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I was becoming far too comfortable in my world. The universe decided to remind me that there are people who label all anime as ‘horrible and filled with crappy animation’ automatically without any research.

Ugh.

So a a while ago I ‘’came out’’ here but I’ve realised I was wrong when I told you that, I’m probably straight or bi, I’m so so sorry for misleading you,I truly hope I haven’t invalidated anything, to be honest I realised this a while ago but I didn’t want people to get pissed but I had to say this,that’s partially the reason this is on a queue,  if you’re angry or irritated I understand and I’m truly sorry, thank you for taking your time to read this, you are all truly amazing

#they look like #they just had a rough sex #in a closet

| Akatsuki no Yona aesthetics | An Lili | 
“I’m not like him. I will save the Water Tribe.”

Floating ineffable husbands. This is my contribution to the Good Omens fandom. Please note the tartan behind the ducks.

Ways Brian Kinney said ‘I Love You’ without saying ‘I Love You.’

I was thinking about this while blow drying my hair this morning.

  • ‘I want you safe. And I want you around for a long time.’
  • ‘You are never to play violin music in my presence again.’
  • ‘You’re making me fucking nervous.’
  • ‘Before you and you husband tied the nous around your necks he was perfectly happy.’
  • ‘As for the times when you’re not around. I wouldn’t particularly mind it if you were.’
  • ‘And when I come home, I’ll be doing exactly what I want to do. Coming home to you.’
  • ‘By the way. I missed you.’
  • ‘The point of having a cell phone is that you leave it on. [nervous voice] Where the fuck are you?’
  • ‘I care about him.’
  • ‘Hey, stud. Wanna dance? I promise you won’t forget this one.’
  • ‘Even if it was ridiculously romantic.’
  • When he paid for Justin’s college even after Justin dumped him.
  • THE ENTIRE SCENE AFTER HOBBS HIT JUSTIN!!!
  • How he wore the blood stained scarf around his neck until he had Justin back in his arms.
  • When he bought Justin that computer so he could still draw.
  • When he fucking bought Justin’s drawing of him.
  • Every time he pushed Justin to be an artist.
  • ‘There’s this new restaurant. Want to check it out?’ (Purely because for two years he had a ‘no dates’ policy.)
  • When they were walking hand in hand trying to help Justin’s anxiety after the bashing.
  • When they were in the parking garage trying to make Justin remember and Brian was almost in tears.
  • Every moment between the bashing and Justin getting better.
  • When Brian picked up the platter when Justin asked.
  • ‘I hope you get what you want.’
  • Brian punching Michael after Michael insulted Justin and said Brian should have left him to die.
  • ‘After Justin got bashed and I didn’t know if I was going to make it…’ (the line is something like this. I don’t remember)
  • When they were tossing the ball.
  • The 5x02 sex scene. At the end where they’re giggling. Brian Kinney wasn’t one to giggle unless Justin Taylor was right there.
  • When Brian bought Justin the house of his dreams.
  • When he called Justin beautiful.
  • When he told Emmett they were going to have golden gardenias at their wedding since Justin wanted them.

Telling someone who’s trying to figure out their mental issues that they’re just hypochondriacs and “looking for problems to have” is honesty so disgusting because trust me, I tell myself that every single day and I have to remind myself over and over that the things I experience are real, and when you say it’s all made up, you just set me back twenty steps so I have to start over again, so fuck off

Stop romanticizing neurotypicality

When I hear people, autistic or otherwise, talk about autistic social difficulties, they often say things along the lines of:

  • “You and I just know all of these rules intuitively, but people with autism find them mysterious and have to learn them explicitly”
  • “All of these rules that you neurotypicals pick up naturally are very very difficult for those of us on the spectrum”

There is a myth people who aren’t autistic just automatically know social rules, and that it’s only autistic people who need to put serious effort into learning them.

It’s not true. Neurotypical people have to learn all kinds of things on purpose. For instance:

In business:

  • When people are applying to schools, or first learning how to apply to jobs, they are advised to do practice interviews. This is not special advice for the disabled; it’s standard advice for everyone
  • Colleges have career centers aimed at teaching students how to get jobs
  • Ask A Manager is a popular column about social skills for the workplace, for every role including management, employees, and job seekers. It’s not aimed specifically at people with disabilities, most of the articles are written assuming a neurotypical audience and most of the questions are asked by people without disabilities
  • Fuck you, pay me is a popular talk about gaining the social skills to insist that your freelancing clients pay you for your work
  • Everyone, not just autistic people, needs to learn a lot of skills which may or may not come naturally, in order to succeed in businesses

In personal relationships:

  • Captain Awkward is a popular advice blog focused on personal relationships and boundaries. Many subscribers are autistic, but many are not, and it is not a disability-focused blog.
  • Miss Manners is a long-running column about manners. She has been printed in newspapers for decades and has written several books. She is popular because a lot of neurotypical people feel like they don’t know the rules and want someone to tell them the rules
  • Scarleteen, a popular sex ed site, has a lot of information on things like dating and relationships and how to talk about safer sex, because no one is born knowing those things

In the area of disability:

It’s true that there are many specific social difficulties that autistic people often have that people who lack autism generally do not have. For instance:

Receptive body language and tones of voice:

  • Some autistic people have trouble understanding body language, facial expressions, and tones of voice
  • This makes it hard to interact with people who assume as a matter of course that everyone understands what their body language and tones are saying, and that if you’re not responding, it’s because you’re choosing to ignore it
  • Autistic people who have this problem have to learn strategies for compensating for it
  • There are different approaches that some of us take (some people can explicitly learn how body language works by studying it, some people can learn to pick up on different cues, some people can learn how to guess based on context what someone might mean and ask explicitly, some people can move most of their interactions to text where it doesn’t matter, etc etc)

Language

  • Some autistic people have trouble with receptive language, and have trouble understanding what people say
  • Some of us have trouble with expressive language, and can’t say the socially expected thing in the socially expected way even if we know what it is
  • Some autistic people are unable to produce tones of voice or modulate volume in socially expected ways (some autistic people can learn this through practice/therapy; some can’t.)
  • Language difficulties also can interfere with social skills acquisition because people learn these skills and expected modes of behavior through practice, and people whose receptive and expressive language is atypical tend to be excluded from contexts in which most people practice and learn these things
  • Similarly to reading body language, different autistic people learn different ways of dealing with this. 

Movement

  • Some autistic people have trouble with voluntary motion, and may not be able to do some expected social gestures or movement even if they understand the rules perfectly
  • Some autistic people get stuck in situations in which it is considered socially important to keep moving (eg: in line, in a movie theater, at the end of a ride)
  • Some autistic people need to move in ways that are socially stigmatized in order to function
  • Some autistic people do not have the motor control (or cognitive ability, there are several reasons this can happen) necessary to produce speech, and communicate using AAC devices, RPM, books of picture symbols, or FC. (Most neurotypical people (and probably most autistic people as well) lack the social skills necessary to interact respectfully with people who communicate this way. This creates a social difficulty that gets blamed on lack of speech, but which is actually caused by lack of respect.) 

Sensory issues:

  • Many autistic people are unable to tolerate the noises, sounds, smells, lights, or crowds in places that most people like to socialize
  • Some autistic people can’t tolerate being outdoors for long periods of time
  • This complicates socializing or business networking in a world that expects social interactions to take place in those kinds of settings

There are any number of other examples of ways that autistic people have to learn skills that neurotypical people usually do not have to learn. But that doesn’t mean that we are uniquely deficient, or that “having to learn social rules” is an autistic thing.

No one is born knowing the rules. Everyone has to learn the rules, and everyone has to learn some of the rules explicitly. Everyone learns how to interact with others over a period of years, and no one is good at it without practice. For neurotypical people, the need to learn social skills is treated as normal, expected, and honorable.

For autistic people, our need to learn social skills is treated as disgusting, defective, and in need of normalizing therapy.

People teach us that we autistic people, specifically, are bad at people and interaction and that this needs to be corrected. It’s not true. We are not uniquely bad at social interaction. We have specific needs to learn specific things.

Some of the social skills we have to learn are coping mechanisms for being heavily stigmatized. We have to learn these skills because something is wrong with society, not because something is wrong with us.

There are skills we have to learn differently because of physical differences between autistic and neurotypical people, but that is not something we are missing either. They treat us like we are neurotypical with missing pieces that need to be filled in, but this is not true. We are a different shape, and that’s ok. 

(And there are also social skills that come more easily to autistic people than neurotypical people. Autism is not solely composed of difficulties.)

Everyone needs to learn how to interact with others, and it is a lifelong process. The ways neurotypical people learn social interactions are respected. The ways autistic and other neurodivergent people learn to interact with others should also be respected. The fact that autistic social learning is stigmatized is a problem with society, not autistic people.

When you tell someone not to do something, and they do it anyway right after you tell them not to: 

“Did you just do the thing?”

“Seriously?? You were JUST told not to do the thing, and you did it anyway." 

"Dude, did they just do the thing?" 

"Yes. Yes they did." 

"Why?! Did you NOT JUST hear that you weren’t supposed to do the thing?! Like TWO SECONDS AGO?!?!" 

"Really though, how hard is it to NOT do the thing?" 

"Apparently it’s overwhelmingly difficult for some." 

"Dude. I can’t believe you did the thing." 

"You’re an idiot for doing the thing." 

"You shouldn’t have done the thing. What were you thinking? At least now you know not to do the thing again, right?" 

*person does the thing again*

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I feel I need to say this and I know some people aren’t going to like it.  

About the whole “Cas is Dean’s Colette” thing.  I think people (in general) have focused WAY too much on this as a potential ongoing storyline.  The Destiel “B” plot was told through Cas’ POV last year, and it was told through tragedy of someone not being able to leave behind an old life (old teachings) and this produced a romantic partner left to grieve over their death.  Sound familiar?  I just described 9x23 through Cas’ POV…

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*starts crying* THIS TOOK ME SO LONG i’m so sorry

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super junior as the seven deadly sins >> inspired by (x)

No but seriously, Neal laughing when Emma asks him to not break Henry’s heart like he did with her?? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH!