anonymous asked:

I have 4c hair as well and was wondering how you got it to grow out while relaxed. Did you just keep it in protective styles for a bit?

I do protective styles (like basic cornrows) frequently and not relaxing it as much as I used to has helped it grow thicker and “faster” since it doesn’t break off as easily. I think the best advice for natural or even relaxed 4c hair is “leaving your hair alone” (protective styles) if you want it to grow out well.  

And this is a post I made about hair care/growing it out a while ago:

I don’t remember when I started growing it out exactly, but the last time I cut a large portion of my hair off was sometime around 8th grade cause it got damaged from hair dye (which im never going to put on my hair again, I just wear extensions if I want my hair to be a different color), so probably since 2008. I remember it being an inch or two below my chin. Now it’s just a few inches below my shoulder when it’s completely straightened.

My hair grows slow, but I realized it grows much faster if I relax it less often and wear more protective styles. I used to relax it once every 2 months, now I relax it once every 4 months and I’ve noticed it getting thicker.

Since my hair is naturally (really) dry I shampoo it 1-2 times a week cause if I do that more often it breaks off. I hardly use heat on it either; if I were to dry it with heat or use a straightener every time after I wash it then it breaks off easily too. I try to restrict the use of heat if I can.

I use a protein rich deep conditioning treatment - once every three weeks cause all that relaxing, heat, shampooing, brushing/combing breaks down the protein in the hair which goes on to cause breakage.

And I always use 3 parts Jamaican black castor oil to 1 part coconut oil on my hair every day. Sometimes I’ll just use Argan or Coconut oil alone. That keeps it from getting too dry.

Monday 8:27am
I woke up with you on my mind.
You called me babe last night —
my heart is still pounding.

Tuesday 10:53pm
Today I realized we won’t work.
What we are is hurting her.
And I think she matters more to me than you do.

Wednesday 11:52pm
I broke things off with you today.
She barely said a word.
I’ve never regretted anything more than this.

Thursday 4:03pm
I shouldn’t have sent that message.
You shouldn’t have been so okay with receiving it.

Friday 9:57pm
I almost messaged you today.
I didn’t.

Saturday 8:49pm
I’m walking around town in search of alcohol.
They say that liquor numbs the pain of having a broken heart.
I want to put that to the test.

Sunday 2:32am
I heard you texted a girl you’ve never spoken to before.
I wonder if it’s because you’re trying to replace me.
I can’t help but wish you weren’t.
I thought I was irreplaceable.

—  a week with you on my mind, c.j.n.
Move on, leave, run away, escape this place… but don’t forget about me, about us, about this town. Always remember where you come from so you can appreciate how far you’ve come.
—  c.j.n.