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Please, please, please, don’t let cultural Christianity be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let Christians who act hateful and bitter be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let Christians who act superior be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let Christians who always seem fed up with everyone and everything be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let your Christian friends who love you - but dang sometimes they shouldn’t have said that one thing - be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let me - I mean, I try but I’m a mess of issues and sometimes I get tired and act like an ungrateful pile of snark - be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let humans - who sometimes do a pretty darn good job of showing who God is but are inevitably going to mess up at some point and let you down - be your indication of who God is.

Don’t let anybody but Jesus Christ be your indication of who God is. 

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So, Jeremy, Mr. “True love is the love of Christ” mansplainer is implying that his favorite thing about his holiest of holy wedding ceremonies is the pleasures of the flesh? 

Well that’s not making me question how genuine all his Christ-y stuff is at all.

Edit: of course Christians can enjoy sex, you morons.  The point is that Jeremy, for all his “THIS DAY IS ABOUT CHRIST” bullshit, was apparently mostly thinking about getting laid.  Sorry; if your favorite part of a religious ceremony is macking on your new wife, i don’t buy that you really felt that the day was all about Jesus’s true love or whatever the fuck.  (And I will never whine about fundies being prudes, because I think their whole shoving their sex lives in peoples’ faces like they’re something to brag about is immature and annoying.  And further evidence that they wouldn’t get married so young and so fast if it weren’t the only way they could get laid.)

And I’m still 100% confident that within five years Jeremy will have cheated on Jinger because she wasn’t giving him the worshipful attention he felt was his due.  And since I totally called Josh cheating on Anna years before it happened, well…we’ll see I guess.  Jeremy strikes me as a huge sleaze who’s totally full of himself with a massive superiority complex.  That’s a dangerous combo.

anonymous asked:

What about LGBT+ Christians?

See ya thats the issue I have. I think if you identify as LGBT+ but call yourself a christian, you are identifying with your sin, rather than placing your identity in Christ. I totally believe Christians can struggle with LGBT+ feelings/tendencies but I think when you make it your identity, instead of Christ, it’s wrong. Does that make sense? it gets so complicated and I do not feel like it is my place to judge one’s standing with God at all. However, I think the bible is clear that it is sin and like all sins, we need to be making a constant effort towards turning away from that and turning towards Christ. Do I think it’s an oxymoron? I’m not sure. Do I think that there are saved, born-again Christians who struggle with those types of feelings and tendencies? Absolutely. I’m not here to assume where others stand with God, I’m called to love and share truth as best as I understand it. Hope that helps.

My child I can feel you drifting from me. I want you to know that even though you are drifting, I am still here. I still love you, I still care deeply about you and your soul. As tears fill my eyes watching you choose worldly things over my guidance I still am choosing to draw your thoughts back to me. I want you to come back to me. Drop whatever is hindering your growth and run. I know it feels like you can’t, it feels like a loss in this world or you aren’t strong enough. That is okay, because my strength is made perfect in weakness for you. That is why I am here for you my love, to fill you with my strength and defend you. To show you that this world has nothing promising to offer you. It is never a loss when you lose something of this world for My sake. I promise I will never fail you even when you fail me. My grace still stands and my love still surrounds your aching soul. Please don’t treat yourself like this you are more than your sins and shame. That is why I died, for those very reasons. To strip away the guilt, the shame and the death. Come back to me my child. I’m waiting patiently but eagerly for your heart. I love you.
—  God
If Christianity is true, this changes EVERYTHING. Christ’s very last words to us in scripture were: “Behold, I make all things new.” (Rev. 21:5) I hope you remember that most moving line in the most moving movie ever made, The Passion Of The Christ, when Christ turns to His mother on the way to Calvary, explaining the need for the Cross and the blood and the agony: “See, Mother, I make all things new.” I hope you remember that line with your tear ducts, which connect to the heart, as well as with your ears, which connect to the brain. Christ changed every human being he ever met. In fact, He changed history, splitting it open like a coconut and inserting eternity into the split between B.C. and A.D. If anyone claims to have met Him without being changed, he has not met Him at all. When you touch Him, you touch lightning.
—  Peter Kreeft

2 Peter 3:18: “But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
God wants us to be spiritually mature and in order for that to happen we need spiritual milk-the word of God: "Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation.” 1 Peter 2:2 Even Paul, as mature as he was, did not consider himself to have achieved perfection such that he could cease striving to improve. He said, forgetting what is behind I press on toward the goal. Like how children do not grow up to be adults overnight, spiritual growth takes time. Don’t get discouraged. As you exercise your faith, and feed on God’s word and fellowship with God’s people and commune with God, slowly but surely, you will attain maturity.

Text Posts for Christian Life

A collection of text posts that I wrote to help my brothers and sisters in Christ on their journey of faith.This collection will be updated.


1. Dear Brother/Sister in Christ

This one is about unequally yoked relationships and why they should be avoided.

2. Love, Forgiveness, and Apologizing

This is a post about showing love through forgiveness and what a real apology looks like.

3. “No, What’s Your Personal Opinion?”

To the sibling in Christ who is being mocked for being faithful to Christian morality, this one is for you.

4. Seven Thoughts After a Few Months of Wearing a Purity Ring

These were my thoughts after wearing a purity ring in a secular environment.

5. Done with Dating: Why I’m Choosing Christian Courtship

I have left secular dating culture and this is the story behind that.

6. “What Is That Ring on Your Left Hand? Are You Married?”

This one is for Christians who are thinking about wearing purity rings.

7. My Testimony

It took a while, but I finally shared the story of my faith journey.

8. “Satan Knows Your Name But He Calls You By Your Sin. God Knows Your Sin But He Calls You By Your Name.”

This one is for Christians with same-sex attraction who feel pressure from society to join the pro-homosexual marriage movement. 

9. “The Importance of Modesty”

Unconditional love does not mean unconditional approval. This response to an ask explains why Christians must dress in a way that honors God. 

fluffytales  asked:

How do we know when we are saved? I'm so afraid that maybe im not because when I was baptised I wasn't as Christian as I am now and after then I sinned for a very long time. Just now do I feel I have a relationship with God. Does that mean that I'm not saved? Do I need to be baptised again? I feel like if I died today God might not know me and that terrifies me. I want to give him my life. I want to be saved. Please help.

Hi friend,

I pray this article on the subject helps ease your mind and heart. Here’s an excerpt: 

“God wants us to have assurance of our salvation. We should not live our Christian lives wondering and worrying each day whether or not we are truly saved. That is why the Bible makes the plan of salvation so clear. Believe in Jesus Christ (John 3:16; Acts 16:31). “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9). Have you repented? Do you believe that Jesus died to pay the penalty for your sins and rose again from the dead (Romans 5:8; 2 Corinthians 5:21)? Do you trust Him alone for salvation? If your answer to these questions is “yes,” you are saved! Assurance means freedom from doubt. By taking God’s Word to heart, you can have no doubt about the reality of your eternal salvation.”

As for whether or not you need to be baptised again, that’s completely up to you. Baptism is not necessary for salvation. 

I’m so proud of you for wanting to give your life to Him. This is a huge step and is amazing. Sending prayers up for you. <3

All my love,

S. 

Since the beginning of time There has been more deaths in the name of Jehovah A.k.a. God The Christian God then world war 1 & 2 and all The civil wars put together and to top it all off he killed his own son Jesus Christ.
That sure is some awesome God that you Christians are worshipping😒 don’t forget that if you do not accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour and ask him for forgiveness for all your sins his piece of shit father Jehovah a.k.a. God is going to send you to hell forever and ever😡 The hell that your God created for you. not Satan
Father Satan is not in hell Father Satan is the one that created the true heaven I sure am very thankful that I am a Satanist😈
The only time that you ever hear anything bad about Satan is when you go to church to get more brainwashed
Christianity is very hypocritical
Open your eyes people. Jehovah a.k.a. God is going to destroy you because we are all sinners and most likely most of you have not asked for forgiveness in anyway shape or form so you are going to the Christian hell to be tortured forever and ever buy your forever loving God
Unless you see the truth about your God and you side with Satan who is the one and only true God and the only god that can protect you
Now let me tell you a little bit about The Almighty father Satan😈
Satan is all about pure freedom happiness self preservation and power
Satan wants you to live your life to the fullest by allowing you to be absolutely free to Live Your life as you choose but just remember they’re still is good and bad in satanism and we do have very good morals
You don’t ever hear about our Satanic preachers diddling the altar boys like the Christian preachers have been doing for thousands of years
If I satanic preacher has a sex addiction instead of taking it out on innocent children they would go get a job in the porn industry because porn is sinful and singing is winning for us Satanists and we want nothing to do with your piece of shit God and his worthless son Jesus Christ
HAIL FATHER SATAN 666 forever free from Christianity😈

Litany before Christ’s Tomb
Your tomb is a tabernacle; make my life a vigil of adoration. Lord, be our life!
Bless the expectation of hope with which I approach your tomb. Lord, be our life!
May the wonder of your tomb let me see beyond the limits I impose on my life. Lord, be our life!
I consign to your tomb all my powerlessness and whatever makes me want to give up. Lord, be our life!
May the power of your unseen presence free me from all the absence that saddens my life. Lord, be our life!
At your tomb make of my life a new beginning. Lord, be our life!
When disappointment and despair keep me from confronting your tomb. Lord, be our life!
Help me to face whatever in me needs to die. Lord, be our life!
May the sign of hope of your tomb accompany me in all life’s difficulties. Lord, be our life!
By drawing close to you in death may I know your intimacy in my life. Lord, be our life!
I leave at your tomb all my discouragement, my despondency, and defeat. Lord, be our life!
At your tomb put asunder all my false hopes, negativity, and pessimism. Lord, be our life!
United with you in your tomb liberate me from me all self-reliance and self-assertion. Lord, be our life!
Let me see every mark of death in my life as the occasion for the Father to manifest his life-giving power. Lord, be our life!
May your tomb convert me from the temptation to build monuments to self-importance and self-glory. Lord, be our life!
May your tomb free me from whatever keeps me closed in on myself. Lord, be our life!
There is nothing closed that you cannot open; help me look beyond the impossible. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of resistance and rebellion in my life. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of anger and resentment. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of my indifference and lethargy. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of bitterness and regret. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of individualism and alienation. Lord, be our life!
Roll away the stone of skepticism that makes me doubtful of your promises. Lord, be our life!
May my generosity and mercy match the wideness of your open tomb. Lord, be our life!
Empty me of every false ambition and aspiration like your empty tomb. Lord, be our life!
May the suppleness of your tomb break down all the defenses I set up. Lord, be our life!
May the openness of your tomb soften me stony heart. Lord, be our life!
May the wonder of your tomb recharge my life with freedom. Lord, be our life!
May the emptiness of your tomb reassure me of your unfailing presence. Lord, be our life!

–Father Peter John Cameron, O.P.

Christian asks!

Okay. So. I see stuff like this going around Tumblr for all sorts of communities, and thought I’d do one for the Jesus community because I love y’all and also because it seems like fun. 

Send me a number (or two) and I’ll answer the question. (Reblog to have numbers sent to your ask.)

1.) How old were you when you accepted Christ into your life? Tell us about it.
2.) What’s your favorite Bible verse?
3.) What do you think Heaven is like?
4.) Have you read the entire Bible?
5.) What time of day do you usually read the Bible/how much do you read?
6.) If you could ask God one question, what would it be?
7.) Favorite book of the Bible?
8.) Favorite Christian bloggers on Tumblr?
9.) (Because we’re so down on ourselves so often) List three things about yourself that you think God loves about you.
10.) How has God changed your life?

To my girls feeling lonely or waiting for love:
Yesterday we failed to make reservations at our favorite restaurant and got there with empty bellies only to find out there was over an hour wait. Irritated, we opted to check out the restaurant across the street. 45 minute wait there. Extra annoyed and super HANGRY we stormed off. Okay not really, but we were frustrated. We were so hungry that we decided to get dessert first. Just to keep our blood sugar up. As we finished our ice cream, we were still hungry. It helped, but didn’t quite do the trick. Thankfully, our table was ready and we sat down to eat a completely satisfying meal. I fell asleep as he drove me home, so obviously it was good.

So what’s my point? I think sometimes we turn people into ice cream cones. Like our hearts are so hungry as we wait and wait, as place after place we seek satisfaction from fails, that we settle. And that’s just it. Sometimes, we chase after a man, or run into an ice cream shop, for that quick little fix. Funny though, how we still feel hungry, or lonely, still. It’s not quiet enough.

I know because I do it. And I know what you’re thinking as you look at pictures of us grinnin’ & stuff: “big whoop. At least I’ve got a guy.” Well, yes, but that doesn’t just turn off lonely. Because I’m a firm believer that the condition of loneliness has very little to do with a relationship status. But everything to do with God calling us to be alone with Him.

I’ve felt lonely time after time both in and out of a relationship. I get antsy when Matt doesn’t text back. I question if I’m a burden to him. I wonder if he misses me when we’re apart. I spend countless hours shuffling through lies in my head telling me I’m not quite missable or noticeable or love-able enough. Just like you do, girlfriend. Whether your single or madly in love.

So if you’re feeling lonely, look at what you’re filling yourself up with. Is it an ice cream cone, or in other words, a romance? OR is it the real meal? I’ll bet if you wait and seek a little longer, your table will be ready. And He will satisfy your hunger.
Because loneliness doesn’t exist in a place where God’s love dwells. I promise you that.

—  Jordan Lee
@my christian followers

As you may have known, the white vote and the evangelical vote overwhelmingly went to Trump.

While it is disturbing, it is a wake-up call. 

Christian America needs to get its act together. We need to address antisemitism, islamophobia, homophobia, and racism within the church. We need to call out bigoted behavior and make it very clear that it is not acceptable. We have to reform Christianity, to make it loving, inclusive, and safe for everyone.

If your church is already progressive - y'all need to step up your game. These next four years is going to be rough. Protect marginalized people during this time. Do more interfaith work, more volunteer work, and more community work. Be vocal about the progressive things you are doing and saying. There is always room for improvement.

Also, I know a lot of churches will try to keep people silent by saying stuff like “Do not be angry. We have to accept and love everyone, despite political differences.” Don’t listen. Jesus got angry at injustice. Jesus flipped tables. Jesus chased people out of the temple. Your emotions are valid. Be angry and speak up. If your fury is used to bring justice, it is Christ-like.

So, as Christians, it is our duty to protect and heal people. It is our duty to deliver justice. It is our duty to feed the poor, the weak, and the hungry. It is our duty to radically love like Jesus commanded us to do. I still believe, that if we work hard enough, one day we will have a world that truly reflects Their Kingdom. 

Friendly reminder for my fellow Christians during ace awareness time that the Bible is very clear on not everyone getting married being a good thing and this doesn’t change no matter what dumb cultural!Christianity stigma against single people your church may radiate because our culture is obsessed with romance and sex and it tends to toxically seep into church culture like so many other toxic things tend to do and i could go on about this but CORRECT YOUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN CHRIST WHO ACT LIKE YOU ARE LESS OR ACT LIKE YOU MUST BE “IN WAITING” FOR NOT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE NOT BROKEN.

DAY 110
Apr 20, 2015

I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. - Psalm 27:13

My dear sister,

This post is for you–the dreamer. The one who dreams about the places she wants to go and the people she wants to meet. The one who wants to dedicate her work to the Lord and use her gifts, her talents for the Lord–even if she doesn’t quite know what that looks like yet.

I write this post to you tonight to encourage you to remain confident. Remain confident knowing that it doesn’t matter how uncertain this semester looks, this week looks, or the rest of this year looks, through Jesus Christ, God has given you all you need. You don’t have to hide away in your doubts about the future anymore. God’s got this. Trust and believe that He is taking care of you and that He has more ahead.
Remember this when it comes to your dream of:

1. Starting your own business
2. Traveling the world
3. Marrying a godly man
4. Doing meaningful work
5. Making a difference in your city
6. Using your gifts to glorify God
7. Getting married and having a family
8. Entering the ministry full time
9. Starting a non profit
10. Graduating from college/graduate school
11. Working in the field you dream of
12. Getting closer to God in every aspect of your life

I know there are many dreams and these are just a few, but I just want to encourage you tonight to keep on dreaming of doing things for the Lord, because as the Apostle Paul told the church of Corinth in 1 Co. 15:58, the work you do for the Lord is NEVER in vain!

So don’t be afraid to dream because of the naysayers and the negative thoughts in your head. God loves you, He knows what’s on your heart, and He is pleased when you dream what you dream to bring glory to Him! So if that’s you, keep on doing that! I know it might not seem like much, but you are sowing seeds everyday and God sees you. He hears you. He LOVES you. You can trust Him with your dreams and you can put your confidence in Him, 100%. No, it won’t all be easy, but it WILL be worth it, because God is faithful and through Him, there is so much more up ahead.

Biblical context + further reading: Ps. 27, 1 Co. 15:58, Gal. 6:9

The Life I Strive To Live

A lot of the time, I feel like I cannot be writing a blog post about God because I’m not in the “right place with God” to be doing so. But then I quickly remind myself how nobody will ever be in the “right place with God” because we all fall short. As humans, we are all Unworthy because we have all sinned. I sin every single day no matter how hard I try. It just happens. WE ARE HUMAN. But of course, as being a follower of Jesus, I try my hardest to run from sin and instead follow the path Jesus walked. We must constantly be running from all evil and trying our best to live like Jesus. And if you never began this relationship with Christ, It’s so simple! “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9 (ESV) So today, I was studying through Matthew 16 and a few things hit me. I wanted to share. Btw, I would love to do a weekly devotional on here or somewhere on the web. I think it would build me up as a christian and I would love to share what God has spoken to me to encourage all of you. Anyway…

Matthew 16:24 (ESV)

Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.“

What does this all mean? Taking up a cross?! Are we actually supposed to find a wooden cross and carry it like Jesus did?! Of course not haha. Jesus already did that for us. I believe this is one of the most powerful verses in the bible. It’s necessary for living the life Jesus called us to live. Let me go into what this means.

1. Deny yourself

2. Take up your cross

3. Follow Jesus

By living the life Jesus called us to live, we must first deny ourselves. That simply means denying our self will. This life is not about what we want, but all about what Jesus wants for us! We must constantly be surrendering our lives to Jesus and giving ourselves up to him so He may do a work in us. If we do not deny ourselves, Jesus won’t be able to work on us. Let go of all your trials and problems and give it up to the God of all creation to take care of. Let Him be in control. I know every time I try to take control, I always fail.

Next, once we deny ourselves, we must take up our cross. I love how my ESV study bible puts this. It translates taking up your cross to "embracing God’s will”. Every single moment throughout our days, wherever we may find ourselves, we must always be living a life pleasing to God. The way we talk to people, serve people, hang with our friends, etc. If what we’re doing does not seem to be pleasing God, then it’s definitely something we need to let go of. If we’re not pleasing God, we cannot be growing closer to christ. Sin is sin and we must flee it immedietely.  

Then the last command is to follow Jesus. This is an every day routine, not just a thing you do when you go to church on Sunday. I try to read my bible and talk to Jesus everyday. It’s necessary for a Christian to do this in order to grow with christ. I love to compare it to people in a relationship. If a couple is in a relationship but talk only ONCE a week for 5 minutes, how are they supposed to stay together or learn more about each other? It’s impossible haha and extremely awkward. If we’re not talking to God everyday and seeking him, how can that relationship be alive? I know how hard it is to start reading your bible everyday, but sometimes you just have to push really hard in the beginning. Then eventually, God will take off and begin working in you. The moment I gave up smoking weed everyday, I begin to seek Jesus in the word everyday and that hunger for him begin to build more and more! It’s amazing how Jesus works. He wants to grow closer to us more than we want to grow closer to him. The GOD of all creation loves us more than we can ever comprehend. super cool.

And this 3 step process is a daily commitment. Everyday I pray to God denying myself and asking for forgiveness for constantly messing up as a human. All I want to be is more like Jesus and that won’t happen if I’m not in the word everyday. If we only seek Jesus once a month, not only will that relationship be dead but it also opens doors for Satan to come in and tackle us. Talk to God like you’re talking to any one of your friends. He knows EVERYTHING about us. Be straight up simple with him. He loves that more than anything!

I haven’t done a post about God in a good while and this was definitely refreshing! I consider this more of a rant than a devotion because I simply just started typing. Hopefully this made some sense. Thanks for reading if you got up to this point :)

I love you guys. If you have any prayer requests or questions, just send them to my ASK. I’ll try to answer as many as I can. And even if I don’t answer yours, it doesn’t mean I didn’t see it. I will pray for every thing I see! Jesus hears all our prayers :)

okai bye!

10 Steps To Overcoming Bitterness Towards Relationships and ‘The Single Life’.

Have you ever caught yourself glancing (and sometimes blatantly staring) around the church on a Sunday, or prayer meetings on a Wednesday evening, or a young adults or youth camp, at the existence of pairing? Have you ever noticed yourself analyzing teen crushes, comparing young adult courtships, cringing at fresh engagements and judging new and lasting marriages?

Lets be honest, we catch ourselves considering, matching and comparing our own compatibility against their connections, relationships and affiliations with one another, and second guessing our own worth.. “Why do they get this God breathed and God blessed relationship, whilst I am still single..?” –  “Doesn’t God see all the good things I do for Him!?” – “Why does God hear their cry for a partner and not mine?”..  “Woe is me, I am going to be single FOREVER..” Yes, we have all been there, and we have all felt the pang, the longing and the desire to be noticed by that young man or woman we have been secretly (or not so secretly) eyeing off in the congregation, from the very first day we laid eyes on them. But lets just sit back and breathe for a moment, and think about what all of this is doing to our personal growth and development not only in ourselves, but also in the church, and in our relationship with God.

Now I don’t know about you, but I don’t recall reading in the bible “Compare yourselves to one another, judge what I will bless your sisters with, and be jealous of your brothers wife, of your friends beauty and of her courtship.” Of course, it’s so much easier to line everyone up on the boardwalk of judgement (from tallest to shortest if you wish) and pick them apart, fault by tiny fault, until there’s nothing left but skin and bone. It’s so easy to sit back in your seat and harbour bitterness towards anothers blessing, rather than betterness towards your own attitude. (I know, I know ‘betterness’ isn’t really a word.) We know we are a generation of taking the easy route, the road more often travelled, rather than keeping to the straight and narrow.

It’s easy to write, not so easy to put into practice, but upon considering young people in the church (this is those between 15 - 35) and their incessant levels of  negativity and envy towards the blessings of relationships for others, I sat down and began to consider what path I traveled on, to get to the season I am in now, where I can praise my singledom, rather than purse my lips. I have considered a great many things, and have listed 10 simple steps to overcoming bitterness towards Relationships and ‘The Single Life’ (or lack there of.)

1. Let Go / Let God
Are you God, and in control, ordaining relationships and the commitments between people? No, You’re not? Then do yourself the greatest favor you ever could, and let go. Let go of feeling that you are in control (or not). Let go of believing that you are ready and the idea that somehow you are being robbed of a blessing that is rightfully and relevantly yours. Believe it or not, God has the outpouring of His blessings to you, well and truly under control. He breathed life into you, and has many seasons to come, tucked away, just for you. Let Go, and Let God. Through prayer and perseverance, honesty and surrenderance.

2. Understand Your Wants VS God’s Will
“I want …….” is not in Gods vocabulary. We are often so caught up in seeing what everyone else has and desiring it for ourselves, that we forget God is not a vending machine, spitting out prizes to us based on the worth of our prayers to Him. It’s crazy to some, and to others it’s forgotten - but it’s important to remind yourself, that His ways are higher than ours, and His thoughts are higher than ours. Whilst we are sitting at home watching soppy love movies, texting our friends and believing we are ready for a relationship - God may very well have other things in mind. Remember you are dealing with your Father, who adores and cherishes you, not in an earthly fashion, but in a Heavenly and sacred fashion - and in His storehouse, are pure blessings which you will see. Transfer selfish into selfless, “God, let your will be done and let your timing be prevalent in my life.”

3. See The Bigger Picture
Perhaps you’re studying, working full time, you’re going to school, you’re traveling, you’re looking for work, you’ve just started a new ministry or you’re just coming back to Him fully, and remembering what it’s like to have intimacy with Christ. Regardless of who you are, or where you are in your walk with God - there is a bigger picture that in the midst of our “I want” stage, we may not be able(or willing) to see clearly. This is a great time to consider (if you haven’t got one already) inviting a mature mentor into your life. An older male / female (same sex as yourself) in your Church and regular Christian life who can maintain your accountability, and assist you through times of 'zone focus’ where all you see is what you want, (or what you’re not getting). If you are struggling to see the bigger picture, and understand why you don’t have something, and someone else does - seek wise counsel.

4. Bite Your Tongue And Clear Your Mind
Jealousy, anger, frustration, judgement, criticism, gossip and slander. We are all guilty of each and every one of these things. Not one of us holds a “get out of jail free” card in this instance, and overcoming bitterness is a proactive choice which is relevant to the entire body. Ask yourself in regards to your attitude in your every day life

A. Do my words reflect a Christlike attitude

B. Do my thoughts reflect a Christlike attitude

C. Do my actions reflect a Christlike attitude

If your answer is anything but yes, (we can all use some improving)then be proactive in choosing to consciously make an effort to change this. Be real with your support networks, with your friends, with your family, and your mentors and pastors. Be real and ask to be held responsible for your words, thoughts and actions. Allow others the permission in your life, to call you out when they note you being bitter, gossiping or judging. Keeping your network clued in is a great way to keep you on your toes. It’s easy to sit in your own negativity, when no one else knows how great your battle is.


5. Get The Right Idea

Many people consider 'single season’ as a 'waiting period’, like it’s a season you’re in where you’re just kind of sitting around, hoping for the next season to quickly come along and blow your single one out of the water, and sweep you off your feet on the back of a white horse into that lovely land of relationships, marriage and children.(Insert long groan here) NO. Your time of being single is not a waiting period, it’s not a 'half-way-there’ season, and it’s definitely not a time where you should be sitting back and coasting your way through, waiting it out. Your season of being single is just as great a blessing as your season of finding a relationship will be. (if this is Gods will for your life). I have heard every cliché under the sun about “in Gods perfect timing” etc. Let me tell you, Gods perfect timing to challenge you, grow you, develop you and anoint you, is now. It’s every day. Focusing on your 'single status’ is doing nothing more than hindering the great adventures that God has set aside for you in this season. Get the right idea, you are not disabled, you are anointed; take this time where you are considering yourself and God to

A. Learn about yourself and your relationship with God

B. Develop your character

C. Embrace solo adventures and opportunities

D. Grow, grow and grow some more

E. Serve others, the church and your community

F. Build solid and God honouring friendships with members of the opposite sex

G. Solidify your foundations of who you are in Him

6. Value 'Alone Time’ and 'Quiet Time’
Moses, David, Elijah, Mary and Jesus are all examples from His word of why and how spending time alone in His presence is not only healthy, but it is beneficial and productive. It is often in the quiet and stillness of His presence that you hear His voice clearly without question. It is all well and good to excite and hype your way through conferences, services and camps with hundreds of others throwing their arms in the air and praising Him - You know you feel God in situations like that, and you know His presence is there. But when you go home, and you fall to your knees, or you sit silently, do you feel Him? Alone time, silent time, without speaking, praying, humming, singing or any worship music – just pure, alone, time. It is in moments like this that God can reveal the very depths of His heart and desire for you, and heal your emotional needs. Valuing alone time allows you to sit and be real, vulnerable and open to His leading; often alone time can see great transformations of attitudes and hearts.

7. Ignore The humanised 'Social Norm’ and 'Church Standards’.
Someone is always going to have an opinion on you, on your life, on your relationship status, on where you are going, what you are doing, and who is doing it with you. Humans are conditioned to have misplaced and unconsidered opinions. We are also conditioned with emotions - and when these two conditions collide, we find our self worth dropping, and it seems we’re the only one left, we are the only single person in the world, we are the only lonely one, we are the only one without a boyfriend or girlfriend to worship beside us on a sunday, or come to prayer meetings with. Looking through the word, there are people who received blessings at incredibly young ages; such as Gideon, Isaac, Samuel, Joseph and Daniel. Sure, they were kings, they had incredible encounters with God at young ages; now I am sure people would have looked upon them prior to these commitments they made, and their willingness to serve God and would label or judge them. But remaining in the faith, and ignoring the humanised standard, allowed these young men in the bible to rise up and demolish pre-conceived ideas. Humanised standards are what cause us to lack hope, to lose faith and to doubt ourselves. Butthankfully, we do not compare ourselves to others, but to the author and perfecter of our faith, Jesus Christ.


8. Be Content With Who You Are

You are on a journey towards loving yourself. Not one of us could raise our hand and state that we are 100% satisfied with who we are, and how we look, or sound, or seem. Rather than focusing on relationships of others, focus on your relationship with yourself. Fall in love with the lines on your face as you smile with joy, and the way your hair falls naturally after you brush it. Embrace the way your skin develops freckles in the sun, and how it seems one arm is longer than the other, or one eye opens more than its partner. The reality is, we are all our own physical form of God’s idea of perfection. We exist in His knitting, His planning, His sewing and His creating all from the depths of His heart and love for us; in which we were formed. Learn and take time to develop an unrequited love for the things you’ve always claimed to hate, and embrace the woman or man that you are.


9. Celebrate Relationships And Connections

When you feel a sense of bitterness or jealousy arise within you,pray. It’s simple. Pray, pray and pray again. Pray for love, peace, and that God would assist you in altering your mind set. For every negative moment you have towards a relationship, a couple, or perhaps even someone who questions you about your relationship life, such as aunties and uncles who attend every family function and without fail raise the point “OH YOU’RE NOT STILL SINGLE, ARE YOU? WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?” - For every moment, everyphrase, every judgement. Write, draw, text, call or give face to face encouragement. For every negative emotion, find a positive point regarding them, individually or together. Train yourself to focus on kindness and love, rather than envy and jealousy. Through constant reminding and a conscious decision to celebrate relationships and connections, you will find yourself being less of a 'hater’ and more of a 'celebrator’.

10. Find Comfort and Be Content In God
It is okay to break down, to get emotional, to have enough, to plead with God and to just plain and simply throw a tantrum. It’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to fall, it’s okay to be jealous and it’s okay to feel frustration. But, it is not okay to stand in that, dwell in that and live in that. It is not okay to make this a 'normal’ occurrence, and it’s notokay to allow your emotions and your personal situation to dictate who you are and who you become. Until you find complete solace and comfort in God, and until He is all you need, and all you require to get by; you will find yourself searching and seeking for something that does not exist. Until you rest in Him, find yourself completed in Him in every way, and find your heart safely stored within His hands, you will find yourself struggling to see the joy in others relationships, let alone, your own. Finding yourself to be content in God is a journey you need to allow yourself to travel along a road you need to walk, and it will require sacrifice, time and time again, until you are found with nothing personally, but are relying on Him for everything.

So find yourself and your satisfaction in Him. Trust your heart and your emotions into His hands. Ask for help and let those around you support you. Keep yourself accountable. Love yourself and love others. Find comfort and solace in Him. Take time to be alone. Be quiet in Him. Ignore standards and social 'norms’. But most importantly, remember… You are not defined by your thoughts or your relationship status; but by The King who loves you, without question.

Your love is devoted like a ring of solid gold
Like a vow that is tested like a covenant of old
Your love is enduring through the winter rain
And beyond the horizon with mercy for today

Faithful You have been and faithful you will be
You pledge yourself to me and it’s why I sing

Your praise will ever be on my lips, ever be on my lips
Your praise will ever be on my lips, ever be on my lips


|| Ever Be by Bethel Music ||