i... dont know what i can do

anonymous asked:

I understand you don't like William because of several things he did, but other characters like Isak (in season 1), Emma (outing isak) or Sonja (even if she apologised) did also very despicable things, and still you like them. So what's the difference?

The biggest reason is that everyone acknowledges that these characters did mistakes. The fans own up to it and the characters owned up to it (Emma should have apologised tho).
People dont romantise what these characters did like people do William. the characters themselves know they did wrong and most of them both apologised and developed from it. William didn’t change. Many of his stans don’t realise how he’s problematic at all. And also I can 100% understand why these characters did what they did, BUT i can still say that it wasn’t okay. I can understand why Isak screwed over Eva. I can understand why Emma didn’t see how outing Isak was terribly wrong. And I can DEFINITELY see why Sonja acted like she did because I know what it’s like being a human with emotions and feelings. I don’t condone their actions and I definitely don’t approve of them, but I understand them. Williams actions however? To me there were no reason for him to act like that, nothing to excuse it at all. He didn’t show any regret or development.

anonymous asked:

So... my ex boyfriend is seeing someone new now and it just breaks my heart so much. He's doing all the cute nice things for her that he never did for me... and I'm like do I not deserve that was I not good enough for him.. I deleted all the social media apps so i can stop lurking on their accounts.. yeals how dumb am I. I've never loved someone that much even though his love for me wasn't the same... idk what to do

Sometimes we can’t help how much we love someone .. and that’s not our faults. That’s just something you have to be patient with. This won’t be the last time loving someone.
As for feeling not good enough to be treated like someone else.. DONT. You never know what a relationship is like unless you are directly involved. You may see happy pics but that’s all we post as humans. The good times.
Hearing that he’s treating someone else good means you had a good affect on him and you will with another soul that will appreciate and return the favor. You’re worthy

Opinions, please?

I just wrote a Sorting Hat song for a new fic I’m starting, and… Oh man! It wasn’t easy, hahaha. Is this horrible?


There was a tense moment of silence. Then the seam along the brim of the hat opened like a mouth…and it began to sing.

I know I’m not that handsome,

But don’t be fooled by my appearance,

If you want to know where you belong,

I’m the cap to give you clearance.

There’s not a single thought that I can’t read,

Nor a trait that I can’t see,

So try me on, don’t be afraid,

And I’ll sort you easily.

Perhaps you’ll be in Gryffindor,

Where the bold and brave all dwell,

Those with daring and chivalry

In Gryffindor do well.

Or perhaps you’re meant for Hufflepuff,

Where dwell the loyal and the true.

For those who are hard-working,

Hufflepuff shall be for you.

Though Ravenclaw may be your home,

If you’ve a sharp and ready mind,

Those Ravenclaws are perceptive folk,

There’s not an answer they can’t find.

Or maybe Slytherin will be where

You find that you fit in,

Those of clever, cunning, and quickest wit,

Will do best in Slytherin.

So don’t be afraid to put me on!

There’s worse things to fear than that!

I am the best (though I’ve no competition),

The one, the only—Sorting Hat!

anonymous asked:

hey yo. im a brand new bi (like a year now but i still feel small and new) and im dating for the first time, and im in college. and it's a guy but i keep catching myself being upset that im not gay enough and that i was a gf. there's nothing wrong with him he's really sweet and kind and i like him too but i just can't stop thinking about having a gf. and today i saw a really pretty girl and he was like, "i know you want to be with a girl someday." and i felt really bad ?? i dont know what to do?

Hi Anon,

Welcome to the bi community!! We’re delighted to have you with us. A lot of your fellow bisexuals- myself included- have been in your place. Bisexuals get a lot of flack for “not being gay enough”. This is biphobia, straight and simple. If you identify as bisexual, that is enough. That is plenty. No one else knows your inner self like you do, and no one else gets to dictate if you’re “enough” based on some arbitrary subjective measure of queerness.  

What does this mean in terms of dating? It is one thing if you want to date girls because you want to explore that part of yourself. That’s awesome. It’s another if you feel obligated to date girls. If you feel the latter is truer than the former, here is what I have to say: 

1. You do not need to prove your bisexuality. Anyone who looks at your dating history to determine if you’re “bi enough” is a biphobic asshole. A person’s dating history does not automatically reflect their patterns of attraction or their overall identity. It’s ridiculous to expect bisexuals to date an equal number of women to men (not to mention all the other dateable genders out there). It’s okay to have never had a girlfriend or even to never have one. Your bisexuality is defined by your feelings, your self-identification, not your actions or the gender of the people you happen to meet/date. 

2. You do not need to like all genders equally. Bisexuality is a spectrum (or a circle, or a squiggle)! Maybe you find yourself naturally attracted to men more; maybe you’re feeling the effects of compulsory heterosexuality (aka, society expects you to like men so you try to/notice your attraction to men more than other genders). Maybe in the future when you’ve started dating girls, you’ll find yourself mainly attracted to women. Or maybe your attractions will bounce back and forth on a weekly, or daily, or hourly basis. As long as you feel any amount of attraction to multiple genders, to a level that feels significant to you, you are bisexual. 

3. Bisexuals, especially baby bis, can deal with a lot of internalized as well as externalized biphobia. This is not your fault. It comes from being raised in a society where biphobic messages are shared and maintained in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. Part of the experience of identifying as bi is recognizing those damaging messages you’ve heard that previously you hadn’t noticed or had taken for immediate truth. It doesn’t make you a horrible person or an inherent biphobe to have believed them. Be gentle with yourself as you unpack your beliefs regarding bisexuality, biphobia, etc.

You say you felt bad after your boyfriend acknowledged that you would like to be with a girl someday. I think it’s important to figure out why. Do you feel worried that your boyfriend thinks you don’t care about him, because you want to date girls in the future? If that’s the case, it might be beneficial to have a very open conversation with him. Assure him of your feelings for him. Ask him if he is upset by the idea of you liking anyone else. Ask him up front if he is intimidated or upset by you liking girls specifically (Tip: do not stay with someone who cannot handle your bisexuality!!! You deserve better). Talk about what this means for your relationship, together. You don’t have to go at this alone.

But maybe your feeling bad doesn’t have to do with your boyfriend at all. Do you feel bad because you feel guilty about wanting girls in the first place? That would go back to point #3 about unpacking internalized biphobia, which you can do from reading about biphobia (online/books/movies/etc), talking to other bisexuals, or just spending quality time enjoying being bi. 

Perhaps you could discuss having an open relationship with your boyfriend, so that you can try out dating other genders right away. You can set boundaries if it helps- for example, “We can make out with other people at parties, but we need to talk if serious feelings develop” or “We can date other people, but have to keep each other updated on who” or something else entirely. 

Keep in mind also that there doesn’t need to be something wrong with someone for you not to want to date them. It wouldn’t be fair to either of you to date him when your heart just isn’t in it and you can only think of dating other people. Maybe you need to take a break from dating him to see if he’s right for you or if you’d rather be single at the moment to better explore your options. 

Have you been to any queer centers/lounges/clubs on campus? It might help just to talk about dating other genders with other queer people who get it.

You have done nothing wrong here, and you don’t have anything to feel bad about. But it’s okay if you do, and a lot of bisexuals go through it. You’ve got a lot of exciting new things going on, and I wish you all the best in your journey!


anonymous asked:

So I need some advice. Please dont judge me. I classify myself as gay, I've known since I was little. I've never done anything with a guy and I never will. My gf has been hinting to me that she wants to transition, and become a guy. I love her and want her to be happy with herself but I dont think I could be comfortable with that after 4 years of us together. I feel so guilty and gross😣😣

this is a touchy subject and probably something I may not have much say in at all and I don’t know exactly what I would do if it were me. this is something I believe is out of your control. regardless, you should let them know that you will continue to support them through their decision to transition and all that follows, even if that means as a friend or from afar (if you decide you can no longer continue the relationship). if you’ve been with them for 4 years, I doubt that just because they talk of transitioning, your love for them will just go away, nor do I think your connection with them will just vanish. however, it’s better to express your concerns earlier rather than later. if you have any doubt in your head that you don’t think you can do it, you probably won’t be able to. it would be unfair for you to stick around through part of or most of their transition and then decide they’re not what you want. I don’t think you should feel guilty or gross, sometimes life doesn’t work out the way we want it to or think it might. it’s important that you communicate with each other and you’re honest. it would be one thing to say you couldn’t do it because they’re trans, but if you have absolutely no attraction to men then this is something you cannot control, and a trans man is no less of a man than a man who isn’t trans.

ren201  asked:

So heres the definition of demisexual so you can see if it fits you, demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual.

Oh, thats helpful and I could be that. But if I fall in love I dont want it to have a lable other than love. Do you know what I mean?

lulloph  asked:

hey im trying to get into witchy things and such. i already have a bunch of crystals and i diffuse sage in my room to start, but how else can i immerse more into it? how'd you get into it/what would u recommend? thank youu

Research. Aaaaaall the research. I know (if you’ve looked at many witch blogs anyway) that you’ll see “you don’t a fancy notebook, just a cheap one will do” and that’s honestly so true. I dont have a cool notebook, though I’d love a moleskine, mine is a nü that cost me £2 from B&M.

After that I’d say write down the correspondences of the crystals you’ve got and the herbs you already use first and foremost, just so it slows immerses you more. You don’t want to go full in all at once, but just take your time and dedicate your research to one subject at a time. Some subjects I’d recommend are crystals and herbs, and their correspondences (as previously stated) divination of some kind (check my side blog @grimoirethis and search divination. I’ve got a post that has several more common types) colour correspondences, moon cycles, their meanings, and what sort of things ars better to do on the different lunar phases and if you worship or even deities

Hope this helps!

anonymous asked:

(sorry for my english, i'm not a native english speaker ;;) i'm new to the utaite fandom and i really like mafumafu and soraru, but i'm kinda lost and worried about this suzumu stuff can you explain to me what happened??? also, i dont fully understand what happened in their pasts, i only know that pretty bad stuff happened with mafumafu, can u please tell me everything that happened? sorry to bother you...

Hello anon! First of all, welcome to the fandom, and sorry if one of your early experiences is learning about this whole subject ;; You probably know that Suzumu was a very popular Vocaloid producer and personal friend of Soraru’s, Mafu’s, and many others? In October of 2015 he suddenly announced with no warning that he’d be retiring and would no longer be doing any work under the name Suzumu. The reason he gave was that up until now he’d been claiming credit for works that weren’t fully his. It was rumored for a while that Mafu was one of the people who’d had a song stolen from him, but they never said anything specific on the subject until about 2 weeks ago when they did a Twitcast together. They spoke directly about it, saying it was finally time that they felt like they’d be ok to openly talk about it now that so much time has passed. 

Here’s a post I made with a summary of that subject from their Twitcast
After that, a few days later Soraru started a livestream and talked about it in a lot more detail. Here were my livetweets as I listened to that stream. 
Mafu’s had a lot of bad experiences in his past but he rarely is specific with them. We know he’s had a song stolen that got really popular under someone else’s name (Suzumu), we know he’s had experiences with stalkers making him feel unsafe, and here’s a translation of another incident he vaguely wrote about in 2016.  There really aren’t a lot of specific details for any of those events, though. He doesn’t like to do more than just bring up that they happened in his past. So I can’t really offer any more descriptions about what happened to him because he hasn’t shared them, and it’s possible he never will! That would be understandable and it’s all up to him~

Reading the asks I’ve answered here on Tumblr over the last week or so might help explain more stuff too? I hope this was helpful, and sorry again to bombard you with sad stuff while you’re new to the fandom ;; (btw your English is great, no worries!) 


tagged by @forevertaeyeontrash xx

1: Do you have a good relationship with your parents? you can say 

2: Who did you last say “I love you” to? prolly az 

3: Do you regret anything? yehhh but i learnt from it sooo ((its also a waste thinking about it so no lol))

4: Are you insecure? pfft

5: What is your relationship status? wow i dont even know uhhh lone 

6: How do you want to die? the kind where i didnt knew i died,,stupid right 

7: What did you last eat? choc cake for breakfast cause im feeling melancholy loool

8: Played any sports? gaming is a sport so ps4 my dudettes. 

9: Do you bite your nails? used to when i was a kid 

10: When was your last physical fight? never been in a physical fight before and i would never

11: Do you like someone? i like top i like yoona 

12: Have you ever stayed up 48 hours? i like sleeping 

13: Do you hate anyone at the moment? i dont

14: Do you miss someone? az??? and my sister just in case she sees this loool

15: Have any pets? a fish back in 2015 and it died on the day i bought it…the shopkeeper said it would last long if i keep it in distilled water fish tank???

16: How exactly are you feeling at the moment? lower than neutral whats that called

17: Ever made out in the bathroom? nops

18: Are you scared of spiders? no but i would not wanna see any

19: Would you go back in time if you were given the chance? yes why not

20: Where was the last place you snogged someone? nowhere

21: What are your plans for this weekend? my asian ass said studying

22: Do you want to have kids? kids huh

23: Do you have piercings? used to

24: What is/are/were your best subject(s)? biology and accounting 

25: Do you miss anyone from your past? i dont

26: What are you craving right now? any good food basically 

27: Have you ever broken someone’s heart? demm i dont know???

28: Have you ever been cheated on? demmm i dont know 

29: Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry? no

30: Whats irritating you right now? i have to shower and get ready for my last driving class….yes this simple thing would irritate me 

31: Does somebody love you? no i dont exist

32: What is your favourite color? sapphire blue, maroon and white

33: Do you have trust issues? i think i do i think i dont 

34: Who/what was your last dream about? it was all black looool idk i dont remember 

35: Who was the last person you cried in front of? my laptop is a living thing too

36: Do you give out second chances too easily? no my dudess

37: Is it easier to forgive or forget? easy for me to forgive than to forget

38: Is this year the best year of your life? so far it is not :)) 

39: How old were you when you had your first kiss? im 18 and never had my first kiss ((haram lmaooo))

40: Have you ever walked outside completely naked? no no no

51: Favourite food? got no favs

52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason? kinda yea

53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night? turned off the lights and slowly drifts asleep lol

54: Is cheating ever okay? never ever do this evil thing to anyone

55: Are you mean? i am nice :)))

56: How many people have you fist fought? like zero

57: Do you believe in true love? i dont know whats that 

58: Favourite weather? the cold weatherrr uhh winter 

59: Do you like the snow? yehh

60: Do you wanna get married? umm yes

61: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby? baby

62: What makes you happy? i dont even know anymore prolly the beach idk??

63: Would you change your name? i guess so

64: Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed? i just dieded 

65: Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do? you got the wrong numba

66: Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around? yisss

67: Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to? my brother 

68: Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with? mi potato

69: Do you believe in soulmates? cute but whats that

70: Is there anyone you would die for? yessss a lot 

and now i’ll tag @bigbangismydrug @cocosprings @doomdadah @fantastic-t-o-p @daesungismyeverything and whoever idk


Part 4 of Yuri on Ice but with bad CG voices and poor writing (with the additional benefit of mediocre editing)

Part 3: Pip Pip Yurio // Part 4: Eye of the Tiger // Part 5: Where I Take This Seriously?

Season 2 was meant to be a stepping stone.

Look, I’m not gonna act like there weren’t problems. There was too much going on in the small timespace they had to really flesh out everything they wanted to, and the season really suffered for that. At face value, this season was weak and, for most people, failed to meet the expectations left over from the amazing production of Season 1. 

But it wasn’t meant to meet those expectations in the first place. 

As some people have pointed out, Season 1 was meant to take place over the course of a longer time period than Season 2. Season 1 was introductory, it was meant to set up the characters, the premise, and the villains. And it delivered. The story took place over the course of 1-2 months, and the worldbuilding was kept to a minimum in order to place a focus on the characters.

Season 2? This was meant to expand the universe. It was meant to explore different species and planets, as well as give us insight to rebel groups formed from Galra and connect them to those key aspects of our main characters. They also tried to carry this out over what can amount to no more than 2 weeks within the universe.

How are you supposed to meet those expectations when premise of these seasons aren’t meant to be similar in any remote aspect? What relationships between characters are supposed to develop within two weeks? Season 2 wasn’t supposed to flesh out every character and work through their relationships with the rest of the team. They didn’t have the time.

Instead, Season 2 took a different route.

It laid the building blocks for the seasons to follow, and made sure to connect them properly. It’s primary focus was to introduce new worlds and emphasize Shiro’s connection to the black lion, and it made sure to focus on that because he would be gone by the end of the season. It set up Keith to take Shiro’s place if anything were to happen to him, but it made sure to emphasize Keith’s connection with the Red Lion as well, in order to make the audience wonder whether or not a switch would actually take place.

The Keith & Allura development was weak here because it was only meant to serve as the starting point for what is meant to be an important arc between the two of them (Shiro was the closest with both of them, after all). The season left hints to Lance’s insecurities because they’re meant to be explored more in correlation to Shiro having wanted Keith to lead Voltron, and Keith potentially wanting to pass that torch to Allura instead. And, although it was very subtle, there was some implications that if they had actually been successful in their battle with Zarkon, Hunk may not know whether or not he wanted to remain on Earth after he returned. 

I have my problems with this season, too. There was much that could have been taken out or rearranged in a way that would have been much more satisfying, and frankly, may have served as better foundation for the next season. But that isn’t my point. My point is that despite the flaws and misdirection at times, this season laid the foundation for what’s to come, and plans to connect everything. 

We just have to be willing to give it the time this season lacked.


So, explain this to me. Why is he so un-athletic in 12x04 and very much athletic in 12x12?

What changed? Is it the pants? Is it the fact that he is running to save Cas? Is it the adrenaline rush? I need answers dammit!


bizarre nightmares

Has anyone seen Our Family Wedding

Well, if you haven’t, it’s a super fun film that tackles the social issue of accepting interracial relationships. The movie is hilarious, sweet, and just plain awesome so I highly recommend it! 

Aaaaaand yes, I have to annoy you guys with another AU. XD 

  • Me: *finds a song I've never herd and enjoys it*
  • Brain: hey you know what you should do?
  • Brain: listen to it over and over until you can't stand it
  • Me:
  • Me: okay