I haven't seen you post or say anything about what's going on with harry... how do you feel about this
i haven’t said anything because i don’t want to say anything but to be honest i’ve been seeing so much negativity and it’s really getting to me.
i’m not going to sit here and be mad at harry. yes, a lot what he said was very offensive and i was a bit put off. he’s a grown ass man and he should have known what he was saying was offensive but also as a straight man harry was probably raised in a very traditional house hold like i was. homosexuality was looked down on and bisexuality was nonexistent.
back when he made the “lifestyle” comment it was clear that he lacked the knowledge of what lgbtq+ really means but let’s also think about what happened next, someone corrected him and he acknowledged that he was wrong. he corrected his mistake and i was forever grateful for that moment.
so instead of us going back and forth and completely disregarding the fact that this man has been nothing but supportive of his character, let’s help educate him.
a lot was said and i don’t know who exactly wrote that speech but let’s not justify who harry is because of it, let’s help educate him.
“Dude. Minjoon. Wake the fuck up,” Jeremy came into the other male’s bedroom, dressed only in a pair of sweatpants hanging loosely around his waist, his hair unkempt on his head as if he had just woken up himself. He took hold of the pillow underneath the sleeping male’s head and pulled it out from under him, using it to smack him over the head instead.
It’s funny like my friends my age talk about how much they love this male celebrity and get inappropriate about it but then the second I say something like oh this actress is amazing I love her I feel awful afterwards like I feel gross for liking liking girls and even thinking about them in cute ways??? I fucking hate this and it’s not fair
No, your child doesn’t do weird things “for no reason”. They do it for a reason, you just don’t know it yet. You have different brains, different perspectives, so sometimes things that are obvious to them are a mystery to you. But you don’t have to ignore it and blame it on them. You can make an effort, reach out to them and figure out the reason.
Do they scream in public when it looks like everything is okay? Well, there’s probably a reason for that. Maybe the situation is overwhelming to their senses, it’s too loud, to bright, to crowded, and they need some space and time to recover. Maybe they can’t stim because other people keep telling them it looks weird, so they end up exhausted much faster. Maybe you are breaking their routine by being outside at this time. Or maybe you are going through the supermarket “the wrong way”, not how you usually do it. Maybe they forgot their comfort object at home, and just realized that. Maybe they are in pain and can’t communicate that. Maybe they are very hungry and don’t realize that yet because it’s hard for them to recognize their needs and emotions. Maybe it’s a combination of those, or something different altogether.
Either way, they probably don’t do it “for no reason”. You just don’t see the reason. Make an effort to communicate. If they are verbal, ask them. If they can’t speak with their mouth at the moment or ever, use alternative methods of communication. If they can’t explain it, consult other autistic people, including autistic adults who probably have a bunch of ideas as to why your child does that weird thing. Don’t dismiss it, don’t complain about it, don’t blame your child for doing it. Try to see the world from their perspective. Respect their needs and feelings. Learn more about autism from other autistic people.
And life will be much better and easier for both you and your child.