Luke and Rory show emotion through actions and Lorelai and Jess show emotion through words
And they both use it to push people away - Lorelai uses her quick rapport to deflect her pain and Jess moves the subject to books or music or desperately asks Rory to run away when he feels thwarted. Rory and Luke don’t readily talk about their uncertainties and show their love more through actions, such as when Luke built the icerink and when Rory went to New York. When they’re hurt, they clam up. Rory throws herself into work and Luke leaves town for a few days. Rory more extremely leaves Yale altogether when she is overwhelmed and it is only Jess, talking to her directly, who can bring her home.
Lorelai and Jess clashed early on, but there are scenes which show their similarity and the possibility of friendship. In Lost and Found, Lorelai gives Jess Chinese food and they enjoy some smalltalk, which is unfortunately cut short. In One’s Got Class and the Other Dyes, Lorelai and Jess share a joke at Luke’s expense, showing the kind of banter they could have if they became friends. Luke and Rory, who are more quiet by nature, often share knowing looks and remarks about Lorelai’s quirks. On her sixteenth birthday, Luke bakes Rory a cake and blows up balloons and for her twenty-first, he gives her his mother’s pearls. Rory introduces him as her stepfather-to-be and the smile on Luke’s face is clear. When Rory and Jess crash Rory’s car, she goes to Luke. She tells him that it wasn’t Jess’s fault and Luke simply says ‘I know it wasn’t’. He makes her food and they sit in an understanding silence.
One of the reasons Rory and Jess and Luke and Lorelai work as couples is that they recognise these things. While they had problems communicating as teenagers, Jess is able to get through to Rory when they are adults, as he can see what she is trying to do. While Rory couldn’t solve Jess’s problems as a teenager, she could see that his smart talk and sarcasm was a wall and that he was vulnerable. Luke and Lorelai always let each other in when they can’t with others, even Rory - season 6 aside - and it’s Luke’s love for Rory which makes Lorelai know she wants to marry him. While their respective differences can hinder their relationships, for Luke and Lorelai and Rory and Jess, all four of them understand it in each other and continue to learn.
Yuzuru’s new interview on “Hana wa Saku” [”flowers will bloom”], aired on NHK this morning in Japan (28 June).
(Narration: Our next interviewee is Mr. Yuzuru Hanyu, the gold
medalist of the Sochi Olympics, who comes from Sendai City. It’s been
just a year since he skated to the song to support reconstruction “Hana
wa saku” [for the first time in June 2014]. He talked about the
thoughts he put into his skating to that song. His victory at the Sochi
Olympics conferred huge encouragement to the affected areas as well as
to the entire nation. But, he said that his thoughts were complicated.)
Yuzuru: At that time when I received the Olympics gold medal, I wondered what on earth I was able to offer.
(Narration: Wondering what he could offer, Mr.Hanyu performed a story
of hope for reconstruction, through the song “Hana wa saku.” He first
performed “Hana wa saku” at the Icerink Sendai where he was training
since his childhood. He was there at the time of the [3.11] earthquake.)
Yuzuru: I myself was hit by the earthquake. While the
building didn’t collapse, I witnessed big cracks and the rink in pitch
dark. That’s why I was able to put my special emotion [into the
programme] when the rink was light up, remembering that I had been hit
by the earthquake and had scary experience. As the song gradually went
to the climax, the scene [i.e. the rink] also became clearer. I was
skating to the song, feeling that I am so blessed to be able to skate
and that the reconstruction of many facilities progressed this much
thanks to so many people’s efforts.
To be sure, I would like
to convey a message to those affected populations. But, at the same
time, by expressing my own experience, I would be happy if audience can
feel something in their heart, by watching me as I am.
(Narration: Lastly, he gave a message to those affected populations.)
Yuzuru: [Yuzuru wrote ARIGATOU (thank you) on the board.] One of the
meanings is that I thank all the cheering and support for my skating.
It also refers to the thank-you messages that I have always received
from my fans. As those two “thank you” messages overlap, it would be
great if fans and I can be united into one and achieve something
together. In addition, I am sure fans will continue supporting me, so
“thank you” to such continuous support from now on, too.