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anonymous asked:

I've so many ideas in my head and I want to write something but I don't know how to start a story. I usually like to think about high school or college scenarios because I can connect to them the most. I don't wanna start my story with the cliché blaring of the alarm clock. Can you please help me out? I'm always stuck in the starting and then all my motivation goes away. I really like all the prompts on your blog. ;)

Thank you! So first off, I suggest you always write down any and all ideas! You never know when you may need them. Trust me, Jotting down any and every idea I get has saved my butt so many times. I may not have used it right away, but way down the line that idea was a huge help for something else. Of course there are always ideas you will never use, but hey, better safe then sorry, right? 

Also, I don’t blame you. Starting off the story is always one of the hardest parts for me. Somethings I do to try and get me going: 

1. I write a scene that is really heavy in either action or dialogue from later in the story. I make that my starting point, and then I go back and I think “Okay. So how do I get there.” and I write whatever gets we to that point. Just knowing where I need and want to go sometimes gives me a jump-start, and makes me more interested in how it began, and that interest often shows in my writing. 

2. Its not an uncommon tactic to start a story right in the middle of a big action point and then have the main character do the “I bet your wondering how we got here, huh? Well…” and then go back in time to tell the whole story from the beginning. This isnt a bad option, as starting with something exciting quickly grabs on to the readers interest and their curiosity, making them feel the need to know the full story, all the way back to the main point of action that was introduced in the beginning. 

3. Sarcasm, mockery, or irony. These are common things I love to use. If you are really worried about doing the cliche ‘woken up by the alarm clock blaring’ think of something either ironically similar or eerily different. For example : “I was startled awake by my alarm clock blaring, but just as soon as it started, it was crushed by a large rock that came crashing through my window.”  or “Usually I wake up to the screaming of my alarm, today however, I was woken by the screaming of my little sister.” Take whatever cliche you are worried about, and twist it to work for you. 

4. Lacking motivation to get started isn’t unusual. I am pretty sure almost anyone who writes has experienced this at some point. My secret to conquering this is usually to jump around in the plot a bit. If you get bored of the beginning, go write some of the ended for a bit, getting a bit blocked with that? Go write a bit of the climax? exhausted on the whole story? Go write your characters in a couple AUs. Feeling trapped by your characters? Switch up the perspectives! Write from the antagonist for a bit, Write in a different person, rewrite a scene from a minor characters point of view. Switch things up. Its your story, write it however you want. Worry about plot holes, inconsistencies or anything like that happening during the editing process. You don’t have to write the whole dang story in consecutive order. I don’t think I have ever written anything in order. 

5. Make a map of your plot. Put down all your desired major and minor plot points, and the main ideas on how the characters get to those points. Having a visual in front of you to remind you where you want to take the story can be a lot of help. 

6. Write. Just write. Don’t worry about cliches, dont worry about it matching up with the overall plot,dont worry about how interesting it is. Just write. I assure you whatever you come up with is a lot better then a blank page. At least you can say you started. You can fix it up later. 


I hope these help you, and I wish you luck with your story! If you have any more questions, please feel free to contact me! 

anonymous asked:

Hey spacema!! I've been really stressed lately and anxious as graduation gets closer in like 3 weeks. Im really excited but I have a lot of work to crunch in and my anxiousness is pushing me to procrastination. Which is not good at all considering the timeframe. Your blog honestly makes me feel better but I just needed to tell someone that. Ily!!💞💞💋

omg this is so so sweet thank you so much!! i’m so glad this blog can make you feel better, but please don’t procrastinate too much alright lmao?? (sorry but the spacemom side of me really wants to make sure you get all your work done hahah 💜)

i’ve mentioned this before but try to stay away from procrastination and distractions by just going totally off the grid for a while, yaknow? turn your phone on airplane mode and then bribe yourself with something you really want to do afterward so you can look forward to being done! :) 

good luck my dear and i hope your stress/anxiety goes away super soon and graduation goes super well! i believe in you and love you and know you can handle this!!!! ✨⭐️💜

anonymous asked:

I've been having serious night terrors for a while now and I don't know why, that along with extreme paranoia, I can't be home alone because of it and I can't take my medication to help it because it makes me tired and I have to take care of my son so I can't be tired. I'm so depressed and I feel trapped like I can't breathe I don't know what to do and I don't know why I sent you this I guess cause you're my favorite blog and you're really nice. I'm just venting. Sorry.

Oh wow, I’m really sorry to hear that. Have you considered speaking to a doctor? You said you can’t take medication but maybe there’s something herbal to make you get a better night sleep? Or even sleeping tablets? They don’t knock you out but just make you fall asleep earlier so if your son needs you in the middle of the night, you will still be able to wake up. Just mention all of that to your doctor and hopefully there’s something they can prescribe you with! There’s maybe even some sort of therapy they could recommend.

Also, have you ever heard of ASMR? It stands for autonomous sensory meridian response. Some people cannot experience it but I can and it helps me feel relaxed and fall asleep at night. Maybe check that out on YouTube and see if it helps. I have read that it helps some people with insomnia and even night terrors.

maeko28  asked:

Hello, can you do a headcanon of pop star Cardia just like the April fool's picture? Thank you very much ☺

This is Mod S! Got a double for this one. Can I be honest and say I am thrilled for this?! <3 But make sure to let us know if this needs anything at all. 

Also, thank you both for being so amazing. C: These requests made my day, and kind words do to. Thanks for supporting this blog!!

Let’s get into the Pop Star Cardia AU! 

Cardia: Cardia is a new breakout pop star, but her adorable singing voice, great dancing and cute face have quickly gained her popularity. She’s had a childhood dream of becoming a famous idol, and it’s finally a reality. Her most recent album is called Horologium, and the most popular song is “POISON ♥ SKIN”. The group of guys are all her fans, though some are closer to her because of their shared pasts…

Arséne Lupin: Lupin, along with Impey, have both been Cardia’s fans since she first started putting her name out there. They both are long time friends with Cardia, so it’s easy for the both of them to come to her shows. Lupin in particular has always supported Cardia’s dream, and even helped teach her a bit of dancing. So whenever Cardia uses some choreography that was inspired by him, he gets really excited. Lupin always tries to sneak back to see her, and it’s usually easy for him to slip by security. Cardia always saves him if he gets caught though. The two always practice dancing together, and the two are often mistaken as a couple in public. Some magazines even snap pictures and claims he has a mysterious boyfriend. Lupin eventually asks if he and Cardia can start dating, and she readily accepts. She’d been in love with him for a long time, and the more he worked to help her, the more her love grew. 

Abraham Van Helsing: Van is Cardia’s top manager. He’s incredibly supportive of her, but is definitely one of her biggest fans. He helps maintain her public image and protects her from scrutiny, and Cardia finds that she falls in love with him the more he swears he’ll make her happy and help her achieve her dreams. Cardia also discovers that while Van does promote her for her sake, he is also a huge fan of her music. He buys all her CDs, merch and has tons of it hung up in his home. Cardia is moved to tears by his devotion, and she starts getting the feeling that maybe they both feel the same. One day after a great concert, she confesses that she’s in love with him. Van feels bad because he does return the feelings, but just doesn’t want to ruin her public image. The two date in secret, and he swears that he will always make sure she shines and that he’ll never let anyone hurt her. 

Impey Barbicane: Impey, like Lupin, knew Cardia before she was famous. The two of them encouraged Cardia to pursue her dreams, and he’s her biggest fan alongside Lupin. In truth, it was Impey who first cultivated Cardia’s love of singing, as the two of them started singing together when they were younger (though Cardia is better at it than Impey). Cardia also supports Impey’s dream of being an engineer for NASA. Though while he’s in college, he still sometimes blows off his work to go to her concerts. Whenever Cardia feels bad, Impey sings to her, and it helps calm her down. After some time, Impey tells Cardia he loves her, and the two of them start dating. They’re careful not to be too obvious in public. Though Impey does slip up once, and the media has a field day with it. It doesn’t hurt Cardia’s career, though, and the two of them both work hard together to make each other happy. 

Victor Frankenstein: Victor is a huge fan of Cardia’s like Impey and Lupin, though Victor feels like Cardia noticing him would be just a pipe dream. When walking on the street one day, he saves a girl being harassed by some guys. He soon discovers that he actually saved the famous pop star Cardia Beckford. He’s so nervous that he just stutters and runs away. Cardia eventually finds him and asks if there’s anything she can do to repay him, and he simply asks if she can sign a couple of his things. Cardia’s not satisfied, so she gives him a ton of free stuff as well as a season pass to all her concerts. She spends the day with him and discovers he’s a med school student who wants to work with experimental pharmaceuticals. He wants to create medicine to help people. They spend a lot of time together, and both of them realize they have feelings for each other and start secretly dating. Victor always feels like he’s dreaming.

Saint Germain: Saint Germain is a mysterious fan of Cardia’s who always works to sell her merchandise. They’ve met on multiple occasions, and Cardia always finds that she’s curious to know more about this secretive man. Cardia discovers that he is the owner of her record label, and knew her alongside Impey and Lupin. He was the heir to the company and met Cardia through her family, and they were originally thinking of arranging a marriage between the two. Cardia is stunned to learn this, but Saint G tells her he ended it because he wanted Cardia to pursue her dreams, even though he admits he liked the idea of marrying her. Cardia is touched, and she and Saint Germain fall in love after the two of them get to know each other better. He and Cardia are able to meet often because of their positions, and their relationship isn’t discouraged because of their history. But he still moonlights as an average fan. 

I’m sorry for the lack of writing lately

I know I still have a lots of requests to finish and the Missing Parts to continue (and I will do everything!!!), but I don’t always have the enough inspiration or motivation for just anything.

This is why I started the Fine Frenzy. If something just pop into my mind I need to do it, I can’t just get it out of my head. If I’d still do the requests without zero motivation, they all would be terrible AND I’d start to hate doing requests again.

I hope you understand this, and I’m really sorry for not writing them right away, but doing what is good for me should be the most important for make this blog long-lived. I watched a lot of fanfic writers here who completely stopped writing because of the pressure, and I do not want this.

I love you all ❤️❤️

laikous  asked:

I always have problems with finding healthy snacks, have any good ideas?

I really love any kind of veggies with hummus (diy your own, im sure I have a recipe on my blog somewhere just search hummus, or get a grocery store one - they have tons of different flavours). Carrots, broccoli, and bell peppers are all good with hummus, pretty easy to prep, too.

Any kind of fruits, I personally prefer apples, oranges, and bananas as snacks because you can just grab those with you, no prep needed really.

Nuts make amazing snacks, you only really need a handful to tide you over until mealtime, but eating more is better if you have a long time gap between meals (and they’re delicious and super good for you so who’s really complaining :P )

If you have the time, smoothies are quick too (slower to prepare, but faster and easier to eat, say, if you’re in the go).

An egg (hard boiled is my preference, but you do you) is an awesome snack. Add some salt and pepper, maybe paprika. This is especially good if you’re working hard, because Omega-3s help you think better. I love eggs!

Last but not least, salads can make some tasty snacks, but require prep.

I’m sure there are tons of ideas out there too, google is your friend :) I hope that helps!

tonycalzone83  asked:

Hello there. I'm interested in singing in your project. Now If I need to get a microphone and recording equipment than I can, or if you can go on Skype and listen to me there than that would be more convenient to me, But I would really like to audition for this project. Any info in regards of time range, recommendations and anything else would be appreciated

We don’t have time to skype everyone who wants to audition before they audition, but if you record something to see if it’s good enough and send it to my main blog @power-of-innocence I’ll tell you if it’s good enough for a main part.

speaking of being a massive ecology nerd, guess what season it is, folks! That’s right, it’s FLEDGLING BIRD SEASON here in North America, which means it’s time for an annual reminder that most species of birds have almost no sense of smell. Someone probably told you that if you touch a baby bird, the mother will smell you on it and reject her baby. THAT IS NOT THE CASE. 

Pictured: a young Mourning Dove, after being rescued from the tender mercies of my dog, circa spring 2005. It’s a fledgling! Note how it has most of its feathers, but still looks a bit awkward and scruffy, and, being unable to properly fly, can be caught by an elderly husky or a child. 

  • Hatchlings: IF it is covered in fluffy down (or partly naked) and cannot flutter successfully, it’s a hatchling, and has fallen from its nest prematurely. Look for the nest- if you find it and can reach it, return baby and then gtfo and let the parents return. If you can’t find the nest, or if you find it in pieces on the ground, use a small box lined with dryer lint or dog hair or similar fluff and attach as close as possible to where you found the bird or where you think the nest was. Return baby!!!! 
  • Fledglings: If you spot a young bird covered with feathers on the ground, chances are it’s a fledgling (bird tween, can flutter) who is not doing well in flying 101, but it is probably NOT injured or sick. Hanging out on the ground is part of the learning to fly process! If it looks like it’s in immediate danger (i.e. of being run over, stepped on, or eaten by a cat or dog), the best thing you can do for it is to gently scoop it up and place it in the branches of a nearby tree or shrub, and then LEAVE. The parents are likely nearby, and will return once the coast is clear of humans/predators. If it flutter-hops away from you and you can’t catch it, then don’t worry! It just successfully avoided a predator (you), and therefore can probably continue to do so. 
  • DON’T DON’T DON’T: Try to feed it, bring it into your house or car, or take it to your local vet or animal shelter. 
  • IF it IS actually for-real injured, you can catch it and contact a local wildlife rehabilitation professional (and then listen to whatever they tell you), but keep in mind that they get a LOT of fledgling birds, and those birds have a pretty high mortality rate. They may tell you that there is nothing you or they can do but allow nature to take its course, and that’s hard, but important to hear and respect.
Dear rest of the Spn Fandom,

What Destiel is NOT about.

1. Hating Sam/Jared
Okay, I have no idea where this one started, but honestly I don’t care what you ship if you hate on either of my tol cinnamon roll babies, YOU WILL BE FACING MY WRATH. ALL 5'2 OF IT.

2. Hating the women that they were with.
Personally, I love Jo and Lisa. Cassie was just there for an episode, so I don’t really have any opinions on here.
I don’t like Meg for other reasons (her character inconsistency was annoying and her voice got on all my nerves) but hating her just because she kissed Cas is pretty shallow.

3. Two hot men kissing.
Right. This. Look, if the only reason that you ship them is that it would be hot to see them kiss, I’d just like to tell you that YER A FUCKBUTT, HARRY. Other people can probably explain this better, but you’re fetishising a whole community and you need to stop. Now. And get off my blog while you’re at it.

4. Hating on their wives.
This is probably more of a Cockles thing than a Destiel one, but most of the Cockles shippers that I’ve encountered were all awesome people, so I’ll say it on their behalf, we don’t hate Danneel and Vicki, okay? Seriously, why would anybody, when they make Misha and Jensen so happy?

5. Making everything gay/The gay agenda
No. No. Say it with me, no. We do not ship them because they’re both men
We ship them because they have amazing chemistry and it makes sense that Dean and Cas be together. And it would obviously be the bisexual agenda, if it was an agenda. Which it’s not. At all. *Cackles in the distance*

• What Destiel is about

1. Unconditional Love
2. Dean finally realizing that he's​ not damaged and deserves love. Also realizimg that he’s not the perfect manly man soldier that John raised him to be, and that’s okay.
3. Cas understanding that he will always have a home with Dean (and Sam, by extension)
4. Two people who help each other to be better people.
5. Two people who constantly screw up, but forgive each other, because that’s what love is about.
6. Seeing people at their worst, and still loving them. (Dean forgiving Cas after he becomes God and Cas telling him that he deserves to be saved)
7. Unconditional love (I’m sorry, I’ll never be over the “I’d rather have you, cursed or not.”)
8. Both of them, giving up so much for each other.
9. Sticking up for each other

• Obviously I can’t speak for the entire fandom, but these are my views, and generally the views of people that I’ve encountered. Thanks for taking the time out to read it!

Sincerely,
A Destiheller

Help a poor trans sex worker

Hi, I’m Raven a trans woman from southern California. I am currently unemployed and make all my money from camming. The problem is that my roommate is moving out and taking her computer, which I use for camming, with her. Without that computer or her help I can’t afford to pay rent on my own. 

While I am searching for traditional employment I’ve yet to receive anything and I need help paying for next month’s rent. She has promised to pay for a portion of the rent while she is here, but I still need $300. I’m sorry to ask this, but I would appreciate whatever you can help with.  

If I do happen to receive more than what I ask I will put that towards me getting a new computer, so that I can go back to camming along with a regular job. You can donate by clicking the donation button on my blog or by going to my PayPal jerawl72@gmail.com. Please ignore my deadname. 

If you can’t donate I would appreciate you sharing and signal boosting this.

Please help a nonbinary lesbian with an autoimmune disease!

Hi, I’m Bee and I need help. I just took my last $40 out of the bank and now I don’t even have $3 to my name. I lost my job in December and have no source of income.

I have Hashimoto’s Disease, an autoimmune disease and form of hypothyroidism, that can be life threatening without my medicine. I am also a full-time college student with no health insurance.

In addition to my meds, I also need to pay for gas, car insurance, and my phone bill.

You can message me if you’re interested in donating, and I am also taking commission on my art blog ( @galacticbumblebee ) for as cheap as $5.

Please please please help me. If I can’t drive to school, I am going to fail out of school and lose my funding. And if I can’t pay for my meds, I will get very very sick. If you can’t donate, reblogs are very appreciated. Thank you.

On Prompto

So this cave-dude I know recently called Prompto a ‘pussy’. Delightful, right? But then I’ve also noticed lately this weird tendency in fics to reduce Prompto to (and reinforce his character as) this emotionally weak, almost ‘frightened bunny’ trope, even bordering on actual childishness at times. Now, these are in fact two different issues in the end, yet the overlap is considerable, when you think about it. And I just…

Whaaaat?!

While I recognise and absolutely support all fic writers and such in their right to do whatever the hell they want (Please do! You are valued, and our fandom needs you!), I just…maaaaan. Sometimes I just have to gently shake my head when it comes to some characterisations of our boy Prom.

Now I totally get that AU’s are a thing, as well as personal perspectives. Like, in my head, Prompto can have a pretty bad potty mouth, and regularly drops those f-bombs, and you can totally disagree with me, which is a beautiful thing. Also, if you follow this blog you have definitely seen me tag Prompto as a ‘smol cinnamon bun’, in need of protection ‘at all costs’ and blah blah blah (this is largely meme-based, because I subsist on Diet Coke and memes- I digress). 

But it’s honestly the layered essence of what makes this character who he is, the many elements written into and played out in the canon, that make him so appealing to me, personally. To see him essentially reduced to a caricature of himself, a distilled version of everything he is that just sort of latches onto this ‘he’s the baby and the smallest, the most caring and therefore the weakest’ idea, just feels so off the mark. And it makes me kind of sad, you know? 

Let it be known right off the bat that I’m obviously by no means claiming to be some sort of FINAL WORD ON PROMPTO or anything so ridiculous. Neither is this some sort of ‘call out’ on any particular writing or portrayal, at all. I can’t abide by that shit. 

I just feel like talking about how I see Prompto, I guess?  

In all honesty, the Prompto I experienced in the game, as well as in the anime, and audio drama, was anything but weak, and anything but childish. He was always, right from the start, very much the backbone of the Chocobros’ group, the one voicing what everyone was thinking, easing their tension and swallowing his self-doubt to strive to be the best he could be for his friends, like he’s always done. 

Originally posted by gladios-booty-sweat

He got this.

Prompto literally escaped/was rescued from/was vaguely aware of at least, a mysterious and probably terrifying early history, and then proceeded to face a lot of bullshit when he was growing up- at home, with frequently absent parents who left him often to his own devices, as well as at school, where he was closed off from and largely ignored by the other kids. This all could have resulted in a really timid, emotionally fragile or ‘weak’ character, but the fact is… it didn’t? He grew up independent and actually pretty capable of caring for himself, not to mention totally self-taught when it came to interacting with others (thank you for the vote of confidence, Luna). He also grew up with a compassionate streak a mile wide. 

I won’t get too into my thoughts on this idea in particular because this post is already massive, and to discuss patriarchal conventions (the aforementioned use of the word ‘pussy’ in this context), not to mention strength vs. resilience on top of it would just get out of hand. I will say this: we can all stand to remember that compassion does not equal weakness.

Prompto was afraid a lot, sure- they all were, obviously- but he was also brave as fuck. If bravery means to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’, then Prompto’s a master. He’s been practising his entire life, after all.  

Prompto was always there, right? This ever present force for good, supporting his friends and their goals, to the bitter end. He was there, thinking and acting on the fly during the Leviathan ritual, which was obviously a horrific ordeal even before its conclusion. He was ever at the ready to see things from all sides, like when Ignis was injured and all hell broke loose between the less-capable, (emotionally-speaking) Gladio and Noct. He was even there, ready to offer a taste of his usual, cheery self when they were all together for the very last time, even if it was clearly breaking his heart. 

Heyas.

And yeah he’d kid around, make silly jokes (interestingly, it seems, especially during situations of high tension or uncertainty on the part of his friends, like deep in the depths of some mind-boggling ruins or when facing the prospect of ‘hey, we are actually going to go to Altissia now- oh holy fuck!’). But he was also so very capable of adult conversation, especially when it came to his feelings, which we saw several times throughout the canon- a sure sign of real maturity if ever there was one, in my opinion. 

The fact is, Prompto’s fear isn’t who he is, and neither is his small physical stature nor his big heart. Rather, his actions and choices in the face of all of that make up the person he is. (Like anyone, right?). He is no caricature for cute, nor for weak or timid or scared. And I for one want to see more about that guy, in all his multifaceted, achingly resilient, freckle-faced glory. 

And don’t fucking call me ‘pussy’, dude. 

This is a recolor of stephanine’s cute Dalmie Hair. I fell in love with this one when I first saw this, but I wanted to make some recolors, so I used pastry-box’s lovely palette, which can be found right here, and here it is. I’m quite proud of my work and I think I’ll do more recolors like this in the future. Also, I wanted to thank you all for following my blog. We’ve reached over 150 followers recently! So please, consider this recolor as a special gift for you. I love you guys and I hope that there will be more of us soon! 

The mesh is NOT included - you need to get it HERE.

TOU:

  • You are not allowed to re-upload my CC/Sims.
  • Do not claim my CC/Sims as your own.
  • Tag me if you use any of my creations. I would love to see them in your game!

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special thanks to: @stephanine-sims @pastry-box  💋

11. “Why are there four dogs in our house? We don’t own four dogs. We don’t even own one.”

Sebastian Stan was a hardworking guy. Over the last year and a half, he gotten booked on more movies than ever before. At first it was a tad overwhelming, but it was his passion. He absolutely loved what he did.

He worried that the more traveling he did, the more of a strain it would be on your relationship. The two of you had been together for almost three years. You met because of a mutual friend who had a feeling that the two of you would click. Your friend had been right.

It started off slow but the relationship picked up speed when you both realized that there wasn’t anyone else on the planet that you’d rather be with. You felt like you knew absolutely everything about him and he felt the same about you.

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miseducationofmelanin  asked:

How do you meditate?

  1. Set a timer. 15-30 minutes is a good starting point. If you really can’t handle that, go with 10 minutes. 
  2. Sit down and close your eyes. I sit cross-legged in an armchair. You can sit normally in a chair or be lying down on the floor. Most any position is acceptable. The only requirements are that your body is relaxed and your mind is awake. No falling asleep!
  3. Focus your attention and sight in the space between your eyebrows. Meditation uses a focal point such as that space or your breath or a mantra. Try out different focal points for two weeks at a time until you find something that suits you. 
  4. Do not actively think or imagine anything. There is a difference between thinking and having thoughts pop up. Don’t engage in thinking. Thoughts will pop up. Don’t engage them by pushing them away or analyzing them. 
  5. If you lose your focus just bring it back to the focal point. It is okay if you suddenly find that you have wandered down a train of thought. Recognizing that when it happens is part of the meditation training. Bringing your attention back, taking a breath, and letting it go is all you need to do. 
  6. Don’t get up until the timer goes off. All sorts of difficult emotions and thoughts might arise. That is normal. Meditation cleans a lot of junk out of our mind-body. Before it is cleared away, it often comes to the surface. Let the process happen. You are safe. 

This is the technique taught to me by my guru and it is called Jangama Dhyana. You can read more about it on the meditation page of my blog. 

Try it out. If you have any further questions along the way, let me know!

Namaste :) Much love. 

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This is a redo of my original, but i wanted to condense it down, with  updated info

So @funkyhunkygrunklestans and I are planning on moving in together into our first apartment, in the Portland, Oregon area in the summer (late July to mid August). One problem is that I’m currently residing in Iowa. And traveling over 1,500 miles/ 27 hour drive with only a bedroom worth of stuff, and a cat, I’m gonna need some help getting over there.

With this move, I would be in a better place, surrounded by supportive friends and I would no longer have to feel shitty due to my family’s toxic nature. Plus I would have a better job opportunity than what’s here in Iowa.

To cover everything ( Gas, Food on the trip, hotel, moving truck with a car dolly) is going to cost about

*~$3,500~*

To see break down on prices, go here > LINK <

You can look at the progress on my blog on the sidebar

A few ways to help me out:

  1. Commissions, which you can find my prices >here<
  2. Donations, which can be donated to my paypal (stefaniekurth@live.com) or by clicking the button on my blog

Any bit will help. Help me get to a better place, surrounded by awesome friends!!

tiny kiri needs dental work badly

i’m trying to raise funds to get my cat Kiri to the vet for dental work, to prevent him from having the same kidney complications that made us have to put Jasper to sleep

so if anyone is feeling generous, that would be amazing

here is a photo of Kiri:

he is 15 and still very spry, the vet says he’s like a 6-year-old except for his teeth. we want to get his teeth fixed so he can continue to be remarkably young and healthy for his age.

some facts about kiri:

  • he follows me into the bathroom to scream at me while i pee
  • he once yowled outside my door for a full five minutes before i opened it, then dropped a red-and-white striped sock and bolted
  • he once stole a steak from a pan on top of a gas stove and got away
  • he loves bread but isn’t allowed to have it
  • he used to nurse on my earlobes until i had to stop him because it was keeping me from sleeping at night due to the purring in my ear
  • he looks like a baby seal if you pull his ears down

i’m trying to raise in the ballpark of $350 for his dental visit; the vet said they wouldn’t know how much it would come to until they figured out whether there would need to be extractions, and which teeth might need extraction. the vet also said that not doing the dental work would probably result in a steep health decline fairly soon because of his age, because dental germs get into the bloodstream and cause kidney issues (among others). please help if you can!

there’s a donate button on my blog, or else my paypal email is j2.r.myr@gmail.com

anonymous asked:

How do you stay focused and motivated all the time?

Hey! I’ll start by saying I’m not focused or motivated all of the time. I have days where I procrastinate a lot or blatantly put off actual work. I’ll have times where I really don’t want to study and feel extremely unmotivated. Everyone does. Even people who run studyblrs. I think my main trick is being disciplined. I’ve run a studyblr since 2014 and in that time I’ve really worked on my discipline. I have learnt that things just have to be done - be it assignments, studying, or readings. I have to do it otherwise I’m letting myself down. I have always hated the feeling of regret so that in itself motivates me to try as best I can. I don’t want to let myself down or let my parents down. I like to achieve. Again, I think everyone does. I feel satisfied when I see ‘disctintion’ or ‘high distinction’ on my results and that really helps. Discipline really falls into staying focused and motivated. If you can improve your discipline, just little by little, you will get there. Try forcing yourself to do a bit every day. Even if it is something small. Reinforce something positive for completing it. Another motivation is having my studyblr. I like to document what I’m doing so I can share it on here or my Instagram. My blogs kind of become accountability partners in that sense. It is definitely worth trying if you don’t have one already! As I’ve said my motivation dips every now and then. You just have to try to push through. Obviously, having motivation makes it ten times easier to study but it is so important to learn to work without it. These few posts might help you gain some much-needed motivation:

As for focus, this is something that, again, does take time to master but you can certainly takes steps to improve. My biggest tip would be to remove all your distractions. This could be either your phone, computer, or things on your desk. Time management and productivity apps are so great for keeping you off your phone. I currently use an app called Forest. It gamifies and rewards my time with a little tree. If I use my phone, it will die! It really helps me to stay focused. I’ll see that I’ve got 5 minutes left of that study period and I’ll think “okay, it’s just another 5 minutes..keep going!”. If I don’t use Forest, I will sometimes timelapse myself. I find it so cool to be able to watch it back and see everything I’ve written or typed in a quick video. I love sharing them on my blogs too so it’s great! I don’t want to stop recording so I’ll just say off my phone! For your computer, there are apps that block websites. Forest as a Chrome and Mac extension but apps like RescueTime, StayFocusd can stop you going on Tumblr. I have a post on productivity apps here including paid and free for iOS, Android and Mac. Another thing I’ve found works best is having two accounts on my laptop. One is for university work and the other for blogging. I don’t have any social media logged in on my uni account so I can’t just check a site for a minute because I’m bored. Honestly, probably one of the smarter things I’ve done without intending too haha! I think most computers have the option to create a second account, so have a look. Like most people, I get distracted by stupid things like my pens! When they’re on my desk, I sometimes just end up looking at them or fiddling with them. If I catch myself doing that I will put it out of my reach so I’m not tempted again. Another thing I’ve been trying is externalising my thoughts. If I get distracted by something or have a “gosh, I need to remember that” moment, I will write it down. By getting it out my brain and onto a bit of paper, I no longer have to think about it and can continue. One final thing I sometimes do is listen to music. If I’m downstairs working it can get noisy if my family is around. I will usually play the ‘deep focus’ playlist of Spotify. Other suggestions are gaming or film soundtracks. Their intention is to be something in the background but distracting enough to pull your focus! YouTube has loads of compilations so check there!

I apologise this is a really long answer but hopefully it’s informative! Remember to take small steps! You’ll be able to control your focus in no time if you keep practising. It’s important to stay positive as well xx

anonymous asked:

for the love of God i cannot write witty characters. all my dialogue comes off as SUPER cheesy. any advice?

Thanks for your question, darling!  That’s an issue I’m sure we’ve all faced, especially for those of us with different senses of humor (I’m much more a sarcastic/goofy person – not quite wit).  And what makes this worse: there really isn’t advice for us out there!  I always try to research other methods before answering these questions, but I just couldn’t find anything!

So obviously, I don’t have all the answers, but here are a few tips I’ve learned from experience:

  • Decide how they use their wit.  Every witty person does not use their wit in the same situations or for the same reasons.  For each “witty” character, ask yourself: do they use their wit for humor?  Do they use it as protection or a barrier between them and others?  Do they use it to ease social anxiety?  You should also decide if they’re extroverted or introverted – and therefore, do they make an effort to speak up and share their wit, or is it something that slips out?
  • Decide the tone of their wit.  This largely has to do with their personality, but also to do with the questions above.  Are they more sarcastic?  Flirtatious?  Argumentative?  Performative?  Is their tone comforting and open to interplay, or more private and final?  Are they mean-spirited, purposefully or accidentally?  How do others perceive their tone?

Once you’ve discerned what kind of wit your characters use, consider the following:

  • Witty people think quickly.  This doesn’t mean they jump on everything they hear with a quip – but speed is what sets conventionally “clever” people apart.  There are many of us who can think of hilarious, sharp things to say… hours after we’ve gone home.  This may be why you’re struggling.  It’s a lot of pressure to come up with quick, funny comments on the spot if that isn’t how you naturally work.  So try to work with your mind, at your speed.  If it takes you a couple hours to think of a response for your character, take a couple hours.  Type in the gist of what they’re saying and come back for it later.
  • Witty characters are a tool to be used sparingly.  A snarky/overeducated character can easily become annoying if they speak too much – and it’ll stall your writing, too.  So don’t try to make everything that comes out of their mouth a brilliant insight.  Let them speak normally (in their voice, of course), so that their shining moments don’t become glaring.
  • Learn from real-life examples.  My personal favorites: autobiographies of novelists, poets, and comedians.  Watching improv can also be a good resource; going out and meeting new people can expose you to new kinds of wit and humor.  Any method of getting into the mind of naturally witty people will be good research.
  • A witty character isn’t the key to your story.  Unless your plot literally revolves around the wit of a character, you don’t have to try to follow the trend of the funny, brilliant, philosophical/pop-culture-referencing protagonist (or comic relief character).  Every writer has their own strengths and weaknesses!  If it’s really causing you trouble and it’s not necessary to the plot, it may be better for your story to change the character.  There are plenty of other character traits – many of which are less overdone in modern literature, and that’s only a good thing.

That’s all I can really think of for you!  It’s really something to figure out on a scene-to-scene basis, and it varies between characters.  If you need help with certain scenes, feel free to message me and I’ll get back to you soon :)  Good luck!


If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask me!