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wow this is a hard question
ok so I may be biased bc I’m a very very shippy person but I do have an opinion about this and I will use my personal headcanons and shippings to explain
I ship a lot of cute ships (most f/f bc I find most m/f ships boring or the lady is too good for the guy more like) and sometimes I feel guilty about it since I’m aro
but I also have a lot of aro headcanons (natasha romanoff, literally every single gem on steven universe. ALL OF THEM. all of them. maybe maybe with the acception of ruby and sapphire but I’m not sure)
I guess what I’m saying is, try to have a balance? shipping is so fun (I love my ships. love love love) but also aro headcanons are important. and also queerplatonic shipping is really fun too
I’m not saying you have to headcanon aros
I guess maybe acknowledge what your friend says and maybe question some of your ships? questioning things can be important but also if your shipping is too important to you (esp if it’s helping your mental health) then I would give you a pass.
I guess I don’t really have a fully formed opinion on this. I’ve sorta been wondering about it myself but I think aros differ so much in how we respond to romance (some of us are very romance repulsed and would just prefer no romance in anything, whereas others think romance is cute) and that probably speaks to how some of us are very shippy and others don’t have romantic ships (I assume? idk if I know any aros that don’t have at least one romantic ship).
I would be curious to hear other aros’ opinions on this. it’s definitely and intriguing subject