I feel like my parents are really old fashioned, im a 14 yrs old girl, and they won't let me go to sleep overs, or get WhatsApp or Instagram (which i don't really want tbh). They say, "You must treat me with respect"when im just saying what i think to defend myself. They favour my brother over me & he gets away with anything. Im good at hockey & they should be proud im in the team but i they don't really care, as they threaten to stop taking me to matches. My mum calls me fat (i am)What do i do?
Okay so before I start would just like to disclaim that I am not properly qualified as a counsellor, so I can’t give professional advice or anything. But since you have asked, I don’t want to leave you hanging <3
- Yeah I grew up with quite strict parents too, so I understand the frustration. I was never allowed to go to sleepovers and only got a laptop when I was 14 and a phone when i was 17 (keep in mind this was like 5+ years ago when technology wasn’t as prevalent and my little brother had his own technology heaps earlier, but was still hella frustrating not being able to keep up with everyone else my age). There is the temptation to go behind their backs but I wouldn’t advise that because it could make things worse. I mean you could try telling them how you feel in a really kinda calm way but idk I found that this never really worked, especially if they don’t want to listen
- I agree that they should be proud of you for what you do and what you love doing, and it sucks that they’re not
- In regards to your mum’s comments about your weight that is honestly the worst and I’m so sorry that you have to go through that. Please let her know how it makes you feel, and hopefully she’ll see how harmful it is
I think it would be good to maybe talk to a close friend about everything. It can be really good to get frustrations and concerns off your own chest and have someone else listen. Also (I don’t know how bad it is) but don’t hesitate to talk to a trusted adult or counsellor or someone. The idea of talking to a counsellor might by scary af, but your well-being is the top priority!!
Take care of yourself hon <3 <3