I want to see more fat witches on mood boards. I want them in every color. Show me the witches, because searching “fat witch” “plus size witch” “body positive witch” yields too little. I know you’re here.
Today is Black Women’s Equal Pay Day. This day shines a light on the long-neglected fact that the gender pay gap hits women of color the hardest. Black women are 37 cents behind men in the pay gap—in other words, for every dollar a man makes, black women make 63 cents.
I’d like to acknowledge the many realities black women face every day. To recognize that women of color have to work—on average—eight months longer to earn the same as their male counterparts do in one year. To bring attention to the fact that black women earn 17% less than their white female counterparts and that black women are paid 63% of the dollar men are paid. Even black women who have earned graduate degrees get paid less at every level. This is as true in inner cities as it is in Silicon Valley.
Together, we will change the story—but we are going to have to fight for every penny.
Growing up, I was told I couldn’t accomplish my dreams because I was a woman and, more so, because of the color of my skin. In every stage of my life, I’ve had to learn to stand up for myself and speak out. I have been treated unfairly, I’ve been disrespected by my male colleagues and—in the most painful times—I’ve been the subject of racist remarks on and off the tennis court. Luckily, I am blessed with an inner drive and a support system of family and friends that encourage me to move forward. But these injustices still hurt.
I am in the rare position to be financially successful beyond my imagination. I had talent, I worked like crazy and I was lucky enough to break through. But today isn’t about me. It’s about the other 24 million black women in America. If I never picked up a tennis racket, I would be one of them; that is never lost on me.
The cycles of poverty, discrimination, and sexism are much, much harder to break than the record for Grand Slam titles. For every black woman that rises through the ranks to a position of power, there are too many others who are still struggling. Most black women across our country do not have the same support that I did, and so they often don’t speak out about what is just, fair and appropriate in the workplace. When they do, they are often punished for it.
Unfair pay has prevailed for far too long with no consequence. Through decades of systematic oppression, black women have been conditioned to think they are less than. In many cases, these women are the heads of households. Single mothers. The issue isn’t just that black women hold lower-paying jobs. They earn less even in fields of technology, finance, entertainment, law, and medicine.
Changing the status quo will take dedicated action, legislation, employer recognition, and courage for employees to demand more. In short, it’s going to take all of us. Men, women, of all colors, races and creeds to realize this is an injustice. And an injustice to one is an injustice to all.
The first step in making a change is recognition. We need to push this issue to the front of conversations so that employers across the U.S. can truly understand that all male and female employees must be compensated equally. Not close. Not almost the same. Equally.
Recently, I have joined SurveyMonkey’s board of directors, with this specific initiative in mind. SurveyMonkey wants to make information accessible so that all of us can make informed decisions. As they say: knowledge is power. As a black female entrepreneur and person in the spotlight, I am trying to figure out how I can move the needle forward and open doors for everyone, no matter the color of their skin. But I want to start with the wage gap.
In celebration of Equal Pay Day for Black Women, I partnered with SurveyMonkey to find out Americans’ opinions on the pay gap. The response was powerful. Here are the key findings:
Sixty-nine percent of black women perceive a pay gap, while just 44% of white men recognize the issue.
Nearly two-thirds of black women say that major obstacles remain for women in the workplace.
In addition to gender, black women see obstacles to racial equality: three-quarters of black women workers say there are still significant hurdles holding back minorities.
Still, some black women remain optimistic: more than 43% of black millennial women believe men and women have equal opportunities for promotion.
While a majority of those surveyed believe that the pay gap is real for both women and minorities, not everyone understands that black workers—specifically women—see more obstacles to racial equality and barriers in the workplace. Data doesn’t lie. It just gives a number to the gap women feel every day. It is my hope that I can give a voice to those who aren’t heard in Silicon Valley, and the workforce as a whole.
I want to bring my perspective and experiences as an athlete, an entrepreneur and a black woman to the boardroom and help create a more inclusive environment in this white, male-dominated industry. And I want every woman of color to do the same. Every step forward you take is two steps of progress for womankind. Let today serve as a reminder that we have a voice. We deserve equal pay for our mothers, our wives, our daughters, our nieces, friends, and colleagues—but mostly, for ourselves.
Black women: Be fearless. Speak out for equal pay. Every time you do, you’re making it a little easier for a woman behind you. Most of all, know that you’re worth it. It can take a long time to realize that. It took me a long time to realize it. But we are all worth it. I’ve long said, “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.”
It’s 3 a.m. and I’m thinking about the mountains again.
Waking up to a sky big enough to hold all the things I wanted to give you
every color alive
It’s 4:30 a.m. and I’m thinking about cabins and smoke and gray mornings
your arms around me, a blue plaid shirt, breath and coffee steam curling
The sun is coming up and I’m thinking about stones and crumbling and big echo silence
A pick up truck that won’t start, the smell of gasoline
rain on a window, long winding road, nowhere to go
rain in our hair, on your face.
I’m thinking about the mountains, about the way they hold their secrets
the way I could dig my fingers into their sides and feel a century crumble
the way nothing really gives
until it’s gone.
It’s 6 a.m.
in the city
I feel your ghost beside me in bed
waiting to ask me which trail to haunt next
like we weren’t always wanderers
like we weren’t always lost.
The last picture from a trip we never took, Elizabeth McNamara
The before, during, and afters from my client today! She had blue splat (yuck!) on her hair beforehand, and after hearing horror stories I decided to do a Pre Art treatment before lightening, and then it turned a bunch of pastel colors (totally weird). With nothing more than hearing the words, “I want every single color in my hair,” I used the colors I had that would blend together and created what she said she’s always dreamed of having! I love the career path I’m headed down! :)
Do you think mtg in general and Edh are still in good health?
I do my best not to talk about other formats so I’m gonna dodge that first question. As for the health of Commander, I think that it’s doing well in the sense that the majority of players aren’t complaining loudly about any one card and the format is still very popular. That being said, I don’t really agree with the Rules Committee’s “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” mentality and I think more can be done to make the format better.
Specifically, I believe that there are 10 cards that, if added to the banlist, would both improve the diversity of cards and strategies in the format and have a large impact on the color imbalance we currently see in Commander. Here’s a brief explanation of why I think each card deserves to go.
It produces more mana in the early game than any other card, which means it makes broken things happen much faster. True, it’s not a problem if you’re playing Ishkanah tribal spiders or some other casual build, but if you’re actually trying to win, this provides a huge advantage and can tilt the game in your favor all by itself.
It’s also worth noting that the most powerful colors in Commander (Blue, Green, and Black) are better at taking advantage of Mana Crypt and Sol Ring because they can tutor it out more frequently (Blue and Black) and/or capitalize on the early mana by chaining it into other mana accelerants (Green).
So basically, the unfair decks get a bigger advantage from this card (and Sol Ring) than anyone else, as do the decks in the best colors, which widens the color imbalance in Commander. Additional reasons: it’s better than cards on the banlist (the Moxes) and it’s relatively expensive ($70 for the cheapest version).
As long as you have this and some tutors in your deck, you basically don’t have to run any win conditions and can devote the rest of your card slots to efficient utility creatures. Although Green has access to many Overrun effects, Craterhoof is unique because it’s easily tutored up and it’s much, much more powerful than similar Overruncreatures. The most broken thing about it is how little set up it requires; it can turn a completely unthreatening board (mana dorks, tokens, used-up ETB creatures) into a lethal force instantaneously.
Every time you cast Tooth and Nail, you have to make a decision: do I want to win with this card or do I want to waste time? Every color combination has some way to win instantly with Tooth and Nail with little or no setup, so unless you’re willing to neuter your deck or play poorly, this will always be a one-card combo. It’s also much easier to use than Protean Hulk, making it better than a card on the banlist.
Unlike most of the other bogeymen commanders, Narset is immune to spot removal and she’ll probably win the game the first time she attacks (Arcum and Zur need to survive at least a few turns before they’ve locked you out).
Its cards-drawn-to-mana-spent ratio beats any other legal card by a mile. As long as it survives, you will have seven cards in hand, forever. If that weren’t enough, it also negates the drawbacks of spot removal because “card parity” doesn’t mean shit when you can draw as many cards as you want.
It generates more mana in the mid- to late-game than any other legal card and unlike like most other big mana makers (Cabal Coffers, Caged Sun, etc), it doesn’t require a heavy commitment to one color; all you have to do is run creatures in your deck and you’ll have access to absurd amounts of mana. Also, thanks to the Magic speculation community, this card is currently over $200, and because it’s on the reserved list, it’ll only go up from there!
I think this card suffers from the same problem as Primeval Titan, namely, it warps every game into a fight to see who can clone it, kill it, or reanimate it the fastest. If you believe the justification that the RC gave for Prime Time’s banning, then they should ban this card to be consistent.
This card makes it trivially easy to assemble combos, albeit creature-based ones. Also, while I think making it easy to win is the bigger sin, I also believe that Commander’s variance is its strength, and this card does a bang-up job of undercutting it by offering a million tutors, allowing you to follow the same lines of play in every game you draw it.
This card would probably be the easiest one to ban because there are no fair uses for it; it’s either played in a highly-tuned low-CMC deck to draw a million cards or it’s ignored completely. Banning it would stop heinous things from happening without affecting any players with fair decks.
So, like, WOW. This bag has been kind of my masterpiece. I spent an entire month working on this bag. Every aspect of it is hand stitched, with the exception of the assembling stitched, that I used the machine for. But all the emblems and the bias-tape covering the seams were by hand. I had originally just wanted to do something with the legends symbols, thought about maybe doing individual bags; I had never expected it’d end up such an elaborate project (I ended up making like three extra trips to the craft store for embroidery threads cuz I kept running out and I wanted every ones colors really specific). But I’m immensely proud of this project, and it’s actually gonna hurt a little to be giving it up, but I kinda really need the money and every artist has to let go of a few of their favorite pieces now and then. And I know whoever ends up buying it, it’ll be going to a good home with a fellow fan. (Just as a funny point of reference, I spent more time on this bag than I do on the average Doctor Who scarf XD which is 12 ft of knitting)
The outer bag is made of canvas fabric, the lining is kind of a mystery fabric, I’ve had it for a while but I don’t actually know what kind it is, my best guess is it’s a kind of upholstery fabric. The bag measures 11 ½”x 14” and the straps are 25” long.
I used to wish that I could share every last piece of myself with him.
I wanted to show him every color I’d ever seen, make him feel every thing I’d ever felt:
To go all the way down, all the way back.
Now I’m thankful for the stars in my sky that he never saw.
I find peace in the places of my mind that he couldn’t reach:
All the way down, all the way back.
When I was young, I didn’t know what I was. I knew I liked girls, but I also knew I liked boys. When the term bisexuality came to me, it came with some pretty faulty meanings: slut; someone that wants to have sex with everyone, all the time. That…that wasn’t me. If only there were bisexual people in the media, people like me. And what is available now in the media? It just doesn’t cut it because we are more than “the slut” or the depraved villain or the tragic queer lying dead in the street.
I want bis in long term committed relationships, bis finding love, single bis that aren’t even looking.
I want cis bis, but also trans bis, non-binary bis.
I want bis who are asexual or aromantic along with our allosexual bis.
I want bis that are very monogamous and polybis for whom it is clear that their bisexuality and their polysexuality are to separate traits that they happen to have both of.
I want bis of all faiths. Bis with a cross, bis in a hibjab, athiest bis. I want bis struggling to reconcile their faith and sexuality and bis that see absolutely nothing to be reconciled.
I want bis that lean toward this gender or that. I want bis that thought they were gay or straight until they meant that one person and realized they were bi. I want bis with no particular preference whatsoever.
I want bis of every color on the earth and if the show is sci fi or fantasy, of every race or species. I want Vulcan bis, I want dwarven bis and I want bis learning how to use the force.
I want bisexual rom coms and I want adventure stories where their sexuality isn’t the focus at all.
I want bis dealing with biphobia and bis that are totally accepted.
I ask nothing of this love, only that it continue.
I could never curve my letters
tight enough to hold your
name & though I want you
in every color & light, I am
forever inadequate; there are
many kinds of pain and I
ached them all with you, but
you loved me so much