a thing I am Emotional about tonight: so yurio is high key motivated by spite. like him being so fuckin’ pissed off at losing to jj motivates him to do better at both the rostelecom cup and the gpf and being pissed off at yuuri for maybe retiring motivates him to skate the hell out of his free skate and claim a narrow victory
the thing that is REALLY hecking me up rn is how yurio, bc he is smol and angry and 15, kind of just…. assumes that same strategy works on other people? which is how you get him yelling at yuuri in the bathroom after sochi – bc someone coming up to yurio, yelling at him, telling him to retire, that he’s a loser – that would absolutely motivate yurio to kick ass. same thing with the onsen on ice competition, honestly. yurio wanted to win (and being mad at victor for forgetting his promise was pretty motivating), but winning bc yuuri had an anxiety attack isn’t fair. yurio doesn’t just want to win, he wants to be better than the best.
which brings me to: the beach scene in barcelona in episode 10. there is some fascinating meta out there about victor the hero vs. victor the person and how yurio, who is pretty motivated generally by agape despite his claims otherwise, relates to both of those personas. but his lashing out at yuuri (”you’ll see the ring he gave you is garbage”) seemed a little… idk intense? yurio talks big but he does care for yuuri a lot and is, in his own fiesty tomcat way, protective of him. so I think maybe part of the reason yurio is so harsh to victor is more of the same – because victor-the-hero is gone, but victor-the-person had better not fuck it up with yuuri. yurio is so contrary – telling yurio his partner isn’t worthy of him would only make yurio double down. and he knows by now that yelling and spite doesn’t work for yuuri (hence katsudon piroshki) and it doesn’t really work for victor either – but he’s just so mad at them both, and the only way he can think to express it to them is by yelling.
and then: “this place reminds me of hasetsu”, yurio says. not st. petersburg, the place he lives and trains, the place victor said the gulls in hasetsu reminded him of. hasetsu, the place that means yuuri. it feels like something of an apology, I think – for the things he said about yuuri, for lashing out, even though he feels it was necessary. an olive branch that puts them back on more equal footing.
U m tae did the stigma note live and I honestly feel so attacked rn idk what I was expecting, I looked the video up hoping for it be uploaded and include the high note but o w my heart he’s so talented it sounded just like the recording if not even better I literally had to just say this I couldn’t wait for the next Tae post I had to pause mid high note and silently scream and now I’m just ?!?!?!?!?!?! thank you to Tae’s parents for creating such a talented pure human bean bc oh my god I always knew he was talented but he’s continually amazing me
I love just seeing how your style has progressed! In my opinion it felt sharp and clean at first but over time it's become softer and shinier like a jelly pudding or something that melts in the mouth??(ᴖ◡ᴖ)♪
OO THANK YOU SO MUCH ANON!! 😭💖 I noticed that too, maybe it’s the side effect of changing interests IDK
looking back on my archive tho, I really liked my old style better so I might try out things again..!
teach your girl to say no, to spit no like fire, to never apologize for it. her spine: NO. her fists: NO. her teeth all NO together.
but first and more importantly, teach your boy to see no, hear no, understand no before it’s spelled out for him. have him take “no” easily, not as an excuse to keep trying.
have him feel “no” like a change in the air so that he can infer it without so much as a word. don’t settle for no as just as the dictionary definition, show him no in body language, in “i’d rather not,” in “yes, but i’m drunk.”
teach him that “no” is not “convince me,” teach him to accept it gently, without violence, without feeling that he’s having something “denied” to him. “no” is not “take it from my fingers.” no is a shrug, is “i’m not sure,” no is a look, a scared smile, a terrified giggle. No is in the pocket of her clothes, no matter what they look like.
have him assume “no,” not “yes, unless otherwise stated.” girls are not swings on the playground, he cannot be upset when they don’t “share” themselves with him. there is no sharing, she is not an object. of a girl he sees on the street who doesn’t give him her number or react well to what he calls her: teach him she is not taking from him what is due, she is not denying him, she has never and will never belong to him. she will be his only after explicit and repeated consent and only by that alone.
do me a favor
teach him no.
A GIRL NOT SAYING “NO” IS NOT A GIRL SAYING “YES” // r.i.d
thinkin abt sherlock like getting a lil older and fitting into his body better and having a Ponch and being called “dad” and having a Husband and still being his weird sciency chaotic good detective self and being more the classique older holmes but having had happiness and emotional stability in his life for a few years and feeling and doing better makes me emotionale………….
why is it always the woman who has to see past the beast in the man? why does she always have to clean his wounds, even after he has damaged her beyond repair? why is it always the man who is worthy of forgiveness for being a monster? I want to see the beast in the beauty. the half smile, half snarl. the unapologetic anger. I would like to see the man forgive the monster. to see her, blood and all, and love her anyway.