okay but there’s like, ONE thing about the cotton ceiling discourse that I don’t get, even using the logic of people who “support” it
assuming that, 1. sex is irrelevant to one’s sexual orientation, 2. behavior and appearance have no correlation whatsoever with one’s gender identity OR sexual makeup, and 3. both gender AND sexualities are fluid and can change over time
shouldn’t orientations in general be abolished?
because they seem pretty irrelevant under those rules. you may feel attracted to someone that looks like a stereotypical female, but if that person actually identifies as a man you either can’t be attracted anymore, or from now on you have to be open to the possibility of also being attracted to men.
if you’re a straight woman in a relationship with a man and one day he starts id’ing as woman, does that make you a lesbian? or a transphobic bigot, if you don’t want to be with them anymore?
my point is, when do we stop changing the meanings of established words and concepts? where is the line? IS there a line?