if any of you guys are interested!

anonymous asked:

Since you seem to be the resident love guru, there's this one guy from my class that i really like. We graduated together in May, but we haven't spent any time together since. I tried flirting with him a little bit, but he freaked out and i had to play it off as a joke. I'm not sure what I should do here.. Offer me your wisdom, good cat lady

oh man well if he had that bad of a reaction he’s probably not interested :( 

try inviting him out with some other friends from high school, maybe like a group hang at the movies or something? don’t try to force anything or push yourself on him, just try hanging out with him more and regularly talking/texting him and hope for the best 

anonymous asked:

🎡🎆📝

🎡: what is your favourite sign in other people?

LIBRA and Taurus! I love Venusians. Which explains my username.

🎆: which sign do you like the least? and why?

There isn’t a sign I like the least. There’s something interesting and lovable about every sign. 

📝: what is your favourite combination of sun, rising and moon signs?

Any earth sign with an air moon (you guys are so funny!) 

Libra sun, Pisces moon (because that’s my girlfriend lmao) 

Air sun, Sagittarius rising (bc you guys are bubbly and cute) 

Pisces sun, Aries moon or any fire moon in general (so many people i know with this placement are so dorky and down to earth)

So

Is anyone else excited about Ultra Sun and Moon? There’s so much negativity around it, but I personally am really interested in expanding the story line. Then again, I’m ver story driven. I heard a lot of grumbling about the long cut scenes in Sun and Moon, but those were my favorite parts. I don’t play for the challenge, after all.


On another note. They need a hard mode where trainers will have more pokemon and evil teams feel stranger than a everyday trainer in a costume. Just decrease the amount of experience you get and the overleveling problem is fixed. I’d really like that.

Do you guys have any thoughts on the upcoming game, and other things you’d like to see implemented in the future by Nintendo? I’m also REALLY hoping the pokemon following you around thing is true as well. I really have missed that.

anonymous asked:

I just wanted to say I understand what you mean about male fanfic writers. I've read a few reylo fics written by guys where I was honestly surprised that the writing style was so jarringly different (compared to fics written by other women). Not that it's a bad thing, they weren't problematic in any way, just... Different. Honestly, it's a really interesting contrast to think about. In any case, all fic writers are cool af, shoutout to you and all the others for producing great content! <3

Exactly- as far as the writing goes, it’s not bad. Not at all. But things ARE different. Not just style, but also the focus- women tend more towards eyes, feelings, and male writers are very physical and often bombastic with their descriptors. Again, not bad, not problematic, but definitely different. Definitely a fascinating insight on a drastically different set of priorities, especially as they write in a flow of works they know is predominantly women-driven and women-read. It’s incredibly fascinating- do they write to try and match that style? Do they write to match what they feel is their female audience’s expectations or for themselves in the end? Suddenly I have several genuine questions, haha!

In the same vein, we’re so used to our television being written by men, it’s jarring when we hear a bit of dialogue and go “there’s no way a dude wrote that”. That happened to me when I was three episodes into “Harlots” only to find the entire show was written, produced, directed, and starred in by women. Absolutely A+.

And I will add to your shoutout- so many amazing authors here, regardless of gender. This fandom is so blessed with stellar content- we’ve been knocking fantastic fics out of the park since day one and it’s still going strong. I’m so grateful to be among you.

Thanks for your message, anon. <3

Chapter 6 - Mafia

Chapter 1, Chapter 2, Chapter 3, Chapter 4, Chapter 5 ,Chapter 6

MASTERLIST.

AN: Okay I have some explaining to do, I can’t write unexpected bonds this quickly, I need a little time because I can’t think of a good chapter and plot right now. I’m not getting any good ideas so these chapters are a replacement I know people like that story way better, but it’s going to be out soon. Just not this week the week beginning to 20th I’ll try to upload two chapters. 😁 Sorry again guys. It took long to write. Spoiler *cough* it’s interesting. As usual, I hope you enjoy this chapter,

WARNING DISCLAIMER:
This is just a warning to anyone who is going to be reading this series. This scenario shouldn’t be read by anyone, under the age of 18 purely because it has some really violent scenes, that are not suitable for a younger audience. It also has vulgar language and does have some really depressing scenes. It has distressing descriptions and some do have trigger warnings. If you are triggered by violence, depression, death, rape (it doesn’t have any but just incase you are), vulgarity and just things that are dark and disturbing kindly DO NOT read this series.

WORD COUNT: 1987

Sleeping was out of the question you laid in bed rolling around for hours. All you could think about was Ji-Yong, his scent, his touch, his smile and his presence. You wanted to cuddle and just talk to him but sadly you couldn’t.

You wanted to tell him you forgave him, and that you wanted to move on, but you knew that you’d be scared. Too scared to even look at him, if he did show up in front of you right now; you needed time till the fear it cools down. You knew that if he saw you were scared, he’d get pissed and guilty this would leave you to be not scared again, another month without Ji-Yong.

If you could barely pull through a day how would you manage a month?

The insomnia, had started as a kid; no one was able to figure why it happened exactly. But what they did know was that it stemmed from your fear of the dark. You’d always been terrified of the dark and you didn’t have a story behind it. It always puzzled you, even as a kid you’d shy away from dark corners and you didn’t really know why. You were just thinking about random things, when you got an idea of how to kill your time. To get a puppy or maybe kitten you weren’t sure why didn’t you get both?

Tomorrow you’d go and get one or two you really weren’t sure but you needed something to help you forget about insomnia and Ji-Yong temporarily.

Yes, that’s it, you went to your room and got out your computer searching for nothing really. Ji-Yong had scolded you multiple times, telling you not to do this because you’d always waste your money. But you then decided to look up pet shops that were near you. You found two and you were sure to visit them that is when you noticed you had an email from your boss. Why was there work to do when it’s their daughters birthday, it was too much, this would take you a whole day to do, instead of complaining, however, you just did it.

Soon morning arrived, you were just window-shopping online at this point, you grew tired of all the paperwork. You didn’t really find anything apart from a shirt and a pair of jeans. You made your way to your living room turning off all other lights, you knew that daylight would be here, illuminating all the rooms of your apartment. You put your laptop on the kitchen island completing work as you made your breakfast, it was hard but you completed all of your work, you had a headache, you glanced at the clock and realized why. It was ten, it’d been twelve hours. You were thinking of going to get some insomnia pills now, since no human could function without sleep and your headache was slowly getting worse. So you looked through your handbag and saw that the old prescription was still there so you went to the place and got the tablets.

As you walked home from the pharmacy, you felt someone’s presence behind you. You looked behind and surprise, surprise the figure was gone.

 

“Listen, this isn’t funny okay? Leave me alone.”

You yelled at whoever it was, but then you assessed the situation, you were the one without any sleep. Were you imagining this, it wasn’t the first time this was happening, you remembered the first time you came to the pharmacy, you’d forgotten to take the pills for two days the same thing happened.  You laughed it off as you walked through to your complex, before going to your floor and into your house. You hadn’t felt the presence after you called out, of course, it was in your head what did you think?

You set out to take a nap by taking the pills out, you poured yourself a glass of water for the tablets.

Your doorbell goes off. The nap will have to wait.

You knew who it was it was the delivery guy. Making your way to the door and opening it you see that you were right. He said your name and you smiled.

“That’s me.”

He handed you a pen and the notepad.

“Please sign here.”

He smiled back. You signed it before taking the package.

“Thank you.”

“You’re very welcome miss.”

He bowed as you closed the door and left.

Making sure you were gone he made his way back as someone called him.

“Boss she’s the one and you got the address right.”

Boss: Tomorrow is the day and tell them not to fuck up okay!

“I won’t, I promise.”

Boss: She should come straight to me. Understood?

“Understood.”

They hung up the phone as he left.

The day went on without much action and you didn’t really do much. You took a two-hour power nap, after eating the pills, and felt rejuvenated when you awoke.  

You’d gotten a call from Youngbae. Not to worry him you called him back.

“Hey.”

You said in a sleepy voice.

“Are you alright you didn’t pick up the phone.”

He sounded worried and mad, you smiled, he really was your older brother.

“Yeah I was sleeping I got the tables finally but I got up literally now, and I have something to tell you.”

The frown on his face had disappeared when he heard you say this and he visibly relaxed.

“That’s my bad I should’ve texted you but did you enjoy your sleep?

You also sound excited what happened?”

“It’s okay, I had a good sleep, the reason I’m excited is that I want to buy a puppy or kitten that what happened!”

You said excitedly. Youngbae laughs at this.

“When are you doing this?”

He asked curiously,.

“It was meant to be today but I’m doing it tomorrow. I’m too tired I need to sleep more.”

“That’s reasonable. Are you going all by yourself because that’s what a loner would do.”

The both of you chuckled as he said this.

“I was going to call you, but it slipped my mind anyways do you want to join?”

“It would be my pleasure; I was thinking about visiting you tomorrow anyway.”

“Hey, can we talk before we go outside tomorrow?”

“Is it serious?”

You asked a little concerned.

“Yes.”

“Then it can wait until later, please Youngbae it might help me sleep better.”

He sighed as he rolled his eyes.

“Fine but after puppy or kitten shopping we are going somewhere okay?”

“Can Daesung come it’s been a long time since I’ve seen him.”

“Yes he can, I think he’ll love it actually and where are we meeting?”

 

“Meet you at four-twenty in the afternoon tomorrow, at my place.”

Happily you hung up the phone. A small smile fell on your face as you fell on your couch tomorrow was the day. You took more medication before you went back to sleep.

Youngbae turned on the coffee machine, as he put in his desired drink into the pod. He turned and played with his phone as it poured out, as he sat down on the table, he saw to the rest of the members who looked at him with curious eyes.

Seungri: What did she say?

Youngbae: She wants to meet up, I’m bringing her back here.

“Who are you bringing back here?”

All of them shut their eyes, before opening them and looking at Youngbae, expecting him to cover up but he told Ji-Yong the truth.

Youngbae: Your girl.

“Are you serious?”

Ji-Yong walked down the stairs as he joined them. From the way he walked, they could tell that he had a bad hangover from last night.

Youngbae: Very, she wants to meet up I’m guessing to not think about what happened.

“Then bring her here I want to apologise to her. For everything, I’m also telling her everything. I don’t want her to find out another way, I can’t hide this forever. Maybe she will run away, maybe she won’t but I can’t lie like this. It’s time she knows. It’ll clear up all the misunderstanding between us.”

They all smiled proudly, you were finally going to be part of their family fully.

The next day rolled around pretty quickly. You didn’t tell Youngbae but you wanted to go around town an hour before you met him. You dressed in a casual way; you didn’t want to bother with makeup or anything. It would make you feel weighted; you needed to be natural sometimes. Plus who were you going to impress?

You walked out into the parking lot as you were walking to your car a strong hand grabbed you by the waist, they placed a handkerchief over your mouth you struggled against their grasp. You grabbed onto his hand digging your nails into his flesh causing him to bleed but you passed out soon enough, you were still aware of your surroundings for solve reason and felt him lift you into his arms, carrying you into a van he slamming it shut the rest is a mystery to you.

So you’re going to bring her here?”

Ji-Yong asked Youngbae.


Youngbae: After she does what she wants to do I guarantee you that she’ll want to eat something.

Ji-Yong chuckled at his friends’ comment thinking of how true it was.

Youngbae: Why’d you want her to come here? Can’t you surprise her or something?

“I want to tell her here, it’s where I started everything. I’m going to be my true self here, I want to start fresh with no lies no secrets only truth and trust.”

Youngbae: That’s fair but she might not react to happily.

“I’ll persuade her.”

Youngbae nodded understanding the perspective of his friend. Daesung walks in.

Daesung: Hyung, We should go now hyung it’s getting late.

“All right but don’t take too long.”

 

Ji-Yongs’ face scrunched up in confusion, he didn’t know what you guys were doing.

 

What is it that you guys going to do again?”

Youngbae: You’ll see.

Ji-Yong just sighed as the two men left.

Daesung: Why didn’t you just tell him?

Youngbae: He won’t be as excited as he would if he didn’t know when he sees them, plus he likes surprises just as much as her plus they are going to be their ‘kids’ or 'kid’ for now. Watch a dog or a cat or both will replace all of us.

The men chucked as they hit the road.

Youngbae: Where is she it’s been thirty minutes.

If you said you’d come at a certain time, it was almost sure you would. You were a little unorganized sometimes, but when it came to time you were always on time. Either you were ten minutes, early or you didn’t come at all. He tried your phone and no luck. He was getting very worried now.

Daesung: Let’s go check her apartment.

Youngbae nodded in agreement. The men made their way over to your parking spot and found your car in garage spot, you’d usually only travel by car; this was a bad sign.

Youngbae: Daesung you check downstairs, I’ll check her apartment.

He made his way up and picked your lock it took five minutes but he figured it out, he called you only to hear your phone ringing.

“Shit!”

Daesung cursed, he looked around to see if you were pranking them but you weren’t anywhere. Daesung texted Youngbae that there was nothing up there, he told him everything that he’s seen. It had been forty minutes since you had been missing, it was time to tell Ji-Yong this wasn’t good, wasn’t good at all.

Youngbae called Ji-Yong, his heart was beating fast as he’d just ran up and down every level of the parking lot, trying to find you.

“Why’d you call so early is everything okay?”

Youngbae sighed as he ran his fingers through his hair.

Youngbae: Ji-Yong we can’t find her.

“What are you talking about what do you mean by we can’t find her? “

Youngbae: You know how punctual she is right we waited for half an hour she didn’t turn up her phone, car and everything is here it’s just she’s not.

Ji-Yongs’ heart was pounding, what happened to you? He swallowed his saliva as his eyes closed in fear, this wasn’t good his heart was telling him to hurry up or something horrible would happen to you.

“Get to HQ immediately the both of you. Don’t delay.”

He just hung up and Youngbae did as he was told. He met Daesung on the way down. Who confirmed his worst fear, he’d thought that Daesung would’ve found you in the short space of walking down. But he saw the look in Daesung's’ eyes.

Daesung: No sign of her.

Youngbae: I told Ji-Yong already and he said to come to HQ immediately.

They both race down and get in the car, making their way to HQ as quickly as they possibly could. Your life might be in danger real big danger.

anonymous asked:

Howdy. So I don't know if any interest is here for you whatsoever, but I was chatting with a guy from the portland satanic temple at a tattoo expo the other day, and we were talking about Antifa shit and pins and whatnot. I mentioned your Antifa IB shirt design and he brought up that they're kinda looking for artists right now for designs at the temple (ads? Merch? Not sure) I know the ST isn't quite your deal, but figured I'd pass on the info in case you had any interest

I’m interested.  Send me the info!

An Awkward Request

Hey guys! So, there’s a project I’m working on and I’d like your help for it!

So, little known fact about me, I’m obsessed with Culture and History. I’ve never been outside the USA before so I’m really interested to learn about other countries!

I’ve been looking for Pen Pals to write a comic series about people from different cultures, so I was hoping, if you live outside the USA, you could message me and tell me a bit about your culture?

I’m especially interested in European Culture, but really any country would be awesome to learn about!

I know this is an odd request but this would be really helpful and awesome for me, so thank you!

~ Chrispy ^-^

GUYS I FIGURED IT OUT

Okay so you know how in Beauty in the Beast…

This lady can’t afford six eggs, which always struck me as a little odd but I figured maybe that was normal in a poor French village. I mean, look at all the little kids she has; she probably struggles to afford any kind of food that would feed all of them… Right?

But later we discover something interesting about Gaston:

Gaston eats five dozen eggs every day. That’s 60 eggs. SIXTY. Which adds up to 420 eggs per week. No wonder this poor village doesn’t have enough of them to go around!

Gaston, who is very well-respected and successful and probably makes good money from his fabulous hunting skills, is cornering the entire egg market. To feed his addiction, he probably has to constantly go around and buy out every farmer’s supply of eggs, which causes the price on any remaining eggs to skyrocket.

Gaston is singlehandedly destroying the town’s economy.

Way to go, Gaston. You may be popular, but I’m sure that at least the chicken farmers were relieved when you fell to your death.

sometimes I wonder what yall think about my hamilton

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Taylor Swift on the media | January 2016 | Grammy Museum 

“it got pretty out of control there for a couple of years. Every article was like ‘taylor swift standing next to some guy– watch out guy!’. Every single article had these descriptions of my personality that were very different from my actual personality. My first reaction was ‘man that’s a bummer, this isn’t fun for me’. But my second reaction ended up being ‘hey, that’s actually an interesting character they’re writing about… like she jets sets around the world, collecting men and she can get any of them but she’s so clingy that they leave and then she cries in her marble bathtub surrounded by pearls’”. X

My hand hurts!

This is my submission for the @adventuringfanbook and it was super fun to do! I hope you all take these last few days to submit something too!

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hi guys its bening! aand i decided to sell adopts of these magical girls!

  • each adoptable is 33$
  • usd only! payment is via paypal
  • if youre interested pls contact me via email [ohnosenja@gmail.com] or tumblr dm
  • i will send the full res png file once youve purchased
  • first come first serve, no holds
  • NO RESELLING/STEALING/REPOSTING
  • if you want a sketched refs of your bought adoptable lmk it will be an additional $5!

status:
1. OPEN
2. OPEN
3. SOLD

feel free to shoot me any questions! its my first time doing this ahA;;; & if u cant help buy pls help reblog

Things I Dig: Every one of the Until Dawn kids, flaws and all.

Things I Do Not Dig: How the fandom has a tendency to change the characters by ignoring the flaws of the ones they like, and focusing on the flaws of the ones they dislike.

Hey guys listen

Just because we ship something that isn’t canon, doesn’t mean we think it will become canon.

We are perfectly aware the chances are low to non existent.

But that doesn’t make our ship any less valid.

Just as you saw an interesting and/or cute dynamic in the canon ship, we saw in ours.

Fiction depends heavily on perspective. And while we know our ship won’t become canon, in our hearts and minds it already is.

No amount of “It’s not even canon anyway, so stop this!” will make us enjoy our ship any less.

Please respect our choice. Your ship is already canon (or most likely going to be). Why do you feel so threatend by us who just want to enjoy ourselves?

Respect goes both ways. If you are polite and respect our choices, even if you don’t agree with them, we will do the same.

That is all.

The Upside of Falling Down

Originally posted by captain-pizzamaster

Warnings: Language

Pairing: University!Peter Parker x reader

Word count: 4.3k

A/N: Hey guys!!! I’m so excited to finally be able to post my next series!!! Skyline received so much positive response and I really really hope you guys like this next story as much. It’s going to be pretty different, but I hope you enjoy it.  Also, while I have you, let’s just cover some housekeeping stuff: I do not have a tags list, so please please please stop spamming me with requests to tag!!! I appreciate how much you like my writing, but I have it in my bio and put it on almost every update.  I try my best to respond to every message I get, and sorting through all those messages just makes it harder!! Secondly, I don’t think I am going to be opening up requests.  I’m going back to school in a week, and I have eight classes as well as three jobs.  I’m going to do my best to update once a week, but I really just want to focus on the longer stories that I love, so I can give you guys the quality you deserve.  I’ll make a longer post about this all later.  Let me know what you think about this story!!! I would love to hear some feedback.

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You never expected university to be easy.

When you walked up the steps of Columbia University for the first time freshman year, you had known that the path ahead of you would be hard.  Extremely difficult, even.  But nothing had prepared you for the hurricane that would be your life for the next ten months.  Between the all night cram sessions, endless term papers, lab studies, and regular class hours, you were emotionally, mentally, and even physically drained by the time you finished your final exams.  As you packed up your freshman dorm, you remembered how excited you had been while decorating it for the first time, and shook your head at how naïve you had been.  Freshman year left you beaten, bruised, and with permanent bags under your eyes, but at least it was done.

Now, walking into your sophomore year, you knew what to expect.  You knew what had to be done to manage your time and your life.  You knew what study methods worked for you, and what didn’t.  You knew when it was wise to go to a party and when to stay in to finish your English literature essay.  You knew which friends to avoid during exam week so they wouldn’t whisk you off to a frat kegger, and which friends would hold up flashcards to help you study. You knew what profs gave retests, where the best snack places were on campus, the best study corrals in the library. You knew the name of the librarian that would spend his time helping you find all the resources you needed for your chemistry write up, and the emails of every TA for every one of your classes. Unlike last year, you were prepared. You were ready.

But you weren’t ready, however, for the biology fieldtrip to Thatcher State Park, the fall you were about to have, and the unexpected consequences that would follow. There was no way to study up on how to keep a secret.  There were no flashcards on what to do if one of your classmates entrusts you with their life.  There was no way to prepare for Peter Parker.

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re: jay/umbronydraws

i’m sure most everyone who follows me and/or is active in the hamilton fandom is aware of what’s been happening to my good friend jay/umbronydraws during the last few weeks or so. with jay’s consent i’m here to explain the situation on his behalf since he wants absolutely no further part in the fandom or in this situation and honestly? I don’t blame him whatsoever. 

tl;dr congratulations, you harassed another queer artist of color to the point of considering suicide. both people outside of the fandom AND people within the fandom have been guilty of this. how many more times is this going to keep happening?

caps (provided by jay) and explanations are below. content warnings for slurs & just. shit. many names have been left uncensored. (reblogs are ok & encouraged, we need people to know and understand what happened here so that we can work on making sure it doesn’t happen again.)

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anonymous asked:

If you were to advise young girls on what to look out for in guys, what would some of the things be?

typically my advice is to stay away from men for as long as possible. Odds are that the majority you run into, will hinder your growth. So my advice is to look out for men, rather than look for anything in them.

Cultivate your self-esteem, your passions, become financially independent.

Cultivating self-esteem: i can’t stress this enough, it must be there before you go near men. Most men will damage your self-esteem. It doesn’t even have to be deliberate on their part. It can be something like them not responding to your communication needs and you will turn that inwards, and see that as reflecting your self-worth.

My advice to brown girls is typically the same as well. To build those things first. But then i guess, reluctantly, I do advise them to date. Because they will often be discouraged from dating. And in my experience, no woman from our cultures has managed to get away with not being paired to a man without breaking ties, no matter her initial reluctance. And your parents pickings will definitely be far worse, in that the aim of parents choosing for you (whether anyone admits it or not) is to continue patriarchal control over you.

So coming to what to look for in men:

1) look for how he reacts when you disagree with him. This is the biggest thing imo. Does he get irritated. Does he budge. If he does budge is it reluctant “I guess you’re right”. Do things seem to always be followed by a but. What you want is someone who is impressed and admires you. Not someone who is annoyed that you know better or more, because that would mean he wants to maintain himself above you. Also, men can admire you for being intelligent or opinionated but still manage to reduce you for it: either objectify you or infantilize you. E.g., aw its so cute she knows a lot. OR it’s hot that she knows a lot. Avoid  both. 

2) is the conversation conducive: it’s more than if he is just listening to you and can regurgitate what you’ve told him about yourself. Does the convo have a flow. Do you get to say what you want. Does he hear you out, ask questions, show interest.. or is he just waiting for an entry point in the convo where he can insert himself in order to relate to you. Because the first one feels wholesome whereas the latter, while okay, will make you feel empty in the long run. 
(and i personally like it when i have said what I want, and the guy still stays quiet on the topic until I ask him so ‘what about you’. I like it when they are quiet and don’t speak unless instructed.. this applies for any men in my life not just dating  lmao but anyway)

3) look for how he talks about other women.. what it is that he talks about when he talks about women. Look at how he looks at other women. Ask him about the women he has been attracted to and how he became attracted to them/what about them he liked. Ask this for real women. Ask this about fictional women. Always be mindful of whether he is objectifying women or not. If he is objectifying women, he’s not capable of real love so forget it. How to know whether he is objectifying women or not? Ask yourself if you or any women you have known would become attracted to a man in the same way/same scenario that he is describing to you.

4) Porn, dominance & attraction: this one is by far the hardest for me to describe. It does go in with #3, about how they talk about women. You can ask the guy about his current porn use, age at first exposure. What he thinks about and gets off to lol. But I have found that they give it away in their verbal language and body language. Like the example of the guy I talked about who I had asked who he was attracted to/ if he ever found someone sexually attractive that he did not find emotionally attractive. And he mentioned his boss and then told me how he did fantasize about her, then goes “you know when you wanna put someone in their place….. oh you don’t know??” If a guy “falls for you” real fast, to me that is an indication of him having objectified you. Love takes getting to know. If he seems to have a “type”, i am personally weary of those men. Any type at all. A body type, even a personality type. Because they still manage to reduce women into categories. You cannot and should not fall in love with a category!

5) how he makes you feel about yourself: related to the above. It’s his responsibility to make you feel good about yourself. I have stated elsewhere that I believe, that unless a woman has clinical type self-esteem issues, the average woman’s self-esteem issues in a relationship actually stem from their male partner’s failures. Their male partner is either objectifying other women which comes across subtly in conversations or the way they behave. So if you are not feeling good about yourself while you are with him, you’re not crazy. He is shit. 

6) age old how he treats others: how does he treat people in the service industry. Does he get annoyed when his food at the restaurant takes longer. Life is a game of patience, and he won’t live if he doesn’t have any.

7) sense of responsibility: does he pick up after others. Not just himself. But others. This is observed. But also you can tell from the stories he tells you. What does he do for others? It’s the kind of thing where eg., the house phone rings, who has to go for it or else it goes unanswered? Would he put the dishes in the sink or leave them around for someone else to pick up?

8) what is he telling you about himself: related to above.. When we tell stories, we all want something taken away from them about ourselves. What is he trying to get across? Most men’s stories are about a display of power and dominance, rather than having been helpful. Take notice!

9) How he relates to other men and things deemed feminine: does he have a lot of guy friends (these men are a lost cause lmao). If he tries to distance himself from anything that is related to women, stay away from that man. E.g., he doesn’t watch click flicks… or  watches them cos they are good to watch when you don’t want to think so much. Also relating to #3, you can also check that from how he views female characters in movies, TV shows and books. If he sees their perspective or not. I remember one guy told me that robot girl from ex-machina was crazy, and that’s all he had to say, and i wanted to bash his head in cos of how dumb his thoughts on the movie were….. If he can’t see from the female perspective in shows and books where it is literally spelled out, he lacks emotional depth and empathy. 

I can’t think of more. Over the years I have mentioned quite a few as I came across! But I haven’t interacted much with men as of late so it’s not so fresh anymore. Just look for any display of dominance and dehumanization, both in words and in actions. I do have an advice tag

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Hey guys. Would any of you be interested in commissioning me? I’m having surgery and need some extra cash to help us get by and pay the bills (including Lotta’s vet bill which is currently the biggest by far).
I do high quality digital drawings of dogs and cats. Due to it being kind of an emergency (5 days till surgery and each drawing takes its sweet time oops??) I will be selling them for a steal at 60-70 dollars a piece (depending on difficulty) with a 45% discount for any additional orders. I am willing to take orders and start the commission without pay if anyone needs to wait for next months paycheck as long as it is 100% confirmed that it can be paid off. 
I don’t know how many commissions I can squeeze in but feel free to contact me.
TIA.