Imam Zaid Shakir and Auntie Saliha Shakir are celebrating their 39th anniversary. In a time where many marriages are falling apart, I asked him how do you keep the love. Here are his gems of wisdom ♥:
1. Be friends before being spouses.
2. Schedule time to do things together and doggedly adhere to your schedule. The world will snatch away all of your time and you will inevitably grow apart.
3. Don’t take each other too seriously. You will erode the ground of pleasantries.
4. Remember marriage is ‘Ibada and like Ramadan it can be difficult and needs patience and prioritizing Allah.
Subhanallah. May Allah continue to bless Imam Zaid and Auntie Saliha with many more years, ameen. May he bless all our marriages, ameen.
It was once said to ‘Abdullah b. Al-Mubârak, “After you have prayed with us you don’t sit with us?” He replied, “I go and sit with the Sahâbah and the Tâbi’în.” We said, “And how can you sit with the Sahâbah and Tâbi’în (when they have all passed away)?” He replied, “I go and read the knowledge I have collected, I find their narrations and deeds. What would I do with you? You sit around backbiting people.”
Al-Dhahabî, Siyar A’lâm Al-Nubalâ` in his biography of ‘Abdullah b. Al-Mubârak.
Allah ﷻ says in the Holy Qurʾān, “We have not created the Jinn or Mankind except to worship Me,” (51:56), meaning “We have created them with no other purpose other than to know Me!”
Ibn ʿAbbās, may Allah ﷻ be pleased with him and his father, said that “to worship Me” means “to know Me”, because the actions of someone who does not know Allah ﷻ cannot rightfully be called ’worship’ [ʿibāda]. A person who does not know Allah ﷻ cannot rightfully be called a human being! “They are like cattle, or even more astray,“ (25:44).
- Shaykh al-IslāmIbrāhīm bin ʿAbd-Allah Niāsse al-Tijānī, may Allah ﷻ be pleased with him
Some statements of the Salaf regarding their Salaat:
For forty years, the Adhan was never called but for Sa`id bin al-Musayyab radhiallahu `anhu being in the Masjid before it was called. [Tabaqat al Hanabilah 1/141, Hilyat al Awliya 2/163, Sifat as Safwah 2/80]
After ar-Rabi` bin Khaytham became partially paralysed, he used to go to the Masjid helped by two men. He was told: “O Abu Yazid! You have been given permission to pray at home.” He said, “You have said the truth, but I heard the caller hearld, ‘Hayya `ala al-Falah (Come to success)’, and I thought that whoever hears this call should answer it even by crawling.” [Hilyat al Awliya 2/113]
Adi bin Hatim, radhiallahu `anhu, said: “Every time the prayer time falls, it falls while I am eager for it and ready to perform it (i.e. having wudu).” [Az Zuhd by Imaam Ahmad, p. 249]
Abu Bakr bin Abdullah al Muzani said: “Who is like you, O son of Adam? Whenever you wish, you use water to make Ablution, go to the place fo worship and thus enter the presence of your Lord (i.e. start praying) without a translator or a barrier between you and Him!” [Al Bidayah wa an Nihayah 9/256]
Abu Rajaa al `Ataridi, “Nothing that I leave behind grieves me, except that I used to bow down on my face five times a day before my Lord, the Exalted and Most Honoured.” [Hilyat al Awliya 2/306]
Yazid bin Abdullah was asked, “Should we make a roof for our Masjid?” He said, “Purify your hearts and your Masjid will be sufficient for you.” [Hilyat al Awliya 2/312]
Adi bin Hatim, radhiallahu `anhu said, “Ever since I became Muslim, I always made sure to have Wudu when the Adhan is called.” [As Siyar 3/160]
Ubayd bin Ja`far said, “I never saw my uncle Bishr bin Masnur miss the first takbeer, and whenever any person stood up in our Masjid to ask people for help, my uncle gave him something.” [Sifat as Safwah 3/376]
Ibn Sama`ah said, “For forty years, I only missed Takbeer Tahrimah when my mother died.” [As Siyar 10/646]
“If you know of a man’s disinterest in Takbeer Tahrimah, then wash your hands of him.” [As Siyar 5/65, Sifat as Safwah 3/88]
Sufyan bin `Uyaynah, “Honouring the prayer includes coming before the Iqamah is recited.” [Sifat as Safwah 2/235]
Maymun bin Mahran came to the Masjid late and when he was told that the peple had already finished the prayer, he said, “We all belong to Allaah and to Him shall be our return! I prefer the congregational prayer to being the governor of Iraq.” [Mukashafat al Qulub p 364]
Yunus bin Abdullah said, “What is the matter with me? When I lose a chicken I feel concerned, but when I miss the prayer in congregation, it does not grieve me.” [Hilyat al Awliya, 3/19]
Hammad bin Salamah said, “I have never stood up for prayer without imagining that Jahannam is before my eyes.” [Tadhkirat al Huffadh 1/219]
Mu`adh bin Jabal advised his son, “My son! Pray the prayer of he who is just about to leave and imagine that you might not be able to pray ever again. Know that the believer dies between two good deeds, one that he performed and one that he intended to perform later on.” [Sifat as Safwah 1/496]
Bakr al Muzani said, “If you want your prayer to be of benefit to you, say to yourself, ‘I might not have a chance to perform another prayer.’” [Jami` al `Ulum wal Hikam, p 466.]
Shubrumah said, “We accompanied Karz al Harithi on a journey. Whenever he wanted to set camp in an area, he used to scan it with his eyes and when he found a good piece of land that he liked, he would go to it and pray there until it was time to leave.” [Sifat as Safwah 3/120]
Al Qasim bin Muhammad said, “Whenever I went out in the morning, I used to visit `Aishah radhiallahu `anha (his aunt and the wife of the Prophet, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) and greet her. One day I found her performing Ad Duha prayer, reciting this Ayah repeatedly, crying and invoking Allaah: ‘So Allaah has been gracious to us, and has saved us from the torment of the Fire.’ (52:27) I stood there until I felt bored, so I left and went to the market to do something and said to myself that when I finish what I have to do, I will go back (to `Aishah radhiallahu `anha). When I finished and went back to her, I found her still standing in prayer, reciting the same Ayah, crying and invoking Allaah.’” [Al Ihya 4/436]
Maymun bin Hayyan said, “I never saw Muslim bin Yasar turning his head while praying, whether the prayer was short or long. Once, a part of the mosque came down and the noise caused fear to the people who were in the market, while he was in the Masjid, did not fear nor even turn his head and kept praying.” [Az Zuhd by Imam Ahmad p 359]
“I accompanied `Ata bin Rabah for eighteen years. When he became old and weak, he used to stand in prayer and read close to two hundred Ayat from Surat al Baqarah while standing in such firmness that no part of him would move.” [As Siyar 5/87, Sifat as Safwah 2/213]
Abu Bakr bin Aiyash said, “If you saw Habib bin Abu Thabit while in Sujud, you would think that he had died because of his long prostration.” [As Siyar 5/291]
Ali bin Al Fudayl said, “I saw ath-Thawree went into Sujud while praying, and I performed Tawaf around the House seven times before he raised his head from Sujud.” [As Siyar 7/277]
Uthman bin Abi Dahrash said, “I never performed a prayer without invoking Allaah afterwards to forgive me for falling into shortcomings in the way I performed it.“ [Tarikhu Baghdad 13/207]
Mu`awiyah bin Murrah, “I lived during the time of seventy of the Companions of Muhammad, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, and had they lived among you today, they would not recognise any of your acts except the Adhan!” [Hilyat al Awliya 2/299]
When Hatim al Asamm was asked about his prayer, he said, “When it is near the time of prayer, I perform a perfect Wudu and go to where I am going to pray and sit down there until I become fully attentive to what I am about to do. I then stand up and pray, imagining that the Ka`bah is in front of my eyes, Paradise to my right, Hellfire to my left and the Angel of Death behind me. I imagine that it is the last prayer I am about to perform, stand up in hope (in Allaah, His Paradise and rewards) and fear (from Allaah’s torment in Hellfire) and recite the Takbir while having full attention. I recite the Qur’aan calmly, make Ruku` humbly, go into Sujud with Khushu and then sit on my left leg, with the left food laid on the floor and the right food raised up, all the while praying with sincerity. Afterwards, I do not know (nor feel certain) if that prayer was accepted from me!“ [Al Ihya 1/179]
Islam mengajarkan 2 hal penting, sehingga penganutnya disebut muslim. Pertama disiplin (semua ibada dalam islam memiliki waktu & aturan yang ketat) kedua bersih (setiap ibadah dalam islam harus dilalui dengan bersuci).
Menjadi muslim adalah disiplin dan bersih. Kalau hal sederhana ini aja belum bisa, apa pantes teriak2.