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anonymous asked:

Neal is so weak. He's a theif, wishy washy, passive-aggressive, whiny and self-pitying. I don't don't like Captain Swan either, but Neal is even worse.

I could not agree less, Nonnie. Neal Cassidy is in no way a weak character. He survived by himself in a land where everyone kept trying to kill him for decades, escaped to our world and built himself a life with no help from anyone, showing incredible resilience and strength. Yes, he left Emma, but that wasn’t from weakness, it was because he was scared of seeing his father again (and rightly so).

I have no idea why you would call him wishy-washy either, this is the man who, as soon as he discovered he had a son, committed to Henry 110%, packing up his entire life to be with his kid, making sure Henry knew her was there for him. He trading his life for the Darlings without hesitation. He has never been shown to go back-and-forth when making decisions, always knowing what he must do and following it through.

Whiny? When? I honestly cannot think of a single instance where Neal Cassidy was “whiny”, even as a child when his father was The Dark One and he would have had just cause to be “whiny”. If anything, Neal always readily accepted his circumstances and made the best of them.

And self-pitying? Well, first of all, if anyone on the show had reason to be self-pitying, it was Neal. Mother abandoned him, father became the Dark One and started killing people in Neal’s name, father then abandoned him, thrown into a new world where he found a new family and then sacrificed himself for them, ended up in yet another world where he was betrayed by someone he trusted and then hunted by a psychopath for decades before finally coming to our world, finding the love of his life, and losing her. So if Neal were self-pitying, I think he’s earned it, but he’s not. He’s optimistic and hopeful and just tries his best and tries to make the best of his sucky situations.

Neal Cassidy is one of the best and most selfless characters on the mess of a show that is OUAT, and his death will forever be a travesty. So, sorry Nonnie, but you’d probably best unfollow me if you really hate Neal that much, as this blog will always be 110% pro-Neal Cassidy.

Calling all artist friends/followers of mine!

If you’ve been following me for a while, maybe you can remember a certain post I made back in fall, where I talked about wanting to write my own comic after being particularly fed up with the Palmiottis. 

Well, it’s happening! I’m currently outlining the story and will actually be writing that comic during the month of April as my Camp NaNoWriMo project. And since I want this to be more than simple fanfiction - I want it to be an actual comic - I need your help. 

I can’t draw to safe my life, which is something I’ve made peace with a long time ago. I can tell a good story and I can write it down, but drawing simply isn’t one of my talents. But I know for a fact that a lot of my lovely friends/mutuals can draw, and I’m sure I have even more followers who are talented artists as well. 

So I thought, why not turn this comic into an amazing collaboration project? I’m looking for as many people as possible, so nobody will have to draw until their hands fall off. Basically what I’m hoping to achieve is visualizing my comic in as many different art styles as possible! Once done, I’m planning on publishing it piece by piece here on tumblr. 

I don’t want this post to be too long, so more info and details under the cut!

Keep reading


okay i know some people may not care but i just really want to explain my spotify playlists here and share them okay yes cool they’re pretty self-explanatory but just let me live okay

ABSOLUTE LOVES: Okay so this is basically just all of my favourite songs (it’s a big playlist because I have a lot of favourite songs) but it all kind of varies between styles and tempos and all that jazz. This is the most likely playlist to be changed because I’m constantly finding new music. 

SLEEPY SLEEP: This playlist is probably my favourite because it’s helped me so so much, it’s a collection of soothing and slow songs, and it’s obviously really good for getting to sleep, but also for calming down and just relaxing. 

STUDY PLAYLIST: This playlist mostly consists of soft and nice but not distracting songs, but not slow ones to make you sleepy, just not necessarily something that would get you up and dancing instead of well, studying. 

SHOWER PLAYLIST: This is kind of just filled with fun and upbeat songs that you’d want to sing in the shower, and even when you’re out of the shower and getting ready, I guess just songs to get you excited for wherever you’re going and whatever you’re doing. I’d hope that you wouldn’t listen to all the songs during one shower though… (haha wow sarah you’re funny).

RAINY DAY PLAYLIST: Okay this song works for both literal rainy days and emotional rainy days, since it’s really just a bunch of songs to snuggle up in blankets and cry to. Kind of lame, I know. But it’s nice to just let out emotion and feel all dramatic and sad every now and then.

PICK ME UP PLAYLIST: This is kind of the opposite to the rainy day playlist, as it is full of songs to just dance and muck about to. Whether you need it as a mood-lifter, something to wake up and get energised with or something else, it’s sure to be a jam (just a warning, there are quite a few beyonce songs on there so if you don’t like beyonce, unfollow me on all social media right now) 

COLLABORATIVE PLAYLIST???: Okay so this was an experiment to see if I could join our creative forces together and find somewhere that everyone can share their favourite songs but it kind of flopped so please help and add songs you like so we can work together. 



it was a good run.

i’m going on an indefinite hiatus from tumblr. if you want a detailed explanation as to why, you can read this post and i guess this one too. beware, though, they’re quite lengthy and detailed. i am bidding farewell to a very important part of my life so i felt it was necessary to get out all my emotions in order to move on.

i also apologize for making a lot of those situations about me when i wasn’t a part of them, but i can’t help my feelings. observing terrible things that happened to people i care about from afar has taken it’s toll on me. seeing people in pain and being unable to console them no matter how much you wish you could take their struggling away is some of the worst pain in itself.

despite ending on such a glum note, i cherish the time i had on this blog with all of you. it was wonderful and i’m glad i got to interact with such amazing people. it was a good stress reliever while my physical health kept deteriorating, and through the family issues that popped up in recent months. it was a fun way for me to share my content with others and bond over our favourite groups.

i’m so fond of everyone that decided to hit that follow button. it meant and still means the world to me. i appreciate every single person that took time out of their day to read my work, to send me asked, to reply to my posts, to support me. i will never will be able to fully express my gratitude. just know that i appreciate you so much.

i’d also like to mention some people.

@exoverdosed @mewchim @ktaebwi @army-baby-gzb @war-of-hormoan @dailydoseofdia @thestarsarejusthelicopters @bts-bap-trash @mylovejhs @everyonegetsmeaheartbeatcloser @rapmonamous @mygucciman @protectaetae @taecup @daematos @missbaptan @allbap @bangedhim @bbangception @hyunqvwon @monstalways @heonseoks @hellazelo @itsbap @freehoseoksdick @godsavemefrombts @yoongkitty @summertae @bulletproofwhalien @saintminyoongi @allbap @bruisedjin @velvethoseok @hijoonie @cursed-kpop-images @dearmyjimin @bluekyun @ask-bts-stuff @amazzjin @floralseokjin @byeoltan @boymeetsfiction @tayegi @kimdaily @jimlingss @sweaterpawsjimin @btssmutgalore @impossiblewriter @blondejeon @googlebts @jungkook-e @softjiminstan @hoodiejungkook @jungkoog @jheartseok @namjoon-be-my-friend @parkjiminbiased @j—-nope @zephyoongist @literally-just-yoongi-trash @taesberet @drquinzelharleen @nochuie @jiminelli @kthyunngg @twentytaehyung @bang-tan @taesthetes

these are only a fraction of the blogs i wish to thank. you made my experience on tumblr so much better and i enjoyed having you all on my dash. seeing posts from you made me smile and i’m glad i was fortunate enough to stumble across your blogs.

my content will remain up save for my art which i have already deleted. and that is not an invitation to steal my work as i will be keeping an eye out for plagarizers. i will be leaving all my networks but this blog will stay up in case i ever feel like coming back. who knows, it could be in two days or when there’s a comeback i need to yell into the void about or maybe never. if ever, i don’t think it will be anytime soon. if any mutuals would like to keep contact with me, please message me and maybe we can exchange social media handles.

i’ve thought long and hard. i didn’t want to leave, i didn’t want to let go. i tried my hardest to detach myself from my doubts, but i also have to think about my own well being. i have to think about what’s best for me. this was my last resort but with all the progress i’ve made the past few months, i cannot sacrifice my mental health to stay on this site.

i wish you all the very best. i hope you all live relatively happy lives and work to achieve your goals. i’ll always be rooting for every one of you, even if i’m not on tumblr. again, if you would like to keep in touch, please message me. i’ll be here for another 48 hours before i log out for good. i will always love and cherish all of you.

i’m sorry it’s come to this. i will miss this space but i don’t want to be here anymore, at least not right now.


anonymous asked:

I am really sorry but I just don't understand how you can claim to have peaceful views and beliefs and still be supportive of abortion because it's a woman's choice. You're happy to speak for ducks, chooks, sheep, cows and a multitude of other animal rights but not allow the one human right that should not be argued about? The right of an unborn child to live. This just seems like a huge contradiction to me and for this reason I will be unfollowing you.

Hey pal. That’s okay, you have every right to follow and unfollow whomever you choose. I’m sad that you think this way and have to leave, but I wish you well! Just in case you have stuck around or are having a cheeky peek at my blog to see a response, I’ll answer your message anyway.

I rather enjoy (and agree with) the quote “I am made entirely out of contradictions, stitched together with good intentions”. I think that applies to all of us, really! For example, say 90% of the population eat meat. Most will identify as ‘a dog person’, ‘a  cat person’ or ‘an animal lover’ or at the very least be against cruelty towards animals. Simultaneously, those people - who may even have pets, support the RSPCA and think whaling is disgusting - will then go home and tuck into a cooked baby lamb or chicken. I care deeply about our environment, yet it conflicts with my equally deep love of travel and exploring which increases my global footprint. Maybe you support body positivity but secretly wish you could lose or gain weight. We all live the best that we can, not everything is black and white but rather on a spectrum, and I don’t think these two issues are on the same graphs. I am a feminist (as I believe all females are), and my views are shaped by that. I don’t believe a female should be forced to have a child and bring a human into this world if the situation isn’t right. I also don’t believe a female should be impregnated without her consent, forced to have the child, then have it taken away. To me, these principles actually go hand in hand more than they contradict one another.

I don’t think abortion and the slaughter/exploitation of animals are really comparable anyway. Abortion could be the consequence of rape, childhood/teen pregnancy as a result of poor sex education, or generally not being fit to raise another human being - the other is us choosing to exert our dominance over others and use them for our pleasure, entertainment or food when there is no reason for us to do so. 

You may speak up for that foetus, but who speaks for the woman? The person who has to endure 9 months of physical, financial and emotional stress, then another minimum of 18 years, possibly resulting in poor living conditions for both mother and child. I wouldn’t wish anyone to be born out of regret or obligation, that’s no life to live.

I believe that the decision to have or not have a child is one that can be made only by the parents, and the woman whose body is in question. Raising another human being is an enormous responsibility and should not be enforced when it’s not desired/possible. I don’t think other, unrelated people (usually men) should be allowed to dictate laws that will impact another’s life (and body) like that. The worlds population is already reaching astronomical numbers, so I don’t believe we should feel forced into bringing more people into this world if the potential parents don’t wish to do so. It could contribute even more to homelessness, children in orphanages and the already growing amount of people living in poverty. Furthermore, I feel that even if medical abortions were made illegal, women (or their partners) would still have the need for this option and be forced to take some sort of action themselves, which would be very dangerous and traumatic.

When it comes to this topic, I am pro-choice. Not pro-abortion, but pro-every-female-has-a-right-over-what-happens-to-her-body. This incudes all females, not just humans. I’m pro choice, and anti sticking-our-arms-or-’rape racks’-up-inside-female-cows-to-forcefully-impregnate-them-and-make-them-carry-a-child-before-tearing-it-away-to-be-killed..

Best wishes to you x

tothestarsandbacktofireheart  asked:

In reference to you saying that you don't shit on anyone who has different opinions then you, "I fucking hate elriel. Every time it shows up on my dash I want to vomit..." "... except to say that Elriel can die". Would you say that these quotes from you encourage friendly discourse? Cause I wouldn't. You said other inflammatory things about this topic but I felt these quotes summed it up the best. Honestly I've seen you encourage us all to be nice and polite to each other,but then you post this?

The negative things you say about ships or other things you don’t like are the opposite of what you tell others to do. So I’m calling hypocrite. You definitely will shit on someone and their opinions if you don’t like them, a quick skim of your tags clearly shows that. So please get off your high horse and stop pretending your *above such things* because you’re clearly not. This post came out more aggressive then I intended, but hypocrisy really gets me. Sorry for that.

So I’m responding to this publicly because apparently I need to contextualize a lot of what I’ve said, as well as clarify the difference between real people and fictional people, and having a negative opinion versus being a jerk to said real people.

Since you have pointed out my feelings about that particular ship, I thought I would contextualize your argument a bit within my blog. I am very much in a numbers mood, so bear with me:

  • I have made 2,253 posts on this blog.
  • I did a search of my tags, as you did, and I have around 20 posts that mention el*riel, but just to be safe I rounded up to 30. That means that 0.01% of my blog has ever discussed them.
  • To contrast, my pre-acowar OTP was moriel; a quick search of that tag reveals around 400 posts, or 17.7% of my blog talking about them in some way.

Now, clearly, I do not like el*riel. That much is glaringly obvious. What you failed to take into account is how little I discuss them, the fact that I did put my negative opinions under the cut with a warning yesterday, and that I did also start tagging those posts as anti, or using “el*riel” so that it wouldn’t come up when people searched for the ship. I avoid talking about them bc I know that it might hurt people’s feelings because they have difficulty understanding that me not liking a ship does not mean I don’t like them. I do what I can to help people avoid my negative opinions.

So cherry-picking my opinions on that particular ship, when it’s clear I don’t like it, while failing to take into account the other 2,223 posts I have made, and while failing to recognize that I have done what I could to spare people from my negativity on the topic, seems a bit… well, you cherry-picked your evidence. And a few of the posts you mentioned are months old, which… I had 10 followers at the beginning of the year when I started this blog, so I wasn’t exactly concerned at the time about anyone actually paying attention to me. Maybe that’s my bad.

A couple other things that are more generally related to me and my blog and this fandom, not necessarily what you said:

  • I am a person
  • I make mistakes
  • I can be a huge smartass and really snarky
  • I am allowed to dislike things
  • I am allowed to say that I dislike things
  • Me disliking fictional things is not me disliking actual people
  • Not liking a ship is not at all the same thing as being rude to people, and if people (not just you) don’t get that, I really don’t know what to say to you.
  • Again, there is a difference between fictional people and real people. You will notice that the quotes you pulled out? Were never in direct response to someone, or conversation with someone.
  • If you can find an actual example of me being needlessly rude or aggressive to a flesh and blood person, a human being, I will absolutely apologize. But I’m not going to apologize for not being afraid to say what I think in the shitshow that this fandom has become.
  • If someone had sent me an ask that said “moriel can die in a fiery pit of unhealthy obsession and death and torment”, do you know what I would say? Ok then, buddy. Because that opinion? Is not about me personally.
  • You can say you hate a thing that I love. I can say I hate a thing that you love. We can still be friends.
  • Feel free to unfollow or even block people you don’t agree with or who make this fandom less fun than you want it to be. I have become much more liberal with my unfollowing and blocking of people, and let me tell you - it’s been great. You have to take care of yourself, here.

I have received approximately 110 asks since I finished reading ACOWAR just under two weeks ago. Do you know what this tells me? It tells me that people are not afraid to send me their thoughts and opinions, that they do not assume they will be treated with disrespect. Because they aren’t.

My final point about this and the other asks I received last night, is that this is the kind of crap that makes people frustrated. This is the kind of crap that makes people take hiatuses, and message me saying that they want to leave the fandom, and makes people afraid to say what they think. Which, what is the point of any of this, if we don’t feel like we can talk about this stuff without people getting needlessly offended or feeling like they can never say anything negative.

If me trying to be kind and respectful to people as much as possible while still occasionally failing in that regard puts me on a high horse, then I’m going to ride off into the motherfuckin’ sunset on that horse, and never look back. Because at least I’m trying.

Dear Anon:

To the anon who left the asks last night. I’m not going to publish them because for some reason you felt the need to mention other people and they don’t deserve to be dragged into whatever you were trying to start.

But it seems you have some issues with my writing, and what I choose to put on my blog. Those things I’m more than happy to go over with you. To be fair, I don’t think they were mean asks - I think you feel entitled to more than just your opinion.

As for how I write Dean: I’m not about to make him perfect. He’s NOT. I’m not sure what show you’ve been watching, but Dean is far from perfect (and Sam isn’t always the villain) There are a lot of really incredible things about Dean, and some of those are his biggest downfall. Especially, in my opinion, when he takes them too far.

You mentioned Go Ahead and Drown. How, Dean would never abandon the reader like that. Well, first of all, nowhere does it say they were in a relationship. Part of this may be my fault, because in the pairings I did say Dean x Reader BUT in my head it was a platonic relationship. I didn’t think I needed to explicitly state that. Furthermore if you think about it he abandoned Bobby after Sam. At least it could be seen that way. You can’t really blame him for wanting to detach from all things Sam, which would’ve meant people who he considered to be family.

The point is, Dean isn't always some knight in shining armor, which is good! It makes him a person, not some one dimensional Stepford tv character. If he, or any of the other characters were, this show wouldn’t have lasted nearly as long as it has.

As for Safe Here. The reader gets to yell at Dean, she gets to have opinions. She’s not there to placate to him. She gets to be super pissed at him when he does things that affect her without so much as a head’s up. Every once in awhile we all need a swift kick in the ass. That’s life. She also gets to have her very own relationship with Sam.

If you do not like how I write the characters, do not read. It’s not that hard.

Now to the part that got me pretty heated tbh. How I run my blog, who I choose to reblog, the comments I leave, what fandoms I'm in how I interact with friends, followers, whatever, is quite frankly none of your fucking business. You have literally no say in it. I’m damn near 31 years old. I ain’t changing for some random person on the internet just because they don’t like it. Sorry. If you don’t like it hit that handy unfollow button. I promise you aren’t hurting my feelings. I understand my personality isn’t for everyone, shit, sometimes my personality isn’t even for me. I’ve unfollowed people before, for a number of different reasons. Because at a certain point you have to take what you want into your own hands.

It is not an individual blogger’s responsibility to change their space to please you. There are plenty of options. Go find them.

I’d like to post about my family and my life, but because I’m a heterosexual, cisgender, white girl, I apparently don’t exist according to most of the tumblr posts I’ve seen. >.> Seriously, guys. There’s “equality” and then there’s “immaturity”. Moving over to the other side of the scale is NOT what those that originally fought for your rights wanted. I have no idea if people are joking or if they’re serious when I see posts saying “You can only like [popular thing everyone likes] if you’re gay” and I actually feel a little bit hurt when cis girls are completely cut out of the “girls are [something positive]” posts. Girls are already fighting for positive representation and appreciation and respect, we really don’t need YOU GUYS invalidating us, too!

It’s okay to be cisgender. It’s okay to be heterosexual. It’s okay to be WHITE. And I’m sick and tired of tumblr spreading posts that say otherwise. I’m tired of being indirectly insulted by people making posts like this.

At least put a “heterophobia” or “cisphobia” tag on your posts so I can block them and live my life in peace. I’m tired of feeling like I’m worthless and hated just because I’m white, cisgender, and heterosexual.

And before you send me “Well, this is what we deal with”, I ALREADY KNOW THAT. But tipping the scale all the way the other direction is NOT equality. It is, and I don’t care if you laugh, “reverse racism”.

Stick your “down with cis” crap up where the sun doesn’t reach. I don’t care if you’re joking in these posts, it STILL HURTS.

anonymous asked:

Hi! I was feeling kind of down today, because of all the discourse against asexuals that's all over Tumblr. A former favorite blog of mine turned out to be someone who supported the discourse, and I had to unfollow because it makes me all kinds of upset to see that negativity. I hate that I feel like I don't belong in the LGBT+ community, and that people don't want me there. I was wondering if you had some advice to make me feel better? I hope I'm not being a bother.

(before I start, you are NOT a bother, you are amazingandwonderfulandIhugyou)

Well, first off you did great by unfollowing something that made you upset.  Tumblr is meant to be fun, you definitely want to do what you can to avoid any negative content you come across through unfollowing or blocking.

Other ways to feel better…hmmmmmm

1. chocolate truffle(this could be the whole list but I’ll hold back lol)

2. netflix, reading, drawing, or something else that lacks negative comments

example: watch Avatar the Last Airbender cause it’s awesome

3. reading some of the comics out there with Ace main characters!

 examples: Jughead(official comic), Supernormal Step(webcomic), …I’ll think of more…followers help me out here…

4. go to Youtube and watch some adorable Simon’s Cat animation videos, they are adorable and combine cats and animation.  What could make you happier?

5. find a happy playlist on Spotify and sing along very loudly

Anyone else got something that makes them happy?

I’d like to say, re: the whole RTD vs. Moffat science in Doctor Who that the technobabble isn’t the important part. I see people comparing the two showrunners’ use of it, but that’s really a tiny part of the larger issue.

As an artist who is training to work in the industry as a visual storyteller, I’ve been taught to be objective, even if it hurts.

I have dissected things I love because in learning why something doesn’t work because by doing so, one learns what does. I am more interested in becoming a stronger storyteller than I am interested in maintaining my little bubble of denial that all the stories and characters I love are not problematic.

Does that mean I no longer like those stories and characters? No, absolutely not, but I will never argue with someone who also objectively and diplomatically points out these problems just so that I can happily pretend they don’t exist.

If you’re someone who doesn’t want to be that objective about things you love, that’s fine, but that does not give you the right to be rude to or about people who are comfortable enough to. I see this far too often by fans who take criticism on DW personally. It can be personal to you without you taking it so personally.

It’s not a discussion of intelligence or taste, but many fans seem to take it that way.

RTD is not flawless, no artist or storyteller is.

However, RTD and those under his management during his run wrote stories with meaningful themes that were character-driven, either as standalone pieces (Midnight, The Doctor’s Daughter,) or as arcs with specific outcomes in mind (Bad Wolf, Torchwood, Mr. Saxon, Medusa Cascade, etc.) Many of his stories reached us through reflections and truths of humanity and changed our lives; I can say unequivocally that RTD’s Doctor Who changed my life and I will tell you, objectively, why.

The story always came first, and regardless of the believability of the scifi-ence that took place at times in order to facilitate it, it became believable because of the way in which we were sold on what is happening both to and between the characters as they interacted with each other. This happened so effortlessly because they were written as very real people in very emotionally-real situations, even if the literal situations or settings were often otherworldly.

In many ways, this is Storytelling 101. This is the most important reason that we care about telling them in the first place. If stories can effectively capture and express part of the vast spectrum of the human experience, even if they are set in outlandish and otherworldly settings, then we can empathize. We can connect.

We will connect whether we want to or not.

If something is well-written and contains the elements required for us to realistically empathize, it will happen. So to those who complain that those who like RTD only dislike Moffat because he’s not RTD: please stop trying to insult fans by making excuses for writing that is objectively poor by using this as if it were some kind of defense. The writing does not become better simply because you have a subjective opinion of it.

Doctor Who under Moffat’s run has failed again and again to give us characters who achieve a realistic level of depth. You can like these characters, no one is telling you what to enjoy, but many fans will never fail to try to automatically “fill in the holes” to justify their own reasons for liking something so much. We’ve all done this at some point in our lives.

As much as I would have wished for Amy, Rory,  even River to be given a realness, something genuine and flawed in more than superficial, half-baked ways or ways necessitated by the current story, it didn’t happen. 

These unreal characters were written into equally unreal stories, where they reacted unrealistically and experienced unrealistic outcomes that usually included a lack of true and lasting consequence.

Moffat is touted as being a writer that does terrible things to his characters, but those “terrible things” mean very little when the characters they happen to don’t react to them like real people. A character displaying powerful emotions doesn't equate to a well-written one. I really can’t say this enough. What use are characters that don’t react the way you or I might, or the way any other human being might?

The entire point of the Story Concept and why it meant anything to us in the first place begins to disintegrate. We can no longer connect, only observe in a detached manner the bits of humanity that remain in what has become essentially just a caricature.

I grieved as I observed the show that changed my life begin to wither away. After the departure of the Tenth Doctor, I was so saddened that I was ready to move on into Matt Smith’s era because moving forward would ease the pain. The Doctor is a character whose essential nature is based in change. I was not someone spiteful to see David Tennant replaced. Unfortunately, the quality of what followed was objectively worse from a technical storytelling standpoint no matter how much I wished it weren’t. I marathoned most of the DW episodes from Eccleston to Smith, so I didn’t even have a waiting period to possibly spend feeling nostalgic or ruminating and coming up with subjective excuses as to why I preferred RTD’s run to Moffat’s.

RTD overlays technobabble on top of a meaningful story. Doctor Who is a scifi show, so we will always expect to hear explanations we’ll never actually understand, because that isn’t the point.

We don’t need to understand how any of the scifi-ence works as long as it’s believable. It’s believable as long as the cause and effect structure of the explanation lines up with what we believe has been necessitated by the events, both literal and emotional, of the story.

When technobabble is thrown at viewers in Moffat’s series, many will find themselves upset at its lack of realism and attempting to reconcile it with what they’re seeing (or more than likely, what they’re not seeing) because the story has failed to make sense or feel real. This is usually because they story ends up being convoluted, asking more questions than it answers, or attempting to superficially pull our heartstrings with a “sad situation” that is often over-the-top and reminiscent of fiction written by inexperienced writers that haven’t yet understood effective story structure or how to arrange points of emphasis.

What’s happening currently with Clara (Kill the Moon) is being declared an improvement, but one has to wonder if it’s just another development to be later forgotten, as many similar outbursts by other Moffat characters have fizzled out to be replaced by the trend of no-consequences. Either that, or it could become one of the superficially emotional situations. I hope that it’s neither, because there’s nothing I want more than for this show to mean something to me again.

So, in short, it’s easy to feel incensed by scifi-ence when it becomes the icing on top of a cake that’s had the leavening, milk and eggs left out of it.

Like a recipe, writing a story requires a formula. Princples of storytelling and character archetypes exist because they work. That feeling of utter satisfaction after watching a movie or a show or reading a book is the result of proper application of those agreed-upon guidelines that are mostly invisible to the reader or viewer until they look for them. 

So don’t get distracted by which showrunner used technobabble better, because you may have preferred the flavour of of icing on the cake you had 4 series ago, but perhaps instead of complaining about the icing you should be more upset about how disappointing and inedible your favourite cake has suddenly become, or something.

anonymous asked:

How can you justify the way Ravi treats Hakyeon? Thats not soft or gentle at all.

I’ve considered varies ways to reply to this ludicrous message, including not replying at all. The truth is that I could show you photos, gifs, and videos demonstrating how much Ravi loves Hakyeon, what a soft, gentle, caring soul he is, but I realize it would be pointless, as you have already made up your mind about him. I could probably bring Hakyeon before you, ask Hakyeon to tell you all the wonderfully lovely things that Ravi has done for him, as well as the rest of VIXX, and you would still hate Ravi.

Do I condone remarks/jokes Ravi has made about Haykeon’s skin tone in the past? No. But neither do I condone when Haykeon has made fun of Ken’s nose. If you are going to hate Ravi, then you need to hate all of VIXX including Hakyeon. If you really wanted to see why I agree that Ravi is soft and gentle, that he loves and cares for Hakyeon, then you would have spent time watching VIXX TV, their interviews and shows. The fact that you’ve never recognized this even in the slightest about him tells me you haven’t really been watching at all.

VIXX is like any family or group of friends. They are loving and caring to each other, but they are also complete assholes at times to each other. Their lives, unlike ours, are filmed 24/7 and put out there for the world to view and judge. Image what we would all discover about ourselves if that were the case.

There are lines that should not be crossed and just like everyday people VIXX have all made that mistake. It’s taken some time but it appears they are learning from these mistakes and trying to correct them. You can try to throw Weekly Idol at me but I will clearly tell you I’m mad at the show not VIXX. Weekly Idol producers put Hakyeon’s name in there knowing exactly what would happen.

The truth is I don’t understand how people, such as yourself, can justify hating people for mistakes that they make and never allowing them to try to redeem themselves. Ravi, VIXX, all people are human beings who make mistakes, who have more than once in life made a joke or comment that they regretted later. The majority of people learn from these mistakes, make efforts to learn from them and become better people. In my view those who don’t allow people to make amends are the ones who are not soft and gentle and whose judgements cannot be justified.

You have a few options. You can continue to hate Ravi or learn about him. You also have the right to remark back to me but understand I will not reply again. If you are going around harassing Ravistans this way then please go find something better to do with your time. If you are one of my followers then please unfollow me right now. I’m a Ravistan to the bone and will protect him as well as the rest of VIXX. I will never make excuses for a single one of them, and will be the first to call them out on their shit, but I will protect them from unwarranted hate.

As for me, I’m going to spend time admiring Navi gifs/photos/videos to lighten my mood.

The Adventures of Jelly the Bean through the Land of Kitchen

(alternatively titled “Hey Look I have 400 Followers and I get Bored too Easily”)

Your name is Jelly the Bean and you feel like an adventure.

So you decide to take your glorious strawberry jam flavored self for a walk.

You pass by some eggs, but don’t talk to them, because eggs don’t talk, and also because they look like they’ve been drinking.

Jellified condiments! Could this be your adventure’s first challenging obstacle? A pile of fire-inducing-sticks blocks your path. What will you do?

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peonyaurora  asked:

Hi! I'm not in a good mood recently and seeing one of my OTPs being assaulted and expressed disgust at only make it worse. My brain keeps telling me that I shouldn't care too much, but it still stings. How can I ignore it more efficiently? Thanks <3

That’s a hard one, isn’t it?  When you love something, and invest your time and energy into it, someone else attacking it can feel very personal.  Most of the time, the best thing to do is try to figure out why this person or persons is attacking your ship.

1. The person is frustrated/disappointed/angry about something that happened in canon or something that commonly happens in fandom, and your ship could be seen as a symptom of this problem.

This is common on Tumblr.  People get upset about fandom’s treatment of POC, the lack of femslash in comparison to male slash, and ships that in real life would be dangerous, unhealthy and misogynistic, and most of the time, they’re less angry about a particular ship and more angry about what that ship represents to them.  I had this problem with Clint/Coulson, because it’s pretty much the poster child for ‘this logical ship has 12 fics, and this completely stupid ship with two white guys has 1047948394 bazillion fics, WTF, Fandom?’

I had to remind myself that they’re discussing a legit problem with society, and how it feeds a lot of problem in fandom, and consider their points.  (I’m still bad at this, but all we can do is try to be better)  It’s okay to like problematic ships and people, but it’s a good idea to look calmly at them to determine why other people find them problematic.  Critical thinking, about society, canon and fandom, can only improve things.

2.  The person feels that the ‘legitimacy’ of their own ship requires them to attack another ship.

This is common right now with Steve/Bucky and Steve/Tony shippers.  It falls under Sci’s ‘limited ship material makes fandom insane’ theory.  Basically, the bigger the ship pool, the more people just stay in their lanes and ignore everyone else.  There’s enough to go around, who cares, here, EVERYONE GETS A PILE OF FIC.

For example, Avengers has a lot of characters and a lot of ships.  ScienceBros and BowTie and Pepperony and BlackPepper and HulkEye and ThunderShield and FrostIron.  You name it, someone ships it.  Find your ship and stay in your happy corner.

Smaller casts lead to more infighting. Supernatural is the poster child here.  There are three main characters, and two ships.  And since one character is part of both of those ships, people…  Fight over where he ‘belongs.’

Then you get down to something like Sherlock, where the fight becomes ‘platonic or sexytimes’ and that’s a fight that can draw blood because there’s only one ship involved, and people live and die by their interpretation of it.

This is not a hill I want to die on, because if someone is so insecure about their own OTP that they have to attack someone else’s, well, you’re not going to change their mind.  Unless they’re actually your friend, you’re better off unfollowing, blocking, or using blacklist so their posts on certain subjects don’t show up on your dash.

3.  The person hates the ship/character/show/movie etc.  

That’s it.  They just don’t like it, and that’s okay.  Everyone has different tastes.  Sometimes, posts about a ship can come from a place of general frustration because popular ships get a lot of fic/art/meta, and it can feel like there’s no escaping it.  If you’re following a ship tag that’s lucky to get a post or two a week, having the flavor of the week be all over the place is enough to make you bitter.  Bitter like week old burnt coffee.

This does not excuse them being nasty to other fans, or to demand artists or writers cater to their preferences, but it does make the occasional, “God, if I have to see one more AU about Clint running a coffee shop, I’m going to stab someone” post a little more understandable.  Take your mounds of stuff as tradeoff for the fact that people are going to grumble about it.

4.  The person is a jerk, and doesn’t actually care about the ship, they just want to make trouble or make someone feel bad.

Most of the anti-ship posts don’t fall in this category.  Try to remind yourself of that.  Most people have reasons for attacking a ship beyond ‘to watch the world burn.’  However, this is the internet, and such people do exist.  

Turn off anon, disable notifications, and block users that cause you anxiety.  Remember, it’s your dash.  It’s your space.  You are not required to give anyone else a platform for their abuse.  Try to follow people who make you happy, and avoid the ones that don’t.  

And for these people, you continuing to love your ship is what they want to stop.  Defy them.  If you see a nasty “ugh, Bruce is the WORST” post, then find your favorite post about that character and reblog it.  Fight hate with love.  It’s healthier.

Try to enjoy your thing, and remember, dislike of a THING does not imply dislike of the PERSON who does like it.  As long as you’re not hurting anyone, it’s okay to like your thing.  Even if it is hella problematic. 8)

doctor-honesty-deactivated20160  asked:

you posted: If you think bisexual mods for Cassandra (and Blackwall and Cullen and Solas) are the same as bisexual mods for Dorian or Sera, I have a helpful tip for you (unfollow) Unfortunately I do think they are the same. I think that they are all wrong. Bisexual mods should not be introduced for any of the characters, because all sexual preferences should remain respected and unmodified. I will follow your advice and unfollow you, if thats what you would prefer.

I did reblog it for that purpose and you are welcome to do whatever makes you feel comfortable. It’s your dashboard and you are under no obligation to follow me! (There are others who seem to agree with you, regardless: as I’ve gotten more than one message.)  

However, while I’m not sure if you expected a reply, I will take this as a chance to elaborate. I do take concern with saying that all character’s sexual preferences should remain respected and unmodified. Were this comment meant to apply to the real world, I would agree with you. I happen to be straight and I would feel deeply uncomfortable if someone were to force me into sexual relationships that didn’t comply with my natural preferences. 

In relation to Dragon Age mods, however, I strongly believe that the preferences and representation of real life homosexual, bisexual, and pansexual gamers, and etc. (or those wishing for same sex options) should be respected above the heterosexual sexualities of video game characters. 

Bioware is a wonderful company that offers a diverse cast of characters, with varied sexualities, skin colours, genders, and the like–but this is not often the case in other video game franchises, not to mention the world and in general mass media. There are people who struggle to find representation for themselves and for their desires in the world around them, as well as in the characters with whom they identify and love. As a result, MOGII are often prevented from playing out their fantasies and coming into their own (as I know I was able to do through my more accessible engagement with media)–to fulfil and explore relationships that make them happy. To mod away the options MOGII do have solely for the purpose of making their characters accessible to the opposite gender is a greater violation than modding those who are straight, as it takes away and morphs the fewer characters real life people are given. It is a blatant erasure. 

Straight romancers have many other options and characters they can relate to. They shouldn’t have to mod to begin with.  

There are other issues I could go into (like how Sera and Dorian’s sexualities are more intrinsically linked to who they are, given the journeys their sexualities have forced them through–ESPECIALLY Dorian, given the dialogue of his personal quest), but I don’t want to drag on. Hopefully this was helpful in explaining my point-of-view. It wasn’t meant as an attack, and I wish you the best. 

anonymous asked:

Some might call what you do hate as well. I don't understand why you constantly need to point out what some tinhatters are doing. Can't you just ignore them? I expect you don't follow any of those blogs, so why do you refer to them? I admit that it's sad to never post anything including Mia or Will, but what is it to you? I like your blog but this part of it irritates me. And before you say it, nope I am not a tinhatter myself :)

“You are such a stupid bitch. Darren is GAY. This isn’t even about cc - Darren is gay and you’re just too stupid to see that.” (an anon message sent to me three weeks ago (deleted obv) tho I suspect I know who that was).

“Oh no not again. All I see is a horse in a dress.” (a post in the miarren tag yesterday about Mia and Darren at the wedding when I went to find a pic I couldn’t find on my dash).

“lol just a look at that attention whore. I can’t believe people think Darren is with that slut. Can’t she dress respectably?” (a post in the miarren tag about Mia at Elsie fest).

“Will is a homophobic, transphobic jerk. Chris would not be with that guy.” (paraphrase from nonsense last year about Will).

“Did you see Darren in that interview with Alan Cumming? lol straight. Your gay is showing, Darren.” (Summary of many comments).


“What is it to you?”  You asked that question as if there is no effect or harm to what the tinhats do - ie spread lies, misogyny, homophobia and negativity about celebrities (and while this is absolutely not unique to this fandom, this is the fandom that I am an active part of) on social media - sometimes tagging them or their friends on twitter. 

So I want to be really clear about the opinion I have that is the following - I believe tinhatting in the way it has manifested itself in the public social media of this fandom causes harm. It is not neutral, or cute, or harmless or without consequence. 

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anonymous asked:

Whhhhyyyy are you so judgemental/negative? Not everyone who likes Marichat characterizes them poorly. Not everyone who uses "bluenette" has a bad fic. I don't like certain things in fandom, but I don't go around harping on it all the time. I'm just confused because it seems like you hate this fandom.

LOL! So defensive ;b 

Of course not everyone who writes Marichat characterizes them poorly, but that doesn’t mean I can’t point out the negative things about those who do, or, rather, the things I disagree with. I won’t linger on that topic, however, as most people know how I feel about Marichat in fandom. If you don’t, feel free to look up “analysis” in the search bar on my blog–it won’t be hard to find. 

And no, of course not everyone who uses “bluenette” is a bad writer, but that doesn’t mean the use of that, er, term, should be encouraged. Bluenette isn’t a word. Not only that, but using phrases such as “…the blonde said…” or “…the brunette said…” when referencing a character is superfluous and is unnecessary repetition of a character’s traits as well as causes distance between the character and the reader. 

It is, honestly, a tactic that many writers utilize in attempts to vary sentences and avoid repetition, and makes sense from that standpoint. BUT it’s only because these writers don’t yet know how to structure their paragraphs so as to avoid these constant references to characters in the first place. It’s kind of the stage one sees upon writers realizing they start all their paragraphs and sentences with names, such as “Marinette did this- Marinette thought- Marinette walked-” over and over and over again. It’s a normal development that I’ve seen students use even in college. This, however, doesn’t mean it’s a good strategy. I’ve been there–I did the same thing–and it was only once someone pointed it out to me and read allowed how awkward and silly it sounded that I took it upon myself to look at my writing critically and start to see that simply exchanging a name for a meaningless trait reference wasn’t actually curing the root cause of my repetition. 

Rather, what was necessary was me limiting myself to character names only–unless a very careful reference to a trait helped the story once in a great, great while–so I could find more structural ways to vary my sentence structure, as opposed to merely utilizing word exchange. 

Using a character’s name is simple and good enough, and phrases like “the bluenette, the blonde, the brunette” are wholly unnecessary. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t fault the writers who use these things–like I said, I’ve been there too. But that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. No matter how “good” the writing around such terminology is, “the bluenette” is never good. 

And as this is my blog, I have every right to express my disapproval when it comes up time and time again. I’m not going to these fics and saying everything about them is bad–it’s not. Many of these writers are working hard and learning a lot. But that doesn’t mean that when I come across a bad strategy over and over again, I’m going to ignore it. Was my comment sarcastic? Yes. Was it posted to my personal blog where I have every right to post my opinion? Yes. 

Which means that you have two options here. One, you can ignore what I said and unfollow me if that suits you. Or you can realize that the comment was not personal and instead try to understand why I would aim to draw attention to such things–maybe even learn something if you’re one of the writers who uses this strategy. And if using said strategy is helping you and you’re not ready to stop, then at least being aware of it is a start. 

Awareness is important to all learning–defensiveness (and let me be clear in saying that defensiveness and defending one’s self are very different things) is a facet of ignorance. I’m plenty ignorant about many things, but that doesn’t mean I get angry every time someone points out a fault in my thought process. Rather, it’s much more beneficial for me to ask “why” and make my evaluation following. Does that mean I have to agree with the words thrown my way? Of course not, but it never results in anonymous messages containing clearly frustrated accusations pertaining to a person I clearly didn’t take the time to learn anything about.

As far as your last comment about me “hating” this fandom, I implore you to know a little bit more about me before you make such accusations. I think the work I put forth for this fandom more than speaks for itself. And simply because I enjoy Miraculous Ladybug and its fandom doesn’t mean I can’t see its faults. Blind love is no different than ignorance and so I will seek to better that which I already enjoy whenever possible. 

If anything, that level of dedication in exploring the fandom says much more about my feelings on the matter than the fact that I don’t shy away from seeing things with a critical eye. 

Have a good day, babe ;D

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killitallwithfire  asked:

Hi Carrie. I'm sorry if this is offensive to you at all, but I feel it needed a little bit more discussion. Do you regret labelling yourself as honorary big sister? It's just with you unfollowing people on twitter without speaking to them personally and giving an explanation- you basically just insulted them indirectly by saying you don't know them when they've been made to believe that they do know you. It feels like you're putting up barriers between you and your fans, like you've changed.


I’ve not changed at all in my time at Les Mis but the reaction to my channel, videos, my performances on stage and to myself at stage door, has. My whole audience has grown in a new way. When I first started Les Mis there would only be 5-10 people at stage door a night. Now there’s 15-30 every night and depending on which night of the week it is and whether it’s school holidays, sometimes 50+ which really restricts the amount of time I can spend at stage door each week because I have three jobs to run and I gotta take care of myself and spending 30-45 minutes at stage door EVERY night isn’t always possible as much as it breaks my heart to disappoint anyone! I’ve also had some very upsetting/intrusive encounters at stage door recently which overstepped some personal boundaries which caused me to head home in tears on several occasions over the last few months. And it’s this that was the cause of me unfollowing people I had previously followed. 

Of course, I am going to be friendly and approachable to anyone who spend their time watching my videos and coming to watch me perform in Les Mis. Why wouldn’t I be?! I want to show my appreciation and sincerely thank the people I meet! But…and I really, truly don’t want to upset anyone by saying this, I really really don’t…but even if you feel like you know someone really well because you watch their videos and you’ve met them a few times at meet and greets/stage door/what not…that doesn’t necessarily mean you know them and you’re close to them. It certainly doesn’t mean you’re entitled to more of that person’s time over other people who also watch their videos or their performances. Everyone is equal and I want to be able to give an equal amount of my time and appreciation to everyone that is kind enough to do the same for me. Unfortunately, I can’t follow everyone on all my social media sites and I can’t be everyone that watches my videos’ (half a million people!) best friend and I’ve felt very put on the spot when I’ve been asked out for coffee/asked for my number by people I’ve just met at stage door who feel they know me really well and then they get upset when i have to politely decline. So I personally felt it was best to only follow people I know personally, showing no favouritism towards anyone at all. 

I can’t cater to half a million people’s personal needs and problems. I really wish  I could help more than I can but all I can do is make videos based on my own experiences and share them for the enjoyment of others and to hopefully help anyone out that has once felt the same as me and of course I wrote my book to reach a wider/different audience in that way and I, of course, still reply to my tumblr messages, tweets and reply to hand written letters at home when I get the chance. But I also run three jobs and I have to look after myself too and as much as I wish I could follow everyone and get to know everyone in my audience, I just can’t and I’m so so sorry I can’t do more! :/ I feel absolutely dreadful like people feel like I’ve changed but as my audience grows my time and effort is spread across more and more people and I just can’t do as much as I used to because of that! I can’t apologise more. 



anonymous asked:

I've been following your blog for a while now and I know you're really sweet so I just don't know if you're not aware or if you're just ignoring all the evidence but ... You ship sheith ? You're welcome to ship whatever you want but it's a bit disturbing to know you ship a minor with an adult who was also an instructor at the garrison ... Yeah I can see why it would be cute but I truly don't think shiro would be comfortable in a relationship with one of the students ... With a kid ...

okay dear anon, this is going to be really difficult to reply but, here we go.

I think, first of all, we need to stop mixing fiction with reality, we really need to stop saying things like “oh since you ship this/you write this/you draw this it means you’re a disturbing person” because it doesn’t work this way. Fiction is not the same as reality, end.

and no, I’m not saying this to excuse myself, second of all, I don’t really know which evidence are we talking about? I guess it is about the late teens thing and Shiro being 25, let’s stop assuming that we all live in the same country where at the age of 21 you’re considered an adult, because it is not the same everywhere. you’re an adult at the age of 18 where I am from.

I really like Shiro and Keith’s relationship because honestly you can see that they care about each other, they seem to be close and also they seem to know each other really well (me myself I don’t understand how some people see this as abusive) 

Also, even part of the v/oltron staff were just having fun with the s.heith ship as you can see here, nothing serious of course it was just that, for fun as it should be in the fandom, until I don’t know who went wild and started to spread the hate everywhere.

Based on the argument of “you ship an adult with a kid and it is disturbing” then we all wouldn’t be able to ship anything because they’re all a bunch of kids (except for Shiro in this case), and yes I have seen nsfw content of almost all the ships around tumblr and twitter, so that would make us all disturbing people, right? but of course for some reason Sh/eith gets all the hate.

again as I always say, some of us are here just to have a good time, you don’t like the ship? that’s fine block the tag, unfollow, avoid, but don’t go harassing people’s blog telling them to stop shipping something just because you’re uncomfortable, because maybe something you like can make someone else uncomfortable and then you wouldn’t like them to harass you about it, right? let’s be respectful. Even Josh Keaton (Shiro’s VA) said a little something:

and honest to god can’t believe some people started to hate him for saying this, this fandom is going too far.

140119 - Sukira
  • Ryeowook: There was a time (in the beginng) when Super Junior members fought. Yesung-ssi once said to me "Why did you unfollow me on (sns)." I didn't unfollow him on purpose. It was really at the beginning, so (there weren't) much concepts of it. (I just) didn't really like (following) many people . And (he wasn't) doing many activities (on sns). Yesung-ssi didn't post much. So I thought 'I should unfollow' and unfollowed, and Yesung-ssi must have checked mine. And at that time, I also unfollowed Siwon-ssi too. So on concert day, Siwon-ssi and Yesung-ssi attacked me. "You are like that~!!!" and they also brought up things from the past kkkk I just remembered (about the fight)... You should be careful when you unfollow people. Your relationship with them can become really bad.
  • Ryeowook: When we were making this logo song, Leeteuk-ssi and Eunhyuk-ssi asked me about it. "Can you make a logo song." At the time, I was studying composing, so I said "Sure~ What should it be like?" and they said "I'd like it in school concept. Our program is a young program." "Okay~ We can add bell sounds too~"
  • Sungmin-ssi made the melody, I made the accompanied instruments and added the lyrics. Sungmin-ssi gave me motives. "Lalalala~~ how is that??" We made it over the night, and many people liked it. It's still being played now. (But) the (money for) copyrights isn't coming in. Oh, we forgot to register it hehe
  • Ryeowook: 140119 Sukira- RW: There's something Kyuhyun-ssi said. "You don't have to do anything till they are 6 years old. Because they cannot remember (anything before that age)" kkkk he says he takes care of his nephews and cousins well when they reach the age of 6, but (he) doesn't take care of them before that age kkk (he does that) because he (says) did good things for (someone), but they (said) they don't remember it at all. 'Ah~ this is useless'. But you could just leave evidence (of being nice to them) hehe
  • Ryeowook: There are people that often have dreams when they sleep. Especially our Super Junior Donghae-ssi. I was sleeping, and he suddenly came and slowly opened the door, then said "Ryeowook-ah! I had a dream!!" This morning too. No, not even morning. In the afternoon. I was sleeping well, and he suddenly woke me up, saying "Ryeowook-ah! Ryeowook-ah!!" He said I appeared in his dream, fought with someone, and other weird stuff kkk He told me "Ryeowook-ah, you be careful today~" kkk
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