oh man ok here’s the deal (sit back and grab some popcorn)
basically, i have lots of friends, both irl and online. i admit, i have lots. and i love each and every one of them cause they’re all such wonderful, unique individuals that i’m proud to say i have in my life. (this including just acquaintances, and mutual follows - you’re all so awesome) ;0;
the thing is though, i made all these cool friends in a,, casual? way. where we started talking about shared interests, through my livestreams, etc. each experience was all awesome, and i always learn lots about someone and how happy they get when they talk about something they like, and so on!
one thing they didn’t do though, was straight up ask me if we could be friends.
now, here’s where the real deal answer to your ask comes in. the way i see it is, if you just ask someone to be friends with you, that doesn’t seem genuine. really, it puts the person your asking on the spot. (take this from someone who gets a lot of these asks) - the feeling of being put on the spot, especially in this situation, is brutal. it’s either 1) you have to say yes to befriending someone you have no info about, or 2) you get called an asshole for saying no, and have to live with the guilt of making the other person feel bad. and that’s not good.
making friends just by asking if they’ll like you, isn’t a good approach. i personally don’t like being put on the spot where i feel pressure, and i had to add that to my about. i always feel so uncomfortable when someone asks me to be friends with them, because i have no idea who they are or what they’re like. sure, you’d think it’d be nice and sweet and a kind gesture, but to the person you’re asking (me, personally, other’s could be different!) it may not be as kind of a gesture as you think.
if you really want to befriend someone, just make casual conversation with them. talk about things that might interest them - BUT don’t expect you two to become friends just like that, for some people that make take time. remember, everyone is different, and everyone has their comfort zones!!
i hope this summarizes this whole ask up :0!