I’ve had so many girls sit around me and talk about how “disgusting” they are because they “haven’t been to the gym a week” or “ate soooooo much at dinner tonight,” when I maybe haven’t had time to go to the gym in months or literally just ate more than the girl did. and I realize they don’t mean to hurt me, and yet they do anyways. if they think they are so disgusting for eating half a philly cheesesteak, what do they think of the fact that I just ate the whole thing? you know one comment like “oh my god I am SO FULL I am never eating that much again” is fine, but I’ve honestly had to sit through people go on and on about how horrible they are as a person for eating something. they don’t seem happy when they are saying these things and neither am I!!!!!! people need to learn to filter what they say. it’s okay if they think it in their head. it’s not a healthy way to think, and I suggest trying to change the thought process, but saying it to the people around them just makes it worse. people have no idea whose feelings they are hurting.
for anyone interested in this topic, I recommend reading Renee Engeln’s article from the ny times, the problem with fat talk and then the letters to the editor about this article.
the article makes a great basis point about how research shows that talking to each other about how we don’t like our bodies actually makes us feel worse.
the letters to the editor expand upon this idea and point out the fact that not only does it make ourselves feel worse but also that “fat-talk statements reinforce the oppression of people who meet the socially constructed definition of ‘fat.’”