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Dear social justice bloggers:

Always remember that the people that harass you and make racist, misogynistic, ableist, transphobic, etc., comments on your posts are NOT the ones you’re trying to reach. Those are anti-SJ trolls and they have already made up their minds and will not listen to reason. 

It’s the people out there who are on the fence, who are still inquiring minds, the ones who most often don’t even leave a “note”, THEY are the people you’re trying to reach. In fact, any anti-SJ backlash you face is almost always a sign that you’ve hit a prejudiced nerve and are doing something right. 

So please do not lose hope. Keep on fighting for social justice no matter how many trolls surface from the nasty depths of the interwebz to try to stomp you out of existence. Bc the more they whine & moan, the more you can be sure that you are disrupting the white male supremacist (etc) status quo and promoting positive social change.

Personally, I plan to continue advocating for social justice for as long as I am able. I hope that you will all join me in solidarity!!!

finance.yahoo.com
Social Media Responds to Trump's Claim That Female Staff Should ‘Dress Like Women’
In response to a report that President Donald Trump likes his female employees to “dress like women,” the Internet is responding in kind by showing the politician just what women actually do wear to work.

Taking to social media, users shared that Trump’s perception of workwear — the dresses-and-skirts only policy that female Trump employees told veteran political reporter Mike Allen that they felt pressured to wear while working for Trump on the campaign trail — is far from the reality.

The collective social media clapback has reached a fever pitch with the hashtag #DressLikeAWoman to provide some visual aids to the new president as to what this term really means to so many women.

[Also trending: #DressLikeAWomen] 


I don’t need feminism, but women in the middle east do.

Women in the west complain about men spreading their legs to protect their testicles. 

Women in the middle east aren’t allowed to complain about having their genitals mutilated, being whipped and even stoned to death and just being though of as property in general.

"Not all men" vs. "Not all feminists"

A typical antifeminist/MRA/anti-SJ tactic is to suggest that feminists are being hypocritical when they say that men’s use of “not all men” is bullshit because we use the excuse “not all feminists” fairly often. Their mistake is that they think that because these two statements SOUND THE SAME, that they have THE SAME MEANING. But this is a false equivalence and I’m gonna tell you why. So strap in friends, it’s gonna be a bumpy ride ;)

The “not all men” excuse refers to RAPE and other aggressions and violence INDIVIDUAL men commit against women. When you say “not all men” you are saying, “yes some men are bad and may be dangerous, but some of us are good!” IOW, “Because I think I’m a ‘good man’, other men’s violence doesn’t exist and you shouldn’t bring it up anymore!”. Men who use this argument are trying to silence women and deny their experiences of violence and abuse at the hands of other men. This is a derailment tactic that serves no useful purpose but to reassert patriarchy and rape culture.

When we say “not all feminists are like …..” we are saying that you cannot define an ENTIRE MOVEMENT by the actions of an individual. FeminiSM is a # of THEORIES, PHILOSOPHIES, AND BODIES OF RESEARCH that advocates for equality and inclusiveness. Unlike a theory, which is developed over time through research, activism, and public/political/academic discourse, FeminisTS are PEOPLE with flaws and who cannot be asked to embody all that is feminism. Any logical person can see that this comparison is apples and oranges.

In fact, nearly every time a man has come at me with “yes, but not all men” has been when I was talking about my OWN experiences with men’s violence and abuse. And this is not just happening to me. Its prevalent use among men in this type of situation is the very reason there is such a strong push back by the feminist community. 

This is why when feminists talk about their individual experiences and a man chimes in with “not all men” it is absolutely a derailment tactic because it’s not even RELEVANT. Nobody even said “all men”!? We KNOW that not all men do this (e.g., rape, violence, make sexist/racist jokes) and that they are all individuals with autonomy and who make their own choices. In FACT, I will even ADMIT that there are a FEW moments when saying “not all men” can be appropriate. But that is only when a person has clearly blamed all men for something. And then, after briefly clarifying that not all men do this (or better yet, waiting until AFTER the story), you return BACK to the woman’s story and demonstrate human compassion and empathy. If you are just drawing conclusions about a woman’s meanings however, it’s better to skip this self-absorbed comment and start listening and caring again like a decent human being.

So, when feminists say “not all feminists” all that we are doing is trying to demonstrate to YOU that feminism is a very diverse movement and just because you met a few “nasty”, “b*tchy”, or even violent feminists, it doesn’t mean that FEMINISM itself is to blame and/or that it hasn’t/isn’t doing great things for humanity. What it DOES mean is that feminists too are individual people with their own unique lives and interpretations of feminism. Just like men!

THIS means that YOU, as an individual, are responsible for doing your research about feminism before you decide how you feel about it. You cannot judge feminism based on individual feminists or the cultural construction of feminism that paints it as no-longer necessary and as shrouded in ‘evil’ misandry (psssst, that’s something else!). 

Instead, you can kindly and privately call attention to this problem, as MANY of us feminists have done and continue to do, and suggest to these misguided feminists that they too take a break from their harmful “activism” and do more research and critical thinking about feminism and intersectionality. THAT would be a much more helpful and healthy approach than demonizing feminism and all feminists just because of a few “bad”/misguided apples.

In case anyone is wondering why we still need International Women’s Day in 2017, I just sat through a conversation between two teenage boys, where “you’re such a girl” was used as an insult no less than 3 times.

Until femininity is no longer considered degrading, feminism is not only good but NECESSARY and instrumental to the wellbeing of society. (Edit because terfs are reblogging this - trans women are women and need to be included in feminism!!)

//terfs do not reblog - y'all are gross//

Things People Say About Women’s Hockey vs. What They Really Mean

What they say: It’s boring.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women’s hockey players just aren’t as skilled.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: There’s no money in it.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s just not as interesting or exciting as men’s hockey.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: There’s not hitting so it’s not real hockey.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s not as fast as men’s hockey.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women aren’t as strong as men, that’s just biology.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: There’s no body checking so it’s boring.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women’s hockey players aren’t as skilled as male players.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: I just don’t care about the women’s game.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: No one even watches it.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s not fun.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women belong in the kitchen.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: If they were any good they’d be as popular as the NHL.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Even women don’t care about it.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s boring because only Canada  and USA have good teams.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Ten year old boys could beat a women’s team.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: The players aren’t attractive with all that padding.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women’s hockey is a boutique sport.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s not on TV so it’s too hard to watch.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: The men are better anyway so why watch women’s hockey?

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women are just biologically not meant to play sports.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: They all leave the sport to have babies.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: If the players were any good, they would make it in the NHL

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s not developed enough.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women are too small to play hockey.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: I don’t know any of the players so it isn’t interesting.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Their hair is distracting.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: There’s no fighting; that’s so boring. 

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: No one likes women’s sports.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: Women can’t shoot hard enough.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.


What they say: It’s a man’s game.

What they really mean: I’m sexist.

I think it’s so funny how society is quick to brand those problematic lily white women (Taylor swift, Lena Dunham, Amy schumer, Jennifer Lawrence, etc) as feminist examples, but Beyoncé who has been singing feminist songs since destiny child and has always stood up for women had to write Feminist in bold on a mainstream scene but still people questioned whether or not she was a feminist

Originally posted by feminismwecandoit

WHY DO GYNECOLOGISTS KEEP ASKING ME WHICH BIRTH CONTROL PILL I WANT TO BE ON YOU’RE THE FUCKING DOCTOR DON’T READ ME A LIST AND TELL ME TO PICK ONE DON’T ASK ME WHAT MY FRIENDS ARE ON WHAT THE FUCKITY FUCK THIS KEEPS HAPPENING YOU ARE A DOCTOR IF ALL BC PILLS DO THE SAME THING JUST CLOSE YOUR EYES AND POINT AND DON’T TELL ME YOU DID THAT

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My friend (marked in blue) posted her frustrations with being  called “girl” despite  being almost 30 years old, and how you wouldn’t call a man “boy”.
She expressed her anger towards being infantized…(which is so NOT a contoversial thing to say…It should literally go without saying WHY it’s not cool to talk to an adult like they are a child)….

….and two male family members just HAD to pounce in to mock her ….

One (marked in black)  being outright asshole-ish, the other (marked in red) kinda…goaded it on, like whooooaaaah LOL gonna make her so mad, LOLOL

I am just…so fucking tired of this…

So tired…

And my female friend just lost a father like 3 weeks ago, still mourning…and these male family members (who know she is mourning) treat her like shit…What the fuck? Can’t sexism and patriarchal bullshit EVER just take a break?

I am so tired of it….

But even after all this, showing this example of blatant sexism….I STILL have to reassure men that I don’t hate all of them…

So tired….

I think it’s hilarious when antifeminists/MRAs/anti-SJs complain that online SJ agents are “just doing it for the followers/notes/RTs”. As if, as an online activist, you wouldn’t benefit from more followers since the more followers you have the wider the reach of your social justice message. As if that isn’t the EXACT PURPOSE of being online in the first place. NEVER let antifeminists tell you that your online activism isn’t effective. The reality is that it IS effective and the only reason antifeminists/MRAs/anti-SJs spend SO much of their time hounding us online is because THEY FUCKING KNOW IT!!!!!