One of the things I keep thinking about is writing about how demiromantic IS my romantic orientation. Like, pan or bi or whatever is secondary, since gender identity comes second. Even the "no cismales" thing is subsumed under that, since I'm not friends with straight cismales. So for me it's not accurate to say demiromantic is sort of secondary, like, "Oh I'm pan, but I'm also demi." Like... I'm demi. First and foremost. So maybe you could write about how those things sort of interact for you?
Oh that’s a good idea! Thank you. :)
It’s the same way for me, actually. I used to consider the demiromantic part secondary, but I’ve come to realize that- I don’t really have a primary romantic orientation? It’s nice that there are lucky people out there who know that they’re hetero/homo/bi/pan/whatever romantic, but I don’t have a concise “term” for mine. ‘Cause romantic orientation isn’t so simple and easily put into a particular box or label and that’s okay.
Yeah, we can both be “no cismales” romantic too. =P