idk i just have feels

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anonymous asked:

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years, and he won't have sex with me. He always says the timing isn't right or that he wants to wait until he has his own place, and I would NEVER pressure him into doing anything ever, and I understand his reasons, but... it still makes me feel kind of unwanted I guess? I know it's completely irrational and most likely untrue but I can't help it. :c I just feel like I'm the problem. Idk if you have any advice but I'm just venting !! Sorry :/

no, your concerns are valid. if he’s asexual, maybe, then he should probably confront you with that and just say he wants a relationship without sex? because at the end of the day, you’re also part of the relationship and you have a right to express what you want. Of course, you shouldn’t pressure him (as it seems you already don’t, so you’re fine) but if he at least says “hey, I don’t want a sexual relationship” then you have the option of being like… well, maybe this isn’t for me then (which doesn’t make you bad, because if sexual relations are part of what you want, there is nothing wrong with you looking for what you want).

son of man

underneath every personality trait ive stolen, under every faked opinion to get you to love me, im nothing

I just need to talk about happy Yuri(o) okay

Like, this boy is 15 years old and works so hard for his skating career, pushing his limits and trying to keep up with professional skaters who are much older than him. No wonder he’s so bitter all the time!

But when he’s with his grandpa he turns into a happy child (bless this angel) because that’s what he is. He’s just a 15 y/o old boy who loves pirozhki and skating (and his grandpa)!

Originally posted by plisetskey

I’m just so glad his grandpa makes him feel happy and loved because it seems like this boy didn’t get a lot of love and support from other people (where are your parents my child???) 

So in conclusion: Bless grandpa Plisetsky 

Here’s the thing.

I know Neil is not soft. Andrew is especially not soft. They’re both hardened boys that have been fucked over way too many times. There are scars upon rough and probably dry skin in some areas. Calloused fingers and glares that can make anyone cave. They’re far from being gentle because they know they can’t do as Renee does.

But I think they deserve to be able to be soft around each other. For the first time in their lives, they’ve found someone to feel safe around. I can’t pretend to understand what they’ve gone through, but after lives like the ones they lead, I like to think they’d want to be soft with each other. They’ve dealt with tough love and biting words too often that they probably, every once in a while, like to just calm down.

They’re not soft people, not by nature, but they can act soft around each other once in a while. Neil, softly curling their fingers together after a long day and smiling from his side of the bed. Andrew, threading his fingers through Neil’s hair as Neil watches a movie in his lap and Andrew watches him. Neil pressing a careful kiss to Andrew’s knuckles and Andrew pressing his nose to Neil’s neck in a gesture that’s completely trusting.

There’s a post about how Neil is not soft, and I agree. Neil is not soft, and neither is Andrew, but I think they can be allowed to act like it sometimes. Just every so often, and only with each other. For boys like them, being soft with each other might be one of the grandest gestures of trust they can give.

im pretty sure someone else has pointed this out already but it looks like lance is using pidge’s headphones (?) and pidge doesnt typically let the others touch her things so i like to think that she lent them to lance after he asked to borrow them so he could listen to the sound of waves or smthn that reminds him of home

I really do believe that at least part of the problem of people distrusting science has to do with how we as scientists portray ourselves.

We have actively created a system where we derive authority from being seen as better/smarter/more competent than everyone else and then when people ask why they should trust us we respond with a very condescending version of ‘because SCIENCE IS FACT’ or something along those lines.

Like, consider how that would feel from the outside? Here are a small group of people who you have never met/interacted with who sequester themselves in impenetrable ~elite institutions that you can’t access and don’t feel party to who then tell you that what they say is fact because they’re smarter and better educated than you. And if you ever try to question them (no matter how reasonable your objections may be/seem to you) they condescendingly pat you on the head and say something like ‘don’t worry we know better. you can’t possibly understand what we do.’

Why the hell would you trust them? 

No one likes being told that they’re not smart enough to understand something, and no one likes feeling excluded from something they’ve essentially been asked to accept sight unseen. 

I don’t really have a solution to this, except some vague notion about working harder to portray scientists as people working a job, rather than geniuses who are above it all. 

And like trying harder to understand where people are coming from when they question science. And remembering that being better educated than most doesn’t make us smarter than most. It just makes us better trained in certain types of thinking.

I just think we need to keep in mind what we are asking of people. Which is to put a whole hell of a lot of faith in us.

Sprain

Pairing: Kagehina 
Show: Haikyuu!! 
Summary:

Hinata hurts himself and Kageyama has some Feelings.


He’s never broken a bone before so he can’t be sure, but Hinata thinks that this is maybe what it would feel like.

It’s painful, sure, but it’s also kind of hot, and heavy, and just…big, too big for his skin, and it throbs along with the blood pumping in his ears and he thinks he might actually be dying, honestly.

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“I love Rouge she’s my fave”

“But her design is just awful, sexualization much?”

one of the reasons people with bpd handle people rejecting them/abandoning them so hard is bc we base our identities around these people we get attached to. how THEY feel about us is who we ARE, in our minds. if they love us, we base our identities around that and believe we are loveable. if they leave us or decide they don’t like us anymore, we believe we are unloveable because we have no concrete sense of who we are, apart from how other people feel about us.

Anyway, while I’m having overwhelming Bispearlnet feelings, might as well dump them here.

I love Bismuth! I love her thousand-year-old camaraderie with Garnet and Pearl! I love that she has that established, proud call-and-response with Pearl: “Who do you belong to?” “Nobody!”, that Pearl launches herself at her from across half the room, that the SU wiki has a very important entry for her and Pearl’s relationship that says that they “have bonded over their common disregard of the Gem caste system” - in which the two of them are right there at the bottom, and look at them go! How delighted she is to see Pearl demonstrate a cool new skill (lasers, man!). I love that they spend 95% of their shared screentime in entirely unnecessary physical contact, and that Bismuth tears up at the sight of Pearl crying because she “can’t take it”. How she apparently made like 50 different swords for Pearl and how Pearl treasures them and takes great care of them thousands of years later, long after Bismuth was presumed lost.

I love her carefree roughhousing with Garnet, the teasing and banter, the extent to which Garnet is relaxed and smiley around her because she doesn’t have to hold anything back (neither physically nor emotionally) or hide any part of herself. I love that way back in Giant Woman Garnet told Amethyst and Pearl they couldn’t come with her on a mission because only she could swim in lava, but guess who else takes hot lava dips? I bet nice lava baths were her and Bismuth’s #1 relaxing method, especially after extra gruelling battles, or before them - but after Garnet combed through vision after vision, a thousand Bad Ends, trying to ensure the best possible future outcome for all of them. (I get extra sad thinking about Garnet blaming herself after the Battle of the Ziggurat where Rose told them Bismuth was lost, kicking herself for not seeing this, for not managing to find a good enough future when it really counted.)

I love how all three of them reminisce about the war and the old days (both bad and good) and how they relentlessly support each other and build each other up (Bismuth is building what she wants to now, after all). The way they hold hands! Look at that! Tiny hands.

Anyway I want this

to un-happen with the intensity of a thousand suns and I am upset.

i feel like a lot of us rly Needed just hold on in our lives rn

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When your crush finds out about your embarrassing niche blog 

Based on this but like, with sansby lmao idek

the video title is ‘Glitter bomb! FTA’ because Sans and Frisk have a youtube channel called “For The Aesthetic” where Sans eats garbage by request. And then Frisk gets an ambulance.

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