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singlesighted  asked:

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a:

  • @ashesam we need to do stuff at some point!!! you’re on my list of people to rp with brooo!!!!
  • @aconstellationofsinsx we haven’t done anything in a while, but you’re one of the few who ever played with alpha and i love you for it!!!
  • @arbitrxte am i gonna list all the padmes? bitch maybe!!!! please follow the lovely padmes!!!
  • @aspecialprovidence im sure i owe you starters and poems but i suck. i absolutely love your blog though!
  • @anewvoice another padme!!!! you cant have enough padme’s in your life!!!

b:

  • @beautyontherunway i love scarlet!!! i also love your victor!!!! you’re super duper cool!!!!
  • @beardedbowman another one of the few who ever did stuff with alpha!!! which makes you the bomb dot com dot co dot uk!!!!
  • @beautifulkindbutsad how many padme’s do i follow? hopefully all of them because they are all so awesome!!!
  • @bencannolikenobi sometimes i send you puns & christmas asks on anon 8)
  • @bybxbble i owe you a bunch of stuff on bellamy but oh man!!! galinda is the best!!! almost makes me wish i liked the wizard of oz!!!!

c:

Even though I sometimes loathe this hell hole of a website, often times I find that when I try to explain to you all (all 3 of you) what’s going on in my life, it helps me to process what is going on and sort through it.

I am waited listed for a med school and recently talked to their admissions people. I have a great application but I’ve been out of school for several years. They have no way of knowing for sure that I would thrive in a med school environment. They want me to show it by going back to school, doing a post bac or a masters.

I won’t. I refuse to.

There are so many ways I’ve already compromised for this application and I am drawing the line.

I AM good enough. Smart enough, good looking enough, charming enough. I am enough. And if they don’t accept me, that’s ok.

My goal in life is holiness. And recently, it’s been pointed out, I need to love. Oh goodness do I need to love. This desire to pour out my heart and soul for others from love of Christ drives me nuts some days, especially days where I have no opportunity to do so. If I ever felt a call religious (I don’t) it would be purely a desire to love more and to love more for God.

I can’t do a post bac. I can’t do a masters. I can’t add more years to a life already yearning to be with people I can love and serve and share life with. Med school, I can see myself doing, that’s me time where I offer every day, ever challenge, to really let God shape me through suffering. Doing more school so I can med school is just stupid and selfish.

If i don’t get into med school, I have a plan C. I’m gonna find an accelerated nursing program. And go from there. I need to start loving and serving soon or my head will explode. And my heart.

It’s definitely a step back from turning down PA so I could try for med school. But that’s not what this is about. Sometimes I think so secularly about life and my future that I forget to think sanctity. God doesn’t care about my degrees. He cares that I use what I have where I am. And I intend to do just that.

“My mom didn’t start dating women until I was about 12, and I was way gay before that! So my mom being a lesbian didn’t reflect on me at all, but [when my mom started dating women] it made me feel like I wasn’t a bad person, you know? ‘Cause I was trying to force myself to like guys, and telling myself that 'This is wrong, the way you feel’ and this and that. When I saw my mom being comfortable with who she was, I was like 'Well hell, I’m going to be comfortable with who I am!’ I think that’s the clearance that I needed as a child to basically be told that everything is okay.

My mom made sure that we were always okay. Like she spent her last on tuition and made sure food was always on the table and clothes were always on our backs. We didn’t get everything we wanted, but we had everything we needed. And then by having two moms, it’s just like, extra love.” #nolabeings #neworleans

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not taking off my hijab today. i’m never going to let the ugliest, most vile, hateful scum of the earth think they’ve won.

didn’t take my hijab off after 9/11 and i sure as hell am not going to start now.

but i’m here for my muslim sisters that feel the need to. i’m here for you and i love you and you’re absolutely in the right to do what makes you feel safe.

Allah is with you.

What in Hell am I Going to Talk to Him About?- 23 Tips and Tricks to Help You Master the Art of Conversation

Become a New Money Girls Art Collector

I am socially awkward. There is a kinder way to say this, I’m sure, but I see no reason to sugar coat. I am an introvert. I am happiest surrounded by snacks, books, and my own thoughts. I became a sex worker for two reasons. The first- I wanted to control my time. The second- jobs that let you completely avoid human contact don’t pay very well.

If you think that sex work is only about sex, you don’t know anything about our industry. We are entertainers, therapists, mother figures, distractions. Our job is to take the client’s mind off his mundane life, the things about himself he doesn’t like, his problems. We are a smoke and mirror show. The show begins and ends with the words that come out of our mouths. Our words can creat a beautiful experience or ruin it.

My words ruined most experiences in the beginning. I was stilted, stiff, and awkward. There were long silences. I was always looking for an exit. I knew that to be successful I would have to figure this out. I turned to the same place I always look to when I have a problem to solve: books. In particular, Leil Lowndes’ How to Talk to Anyone. It boasts 92 tricks to help you build relationships with anyone. I wasn’t going to remember 92 tips and I wasn’t going to give myself an anxiety attack trying. Instead I picked the 20 or so tips that seemed to suit my needs best and worked on 5 or 6 each week. In a month I had introduced all 23 into my regular interactions. Things haven’t been the same since.

  1. Make eye contact. People are insecure by nature. We always wonder if we’re boring a person, if they really want to speak to us, if what we’re saying makes sense. Eye contact eliminates this doubt. If you look a person in the eye, it signals that you not only hear what they’re saying but are interested in it. If you have to look away do it slowly. This reinforces your interest and enjoyment of what you’re hearing.
  2. Look at them even if someone else is speaking. Want to make someone love you? Turn them into the center of your world. You don’t have to announce your undying love or slay dragons. You just have to continue to look at them despite what is going on around you. That person will suddenly feel like the most attractive and dynamic person in the room.
  3. Don’t fidget. It ruins your credibility. We equate stillness with integrity. Those that can look us in the eye and simply relate a piece of information are always believed over those that try to tell us something while scratching their elbow or squirming in their seat. Even if you are believed, you probably won’t be seen as an authority figure the way the still person is.
  4. Small talk is not about words; it’s about melody. A good conversation mirrors a dance. The people participating are in sync. If the person that you are speaking to is calm and relaxed, you should be too. Match their energy and the conversation will move much more fluidly.
  5. There’s value in slips of the tongue. People tell you what they want to talk about without realizing that they are doing it. We can’t help it. We naturally want to talk about things that are pleasing to us and constantly introduce them into conversation. Focus on these moments and use them to your advantage. You don’t have to know what to talk about. You have to know how to listen to what is being said to you and know when to introduce those slips into conversation.
  6. Keep the focus on them. People love to talk about themselves. Our favorite topic as humans is always ourselves. We want to feel like we matter. We want to feel like someone hears us and cares. Use this to your advantage. Always find a way to refocus the conversation on the person you are speaking to. You will quickly become their favorite person to speak to.
  7. Know what’s happening in the world. Don’t want to talk about you? Don’t know what to talk about at all? Don’t worry. There’s a whole world out there teeming with events that are perfect for conversation. Not only does knowing what’s happening outside of your own bubble give you something to discuss, it makes you appear more intelligent.
  8. Don’t be delicate. Call things by their names. The goal is to subconsciously position yourself as the equal of the person that you’re speaking to. Hopefully, the person you’re speaking to has money. A lot of it. People with money don’t mince words. They don’t have time. Instead they state what they want, what they’re thinking as directly and with as few words as possible. This doesn’t mean that they’re crass. But they don’t have time to cushion mundane things in a way that doesn’t offend the faint hearted. Mirror them. It isn’t the little girls room. It’s a restroom, a bathroom. Use your words. Use the right words.
  9. Don’t make jokes at another person’s expense. People love to laugh. People love jokes. People do not love to be laughed at. Don’t be fooled if they laugh along with you. We want to spend time with people who make us feel better about who we are not those who point out our flaws in the hopes of getting a laugh. If you must make fun of someone, make fun of yourself. It shows that you don’t take yourself seriously and that you’re human and relatable.
  10. Shut them up. Sometimes men insist on asking the same question over and over again despite knowing that the question is something that makes you uncomfortable. This is easily handled. Repeat your answer in the exact same tone of voice every time any variation of the question is asked. The key is to use the same intonation. Any fluctuations in tone indicate that he’s hit a sore spot and may be making progress towards an answer he likes. Use your voice as a brick wall. Eventually he’ll move on.
  11. Sound like an expert on their job or hobby. This is useful if you know a little about the person ahead of time. It’s also incredibly simple. Learn 2 insightful questions about their career or hobby and ask them. Learn the most annoying question that outsiders ask and avoid it.
  12. Read the things that they read. If you’re the lucky girl that continually attracts hedge fund managers, learn their field. You don’t have to know it as well as they do. But your value rises exponentially when you can show that you have more than a surface understanding of what’s happening in their field. Pick up a newspaper or a specialty magazine and read a few articles.
  13. Mirror them. If you’re ever in a place where you aren’t sure of the etiquette, mirror the person you are with. Others may judge you but he won’t. If he judged you, he’d be judging himself and that is something we just don’t do. Mirror his movements in conversation too. If he talks with his hands, talk with yours. If he moves his entire body to emphasize a point, don’t sit stock still. We speak to others the way we prefer to be spoken to.
  14. It’s not “you and me”. It’s “we”. Make him forget that you are two individuals. You are a unit facing the world, seeing the world, together. It starts simply. When you speak about the weather, you don’t want to say “It’s been sunny outside hasn’t it?”. Instead, try “we’ve been having great weather. How have you been enjoying it?”. Everything leads back to the two of you as a team. Throw in we, our, and us into your conversation as much as possible.
  15. Make them earn your smile. Women who don’t smile easily are viewed as powerful. It also puts the man in the position of trying to find things to say that please you. We want him to be interested in earning your approval. We want to make him work. A small quirk of the lips can be used as often as you like. But save those pearly whites for the right moment.
  16. If they show pride, you give praise. We are all children at heart. Nothing makes us feel better than a pat on the back and a “well done”. We want to know that our accomplishments are seen and appreciated no matter how small they are. We are always looking for someone who can lay our insecurities to rest. Be that person. In conversation, if a person says something and then pauses and looks at you significantly, they are waiting for the applause. Be there to give it to them. You do not have to think what they did was impressive. You have to be there ready to dispense a pat on the back. We continuously go back to those that make us feel good about our selves. Handing out compliments like candy is a great way to become that person.
  17. Learn how to take a compliment. There is a way to accept compliments that conditions a person into wanting to give them. Turn their compliment to you into a way to compliment them. He said he liked your shoes? If you respond with “Thank you so much. I love how you always notice the little details about me. It’s so refreshing.” His chest will puff with pride. He will associate complimenting you with feeling positively about himself.
  18. When you’re on the phone, learn to verbalize your actions. I hate talking on the phone. I can’t read a book and talk. I can’t listen to Rihanna and talk. But depending on your field, you’re going to have to talk on the phone. Remember that he can’t see you. Your eye contact, your body language, they are of no help here. You’ll have to turn those actions into words. You can’t nod but you can say, “that makes sense” “I understand”. “That’s so interesting” “Really?” and “Tell me more” replace eye contact.
  19. Make an entrance. The first part of the conversation happens well before you open your mouth. Sometimes it happens before you’ve even laid eyes on them. When you enter a room, have your head up and your shoulders down. You belong there as much as anyone else. Be dramatic. Pause in the entrance and survey the room slowly. Allow your eyes to travel from one said of the room to the other. You may feel silly at first and wonder if anyone has even spotted you. I guarantee you, someone will.
  20. Strike first. There’s a man that looks like he can make your financial dreams come true. Don’t shoot him a shy smile and scurry off to the corner. Walk up to him confidently and say, “I’m Nadia. You look like an amazing person to talk to. You don’t mind if I sit here do you?”. You’ve complimented him, introduced yourself, and wormed your way into his evening in less than 10 seconds. Congratulations.
  21. Keep your body open. Not quite bold enough to walk up to a stranger? That’s okay, we’ll get there. You can instead invite him to come talk to you without saying a word. Use your body. Again, good posture is key here. Don’t slouch, or close your body off by clutching a purse or crossing your arms. Keep your body relaxed and open. Bonus points if you can find a way to rest or stand with your inner wrist and palms visible.
  22. Remember their events. Even the trivial ones. Everything is an event to us. You only have to turn to Instagram to find proof of this. You can find posts of everything that occurs in a person’s day from their breakfast to their choice of nail polish. Even the most mundane things hold significance to the person they’re happening to. Remember these small things and bring them up in conversation. You will be amazed at how much more admiration you’ll receive just because you can remember and express an interest in the small things.
  23. Don’t notice the little things. There are no bloopers. Notice the trivial events but don’t notice the trivial mistakes. He spilled a glass of water. Mop it up with a few napkins but keep talking to him as if it didn’t happen. People are more at ease when they know they don’t have to watch their every move around you.

The overarching theme of this book in my opinion is simple: great conversationalists understand that it isn’t about them. I was awkward and stilted in conversation because I focused on myself first and the person I was speaking with second. When I focused on them first, conversation and money flowed. I still prefer being alone but knowing that I can handle myself in any verbal interaction has boosted my confidence and made my interactions with others more bearable. I want that same confidence for you. You can do this. You deserve this. I believe in you.

My name is Nadia and I am a New Money Girl.

Nadia is important to me as an introvert. I don’t talk. I say just enough so that you don’t make me talk. But that’s not quite the same as a conversation is it? I encourage you to introduce a few of these tips into your life the way Nadia did: a few at a time. I think you’ll see that they make a huge difference. Can you believe we’ve already met over half of the girls? I hope you’re loving them as much as I am. 

Bring Nadia home today. Become a New Money Girls Art Collector

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#I NEED TO RANT (again) GUYS OKAY SO WHAT THE HELL??? WHY THE HELL IS THAT GUY IN THE SECOND GIF IN THE BACKGROUND POINTING AT THE BELLARKE REUNION?? AND IS THAT SINCLAIR HE’S TALKING TO??WHY AM I JUST NOTICING THESE FANGIRLS IN THE BACK? ALSO IN THE THIRD AND FORTH GIF, IM SURE IT HAS BEEN SAID BEFORE BUT I JUST FEEL LIKE WE NEED TO APPRECIATE MORE THE FACT THAT CLARKE KEEPS TAKING THEM FORWARD BUT THEN BELLAMY  TAKES CONTROL AND TAKES THEM BACK AND IT’S BASICALLY THEM SWINGING WITH EACHOTHER CUZ THEY’RE REALLY EXCITED TO SEE EACHOTHER OK LIKE WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON GUYS? PEOPLE ARE WATCHING YOU LIKE LEAVE THE DANCE FOR THE WEDDING DAY I swear everytime I rewatch this scene I notice new things and if you think I’m over this hug omg you are all SO wrong 

“You don’t live in my body. You don’t experience the struggles and wounds it carries. You don’t wake up every day with my thoughts and you don’t go to bed every night with my demons. You don’t know the burdens they impose or the distress and weight of the feelings they generate. As someone who is not me, you know very little about what it’s like to experience my reality — so you don’t get to dictate what should and shouldn’t be difficult for me. You don’t get to determine my needs and capabilities, and you sure as hell don’t get to decide the validity of my boundaries and self-care. I am the expert of my life. If I struggle with something, then I struggle with it. My experience isn’t right or wrong. It just is, and it’s mine — a fact that that makes my struggles real and true and valid. Your abilities and opinions are irrelevant in regards to my own. There is nothing wrong with me. I’m not weak or inadequate for struggling with things you don’t personally find challenging. And I’m no longer going to compromise myself to accommodate your narrow perception of human experiences. I know who I am and what I’m capable of. I know my limits and needs. And I know that I deserve better than someone who tries to convince me to abandon the things I need to take care of myself.

— Daniell Koepke

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inglês/english 
  1. talents: sleeping 

  2. i didn’t choose the boob life, the boob life chose me.

  3. this semester isn’t done but i sure am 

  4. never tell a fangirl to calm down. it won’t work 

  5. i dont know whats emptier, my bank account or my love life 

  6. if you eat enough pizza it tastes like love 

  7. im 900% ready for summer vacation 

  8. please don’t waste good pizza on bad people 

  9. i just want to sleep forever because dealing with people is annoying as hell 

  10. 2010 me would literally be terrified of 2015 me and I love it 

  11. why be moody when u can shake dat booty am i right ladies 

  12. quick tip: fuck off 

  13. i wish i had dora’s parents they let that bitch go everywhere 

  14. never trust anyone who can bite an ice cream without flinching that shit’s not natural 

  15. i wish I had a pair of skinny genes 

  16. still not exactly sure what studying is 

  17. when I die, I want my grave to have free wifi so people will come visit more often 

  18. “don’t be sad” ok im better now thank u 

  19. my parents don’t realize that i am perfectly happy avoiding humanity 

  20. why are u such a little bitch 

  21. why is every girl my age 1000% prettier than me 

  22. love me back 

  23. everyone is stupid except me

  24. stu(dying) 

  25. if im weird around u that means im comfortable around u 

  26. ur a lil bitch 

  27. im always hungry 

  28. dont be a dick 

  29. i want to sleep for like 30 hours 

  30. i have too many shows to watch maybe i should drop out of school 

  31. i got 99 problems but I’m gonna take a nap and ignore them all 

  32. I’m so cute why am I not dating anyone 

  33. baby girl please don’t trust these fuckboys 

  34. wear black and be gold.

  35. you can tell a lot by listening to a girl’s favorite song 

  36. who needs april’s fools when ur life is a joke 

  37. sorry mom, i only have a virtual life

  38. sarcasm is my only defense 

  39. I think I might actually be dead

  40. i dont argue, i explain why im right 

  41. 50 shades of tired 

  42. just imagine how great life would be if pizza made u skinny 

  43. i say idk a lot but trust me i be knowing

  44. can u lose weight by running away from ur feelings 

  45. dropping out of school to become a princess

  46. apparently, when you treat people the same way they treat you they get offended 

  47. me and my mom gossip about u 

  48. 420% good vibes
português/portuguese
  1. miga não força

  2. sou meio vagabunda mas sou uma boa pessoa 

  3. prefiro morrer do que perder a vida

  4. meça suas intimidades parça

  5. sua mãe pode até te amar mas eu não

  6. miga deixa jesus fazer a obra na tua vida

  7. o twitter pergunta o que ta acontecendo eu começo chora 

  8. isso fofa come mais chocolate continua comendo vai explode logo

  9. seu cu agr é meu

  10. quero voltar pro útero da minha mãe

  11. (✿◠‿◠) minha cara de quem se importa

  12. olha só onde estou parece q o jogo mudou n é msm

  13. vc está louca querida 

  14. vai com calma viado a senhora tem um cu só

  15. olhando pro nada pensando deus me mata 

  16. toma aqui as vírgulas que eu não faço questão de usar ,,,,,,,, 

  17. vc já caga pelo cu não precisa cagar pela boca

  18. miga seje menas otaria 

  19. vc que me seguiu fofa agr aguenta

  20. meu sonho eh ser uma diva pop 

  21. vc atingiu 100% do seu limite diário de ser otaria

  22. sєjє мєησs ρυтα 

  23. a solidão me fez fã de series 

  24. 420% paz e amor

  25. lembre-se que: não sou obrigada a te seguir de volta

  26. bebendo as lagrimas das inimigas 

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Alfred “I diapered your bottom but I sure as hell can spank it” Pennyworth

Dick “It’s so exhausting being the pretty one” Grayson

Barbara “Destroying and correcting your alpha male bullshit” Gordon

Jason “Too young for this shit, too dead to do anything about it” Todd

Tim “I’m going to stuff 37 marshmallows in my mouth, try and stop me” Drake

Stephanie “Let’s go grocery cart racing at 3 am” Brown

Cassandra “Don’t hate me cause I’m perfect, but if you do I don’t care” Cain

Damian “I am a small flea but like an angry, really talented flea” Wayne