if u want one tell me

jessicakimba  asked:

Idk if i should message this or if you even answer but I really need to rant. Why do people force us to be social, or tell us to smile or they think we are afraid of them just because we keep our distance ? Im not comfortable around new people and i take my time to get used to them. Tday I had someone telling me to smile and to come closer and he was pushing so hard. I get why but if people see u r uncomfortable then why would they keep pushing?? I just dont understand. .. and I hate it...

@jessicakimba, thanks for ranting to us. It really makes our day. It can be increasingly annoying to have people push you. Especially if you just told them that you don’t want anything to do with them. To be told to “be more social” is one of the worst things to be told by someone on the outside refusing to look in. I hope you feel better and I hope you remain adamant in the face of extroverted society. Always here to lend and ear if you want to talk again! :-)

cherryblossomteapot  asked:

As a latina teen, I have a lot of worry about if I really have the chance to make a difference, and go far in life. What can you say that will help me and will encourage me to keep going?

First, you have to believe that you can make a difference. You have to reflect on what you can do to contribute and realize that no matter how small, it’s one more step toward achieving your goal. You must also surround yourself with people who will encourage you and tell you that the sky is the limit. To me, that was my family. I was stubborn enough to believe my parents that I can be whoever I wanted to be, so I worked hard to do just that.

As a Latina, we face challenges that are unique to us, but it doesn’t mean that we let anything stop us! I hope that as a U.S. Senator, young Latinas will see that if I can do it, they can, too.  

anonymous asked:

I love ur page, and also i just wanted to tell u bc I'm very proud, that I ran a mile in the beginning of the year at 22 minutes and ran one yesterday at 14 minutes!!!!!! I am getting stronger!! This is a big thing 4 me thank u, pls keep going bc u guys can do anything

I am so proud of you anon!! This is wonderful! ✨

still feel like ive done smth wrong but no one’s told me i have so maybe i haven’t i guess? but if i have u rly can tell me it’s ok! i just want to make it up to u!?

kateyes224  asked:

I loved loved loved every second of your fluffy diner scene. You said so much about the two of them and where they are in their relationship without *saying* anything at all, if that makes sense? You are one of the most gifted writers when it comes to SHOWING not TELLING. And I want to curl up with your fic and just live in it forever. That's all. Carry on. And write more please. 😆

Kristin why u gotta make me emotional like this? So freaking kind, as usual. I’m so glad you liked it, darling <3 

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Yuuri tells Victor his thoughts during their first dance.

I want to thank @thehobbem so, so much for co-writing the dialogue! She spent hours going through metas and crafting this line-by-line with me. Yuuri was much harder to write for than Victor and I couldn’t have done it without her tireless work. ;u; I also want to thank @teasidesketches for doing final revisions despite not being in the fandom. You two are the best. <3

I also want to dedicate this to @solfegefaerie for being the first one to give me the idea of writing Yuuri’s vows. They’re not vows this time, but I thought this was suiting. :) 

If you can, you should read this while listening to “Yuri on Ice.” I matched the flow of the comic to that of the song, hence the tribute to the representation of Yuuri as the lone piano until Victor comes into his life as the violin (in case you were wondering about the sudden Music AU thrown in the middle there). 

Pair comic to Victor’s Vows.

。:.゚ヽ(´∀`。)ノ゚.:。+゚ Happy Birthday to the most amazing person on the internet, @amazingphil!! ゚+。:.゚ヽ(*´∀`)ノ゚.:。+゚

Communicating with autistic people

In light of April & autism acceptance month I thought I’d make a post about how autistic people communicate, because understanding and accepting our communication styles is one of the most important parts of autism acceptance. The things listed here are from my own experience and from information I have gathered from talking to other autistic people, it is by no means exhaustive. If you want to add something on I have missed feel free :+)

  • Lack of eye contact doesn’t mean we aren’t engaged, oftentimes maintaining eye contact is actually more distracting than not. 
  • Our body language is different. Trying to assume how we feel from your knowledge of body language will often lead you to wrong conclusions.

  • Our tone does not always indicate our feelings, it’s often more telling to listen to the words we are saying themselves then try to guess what our tone means
  • We will likely have difficulty reading your body language and tone. The subtleties of communication don’t come easy to us, if you want us to understand what you are feeling or offer support it is most useful to communicate your feelings thoughts and needs directly.
  • Things we say may come off as rude or overly blunt, even if it is not intended this way.
  • We have varying degrees of understanding sarcasm. Some of us struggle to understand any of it, some of us actively understand and employ it and everything in between. We are also prone to literal-mindedness in general meaning we may have trouble with taking other forms of jokes or figurative speech literally. 
  • Our communication abilities often vary with things like stress and sensory input. For example, under little stress or a good amount of sensory input I can communicate enough to explain detailed thoughts as in this post, form sentences and employ tone and cadence to my speech. At varying levels of sensory input I may begin to speak in monotone, take several minutes to put together a single sentence, or be unable to access most of my vocabulary aside from sounds and simple words like “yes” and “no”. 
  •  It is very common for autistic people to empathize by comparing similar experiences. (for example: person a: “My dog got sick, I’m worried about him.” autistic person: “Oh, my cat got sick last year too.”) People who do not empathize like this often see it as ‘one-upmanship’ when the intent is only to empathize or express sympathy. 
  •  We may interrupt you before you’re done speaking. It’s very common for autistic people to have difficulty telling when other people are finished speaking. If we interrupt you it is almost never out of rudeness but we genuinely cannot tell when is the right time to speak.
  •  We may occasionally take over the conversation especially with info-dumping. When I info-dump I’m very excited and I feel like I can barely keep the information I want to talk about down. Being so excited, I tend to ramble for a long time, elaborating unimportant details as I am unaware to whether the listener is bored or even listening. I’m not saying you have to stay completely engaged and remember every detail but at very least don’t get angry with an autistic person for their infodumping.
  •  A lot of autistic people also have auditory processing problems. This means that what you say might not register for a few moments or you might have to repeat yourself. Please be patient with somebody who has poor auditory processing, as it’s not really something we can help. 
  •  If you are asking the autistic person to do a task or activity of any sort (giving them directions to somewhere, asking them to come to a party, asking them to help you fold your laundry) we usually need very clear and precise instructions or plans.

These are all common parts of autistic communication styles but it’s important to remember not every autistic person is the same or will have all of these traits. We are as varied in personality, thoughts, and behaviors as allistic people, but we are tied together by shared experiences. Being aware of these traits and unlearning them as inherently bad communication styles is helpful to autistic people as a whole, but if there’s a specific autistic person in your life you want to better communicate with, the best thing you can do is ask them how you can do that and honestly discuss differences in communication and needs to best understand each other.

  • My kid: I want to drop out of high school
  • Me: Let me tell u a story about this band
  • My kid: Uh okay..dont know how this is relevant.
  • Me: One guy in this band thought flip flops were thongs
  • My kid: How is this relevant to my question
  • Me: Let me finish, that same guy thought the possibilities were endless and the drummer thought tadpoles were baby turtles
  • My kid: Mom answer my question.
  • Me: They dropped out of High school. Dont become luke and ashton.
  • My kid: ill ask dad.
  • Me: He was in the band. He was the bassist he said some dumb shit to

for everyone who says “it’s not queerbaiting!” i just want to let you know that i am not committed to TJLC and i spent a year in college analyzing and tearing apart every single moment of queerbaiting in BBC Sherlock and let me tell you right now that it is absolutely 100% queerbaiting whether u care about john and sherlock together or not

there are inconsistencies in the plot, pointless and endless lead-ons, etc.

if don’t see queerbaiting in sherlock, you are not looking hard enough, really don’t care enough to look, or have privilege regarding your sexuality

Some 2005 p&p things that make me die:

- lizzie roasting darcy everytime they meet
- THE HAND TOUCH
- the whole room ceasing to exist when they dance
- “i love you… most ardently.”
- the whole rain scene and darcy’s EYES and how bad they wanna kiss omdmfmf
- the letter
- “i’m very fond of walking.”
“yes! yes, i know.”
-“my brother has told me so mUCH ABOUT YOU.”
- the one time darcy smiles and it’s sunshine
- when elizabeth is crying bc her sister ran off with a creep and darcy doesnt know what to do and u can tell he want to comfort her so bad tf
- darcy pining and being so awkward and not knowing what to do with his hands ever
- “you must know, SURELY YOU MUST KNOW, it was all for you.”
- YOUR HANDS ARE COLD
- everything else

Star Trek & Food
  • TOS: RAINBOW CUBES w/ a side of tribbles
  • TNG: replicated everything ugh can we get something that's not replicated??? even the gagh is replicated. ur probably replicated, because this is that terrible episode with riker and that one alien kid who wants to be his son.
  • DS9: CULTURALLY DIVERSE AND SPECIFIC, WITH BLENDED TECHNIQUES AND MMM SPICY CREOLE SEASONING AND BAJORAN HASPERAT AND JUMJA STICKS AND THE MOST QUALITY BUGS FROM FERENGINAR AND rations rations rations during the dominion war ugh fuck fuck fuck gET ME BACK TO THE KLINGON RESTAURANT NOW
  • VOY: u must suffer through a constant diet of nutritional supplements, leola root, sickbay cheese, and coffee
  • ENT: *trip tucker voice* MMM PECAN PIE *t'pol voice* fuk u im vegan *trip tucker voice* actually ur vulcan *t'pol voice* FUCK OFF *malcolm reed voice* mmm tasty pineapple me likey

donghyuck: *sleeping*

mark: oOoOoOoOoK EVERYONE SHUT THE FUCK UP

jisung: *breathes a little bit too loud*

mark: *screams internally* *whisper-screeches* WHAT DID I TELL YOU

chenle: *opens a door and it creaks just a bit*

mark: WHY DOES NO ONE IN THIS HOUSE LISTEN TO ME I JUST WANT DONGHYUCK TO SLEEP IN PEACE

i just got volume 1 of the comics and rereading it is making me realize new things lmao so far i got:

  • gac (galra authorized currency) is mentioned there the first time, that’s why in the show it’s not explained what it is
  • i’m still not over blushy lance “sharp work samurai”
  • lance went basically “don’t remember didn’t happen” on keith after ‘sharp work samurai’
  • keith’s a bitch sjkfbgkj
  • in episode 2 lance is saying that he wants acknowledgment for killing the monster and keith is like “but i was the one who pulled the sword!” then after they meet the local population and they tell them they killed their guardian lance is like “oh lol keith u killed their guardian” and keith FUCKING GOES “ME?? THAT WAS YOUR FAULT” I CANNOT BELIEVEHDFBB THE NERVE

i know everyone wants a voltron beach episode but what we REALLY need is a beach episode like the atla one where everyone is telling their secrets and yelling and cleansing themselves u feel me