I looked up Chuck Tingle 'cause I had not idea he was. I had hopes that they were going to provide more books for me to read. And well...I went to his site and looked at the paperbacks....I've made a mistake and I don't think I'll be able to un-see some of his covers. x.x
Look, I know it’s weird and if you’re not aware of what he actually writes then it’s hella weird, but the novels are actually some of the best poignant and satirical commentary on current issues.
I forget which one it is, something like “Pounded in the Ass by Medical Debt” or something and he basically breaks down everything wrong with the American health care system and calls out the need for social reformation because we are literally getting fucked by the system. Like I don’t care if his covers are fucking insane. I’m writing about bisexual poly werewolves punching nazis with their cute vampire bf who can’t stop adopting children and their bad ass wife. None of this makes sense just go with it.
So I know INTJs don't date much bc they are picky when it comes to close relationships. And while that's true for me, I do tend to get attached to someone (usually someone wrong for me) easily. It isn't until I actually analyze everything and realize I've made a mistake. I don't fall in love, I get infatuated with men. Is that normal for INTJs?
First off, “INTJs don’t date much” is a stereotype that isn’t backed up by any actual research.
If you’re getting infatuated but not developing any actual strong, healthy relationships, you might want to look deeply into what you want from a relationship. Are you looking for someone to fill your loneliness, or to complement your own life? No one else can truly fix loneliness; you have to do that yourself. Also, you may be idealizing the person you’re infatuated with, and not seeing them as they truly are. Are they really as amazing as your mind makes them out to be? Probably not. (Does that mean they aren’t worth loving? No. But infatuation is about idealizing people, while real love is loving someone despite a full awareness of their flaws.)
Mystic messenger prompt for inktober day 17 (late? Who said late?): favourite CG
There are two things that made me cry in this route, one for the sadness and the other was those two, because the sweetness of a parent who do her best with her mistakes and all, in hope that her child will grow happy. Just make me so emotional
I started drawing a picture a few years ago and never finished. I didn't even erase the pencil guidelines let along color it. The question is partly, how do learn to love drawing enough to restart or finish? I've asked many writers, how do I fight self-doubt so I don't hate my non-existing mistakes before I even start? There's the question of, how do I learn to love myself? Who do I want to be and how do I get there? I want to be the person who looks back and say it was all worth it. How?
Well gosh, if I knew the secret to being able to love oneself, my life would be significantly different – not least because I’d have made a fortune off a self-help book and lecture tour. That’s rather too psychologically profound for me to answer, I’m afraid! I can share my thoughts on drawing, though …
I’m not sure if this actually makes you feel better, but I don’t know a single artist who doesn’t struggle with self-doubt. If you didn’t have self-doubt, you’d draw something mediocre, think it was the best thing ever, and stop. Self-doubt is part of the package of continual improvement, I’m afraid. The trick is to keep drawing despite that.
Most people I know who have made a go of art as a vocation are the sort of people who need to draw to live, just as much as eating or breathing. They draw when there’s nothing in it for them, they draw when they get home from their drawing job, they would draw if all they had was some rocks and charcoal. This is probably the best counter to the self-defeating little voice. If you can keep your equation on the side of compulsion > inner critic then you will keep making things and keep improving. That, I find, is the only way to get that little voice to shut up: if you can show it undeniable, objective evidence that you are now less crap than you used to be, it will be forced to concede that it is not 100% correct in its low opinion of you. But you won’t improve if you let it win. So tell it something like ‘I hear you, and you may have a point, but I’m going to draw this anyway because I’ll be miserable otherwise.’ Thought patterns are habitual, and if you force yourself into this, after a while it will feel more natural.
Obviously you’re going to have bad times, and you may have to re-learn how to let yourself draw again, but as long as you keep wanting to draw, the power is yours to make it happen. Sometimes you need to abandon a piece that’s giving you grief, and sometimes you need to take a break from drawing to recharge, but as long as you keep coming back to it the little voice won’t win.
Hi ally this might sound weird but I feel like I have no future. I look at everyone around me and know they'll have an amazing life, but I just know I won't. I've made so many mistakes in my past, I messed everything up. I'm not smart or pretty. I won't have a great future so I don't really see the point of staying alive? I've made too many mistakes already, it's too late, too late to fix anything, I don't know what I should do :(
Hey lovely. I’m sorry to hear you feel that way. I’ll let you in on a secret though, most of us feel that way, at least once or twice in our lives. It’s sad, because we all have UNLIMITED potential, and can do literally anything we want to. You are smart. You are beautiful. You can be anything you set your mind on, just as long as you believe in it/yourself.
There’s a quote I love that goes ‘whether you think you can or can’t, either way - you’re right.’
If you have confidence and faith in yourself, there’s nothing that can stop you from reaching your goals. Similarly, if you tell yourself straight off that you can’t achieve your dreams and give up before trying, then you’ve already taken yourself out of the running and don’t even get a chance to try. That doesn’t seem fair, does it? You deserve a shot at life, just like anyone else. You’re a good person, you are a human being who makes mistakes like the rest of us, but ultimately wants to have a positive influence on this world… so choose to!
It is never, ever, ever, ever, ever too late to live the life you wanted, or be the person you want to be. Your past is only a story, and it only defines you if you let it. Don’t let it. Let go of any regrets - all we have is the present. The future isn’t certain either, so why not just focus on today? What can you do today that will make you happy? That will make someone else happy? What can you do today that will help you get that little bit closer to the person you want to be? I know it probably sounds like something you’d read on a mug or cheesy card, but YOU CAN CREATE ANY LIFE YOU WANT. Why are you saying you won’t have a great future? The only thing that determines that is you. Not your past, not your mistakes or your history, but the choices you make TODAY and from here on out! And if you think making mistakes or failing in the past means automatically failing in the future, let me tell you about:
Walt Disney - originally fired from his job at the newspaper because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
Albert Einstein - Didn’t learn to speak until he was 4, didn’t learn to read until he was 7, leading his parents and teachers to think he was mentally disabled.
Thomas Edison - Told by teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything”, was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough, and made over 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the lightbulb before getting it right.
Oprah Winfrey - Suffered an abusive childhood and then many career setbacks, including being fired from her job as a reporter as she was deemed “unfit for tv”.
The Beatles - Rejected by recording companies who said “we don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out”. The rest of the world disagreed on both counts!
Michael Jordan - Cut from his high school basketball team, and had been in the cheerleading squad previous to that. He said “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
JK Rowling - She was living in poverty, depressed, divorced and trying to raise a child on her own, depending on welfare support from the government and was rejected by publishers 12 times before finally having someone sign on for Harry Potter. In 5 years, she went from relying on welfare payments to survive by each month, to being one of the richest women in the whole world (and responsible for making me fall in love with reading/becoming the person I am today).
All some of the most powerful people and recognised names, all went through turmoil, and failed over and over before finding their biggest success.
Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game!
naughty boy's reaction at the mention of perrie and his "uhh i don't think i've ever met her" as in he has never even heard a word about her from zayn! lmfao so transparent, bless him. clearly not the utterly "love up couple" they're made to be. he and zayn seem pretty close so this in itself is enough for me to believe zerrie is total horseshit
Yeah, you’d think that with Perrie also being in the music business that they’d have some mutual music biz friends. Do they have any mutual friends, period?? Modest always makes the mistake of dragging things out too long. The longer the fauxmances last, the faker they look.