idk if this looks good but whatever

honestly though the response to that fic makes me sad

it is clear that people are desperate for butch representation

and just thinking about the stigma attached to butch identity

it took me YEARS to even be ok with the word ‘butch’

as in i came out when i was 17 and i am now 34

and it was not until very very recently that i started embracing the term

and i honestly still don’t have a very good handle on what ‘butch’ even means

i mean, i have this idea of what butch *looks like*

but not so much what it *is*

idk i’m still unpacking and unwrapping all the reasons i shied away from the label in the past

separating the truth from all the misogyny and lesbophobia

it’s hard bc a large part of me feels like whatever butch is, i fail at

just like i fail at femininity and womanhood

it’s a very tangled web that has roots in trauma and abuse

but i’m going to hack my way through it

writing helps

it helps so much

it saved my life, to be honest

4

Simon Lewis and His Mentor Magnus Bane on portaling.

Things I learned in my first year of college

This is more for my reference than anything else, but if you find this info helpful then cool. The ones with *** are the one I found most important or didn’t find on the internet when I was looking for tips. 

  • ***Your feet will hurt from walking around so much. Don’t bother getting new shoes to cope because by the time you break those in you’ll be used to walking around. Save that money for food. 
  • ***Go to career fair. You’ll probably not get the internship or job your first year, but at least you’ll know how to dress yourself, research companies, and present yourself. 
  • Go to club meeting where a company rep is present. Company reps have insane memory. They’ll remember you. Especially if you go see them every time. Helpful for when you’re applying.
  • Get a foam mattress topper
  • Don’t have a crush. You’ll waste so much time thinking about it it’s not even funny. 
  • Make friends. Make connections. Have fun. Get lit (safely).
  • Always plan your safe ride home or you’ll spend $56.50 on an uber at 3 am. 
  • Use the free bus rides you get with your tuition. 
  • Always ask for student discounts. 
  • ***Don’t just do academics. Having a 4.0 is cool and all, but no company or grad school wants you if that’s the ONLY thing you did. 
  • ***Be busy. When you’re busy, you manage your time better and be more productive instead of procrastinating because “oh that test is in like a week and I have nothing to do besides that so I’ll do it later.” 
  • ***Know your limits. You can’t handle being actively involved in 5 clubs and school. You’ll kill yourself in the process. Limit yourself to 3 clubs because it only gets harder from here.
  • Join clubs. Find something besides just academics that peaks your interests. It’ll make you a better student and expand your views. 
    • Join one fun club like a sorority and one serious club like business council. 
  • Work out. You’ll gain weight if you don’t. Set a routine in the summer so you can follow during the year when things get busy. 
  • Be safe. Let’s be real, it’s college and there’s drugs and alcohol everywhere. If you choose to do it, be safe about it. Here’s some safety tips. 
    • Always use a condom. Get them free from your university health center. 
    • If you’re gonna drink for the first time, do it at home or somewhere that you are comfortable and know 
    • If you’re gonna do drugs, again do it at home or a safe environment 
    • Don’t ever leave your open drink unattended. Get a new one if you do. 
    • You know when someone is sleazy or creepy. Stay away. If they’re persistent, give a fake name or number, get some random girls to let you (Oh jessica we’re leaving lets go), or straight up get away 
    • Never go somewhere alone at night. Even if you have pepper spray. 
  • Visit your family at least twice a semester if you can. They miss you and do a lot for you. Go visit them. I visited mine once a month because empty nest syndrome is real. 
  • Don’t study where your friends are. You’ll get distracted because when it’s 3 am and your getting sick of studying, procrastinating with friends seems super fun. 
  • ***Study with a group. Sounds counter intuitive considering my last tip, but for things like ochem, engineering classes, business projects, or whatever, the classes are designed that if you don’t work in groups you will fail. Find a group of people/friends that are actually productive for studying and stick with it. Form a study squad. Join with other squads from time to time. 
  • Don’t eat out a lot. You’ll get fat and broke.
  • Drink lots of water. Refillable water bottles ftw. 
  • Get off your phone in class. No you can’t pay attention and listen at the same time. 
  • Email your professors. Go to extra review sessions. When you’re .04 off from getting an A this will help you. 
  • ***ONLY go to TA sessions if they grade the work and/or actually help you learn. Some TA’s are garbage because they’re required to do it for grad school. But they grade your stuff and if you’re one the few people who’s name they know, that’ll definitely help you. If you learn nothing from them and they don’t grade your stuff, don’t waste your time. 
  • Sleep. That all nighter is worse for you than not knowing anything. Cram the best you can and at least get 3 hours. 
  • Save your notes. You’ll never know when you’ll need it, if your friend needs it, or sell it. 
  • ***Use a notebook. Don’t write notes on loose leaf paper. You’ll lose track of it. If you take notes on a laptop, use onenote or something idk I have math and science notes, I can’t take that on a laptop. 
  • If you’re business or something along the line of that, look nice to class. Everyone else is too. Don’t have a professor notice you for your scrubbiness. Comb your hair, throw on some mascara, and wear whatever makes you feel good to class. 
  • ***If you’re stem or something like that, don’t worry to much about looking nice. Unlike business, the professor is probably dressed scrubbier than you. If you look nice, cool, you’ll get noticed for not being scrubby like everyone else. 
  • ***Have desk space. You’re gonna have your laptop, a million papers, and studying utensils out. Have the space for it so you don’t go crazy trying to look for stuff. 
  • ***Have a planner. The most important one. Whether it is hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, or whatever, have one. You have a lot of stuff to do, and you can’t remember it all. Buy one, print one, use google calender, doesn’t matter just have it.

This might not work for everyone, because some of you are these highly motivated studious students that has their life together, which is awesome please teach me your ways, but if you’re a mess like me, these are some tips I wish I found on a studyblr or college tips. 

Ask me anything and I will answer honestly.
  1. What’s your favourite food?
  2. What’s your favourite place to eat?
  3. Someone you hate?
  4. Someone you like? (friends way)
  5. Crush?
  6. Got a job?
  7. Dream place to visit?
  8. Any plans for the future?
  9. Who’s the last person you hugged?
  10. Where would you go if you could travel anywhere?
  11. Who’s your biggest inspiration?
  12. Who’s been seen your worst and still stuck around?
  13. 13 reason’s why (insert question)?
  14. What’s the most embarrassing thing thats ever happened?
  15. When was the last time you love someone?
  16. How did your last relationship end?
  17. Do you hate any of your ex/s?
  18. What’s the biggest lie you ever told?
  19. Who did you lie to?
  20. Why did you lie?
  21. What’s the biggest achievement so far?
  22. Who’s your celebrity crush?
  23. What makes you happy?
  24. What annoys the shit out of you?
  25. Who makes you smile most?
  26. The last time you cried?
  27. The last text/message you sent?
  28. The last person you texted/messaged?
  29. The one thing you look for in a person?
  30. What makes someone ugly?
  31. What makes a good first date?
  32. What is a good day out to you?
  33. Where do you shop (food)?
  34. Where do you shop (clothes)?
  35. Screenshot of your recent call list.
  36. Biggest ship?
  37. Ask me any question.

Don’t ask.

It’s 3 am and for the first time in a while I NEEDED to draw. Shame it’s just a doodle at the moment, but who knows? Maybe I’ll work on it tomorrow???

marlene-fletcher  asked:

what if before spiderman or deadpools identities are revealed keith/spiderman has a huge crush on lance and lance/deadpool has a thing for spiderman but keith just sees deadpool as a big mouth merc and lance just sees keith as some introverted emo and so of course this results in pining idiots... sorry;;

Mmm smth like that! Of course people can play with this au however they like but here is how i see it..

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I know people are disappointed with PK’s statement but honestly I’m not surprised? I’m more surprised by people’s response because like, a) he’s never been super political in the first place, and b) have you seen the shit this man goes through just for being himself? Sports media started a whole campaign against him last season just for getting too excited during his cellies. Not to mention everything surrounding and leading up to his trade to Nashville, from the Habs higher ups especially.

Like, you read his statement and it all sounds like he’s trying to assure the Preds higher ups that even though he has a loud personality and is energetic he won’t start a ruckus and go against the team’s decision (which the PR had announced earlier that day) to not protest. He even went so far as to explain why he couldn’t keep still during the anthem (citing both adrenaline and possibly undiagnosed ADD) even though that’s a super common thing in the league. This man is already anticipating all the shit that the media is gonna throw at him if people do start protesting. Honestly, after Montreal I just wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t feel completely secure in his position on the team.

Idk, I just want y'all to remember that he already gets so much shit for being a dark skinned black man with a lot of personality and being really fucking good at what he does. You’re allowed to be disappointed (I kind of wish he at least spoke more in favor of the protests as a whole even if he wasn’t gonna do it even tho I get why he might not of) but let’s not act like he was suddenly obligated to lead some sort of revolution against Sidney Crosby or whatever this weird vibe is i’ve been getting these last few days.

omegarubygamero3  asked:

Crossover Request- Ochako Uraraka as D.Va

This was a good suggestion. Thanks for the request @omegarubygamero3!

BTS Single Parent AU

kookies-and-myrok asked: Hello, sweets! I love your writing and I’m not just saying that Lol i always get excited when you post smt, anyways do you write parent au’s? If you do can I get a BTS reaction about what they would be like as a single parent? If not then its okay! Keep up the great work 💜

This doesn’t necessarily work as a reaction, but I can do a little like… bullet drabble or whatever on this. Either way, very doable. - Admin Dayna


Seokjin

There’s like… this anime called Amaama to Inazuma (a.k.a. Sweetness and Lightning) which is basically about a single father who raises his daughter to the best of his abilities but he can’t cook as well as his wife (who passed away). I see Single Parent!Jin being like that… except in Jin’s case he can actually throw down in a kitchen

  • Lots of love and affection
  • Smothers his baby girl with kisses before dropping her off to daycare and after picking her up
  • The daycare moms thirst after him bOI
  • His cookies sold out the fastest at the school bakery
  • Partially because Daycare Moms are trying to give him the succ
  • Mainly because his cookies are bomb asf
  • He got hoes
  • Reads/sings his daughter to sleep at night religiously
  • Chocolate covered Strawberries while they watch cartoons together
  • Shed a single tear in the beginning of Finding Nemo evRYTIM
  • Was literally floating on air for like a month because his daughter told him he was the “handsomest appa”
  • Tries really hard to scold his baby girl
  • Can’t look her in the face when he does it because she’s too damn cute
  • Puppy Dog Eyes work every once in a while tbh
  • Will cAUSE A FUCKING SCENE IF HE EVER HEARD SOMEONE WAS BULLYING HIS CHILD
  • Dad jokes, fucking duh.

Originally posted by meganhyunhee

Yoongi

Picture this: Yoongi is chilling, right? Lounging on the sofa, watching some psychological mystery film or whatever emo shit he watches. His face is pretty indifferent. He’s unbothered asf. His right arm is covered in scribbles and squiggles. His 7 year old son is currently surrounded by markers, casually doodling on his dad’s arm.

  • Lets his son choose whatever toys he wants
  • If his baby boy wants a nerf gun, he’ll get a nerf gun.
  • If his baby boy wants a fucking bubblegum pink barbie jeep atv, he’s getting a fucking bubblegum pink barbie jeep atv.
  • Also lets his kid wear whatever he wants
  • Supports the creative and imaginative endeavors of his child
  • Does not support coloRING ON THE WALL YOU LIL DEMON BABY
  • Sometimes stares at his child and thinks “whose mans is this?”
  • Also looks at his child and thinks “that’s the love of my life”.
  • One time considered redecorating his closet just so that he can hang a bunch of mirrors on the wall so that whenever his child does something stupid, he can sit him in that closet and close the door so that he can look at his reflection and reevaluate his 7 years long life.
  • All in all he’s a super supportive daddio.
  • He’s not like the other dads.
  • He’s a Cool Dad™

Originally posted by exoticmaknae

Hoseok

Sitcom dad.

Literally Phil Dunphy from Modern Family.

  • Tell his kids a lot of stories about his “glory days”
  • His preteen daughter is like… hella embarrassed by him, but is highkey just as dorky as he is
  • Still got the juice
  • Can be super stern when need be
  • His kids knows that if they have an issue they can always talk to him about it
  • Has the warmest hugs when the days been rough
  • Shares both maternal and fraternal instincts 
  • Can flawlessly switch between motherly and fatherly traits
  • Tries to make inside jokes with his children
  • It never works.
  • “Stop trying to make fetch happen, Hobi. It’s not going to happen”
  • The best hype man tbh
  • “YOU SEE THE KID IN THE WHITE SHIRT? THAT’S MINE. I MADE HIM”

Originally posted by ktaejin

Namjoon

You know that cliche where it’s like… the mom leaves the kids alone with the father for a day. And the dad is like “don’t worry honey, I got this” but then the second the mom leaves, there’s toys everywhere, the kids are running around naked, the water he was boiling is on fire, shit has literally hit the fan, the groUND HAS ACTUALLY SPLIT OPEN INTO THE FIERY PITS OF HELL - but he last minute manages to get everything together and in order before the mom comes and finds out? 

That’s Namjoon.

Except like… 24/7 without the mom

  • Super fast dad reflexes
  • Also kinda annoying dad noises?
  • Really good at tutoring the kids with school work and stuff
  • He taught them majority of their math and science formulas by turning them into catchy songs
  • Has given up trying to be the cool dad yEARS ago
  • He’s just not about that life
  • It’s okay though because his kid’s friends thinks he’s cool
  • Makes sure his children are WOKE ASF
  • Tries to enforce bedtime
  • Keeps them up at night by playing games and/or watching movies together
  • Lets them go out whenever they want as long as they keep in touch often
  • Lets his kids make mistakes and learn from them instead of sheltering them from harms way
  • Motivational Speeches that are actually motivational
  • God awful happy dances
  • Hangs his kids A+ test papers on the fridge
  • “If you show me you got straight A’s at the end of the semester, you can absolutely get your nose pierced” (he says to his 14 year old daughter).

Originally posted by samwol

Jimin

Everyone knows that one person who has that really young but super hot mom or dad. Like, they’re lowkey popular and often have friends over because their friends kinda just want to be around their good looking parent.

Stacy’s Mom got it going on

Except it’s like… idk… Park Jae Sun’s Appa got it going on…

Whatever you get what I mean.

  • He’s a Dilf
  • Lets his kid invite his friends over whenever they want to
  • Doesn’t realize that his child’s friends are high key checking him out
  • Constantly checking up on them to see how they’re doing
  • “Are you guys okay?”
  • “Is the house too cold?”
  • “Would you like something to eat/drink?”
  • “Let me know if you need anything, okay?”
  • “Don’t be afraid to ask”
  • A little overbearing if I’m going to be honest
  • May even shelter his child a little too much
  • Good morning texts and sticky note reminders around the house
  • Makes sure his child has food for school everyday, never missing a beat
  • Proud Dad always
  • His son is bigger than him
  • Has to look up at him in order to look his son in the eye to properly reprimand or lecture him
  • Gets pissed whenever he isn’t taken seriously when giving scoldings
  • Feels really bad whenever he punishes his kids, and makes up for it with like ice cream or something
  • Babies make his little mochi heart flutter

Originally posted by flyminnie

Taehyung

He’s the epitome of husband/daddy material. I think Taehyung would make a great dad. He’s the perfect balance of literally all the others.

  • Which one is the parent and which one is the kid?
  • Knows how to get down to the level of a child, and properly play with them
  • Inside jokes with his kids
  • They say goodbye with aegyo
  • Openly tells each other they love one another
  • Likes to squish his baby’s cheeks and blow raspberries on their tummy
  • Loves the satisfying feeling that follows finally putting a crying baby to sleep
  • Watches his baby’s tummy rise and fall as they breathe
  • Hysterically laughs at his child’s laughter
  • His box smile is strong, and can literally be found in all of his kids.
  • Also has like, three dogs, but the more the merrier, right?
  • Isn’t too hard on his kids, but isn’t lenient on them either
  • Is a healthy medium between strict and easy going
  • Enforces a proper education but also lets them know that school isn’t the only way to a successful and happy lifestyle
  • Plays pretend with his children on the weekend
  • Always ends up in a too small princess dress with ribbons in his hair

Originally posted by bwipsul

Jungkook

You know those kids who are extremely close to their parents to the point where it’s like… and outsider watches the way they talk to their parents and finds it their causality with each other borderline disrespectful? You know those kids who can like… curse around their parents and talks to their parents like it’s another one of their friends and their parent talks back to them just as casually? 

That’s the type of dad Jungkook is.

  • Plays video games with his kids whenever their schedules allow them some free time together
  • Him and his kids have a group chat together where they share memes and ugly selfies but also like… keep up to date with school events and whatnot
  • Follows each other on Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram
  • Not the best with giving advice, but his kids know that he’s a shoulder they can cry on
  • Offers to help them with homework, but ends up just as confused 
  • They all live off snacks and the neighborhood ahjumma had to start cooking actual meals for them
  • His kids actually care and asks their dad’s opinion on stuff about like… hair or clothing or something
  • He picks up on his kids habits and his kids pick up on his
  • they look like a bunch of bunnies tbh
  • They all have their own rooms, but Jungkook and his kids always manage to fall asleep dog piled on the living room sofa

Originally posted by yourpinkpill