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biggayoceanbaby asked:

One of the things I keep thinking about is writing about how demiromantic IS my romantic orientation. Like, pan or bi or whatever is secondary, since gender identity comes second. Even the "no cismales" thing is subsumed under that, since I'm not friends with straight cismales. So for me it's not accurate to say demiromantic is sort of secondary, like, "Oh I'm pan, but I'm also demi." Like... I'm demi. First and foremost. So maybe you could write about how those things sort of interact for you?

Oh that’s a good idea! Thank you. :)

It’s the same way for me, actually. I used to consider the demiromantic part secondary, but I’ve come to realize that- I don’t really have a primary romantic orientation? It’s nice that there are lucky people out there who know that they’re hetero/homo/bi/pan/whatever romantic, but I don’t have a concise “term” for mine. ‘Cause romantic orientation isn’t so simple and easily put into a particular box or label and that’s okay.

Yeah, we can both be “no cismales” romantic too. =P 

biggayoceanbaby asked:

Hey I wanted to see if any fellow turtles have some advice! I live in a VERY dry climate and I really need lip balm, but I can't stand the feeling of anything on my lips. Is there any balm that you use that feels as close to nothing being on your lips as possible? (Note: I don't have a problem with medicated/tingly/minty, but I hate thick/sticky/goopy/obviously present balms). :/ So far the best bet has been Burt's Bees/Avon non-mint balm, but it's still not great. Any help would be appreciated!

biggayoceanbaby asked:

I just got my hair cut and AHHHHH SERIOUS BATTLE between bathing to get rid of the tiny hairs of itchy hell stuck to my skin and being like, "but she styled my hair it's never going to look this cute if I do it myself". Damn you, sensory issues!

That’s the worst kind of dilemma! When I chopped off all my hair, toooooons of it wove its way into the inside fabric of my bra and I spent a month picking out the stabbing hair bits before it was wearable again!
Did you know that you can get slivers from hair? It’s a super common problem for hairdressers and apparently it can really really really hurt!

Rules: In a text post, list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t take but a few minutes, and don’t think too hard — they don’t have to be the “right” or “great” works, just the ones that have touched you. Tag [ten] friends, including me, so I’ll see your list. Make sure you let your friends know you’ve tagged them.

oh boy

1) American Gods, by Neil Gaiman // I love mythology, I love mythology being twisted and positive and negative aspects of gods being presented, and I love the long, slow reveal of more and more things going wrong. Oh, and also Egyptian deities.

2) Night Watch, by Terry Pratchett // Small Gods, by Terry Pratchett // Lords and Ladies, by Terry Pratchett // I decided to include these together because they’re all part of the Discworld series, and I love the whole thing. It’s biting and clever and satirical and sarcastic and well-written and beautiful and sometimes terrifying and just fantastic.

3) Sister Light, Sister Dark, by Jane Yolen // Again with the religious motifs, and things slowly but surely and inexorably going wrong, and it’s come to mind again recently with the parallels Orphan Black has with it, and I just fucking love this book.

4) Poison, by Chris Wooding // THIS IS A BOOK ABOUT FANTASTICAL CREATURES AND WRITING AND STORIES AND SERIOUSLY WHAT DID YOU EXPECT if you haven’t read this book I implore you to go read it as soon as you can, truly.

5) Waking Dream, by Rhiannon Lassiter // This book isn’t that good. Straight up. But it’s about dreams and it’s super interesting, just not all that well-written. Most of the reason it’s stayed with me, however, is the following line:

Modesty, yes, modesty. I’m good at that too.

6) Trickster’s Choice, by Tamora Pierce // Trickster’s Queen, by Tamora Pierce // I fucking love these books. They’re grouped together because they’re a series, and it’s a female protagonist hero being fucked with by a trickster god (again with the mythological elements). They were also the books that made me read more of Tamora Pierce’s novels, like the Alanna series or the Wild Magic series and I seriously recommend all of these.

7) Ender’s Game, by Orson Scott Card // This is the best sci-fi novel I’ve ever read. That probably isn’t saying much, because I don’t read much sci-fi, but it’s amazing. Like, it actually amazed me. The reveal at the end, the whole thing with Battle School, Bean, Ender, everyone. I loved reading this book.

8) Les Misérables, by Victor Hugo // fuck you I get to include this on the basis that I read the book the size of a brick there is no way it isn’t going to stick with me

9) Dr. Franklin’s Island, by Ann Halam // This book is seriously great. Granted, I read it when I was younger so the writing probably isn’t as good as I’d expect now, but it’s fascinating in how the world is built - even in a modern setting, the world is slowly built up - and it incorporates three separate worlds, basically. Also, it’s kind of similar to Lord of the Flies but without the male privilege and with some body horror thrown in. (Most if not all of the main characters are female.)

10) The Eyre Affair, by Jasper Fforde // Lost in a Good Book, by Jasper Fforde // The Well of Lost Plots, by Jasper Fforde // This series is sort of like Inkheart with comedy and bureaucracy thrown in, except a ton better than it sounds. Miss Havisham from Great Expectations is a main character, and a sassy badass at that. It’s about how books work, and what happens inside them, and there’s so much more than that that the number of books in the series (seven) is justified. I put the first three here, but I really recommend the whole series. I love these books, and this author.

biggayoceanbaby asked:

re: that post about growing out fingernails because of oversensitivity when you clip them- I am the exact same way! I hate the way my fingers look with short nails, but the real dealbreaker is the sensitivity when I do have to cut them. I can't deal with life for about 3 days until they get a bit better. It sucks :(

biggayoceanbaby asked:

Re: SPD getting stronger with age. I didn't know that happened (and that makes me afraid for my future) but it does make sense with my history. I used to sleep on sheets I'd had since I was a baby, made of soft cotton, and one day they split, and my mom gave me new sheets made of the exact same material that hadn't bothered me as a younger child, and the feel of them was so rough it made me scream. Then after that I slept in a sleeping-bag full-time at home so I wouldn't have to touch sheets,

and now I sleep under a microplush blanket so I don’t have to touch my comforter, & on top of the velvet cover for my memory foam pad so I don’t have to deal with sheets. I live in the desert and in the summer I used to sleep with just a top sheet, but now the heat is better than the feeling of comforter/sheets over my whole body. It’s kind of fascinating to me how many things I do are actually accommodations for my SPD that I didn’t even realize, just because they developed so slowly over time.

I always find it interesting to hear stories like this one! Sleeping arrangements are always the most difficult to figure out, for sure. 

biggayoceanbaby asked:

Daisy, Orange Blossom, Calla Lily, Locust, Heliconia

Daisy:How old were you when you had your first kiss?

uhh, pass

Orange Blossom:If you could pick the gender and appearance of your child, would you?

I would totally pick a girl-child, but appearance, no

Calla Lily:If you died right now, what song would you want to play at your funeral?

I would want them to play “the breaking of the fellowship” from lotr, or at least the song called “in dreams” that’s part of it

Locust:What was your favorite book as a child?

another favorite book that I had was called “The Goodnight Gecko.” my parents brought it back from Hawaii when I was really little cause I was such a night owl as a child and I used to beg them to take me out driving to see the moon~ there’s a video of someone reading it here

Heliconia:Do you like when it rains?

yes, as long as there is no lightning. I am terrified of lightning *hides*