idk if i'd want to live there

  • naruto: idk i think i dont really wanna be hokage anymore
  • sasuke: huh?
  • naruto: i mean like. it was kind of a kiddy dream, right? i don't really think i want the job, i don't think i'd be very good at it. i just wanted the acknowledgement, really, but i've got that! and i've got friends, and family... i think i'm good.
  • sasuke: that's good, then.
  • naruto: but idk what else to do with my life if i don't do that, you know? that was the whole plan.
  • sasuke: are you asking me for advice?
  • naruto: i mean, i guess?
  • sasuke: dude i didn't plan to live past like, max 17. i'm wingin' absolutely everything here.
  • naruto: dude
  • sasuke: why do you think all my decisions are so poorly thought out?
  • naruto: because you're stupid?
  • sasuke: shut the fuck up

I feel like I am the only Jonsa shipper that does not believe they are going to happen. 

I am sure not looking forward to the J*nerys shippers’ gloating though. 

                “My daughter is going through her Harry Styles phase, right? First, she insisted for tickets which I got it for her anyway. Second, his album has been on repeat every passing second since release. Third, is there anything else I should worry about? Any warnings about this Styles guy?” Cassandra questioned, arms firmly crossing over her chest before raising a brow at the other.

the only thing getting me through the rest of this month is that every day i’m another step closer to moving out and having a new beginning

anonymous asked:

hey! I've been questioning for a while and now i see theres a convo about it so i thought i'd ask but for me im not sure if im ace or if I've just learned to accept that im not really attractive enough for anyone to want me. & i don't mean that people are ace bc they aren't wanted or whatever at all but for me idk if i'm genuinely not attracted to people or if i've just learned to live with and accept that no one wants me and i've closed myself off from that part of my brain. any advice lol

I mean I feel you so hard. Sometimes I still poke at that corner of my brain and think ‘is it or isn’t it’?

Ok but hey let’s talk about it.

Let’s start with aesthetic attraction. Do you think someone is good-looking? That’s aesthetic. For allosexuals, this is usually intricately intertwined sexual attraction. They look at someone, think they look good, and think ‘wow I’d fuck that’. Straight women generally have a better understand the sexless version of aesthetic because society doesn’t look down on them if they see another woman and think ‘wow she’s pretty’ without wanting to have sex with her. Another way of thinking about this is looking at a painting. Does it look good? That’s aesthetic attraction. You don’t want to fuck the painting, I hope. 
Aesthetic attraction for allosexuals (and some asexuals) is also intertwined with romantic and sensual attraction. What are those, you ask? 

I’M GLAD YOU ASKED. 

Sensual attraction? Think about your favorite, fuzzy, blanket, and being cuddled up in it. Now think about hugs you give your friends. Do they feel like that fuzzy blanket? Yes? That’s sensual attraction. It’s a desire to have non-sexual touch with people. America in particular is pretty bad about that because we over-sexualize everything so it’s hard to pull apart sexual and sensual attraction. (And the word sensual just sounds sexual). Basically, it’s platonic puppy piles on the couch, watching a movie, making your soul feel happy.

Romantic attraction! This one is easier to explain. Do you want to date this person? It has nothing to do with sex. Do you want to go on moonlit walks with them? Make dinners with them? Grow old together? Get married? Go to prom? Get sappy on anniversaries? That is romantic attraction?

You can be asexual and experience any and all three of these attractions.

Sexual attraction is when you look at someone and think ‘wow, I want to fuck that’. 

Now if you’ve never looked at someone and truly felt that tug in your belly or gotten a hard on from looking at someone and thought ‘damn i wanna do the nasty with them’ then, yeah, you’re probably asexual. If you’ve looked at someone and only after many, many conversations and becoming friends did the sexual attraction creep up on you, then you’re probably demisexual.

I can’t obviously jump into your head and be like ‘mhm, mhm, ticked off all these boxes, this person is ace!’. Only you can decide that. It took a while for me to get there. A lot of reading. It’s okay.

PS all my stuff came from AVEN

my broke-ass, jobless, collegiate self: i want to visit scotland again

anonymous asked:

I'm not sure how to say something like this but I think there's only two genders, but if you wanna be non-binary, a gender, gender fluid I'm not gonna say it's wrong or stop you, like my opinion doesn't matter for anyone and they should do what they want and even though I think there's only two, I'd still support someone who's puzzled about having more than one gender, I know humans should be doing that anyway but I felt like saying this idk???

Look, pal. I hate to break this to you but if you’re going to a nonbinary blog and saying “i don’t believe that you are telling the truth about your lived experience” then that makes you a rude person. Nonbinary people exist and we are not making it up just like gay people aren’t pretending to be gay, or binary trans people aren’t pretending to be trans. 

Additionally, many ancient cultures condoned, encouraged, and even admired gender transcendence. Examples of this can be found in many cultures, both historically and fictionally. There are ancient Roman figures who transcend binary gender, namely Tiresias, Hermaphroditus, and Caeneus. Pre-colonial Native American tribes knew there were more than two genders and were known to highly respect people who neither men nor women. Ancient Mesoamerican deities do not ascribe to the concept of gender in the same way humans do, leading modern analysts to think that they would have supported and admired those who also did not ascribe to gender in a traditional way. Additionally, Jewish tradition says there are six genders. Nonbinary genders are as old as humanity itself. 

Sources: 

If you still think there is no such thing as nonbinary genders, then you should probably do some research. It’s out there. Don’t live in ignorance. 

I reiterate: going to a nonbinary blog to say “I feel like you are lying and nonbinary genders are fake” is a pretty rude thing to do. Find what makes you happy and do that. Get a life, seriously. 

this isn’t an oc… this is a -sona. so in other words it me

uhh i only like drawing it but so im not gonna dwell on it other than in design weh

I think if I had to do it long term, I’d probably die, but I’ve kind of liked having the house to myself this week. That, combined with half my office being out and not having anything work-related to do at work, left me with enough evening spoons that I didn’t have to order take out for dinner once this week AND I vacuumed the apartment this morning.

anonymous asked:

I love your writing and I'd love it if you wrote something with patater that's sweet and domestic but also a little sexy, too if you want. Idk I just love those two together and thinking about kent being a blushing Nerd when tater flirts with him or is sweet to him gives me palpitations.

Do you write Tater? I need some Tater love. Platonic, romantic, I’m not even picky about who, I just need to see Tater loving people

okay so this is more of snapshots of their lives but there is some definite domesticity in it :) :) :)

Five Names Kent “Parser” Parson and Alexei “Tater” Mashkov Call Each Other

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So, my old boss just asked me why I haven’t come back to work there yet, and… what’s the polite way to say “I don’t want to be a grown man working at McDonald’s for the rest of his life”? Because that.

anonymous asked:

i'd like to request a markgyeom fic where yugyeom confesses to mark, asking him to see him as a man rather than a dongsaeng. maybe mark was already aware of yugyeom's feelings, but felt that yugyeom is too young? yugyeom wants to show that he is mature/can take care of mark. ps. i'm so glad i found this blog!!

Warning: extreme amount of idk what is going on

Wordcount: 800

Author: Jin

omg this is— i cant im actually really pleased with this bc how i wrote this fic is literally how i live my life everyday- on crack whoohoo. sorry i didn’t take this prompt too seriously lmfao

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拾ってください! (Hirotte kudasai!)

Kzentertainment has announced another CD for their lineup!

Synopsis (Paraphrased):

Out of the blue, the person you dated in middle school, 愁 (Shuu), appears in front of your house one day, asking you to let him stay over at your place.

Given that something must happened to him, you decide to accommodate him. However, as you two spend time together, you come to realize that he has been lying about something, and has also been meeting with someone in secret.

“I’ll properly tell you the reason for what I’ve been doing later… so I want to touch you. I’ve held back all this time, you know…”

And the reason for why Shuu came to be “picked up by you” is…?

CV: 蒼井夕真 (Iguchi Yuuichi)

Release Date: March 25th, 2016.

anonymous asked:

So I feel like my motivation to be a doctor isn't 'enough'. I haven't "always wanted to be a doctor" or been "dreaming about it since I was a kid". I just decided, in my third year of college and realizing I didn't like the direction I was going, that hey.... Being a doctor IS what I want to do....I'd be good at it and I'd like it. But I kind of feel like i'm... Idk fake?? That my motivation isn't justified somehow idk

Hi there, anon!

Maybe you haven’t wanted to be a doctor since you were a fetus. You haven’t personally saved thousands of lives with some kind of dangerous and sexy volunteer work in between raising guide dog puppies and getting A++++s on every class you’ve ever taken. 

So what?

Do not judge your ambition by comparing it to those around you. Lord, I didn’t want to be a physician until junior/senior year of undergrad. Some people don’t realize until they’re in their 30s or 40s. Others have to delay their dream because of financial reasons, children, family tragedy. 

But that doesn’t make anyone’s aspiration less valid.

You want to do medicine? Do medicine! Your reasons are your own, and they are valid.

Boy Culture in Supernatural

So I want to talk about Sam and Dean in relation to something I call “boy culture,” and no I do not mean that movie from 2006. “Boy Culture” is a term I’m borrowing from this book, and I think it’s best exemplified in a number of movies, my favorites being Stand By Me and The Outsiders, as well as The Goonies, The Lost Boys,  The Sandlot, Dead Poet’s Society, and more recently, Super 8. The list goes on.

Boy culture is, essentially, a set of rules, values, and customs commonly used by groups of young boys - and for the sake of this particular discussion, American boys -  from childhood into young adulthood. At its core, it prizes four main values - courage, loyalty, mastery, and independence - that are also largely emphasized by the American standards of masculinity often set for adults. The difference here, the part that makes it ‘boy’ culture and not ‘man’ culture, is the focus on intimate same-sex friendships and a group mentality. Think spit handshakes and the alternate definitions of “blood brothers.” At a young age, boys are allowed a physical and emotional closeness that they aren’t allowed in later life. Interestingly enough, the process of growing out of boy culture generally happens as a boy’s desire for intimate relationships is transferred from the companionship of male friends to the companionship of a romantic partner.

So I think it’s very easy to see the way this applies to how the Winchester boys were raised, certainly. Loyalty to the family, mastery of hunting, courage to face monsters, the independence to care for themselves when necessary. The intimate bond between the two of them being of the utmost importance in their lives. All well and good, but here’s the thing: Sam grew out of it, Dean didn’t.

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  • 2012: OMFG ADAM IS SO HOTT!!! CHAPTER 26!!!!
  • 2013: Idk i'm like halfway between adam and warner. they're both so great!!
  • 2014: OMG I love Warner!! geez I used to like Adam how embarrassing
  • 2015: I WANT TO CRAWL UP WARNER'S ASS AND CREATE A SETTLEMENT AND EXIST WITHIN HIM I LOVE HIM SO FUCKING MUCH
  • 2016: tbh warner was really problematic though. he calls her a coward to her face and in the SAME BOOK turns around and says she’s magnificent and she can do anything and she’s the love of his life? i hate it i hate it it makes no sense there is so much incontinuity in Warner’s personality and half of it is toxic and the other half isn’t and it just frustrates me. i don’t agree with this mindset of “you want to be with me deep down, i know it” because it goes against every idea of female autonomy and Juliette’s character development that she would deal with this and accept it and even admit that he’s right, especially with all the shit he’s already put her through. juliette's feelings are valid and she shouldn't let some asshat with dimples convince her to love him just because she hasn't figured out how she wants to live her life now that she's in control

anonymous asked:

Honestly dan ending this live show just as the pizza phil ordered for them came... like if all of dan and Phil had ended for us in that moment, if tatinof had just ended and this was dans last live show.. idk it's just, that's how I'd want it to end. Dan saying goodbye to us and then going to eat pizza with Phil in their London apartment together

the very last lines in the Book Of Dan And Phil:

“Phil is that our pizza?”

“Yep.”

dwilkins2004  asked:

Hi! I wanted to ask you a question or two. I see we both live in Chicago. I was wondering how you meet people? I'm gay with all straight guy friends and it would be nice to have a friend that understands me or I could go out with. I've tried apps but that doesn't seem to work out for me and the gay bars I've been to are filled with skinny guys and I don't fit that category. I was hoping you could point me in the right direction. I'd love to start dating eventually but idk how to meet guys at all

Thank you for asking this question because I think it’s a very important one and I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately myself. I moved to Chicago a little over 2 years ago and I have to say I still feel like I don’t have many friends and it has only gotten harder since I quit drinking about 8 months ago. Unfortunately most (L)GBT safe places for gay men are gay bars. But let me share some of my thoughts and tips on this.

I want to start off by saying that you are not alone in feeling this way. I think there are plenty of gay men across the country that have this same feeling. Being gay is different from a lot of other minorities because typically it’s an experience you go through all on your own. There’s this tipping point after you come out where you realize, suddenly you are different from everyone around you, you no longer fit in like you used to. We are typically the only gay person at work, at school, in our circle of friends or in our families and this gets exhausting because we need to have people in our lives like us that we can talk to about our problems, people that can understand and identify with what we are going through. But in order to change this you have to be willing to commit and put yourself out there. You have to step way out side your comfort zone and own it. It’s hard, it takes  practice and you’ll always be nervous doing it, but eventually it gets easier and easier and you’ll be amazed at how much confidence you develop. OK but here goes with my suggestions

First tip - be open. If you are genuinely just looking for more gay friends, then be open to gay friends of all shapes, sizes, gender identities, orientations, races, religions etc. Remember that because most of the people in the bar might be skinner than you doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with them. I remember when I lived in Cincinnati, I had a few gay friends I went out with pretty regularly that were all thin twinks and I’m obviously not that, lol but they were FUN people. That’s why I liked them and that’s why we hung out. Because we always had fun with each other. This probably sounds obvious, but basically be open to who you might be friends with and pay attention to how you feel around the people you meet. Look for people you feel like you can be yourself with and have fun.

Second tip - Get involved. The best way to meet people is to get involved. Moving to a new city and making friends can be very challenging and we tend to think it’s hard if you’re gay, but it’s typically easier for gay people to make friends in the city than straight people. This is because we have such a specific target we are focusing on. Our group is so small that it’s actually easier to focus your efforts than it is for straight people and big cities like Chicago have plenty of opportunities for gay people. If you really want to make friends that are gay, you kind of have to devote your life to it. You can’t go out in Boystown once or twice and expect to make gay friends for life. My life in Chicago is so incredibly gay compared to what it was in Cincinnati, but that’s why I moved. I wanted my life to be that way in a sense and I devoted my energies toward that.

So how do you get involved? Going to gay bars is a start, but take it a step further. We have several gayborhoods in Chicago such as Boystown, Andersonville, Edgewater and even Rogers Park. These places are filled with restaurants, stores, coffee shops etc. that are owned, run, employed and supported by gay people. Just hanging out at these places you will meet other gay people. Chicago even has a gay beach! (Hollywood Beach) There are also many types of groups to join in Chicago. For example, I joined CMSA (Chicago Metropolitan Sports Association) the largest LGBT Sports Organization in the Midwest. They have all kinds of sports at all kinds of levels from beginner to competitive. Football, volleyball, frisbee, kickball, dodgeball and more! So far I’ve played basketball, frisbee and flag football through CMSA and that’s how I’ve met a lot of people. A lot of the teams in these leagues are sponsored by different bars/restaurants in Boystown and Andersonville, so it’s a great way to meet some of the owners and employees in the gay hangouts and you start to feel more comfortable going to these places because you know people. Here’s CMSA’s website for more information: http://chicagomsa.leagueapps.com

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ut if sports aren’t your thing that’s ok! Also check out the Center on Halsted. They have different programs like a Gay Men’s book club or the other thing is volunteer! The Center is always looking for volunteers. Or you can always join like a HIV Prevention non profit or get involved with LGBT politics. I personally have gone to the Center on Halsted a few times to get tested for HIV. It’s a great place to go! Here’s their website. http://www.centeronhalsted.org

The opportunities in the city are there, you just have to look and be willing to put yourself out there!

Third tip - Work/School. Not sure if you work or are in school, but this can also be a great place to meet gay people. Personally, I think it’s important to be out at school or work if you’re comfortable because if there are others, you are able rely on each other. You never know when something might happen between you and a coworker, or a boss,or a teacher or something and you might need that support. I think it’s important for people to feel like they can be themselves at work so I’ve always tried to establish a sense of community between gays at work or school. That way when you experience something homophobic at work you have people to turn to. I had a coworker call me a faggot at work in Cincinnati and I felt comfortable talking to management about it because I knew it was a safe environment and there were other gay staff members that supported me. If you know of other gay people at school or work and you know they are out, don’t hesitate to strike up a conversation with them, ask them for coffee or to grab a drink. Put yourself out there. 

Fourth tip - Remember Names. This is life advice right here. When you meet someone, say their name a million times. Remember it and next time you see them, no matter where you are, say Hi to them. Even if they don’t recognize you. Remind them where and how you met and always do so with a smile. I know this can be intimidating, scary and hard. But these little gestures make you tremendously more likable. People like to hear their name and when you remember them, they will start to remember you. Even if you don’t clique well with that person, still say hi and develop some sort of friendship type relationship because they will view you as polite, friendly and ultimately this person could introduce you to other people. Each relationship is an opportunity and maybe not with that person in particular but it could lead to more friendships with other people. It is all about networking. 

Fifth tip - Apps. Yes, gay apps, they DO work. I know they get a bad reputation but honestly, some of the best friendships I’ve made are with people I met on grindr, scruff, etc. If you are regularly fooling around with someone and they decide to stop for whatever reason, it doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends. Maybe you only fooled around once and the physical chemistry wasn’t there but they were still a nice person so maintain the friendship. I can honestly think of 2 extremely close friends I met on grindr and many more casual friendships I made through gay apps. I know there is also one guy I met through Grindr that I had an absolutely horrible sexual experience with and be both know it. I remember the first time I saw him a few days after, I smiled and said hi and he completely pretended to not see me. But even after that, every time I ran into him, I always made a point to smile and say hi. Sure enough, a week ago I was at a bar and he was there and he came up and gave me a hug and said hi. Sure, we are not bff’s, but it’s still a friendly face I know that makes me feel more welcome than being at a straight bar where I typically feel like a complete outcast. Just be careful, be open, be honest and be clear with your purpose with people you meet on there.

Sixth Tip - Join a gym. I know, it’s scary. But we all know that a lot of gay men are obsessed with their bodies. However, if you genuinely have any interest in fitness or being healthy I highly suggest joining gym. I joined a gym about 2 years ago, a solid 6 or 7 months after I moved to Chicago. I had never worked out before in my life. I had no idea what I was doing. I was terrified of all the hot muscle guys who clearly thought they were better than everyone. But my drive to change my body eventually was stronger than my fear of the gym. To be honest, I still get nervous and intimidated going to the gym, but the more you do it the easer it is and the more comfortable you feel there. It’s sort of like the first day of school verses your junior year. If you go at the same time regularly, you typically see the same people. If you feel confident, don’t hesitate to ask people for tips, a lot of guys are actually glad to help because who doesn’t like to talk about their success? Seriously, I know this is hard to believe and terrifying, but it truly is a decent way to meet gay men. A lot of the gay men you see at the gym, you will also see out at other gay hangouts and then you have an easy way in to start up a conversation. Bring up the fact that you recognize him from the gym. It’s as simple as that. 

Pro Tip - Fast forward several months. You’ve finally started to develop a clique of gay men you routinely hangout with. You’re feeling more confident, more social and like you got it under control. But one night you are at a bar and you notice a guy sitting at the bar by himself on his phone. Remember how alone you used to feel. Remember your lack of friends. Invite that guy by himself to join your group. As gay men we have a responsibility to support each other. As I’ve stated before, coming out is a lonely process for many. Many of us are rejected by our friends and family. So instead of being the catty bitch that judges people at the bar for being by themselves, or for what they’re wearing or who they’ve slept with or how big or small they are- Just flash a smile, introduce yourself and ask that person to join your group. We all just want to be accepted, remember that. 

One last thing! I’m currently reading a book called “How to win friends and influence people”. It’s a great read and gives tips on how to manage, maintain and improve relationships. It’s very introspective and educational. It was also one of the first self help books and is extremely well known. Check it out!

Best of luck, keep me posted, message me anytime and of course since you live in Chicago, if you ever want to grab coffee or you see me at some touristy shit like the bean don’t be afraid to say hi even if I don’t recognize you. ;)

anonymous asked:

Hi Amy, how 'bout some Sterek in high society setting? Like they're heirs to a lot of money and companies and their parents have had literally every second of their lives planed out since before they were born and they are constantly under so much pressure but like all they want is to just be together or something idk.. I'd just really like to see you write some high society sterek k love u bye

iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii would super love the kind of au like that where they both purposely fuck shit up because they get away with it, and do the whole ~let’s go get high on the roof of this expensive building and no one will call us on it and fuck around a LOT and then, idk, maybe the Hales lose their money and Derek totally crashes and burns, and Stiles totally surprises the crap out of him by helping him put the pieces back together and they learn how not to be dicks together. 

OR, like, ok, where they’re ALL super super rich heirs, or whatever, and Derek likes to surround himself with books and AVOIDING the public, whereas Scott and Stiles like to go out and have a good time, and Stiles finds all of Derek’s hide out spots at parties like he HAS A KNACK FOR IT, and Derek really hates how easily Stiles deals with the pressure of being in the spotlight, so there’s all this underlying tension, but Scott & Stiles are good boys and spend lots of time putting their money to good uses, actually getting in there with helping build free clinics or playgrounds or preserves, so Derek actually has NO IDEA what he’s talking about, but Stiles lets it roll off his back because he’s had a thing for Derek since he was fourteen and saw Derek help deliver a foal and when he looked up he was beaming and Stiles was like, oh OH, and he literally devotes a large portion of his time trying to make Derek smile like that again.

ORRRRRR where they’re both super rich, angsty, guilty heirs and spend their nights playing masked vigilantes that kind of hate each other both in the public spectrum and as their ~secret identities and there’s lots of masked sex before there’s real sex. mmmm arrow. mmmm stephen amnell.