Dude, if I were a band member’s girlfriend, I would just respond to hate messages with different pictures of me and the band member doing random things like: “You’re so ugly and annoying I don’t see why he’s with you lol” oh really? Lemme just send you a picture of us making Mac and cheese together.
i hate the question “if you were a girl, which band member would you date?” like? why is that first part necessary? do you need to be a girl in order to date a male band member? no. just ask “which band member would you date?”. or, an even better idea, ask bands about their music.