heart is tethered to HIS and who understands what it takes to LOVE a man like HIM - and Its not Beth!

Look at the underlying messages of their scenes - the answer is not as elusive as you might think :)

CARYL ON - The Best Is Yet To Come

LOVE XOXO

SANJA

CARYL - The Answer Is In The Script

The words people say to each other are very important and not just because of what they mean but also because of what they can inspire within and how they can make the recipient feel on the inside. 

When a deep connection is shared between two individuals communication can develop so much so, that a few words are all that is needed to convey what the heart is trying to say. 

Carol and Daryl are bonded on a level nobody else knows about but even though the majority of their relationship now is built upon meaningful glances and soft gestures, there were significant moments on their journey where the choice of words used had been enough to ignite a change in their dynamic with each other. 

What Carol chooses to say to Daryl each time, speaks volumes about them as individuals and the way they relate to each other. There are no scenes or words wasted between Carol and Daryl which is so significant because each interaction seems to push their relationship just a little bit further and the bonded intensity ignites their chemistry aflame just a touch more each time. 

Carol has been loving and building up Daryl Dixon for five seasons now - she didn’t let him disappear or wallow in his anger and resentment alone, she pulled him up when failure was threatening to crush him again and she was there for him at every painful milestone he had to face. 

A love like that is hard to compete with and the mere suggestion that 2 episodes of reliving some horrible version of Teenage Wasteland in the woods can even be compared to the powerful, life-changing connection shared between Carol and Daryl, is an insult to the visionary mind who created CARYL and the fans who’ve supported it and celebrated its meaning for so long. 

Just hear what CAROL has been saying to DARYL 

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