hi i have an Emotional Intelligence question. so i have this Super Cute friend, and i know she's a) gay, b) cool w trans ppl, and c) looking for a datemate. HOWEVER, my social anxiety is making me Stress abt asking her out and idek how, since i have like. -15 relationship experience. and to complicate things, even if she were interested in me, im p sure she wouldn't ask me out first bc of her own brainshit. help. also sorry if u don't do these anymore i just thought of u, feel free to not answer
Hello! I do try to answer all the questions I receive although sometimes I might not, usually because I don’t have a good answer or sometimes just because too much time goes by. Let me give this one a shot!
I might suggest the “test the waters” approach here. Sort of ease yourself into it. If you’re both a bit hesitant about these things, which it sounds like you are, then sending up a test balloon might be a good idea.
Ask her on a non-date date. Suggest going for coffee, or to a movie, or on a walk or something you know you both enjoy. Watch her response and body language. If she is enthusiastic about accepting, that’s a good sign. Then you could try a follow-up like “This could be a friend thing, or it could be a date thing. I’d be happy with either one. What do you think?” That gives you both an out.