Ohhh hold up I think I get you now. I think a big thing left out of our conversation was context. I meant that I dont get offended when the queens say dyke cause its not being used as an insult but a joke, theyre not actually trying to like cuss anyone out or whatever just using the word a like a punch in the joke or trying to be funny, which i'm cool with. I totally agree that you have the right to be offended if someone, no matter their sexuality, calls you a dyke whose trying to offend you.
i mean the issue i have w queens using it “jokingly” is that it normalizes the use of the word therefore more ppl use it ¬ understand why its wrong ykwim?? and imo if ur using a slur for shockfactor as the punch of ur joke u should prob reevaluate ur joke lmaoo. but basically what im trying to say is tht obv queens using it jokingly isnt the root of the problem but it has a hand in creating spaces where non lesbians feel comfortable and okay to use the terms when they shouldnt be using them at all.