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biggayoceanbaby  asked:

One of the things I keep thinking about is writing about how demiromantic IS my romantic orientation. Like, pan or bi or whatever is secondary, since gender identity comes second. Even the "no cismales" thing is subsumed under that, since I'm not friends with straight cismales. So for me it's not accurate to say demiromantic is sort of secondary, like, "Oh I'm pan, but I'm also demi." Like... I'm demi. First and foremost. So maybe you could write about how those things sort of interact for you?

Oh that’s a good idea! Thank you. :)

It’s the same way for me, actually. I used to consider the demiromantic part secondary, but I’ve come to realize that- I don’t really have a primary romantic orientation? It’s nice that there are lucky people out there who know that they’re hetero/homo/bi/pan/whatever romantic, but I don’t have a concise “term” for mine. ‘Cause romantic orientation isn’t so simple and easily put into a particular box or label and that’s okay.

Yeah, we can both be “no cismales” romantic too. =P 

biggayoceanbaby  asked:

Hey I wanted to see if any fellow turtles have some advice! I live in a VERY dry climate and I really need lip balm, but I can't stand the feeling of anything on my lips. Is there any balm that you use that feels as close to nothing being on your lips as possible? (Note: I don't have a problem with medicated/tingly/minty, but I hate thick/sticky/goopy/obviously present balms). :/ So far the best bet has been Burt's Bees/Avon non-mint balm, but it's still not great. Any help would be appreciated!

biggayoceanbaby  asked:

I just got my hair cut and AHHHHH SERIOUS BATTLE between bathing to get rid of the tiny hairs of itchy hell stuck to my skin and being like, "but she styled my hair it's never going to look this cute if I do it myself". Damn you, sensory issues!

That’s the worst kind of dilemma! When I chopped off all my hair, toooooons of it wove its way into the inside fabric of my bra and I spent a month picking out the stabbing hair bits before it was wearable again!
Did you know that you can get slivers from hair? It’s a super common problem for hairdressers and apparently it can really really really hurt!

Rules: In a text post, list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t take but a few minutes, and don’t think too hard — they don’t have to be the “right” or “great” works, just the ones that have touched you. Tag [ten] friends, including me, so I’ll see your list. Make sure you let your friends know you’ve tagged them.

oh boy

1) American Gods, by Neil Gaiman // I love mythology, I love mythology being twisted and positive and negative aspects of gods being presented, and I love the long, slow reveal of more and more things going wrong. Oh, and also Egyptian deities.

2) Night Watch, by Terry Pratchett // Small Gods, by Terry Pratchett // Lords and Ladies, by Terry Pratchett // I decided to include these together because they’re all part of the Discworld series, and I love the whole thing. It’s biting and clever and satirical and sarcastic and well-written and beautiful and sometimes terrifying and just fantastic.

3) Sister Light, Sister Dark, by Jane Yolen // Again with the religious motifs, and things slowly but surely and inexorably going wrong, and it’s come to mind again recently with the parallels Orphan Black has with it, and I just fucking love this book.

4) Poison, by Chris Wooding // THIS IS A BOOK ABOUT FANTASTICAL CREATURES AND WRITING AND STORIES AND SERIOUSLY WHAT DID YOU EXPECT if you haven’t read this book I implore you to go read it as soon as you can, truly.

5) Waking Dream, by Rhiannon Lassiter // This book isn’t that good. Straight up. But it’s about dreams and it’s super interesting, just not all that well-written. Most of the reason it’s stayed with me, however, is the following line:

Modesty, yes, modesty. I’m good at that too.

6) Trickster’s Choice, by Tamora Pierce // Trickster’s Queen, by Tamora Pierce // I fucking love these books. They’re grouped together because they’re a series, and it’s a female protagonist hero being fucked with by a trickster god (again with the mythological elements). They were also the books that made me read more of Tamora Pierce’s novels, like the Alanna series or the Wild Magic series and I seriously recommend all of these.

7) Ender’s Game, by Orson Scott Card // This is the best sci-fi novel I’ve ever read. That probably isn’t saying much, because I don’t read much sci-fi, but it’s amazing. Like, it actually amazed me. The reveal at the end, the whole thing with Battle School, Bean, Ender, everyone. I loved reading this book.

8) Les Misérables, by Victor Hugo // fuck you I get to include this on the basis that I read the book the size of a brick there is no way it isn’t going to stick with me

9) Dr. Franklin’s Island, by Ann Halam // This book is seriously great. Granted, I read it when I was younger so the writing probably isn’t as good as I’d expect now, but it’s fascinating in how the world is built - even in a modern setting, the world is slowly built up - and it incorporates three separate worlds, basically. Also, it’s kind of similar to Lord of the Flies but without the male privilege and with some body horror thrown in. (Most if not all of the main characters are female.)

10) The Eyre Affair, by Jasper Fforde // Lost in a Good Book, by Jasper Fforde // The Well of Lost Plots, by Jasper Fforde // This series is sort of like Inkheart with comedy and bureaucracy thrown in, except a ton better than it sounds. Miss Havisham from Great Expectations is a main character, and a sassy badass at that. It’s about how books work, and what happens inside them, and there’s so much more than that that the number of books in the series (seven) is justified. I put the first three here, but I really recommend the whole series. I love these books, and this author.

Idra's visiting tomorrow!!

She’s asleep right now, so she doesn’t know I’m posting this. But maybe she’ll wake up and be all excited to seeeee it. :3 I have to sleep soon to be up an’ ready, but ahhh HOW CAN I SLEEP WHEN I’M SO EXCITED, TUMBLR???

Her family’s visiting on vacation, so it’ll probably be a little awkward hanging out with them. xD She’s not out to her parents…so they don’t know about us. But they like me! I think?

It’s her first time in NYC!! She doesn’t like cities, but maybe NYC will be different! I’m really looking forward to it~ <3

ALL THE FEELS!!!!

biggayoceanbaby  asked:

vsquared (vimes/vetinari) omg

vsquared rly

who cooks normally?: um neither of them cook vetinari has aides 4 that but if they need to for themselves its definitely vetinari

how often do they fight?: they dont they icily polite at each other

what do they do when they’re away from each other?: gET ON WITH THEIR JOBS OMFG

nicknames for each other?: i dont even know commander and sir??? oh god that makes it sound like a kink thing

who is more likely to pay for dinner?: vimes would literally glare at vetinari till he offered if he didnt originally 

who steals the covers at night?: vimes are you kidding vetinari sleeps still

what would they get each other for gifts?: things they know each other will hate vetinari keeps getting vimes progressively more gilded armor vimes gets vetinari things like dragons

who remembers things?: they both do

who cusses more?: vi me s laughs

what would they do if the other one was hurt?: look on impassively prob (worry a lot and have their people take care of them. also ruthlessly hunt down the person who did it.)

who kissed who first?: uM??? idfk prob vimes like rly angrily

who made the first move?: vetinari in a giant batman gambit

who started the relationship?: vimes by vetinaris design prob