i've looked at this for more than a week and i still dont like it

laelaloo  asked:

Okay, I'm looking to get a cockatiel. I've been looking into them for WEEKS now, but I still feel unprepared, and I really want to get some actual first-hand knowledge from a person. I'm really not sure what to ask specifically! ^^; Any tips you'd give me, this being my second bird--after a budgie--and my first cockatiel? (Any knowledge at all would be helpful! from recommended cage size to what might be a good healthy diet!~) Please and thank you~~

hey darling!!! god sorry its taken me forty years to get to my ask, i’ve been so swamped at work IT SUCKS



1) ALWAYS ADOPT. i know you see that cute birbo in the pet store window, but please, PLEASE, refrain from purchasing him.  there are currently THOUSANDS of homeless birds in north america alone that need you to be their guardian. i know you want to save that baby from the pet store, but doing so continues the cycle.  they’ll just replace him and the horror continues.

2) GET THE BIGGEST CAGE YOU CAN AFFORD! do not listen to what the pet store clerk says (lol i worked in a pet store and straight up i would discourage people from birds EVERYDAY and tell them to rescue and that none of our cages are big enough, and they listened and adopted and im surprised the boss didn’t find out and fire me HAHAHHA) i would go to a bird specialty store to find your cage - you want to make sure it is durable enough, the bar spacing is correct (for a cockatiel you want them no more than half an inch space, theyre little and you dont want them to get stuck!!) i suggest powder coated cages, they’re easiest to clean the poop out of!!!!

3) GOOD DIET IS SO IMPORTANT. STAY AWAY FROM SEED!!!! seed despite popular belief is not very good for them.  it causes fatty liver disease and can make them ill and shorten their lifespan. (rose is now put on milk thistle-it buffersthe liver, as from the shit sanctuary she was from… god knows what she ate so now im in the process of getting her liver spiffy clean!) a good PELLET DIET is SO, SO SO SO IMPORTANT. and dont be discouraged, it is very hard to change a birb from seed diet to pellet.  so you have to change it over gradually and honestly, it can take a year to get that done.  rose is picky as hell, but i found a pellet she likes which are the Zupreem fruit pellets.  they’re not the healthiest, but they’ll do as now she is eating by herself.  i used to have to hand feed her ALL THE TIME like the diva she is.

 Here is a list of good pellets!! (from best to ok)

- Goldenfeast Goldenobles (quinoa based instead of corn, i wanna change rose to this when she’s ready!!)

- Harrisons Fine High Potency (start with high potency and then go to adult formula - gives em the nutrients they need for switching. corn based, and not my fav but it is vet reccommended but id say goldenfeast is better as corn aint that great)

- Pretty Bird (fruity and like, kinda okay? its better than zupreem lmfao but its very sweet, and makes their poo colourful)

- Zupreem (available at most pet stores, comes in fruit, veggie, nut, and natural flavours. what Rose eats and its a pretty good food. i believe its corn and soy based, not the best, and there is sugar in it, but its a good starter for your bird as they will most likely eat it because its colourful and sweet!!! from having Rose on a pellet diet - her plumage looks AMAZING)

all those brands come in different size pellets, i would go with the SMALLEST as it is easier for them to eat, and if you mix it with seed it kinda blends in hehe

4) DON’T JUST FEED PELLETS. A birbos diet should be 80% pellets (give or take) and 20% fruits, veggies, grains, and good stuff!!!! making a chop is a good idea, and you can freeze it and take out some everyday for their breakfast/dinner!!! Rose is very picky, and a rescue may be too, but do some research on what good fresh foods are good for birds!!! rose’s fav are zuchinni, peppers, pasta, scrambled egg (shes obsessed with egg) and chinese snow pear!!!

5) LOTS OF TOYS, AND THINGS TO DO!!! PIMP out their cage with dope toys, various perches and material (AVOID SAND ONES, HURTS THEIR TOES. get natural wood, rope (if u know they wont shred and accidentally eat it) and various thicknesses!!!) and im not saying spend a fortune (whcih i have with rose omfg) undyed popsicle sticks are amazing, paper, toilet paper rolls, cardboard etc they LOVE. but also, a good store bought toy is nice too!!! but most you can make from home!! plus i have a store where i have handmade toys, ill be posting more selection too!!

6) BE PATIENT WITH THE BABY! they most likely won’t warm up to you RIGHT AWAY (i mean they might, depends on their personality!) so do not feel discouraged if they dont want to play or cuddle right away. and heck, they may not even like cuddles. they’re as much as individuals as we are as humans. rose is usually attached to my shoulder all day, but some days honestly she just plays by herself and doesn’t want me to play with her HAHAHA. when you bring them home, introduce them to their cage and let them hang inside and get used to it.  sit near them and chat and offer some millet and let them come to you.  its a whole new world for them, so allow them some time!!!

7) and the most controversial topic… TO CLIP OR NOT TO CLIP? okay, my two cents on clipping goes as written.  if it is safer for them in your house, please get their wings properly by an avian vet or an experienced staff memeber at a bird specialty store. clipping them incorrectly can cause balance issues and confidence issues and trust issues. NEVER CLIP THEM YOURSELF AS THEIR OWNER. THEYLL BE PISSED AF. and most likely scared of you. if your house is unsafe -ie people coming in and out, small space, lots of windows, forgetful people that leave windows open, PLEASE CLIP THEM. it will save their life and prevent any deadly accidents.

if you HAVE THE SPACE. and know that they will be safe, and you believe they will be okay, leave them flighted!! it is much easier i must say having smaller birds flighted as they won’t be as cramped in a house as a big bird would be.  Rose is flightless as she chews her flight feathers, but they are growing back.  and even if they all did, my place is way to small to allow her to fly properly so i would keep her clipped for her safety.  also, if there was an emergency - such as a fire - it is much easier to evacuate a flightless bird than a flighted one.  i have really bad ocd when it comes to impulsive thinking and i obsess over how i would get rose out in a fire all the time… so keep a pillow case by the cage, and if god forbid that happened, grab your baby, toss em in the pillow case (protects them from smoke inhalation) AND HIGH TALE THEE FUCK OUT OF THERE. and that would be easier if they are clipped… just food for thought.  

anyway i hope this helped you and others maybe too!! im sorry this took forever to get to, my lifes been insane.  please do TONS OF RESEARCH TOO and look into rescues. if you need any more help let me know my love <3

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smowkie  asked:

"#also i am thirsty for some ballerina!Stiles #like secret dancer Stiles that nobody except scott knew he practice twice a week" I mean, I dont think anyone would mind if you wrote a fic or a headcanon about it... just saying. ;) ♥ (ilu and I've missed you, but i hope you had a great time and that you're doing well despite the world being horrible and people like trump & pence existing)

Here my dear :) I tried! This was written really fast during the night, so I’m sorry for the crappy quality. Hope you enjoy this little headcanon anyway :D

Originally posted by englishballetandtea

Originally posted by redfar

(Thank you to the great Sergei Polunin, who will always be the perfect dancer!Stiles to me. You can find one of his video here. Enjoy :p)

There was a black and white picture at his nana’s house, small and slightly crooked, lost in an old frame. Stiles was only a kid when his grandmother took it off the piano to show to him for the first time.  
The girl inside the picture was tiny, thin, with dark hair severely pulled back in a tight bun. Her face was turned to the side, her arms held high over her head in a graceful arch. She was wearing a tutu but the other details of her silhouette were blurred into yellow hues by the years.

Fascinated, Stiles sat near his nana and listened to stories of her youth in Russia. Of cold winters and women with warm blood and laughter. Of the peaceful studio with its dark wood and unending mirrors, and of the beautiful girls and boys that worked there every day to turn their bodies into art.
His nana kept getting more pictures out of old books, clips of newspapers in an unknown language or beautifully lit shots of dancers on stage. In the photographs, she was only a young girl, frail and beautiful and flying with the grace of a bird.

That’s how it all started.

In his nana’s living room, with her standing tall and proud on her old, damaged feet. At seventy years, she still looked tiny and weak, but she spun him around the room without effort, her feet quick and light. Her white hair floated and her smile was the most beautiful thing Stiles had ever seen.
On the sofa, his dad was clumsily trying to hum some classic melody, all eagerness and no rhythm. His mom laughed at them all and clapped, her enthusiasm and happiness intoxicating the room.

At five years old, Stiles bought his first ballet shoes. They were tiny, shiny and pink, and they didn’t make a sound when he walked shyly into Ms Muller’s dance studio. The wood in the room was bright and glossy, and light spilled all over the floor from gigantic windows. They were only seven other kids in the room, and all of them were girls.

Stiles didn’t care.

Ms Muller’s hands were strict and demanding, never treating them like the children they were, but her voice was warm and full of compliments. The weeks passed, and while Stiles started to tame his body into the foundations of grace, his brain stopped trying so hard to pull him in every direction at once.

In the studio, in the middle of the terse French words, the glittering music and the soft sounds of slippers on wood, Stiles discovered for the first time what peace felt like.

At seven, he swirled on the playground, arms held high in the air like his nana’s pictures. A kid pushed him hard into the mud with a sneer before calling his other friends to laugh at him.
From there on, Stiles decided to keep his love for ballet and his school life separate.
Scott was the only point of intersection. From the first moment they met, Scott was sincerely interested. He came to many of Stiles’ practices, sitting quietly in a corner of the studio and looking at them with big, brilliant eyes. Ms Muller often tried to convince him to join but Scott always refused, blushing and babbling excuses about his asthma.
The girls still got him to dance with them sometimes, dragging him along to join them in silly warming exercises. Scott once received Ms Muller’s congratulations on his fourth position and Scott had beamed at midair for three days straight.
Then, Stiles’ mom left them after months of terror and tears.
And Stiles danced.
He danced in the studio, in the dirt of the forest, between the suffocating walls of his room.
He danced for hours, pushing, bending his body.
He twirled fast enough to keep the world spinning, jumped high enough to keep breathing, learned to bow low enough to keep from breaking.
At night, his feet bled, his knees screamed in constant pain and his body turned into one big hurt.

But his mind was blank and he was able to sleep.
He didn’t dare ask for more.

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Lets Destroy It


note : luke is the name of your boyfriend not sure why just the name i came up with at the time 


i was walking home from my job i only work five minutes walk down the road from the flat i share with my boyfriend, luke as i get to our apartment block i see he’s already home as his car a range rover TD6 vogue is in the usual place i don’t have a car i don’t mind walking to town for work and shopping anything else luke does i slowly but surely get to our apartment on the 13th floor and stand just about to unlock the door when i hear the voice of a woman giggling and the voice of luke i slowly open the door and i can definitely hear voices more clearly 

“come on mary” luke says

“i don't know if we should today, y/n could be home soon” the female voice replies 

“oh who cares about her” luke replies i then walk further into our apartment to see our bedroom door is open and lights coming from it i walk to it silently and look through the opening to see some girl i don't know sat on our bed in her underwear and luke sat just beside her the two of them snogging looking like any second about to have sex i can feel the tears welling up in my eyes but i dont want to burst in and make a scene so i just go to the front door again and take his car keys and leave without making at sound i run down all 13 floors to get to the ground floor i then collapse and start crying my eyes out against the wall i don't know what to do i dont even have anywhere to go,

scratch that i do have somewhere to go i then storm out the apartment block and get in his car still crying and start driving  to the only place i know i can go i get my phone and put it on the dashboard and call up my best friend thomas i know he’s back from work at the moment as i was going to see him tomorrow anyway after three rings he answers

“hey love” he says with his always sweet sounding voice

“hey tommy, i have to ask a favour” i reply still crying

“sure what” he asks sound a bit concerned 

“can i come and stay with you tonight something’s happened with me and luke” i say crying my eyes out again 

“course you walking or driving” he asks

“driving i stole his car” i reply 

“quite the criminal aren't you love its fine i'll open on the the garage doors and you can park the car there” he says

“thanks tommy see you in a sec” i say

“see you love” he replies before hanging up i then just keep driving luckily thomas doesnt live that far away from me now i know what you're thinking how the hell do i know him simple really he was my next door neighbor growing up and i've always been friends with him i have even visited him on sets before when i get to his house its huge and he has opened one of the garage doors so i just park the car in the one that's open and get out with in seconds he’s there looking as he often does when i see him not really awake in skinny jeans and a light blue button shirt with sleeves rolled up to his elbows looking if in honest like a teenager but when doesnt he honestly he looks me up and down noticing im crying “what the bloody hell happened” he asks stepping closer to me  looking very worried

i don't reply just burst out crying again he just takes me in his arms and hugs me tightly so im crying on his shoulder he moves his hand up and down my back to calm me down whispering calming sweet things in my ear as well till he pulls away from me as i stop crying and he takes me into the living room a large room with bookcases of games and films everywhere he sits me on the sofa then goes off into the kitchen i just sit trying to hold back my tears till he comes back with a mug of something and puts it on the table in front of me “hot chocolate, the only truly good drink for sadness” he says making me laugh before i drink some noticing its (whatever you fave sort of hot chocolate is)

“seriously” i ask

“yeah, its always here for if this was gonna happen…..on that not what exactly has happened” he asks carefully

“i got home and found luke in the arms of some girl called mary” i say “they were sat on the bed close to snogging each others faces of when i got there and i overheard him say he didn't care if i was gonna be home he was too wrapped up in her arms to care” i say starting to cry again but thomas just hugs me tightly again 

“hey it’s okay, i bet that mary wasn't half as lovely as you” he says

“she looked pretty good from what i saw” i say still crying from what i sore though the door she was beautiful much prettier and thinner than me

“well i bet you're still better than her, and lukes and idiot if he cant see that, he must be blind to want to be fooling around with some other girl when he has you” he says to me 

“awe you always know the right things to say” i reply hugging him even tighter 

“its true thought hes an idiot to think any girl is better then you, i mean if i was your boyfriend i would be begging to get home to be with you i wouldn't even look at another girl if i had you” he says to me pulling away so he says it to my face 

“awe thank you tommy, but no one has me now luke can go fuck himself for all i care, he can go have a threesum with my boss and the queen of england and i still wouldn't care” i say trying to be all brave and stuff even though i know i don't have to be with thomas

“what you gonna do with his car though” thomas asks

“i dont know maybe dump it in a ditch and text him directions to the ditch i left it in” i say drinking some more hot chocolate 

“well if you want i have an idea” he says getting up and taking my hand dragging me back to the garage when we get there he looks around some benches and stuff he has for working on cars and bikes and gives me a huge bit f metal no clue what its for in car terms he then gets something similar “Lets Destroy It” he says

“what” i ask

“lets destroy it wreck it then dump it in a ditch on fire and tell him he wants his car its on fire at where ever we dump it” he says making me laugh 

“are you sure” i ask

“sure just don't hit me in your anger” he says

“i wont” i say fluffing his hair out its normal place something he hates me doing but because he hates it that i do it at any opportunity 

“Y/N” he complains like a child “you're worse then ava for doing that” he says

“i know well ava got it from me” i smirk walking to the side of the car and hitting the mirror right off well that felt good so i continued hitting the car smashing various things and thomas has joined me now both of us destroying his car till these not much on the outside not yet destroyed so i yell stop and sit on the bonnet a bit not completely wrecked and thomas sits beside me “you all don't destroying” he asks

“for a sec” i say a bit tired after destroying his car to this extent “did you mean that” i ask him 

“mean what” he asks

“if you were my boyfriend you wouldn't do anything like that to me” i ask

“i swear by that” he says

“i bet your girlfriend wont be happy with that, then again she doesnt like me very much does she old isabel she don't much like me, thats gonna be another argument i can see when she finds out you have allowed me to stay here and you're helping me wreck my ex’s car” i say

“well i imagine she wouldn't but it doesnt involve isabel she’s my ex now” he answers 

“when did that happen tommy and why wasn’t i informed” i ask 

“happened three weeks back y/n and you went informed simply because you were working when it happened and i didn't want to bother you” he says

“it wouldn't have been a bother tommy, i like to know these things what happened” i ask

“she left me because she doesnt like you” he says quietly 

“what” i ask

“she left me because she doesnt like you” he repeats 

“what the hell thats stupid im your bestfriend what the hell does it matter if she doesnt like me if she loves you” i ask

“loved me past tense y/n if she loved me, she doesnt like the fact i have a friend that i constantly talk to thats a girl she doesnt like she just assumes i would cheat on her at any moment” he says

“awe poor you” i say putting my arm around him “well what do you need girlfriends for tommy we're two of a kind” i say laying back on the bonnet 

“yeah we are just two kids that can't hold down lovers” he laughs laying beside me 

“yeah we are, but if i was your girlfriend i would care who your friends are if there girls, boys, rodents or ghosts there your friends and if they make you happy it would make me happy to make sure you're happy” i say 

“awe thanks love” he says turning to face me i just turn to face him two looking into his deep brown eyes a second but before i've really noticed we were both stareing at each other he leaned forward and kissed me a way i have never been kissed before a little kiss sparking butterflies, fireworks and all manner of lovely things as we moved our mouths in perfect sync with each other a while almost fully making out on the bonnet of my ex boyfriends car till we both pull away “wow” he says

“yeah wow” i reply 

“why the hell did i wait this long to do that” he says

“i dont know why i waited so long either” i reply before we both re connect our lips with much more passion than before till we both pull away again “i just wanted to say” he says

“what” i ask

“this friendship of ours Lets Destroy It” he laughs

“better Lets Destroy It and taint my ex’s car” i giggle 

“you are so a little criminal” he laughs at me 

“and proud of it” i say  as we both get of the bonnet and go into the back seats the second we both sit down we are making out again my arms around his neck his around my waist but slowly moving down to my thighs in response i begin to lay back and he just crawls on top of me fiddling with my skirt before returning to kissing me i quickly move my hands from around his neck to start undoing his shirt he moans into my mouth as i do till i completely take his shirt off of him the second i do he moves away from me and pulls my shirt of tossing it away into the front seats of the car before scanning me over with his eyes but i just pull him back to kissing me he then moves to start kissing my neck and i twist a hand in his hair as he sucks on a sweet spot on my neck and i moan as he does till his hands move to my skirt again and gently pull it off me completely adding it to the pile of our clothes on the front seats before scanning me again and reconnecting our lips and i move my hands down his chest feeling his toned chest the whole way down just pausing at the top of his jeans “what you waiting for love” he asks between kisses 

“nothing” i reply letting my hand undo his jeans and pull them down slightly revealing his boxers before i gently palm him and he moans into my mouth moving his hands to my chest feeling me even though my bra making me moan as well till i let my curious hand slip under the waistband of his boxers taking hold of him in my hand “ah fucking hell” he says in response before undoing my bra and removing it with his teeth making me laugh before he reconnects our lips yet continuing all the way down my chest to the bottom of my stomach just above my knickers  before i grip his hair pulling his lips back to mine and use my other hand to completely remove his trousers and boxers leaving him naked in front of me i can't help but sit there gobsmacked i have never seen him naked before, well i say never once after the last day of school all our friends went skinny dipping in the dark lake and we hwee amongst them but it wasn't for long and dark at the time i wasn't really paying much attention but now i am “what” he asks 

“nothing just wow” i say making him laugh before he slips his hand in my knickers and slips them off throwing them with the rest of my clothes “i could say the same to you” he says making me laugh “now are you sure” he asks me

“fucking positive tommy” i giggle he just nods before kissing me again and slowly but surely pushing into me filling me up completely almost making me scream there and then before he begins thrusting into me with as much force as possible both of us screaming and shouting for a while till i can feel my climax in the pit of my stomach and i know he’s not far off either by the noises he’s making and the fact his thrusts have gotten much slower and sloppier till i climax screaming his name at the top of my voice we are so lucky he doesnt have neighbours with in seconds he comes into me mixing our juices together  and he collapses on top of me “you think we destroyed our friendship now” he asks between his breaths

“yeah thats gone” i laugh

“what about the car” he asks

“one more thing” i say sitting up pushing him off me and moving into the front seat and he sits in the other seat i get my bag from the footwell and get a pack of cigarettes as both me and thomas smoke i take one and bass the pack to him as i get my lighter and light mine and pass him the lighter as he gives me back the pack and we both sit naked and have a smoke making the car smell of both sex and smoke “well that was brilliant in my opinion” he says

“right back at you tommy” i smirk

“so what is this” he asks

“well i don't know, whatever we both want i guess” i reply

“how about boyfriend and girlfriend” he asks

“fine with me” i answer

“how about date for dinner tomorrow night” he asks

“fine with me” i answer

“and how about you pack your stuff at lukes and come here” he asks

“fine with me” i answer leaning over to kiss him again we both then finish our smoke and get dressed again and get out the car “tomorrow we drive it into a ditch and text him where it is and while he’s out we pack your stuff up okay” he says 

“okay” i reply letting him wrap his arm around me and lead me to his room i just sleep in my underwear as i don't have any other option.

when we both get up we dress and take the car out i drive the car even though its destroyed and thomas follows me in his car so we can go to lukes and get my stuff when i find a long deserted road quiet far away and stop the car by the side of the road right next to a ditch i  get out the car and thomas gets out his car and stands with me “i say don't light it on fire actually” he says

“i agree, but can we put it it facing out so the windshield faces the road” i say

“okay” i answers 

“wait” i say just getting an idea and getting back into my ex’s car and sitting on the driver seat thomas then sits on the passenger seat to see what im doing  i get my lipstick out my bag and write on the windshield

 “i know about mary arse hole

 piss of luke 

x y/n” 

“brilliant love” he says beside me “but if i may add something” he asks so i hand him the lipstick and he writes 

“p.s. we did it on the back seat

you cheating lying bastard

x thomas”

making me laugh “brilliant tommy” i say we both then get out the car checking anything we wants out of it and pushing it into the ditch and standing on the road looking at it as he wrapped an arm around me “that is how you get back at your ex” he says we then use my phone to send an exact map reference to luke as to where is car is and a text that says pick me up on it then get back into thomas’s car and drive to my old apartment and wait till we see luke leave out for his car then rush up to the apartment and pack up all my stuff and load it into his car rushing off before luke shows up returning to thomas’s “so lukes gonna let him fuck his little mary, now i've got his y/n” he laughs hugging me

“not his y/n, your y/n now” i giggle 

“yeah” he says

“we really destroy everything don't we” i laugh

“yep” he says


I was going to have this be the first chapter to a long fic i’ve outlined, but I think it went in a direction I don’t like. Therefore I’ll just post it here for tonight and do the idea I was originally going to do tonight, tomorrow. :)


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flamio-hot-man  asked:

Hey beauty! as always I love your account. Your an amazing writer and I hope you are having a wonderful day/week! I was wondering if I could request dragons layer headcanons on their first date with their SO like what they did/ how they acted. Thanks so much! ❤️

your so sweet thank you so much!
but yes yes ofc you can have these headcanons of the dork dragonslayers

Natsu Dragneel:

  • probably looks like he’s chill, but is actually nervous as hell like omg someone help this nervous boy
  • i can imagine natsu taking you out to somewhere casual, but still good enough for a date like a picnic or just a walk in the town
  • might give you a kiss by the end of the night, but it will probably be a forehead one or one on the cheek

Gajeel Redfox:

  • you poor bby dresses up really nicely and even tames his long hair just for you
  • takes you to a really fancy restaurant that looks really expensive, and as much as you said he didn’t have to spend so much on this date he still did
  • probably gives you a kiss on the cheek or something bc he’s too nervous to do anything else

Wendy Marvell:

  • someone help this poor child also dresses up really nicely and makes sure 1000 times beforehand that she looks okay
  • takes you somewhere simple, like a casual cafe just because she doesn’t know where else to go probably doesn’t talk for the longest time
  • doesn’t give you anything and just runs away with a big blush saying she had fun

Laxus Dreyar:

  • takes you out for a picnic that the squad helped him fix up nicely so it has lights everywhere don’t be surprised if you see them in the bushes
  • doesn’t really dress up from anything different then what he usually wears, but makes sure he looks nicer than any other day bc dress to impress amirite
  • his gentleman side comes out and gives you a kiss on the cheek instead of lips like he wanted to, bc laxus knows how to treat someone right

Sting Eucliffe:

  • doesn’t really dress up in anything special, but (like laxus) makes sure that he is dressed that little bit nicer than usual
  • takes you out for a walk around the town, but be wary of taking him to the shopping district; if you like something he’ll buy it with no questions asked “you really didn’t need to” “bUT YOU LIKED IT, RIGHT”
  • gives you a forehead kiss since he doesn’t think he’s ready to give you a full blown kiss on the lips unless you asked

Rogue Cheney:

  • rouge cheney on a date? more like thE BIGGEST GENTLEMAN HOLY SHIT dresses up nice for you since he wanted you to see him looking his best for a first date
  • takes you out for a restaurant before walking around the town a little bit, since rogue thinks its the nicest at night
  • forehead kiss? nope. you get a kiss on the hand like a gentleman, since he doesn’t think he deserves to even kiss that cute face of yours


  • doesn’t dress up since he thinks it’s a waste of time, but does one or two things to make him look that little better seeing if you’ll notice he immediately denies he did anything if you did notice tho “cobra did you do something with your hair?” “i dont know what your talking about”
  • takes you out to a simple picnic since he is a criminal he can’t really do much about it without getting caught, but he still makes an effort and thats all you care about
  • as much as he wants to kiss you on the lips, he kisses you on the cheek since he doesn’t know for sure whether you’d care if he kissed you on the lips
47) "Why?" (part 2)
  • Anon 2: Do one where everyone tells Sammy why they love y/n, not just because y/n and Sam are dating but they have an actual reason why. title it "why?"
  • (SUPER LONG!!!!!!)
  • (This one is going to be more conversational. So this one is different than usual. enjoy. )
  • Sammy's POV
  • J: Aye Sammy, where's Y/N?
  • Me: She's in Y/H/T
  • G: When does she get here?
  • Me: She's not coming.
  • Mike: Oh, she's coming for christmas then?
  • Me: Nope
  • Nate: Wait, what? Are you going to her or something?
  • Me: No. We got in an argument last week. We were talking about when we get here for thanksgiving then she was like she's going to Y/H/T for thanksgiving so I was like ok we can go to Y/H/T for thanksgiving then you can come for christmas. Then she said she was going back to Y/H/T for christmas. And I was like wtf. We can't go to your family both times. What about mine? Basically she said SHE'S going home for the holidays and not spending time with me or my family. She did not want to tear me away from my family and she didn't want me to tear her away from her family!
  • G: Wtf that's kind of dumb. Madison is coming here for both events!
  • Me: SEE! THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYING! and I'm so fucking mad and irritated with this!
  • Annie: Sammy, you need to realize that she doesn't get to spend time with her family very often! You don't either! She wants you to spend time with everyone while she spends time with everyone!
  • Me: But it's the holidays! I want her to spend time with us for her to enjoy how we are and I want to do the same with her family!
  • Emily: That's understandable but Sammy,
  • Me: But nothing! If Madison can come, she should come!
  • Emily: Y/N and Madison are two totally different girls! They do things differently! They think differently! And you can't expect Y/N to do something because Madison does it! You can't expect Y/N to dress how Madison dresses! You can't expect her to react or feel the same way. She's not Madison! You have to respect that!
  • G: None taken. but *WHY*? just curious. I won't get mad.
  • Ben: Oh, I have my reason. When we first met Y/N, we asked her, her opinion on things. Yo, she is straight up real. I asked her, if one or more of sam's friends does not like you, what would you do? and she straight up said, "If one or more of his friends do not like me, and I did EVERYTHING I could for them to like me, then we will have to break up." I asked her why? she said "if they are friends, especially close friends, then he will consider them family! If family does not like me, that's it! Done deal. Because that is God's way of telling me, WE DO NOT BELONG TOGETHER! That there is someone out there more compatible for him and his friends and family! Never will I make a guy put me before his family and friends. I just came along the way, but them, they were there from the beginning. And I'm not going to waste my time on some bs relationship when I could be out there looking for the right one for me." After she said that, I gained so much respect for her!
  • Emily: I REMEMBER THAT! I remember asking her, her opinion on like, no offense Jack, but nudes, sex tapes, and leaked nudes. She said, "I feel sorry for the leaked nudes because they trusted someone and then they lost their trust. But at the same time, it's hard for me to be sympathetic because no matter how much you like someone, no matter how much you want to "fuck them," nudes are degrading. You were the one who decided to send them, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TRUSTED THE PERSON, YOU still sent them. It's hard for me to have an opinion. But at the same time it's disgusting how people are hating on the girls who do send it out like, why are we not hating the person that leaked it? Why are we destroying these girls' lives because of their trust in someone who threw that shit away? I love Madison, and I fucking HATE what people say about her because of this bullshit. LIFE HAPPENS. MISTAKES ARE MADE. GET OVER IT. In my opinion, the way I'd do it, I'd say, "the only time you'll see this booty and tits, you gotta be here physically, with your face between my legs. Until then, you gone have to wait."
  • Annie: I remember asking her about past relationships/hook ups and her past sexual experiences. She said, "I've had 2 real boyfriends in the past. Got cheated on both of them. So I'm very blocked off with my heart. As for past sexual experiences, I'm a virgin. so nothing to tell. As for hook ups, it's not that I won't do hookups, but I just haven't. I'm not going to have some random drunk guy stick his tongue down my throat. Nasty. I'm very conserved. If people do that stuff, do you. I'm not judging, but that kind of stuff, not my thing. And I'm not willing to just give my virginity to just ANYONE. It's not that I'm waiting for marriage, it's just I'm waiting for the right guy. Someone worth waiting for, as corny as it sounds, it's true." Since that, I've loved her.
  • Emily & Ben: Same.
  • J: Nate, Mike and I had a deep talk with her one time at like i think 3 am. When G and Madison were on a date and Sam was in New York.
  • (to be continued. these are too long for just one post. sorry!)

anonymous asked:

Ross acting really weird and skidding and finally one day, good up to Holly and mumbling "H-Holly? Do you think... If an angel died, would it go to heaven?" And at first she's confused and asked why he wants to know and he just says "Because I don't want to be alone we they finally... Leave". He motions towards the other room to where the other grumps are laughing and having a good time, "and... I wanna know if I can follow them. I don't wanna let them pass me by. I've become to attached"


I also wanna clarify that Holly isnt an angel, but a harpy and so she isnt immortal like Ross and Brian;; ALSO WARNING FOR SUICIDE MENTION AAAAA

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your hands, my mouth | naruto

pairing; naruto  ღ hinata

notes; naruto is a fucking giant but thankfully that’s okay because kitchen!!! counter!!! kisses!!!

notess; this gets kinda… steamy…


Naruto doesn’t think he’s ever complained about his work before. The adrenaline that courses through his veins when he lands a punch is undeniable, and there is a peace he finds in trekking through tree-ridden roads with earth at their feet. Sakura always brings bento with steaming rice and fish and chicken, and sometimes Sai draws their outlines against the sun. Missions overall make him feel like a better person, like someone who can ease his shoulders and breathe. They liberate him, to put it into words. 

But then again, so does she. 

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secret-l0u  asked:

I was raised in a normal family. I mean we ate meat, fish, eggs and dairy products. But when I discovered how animals were treated and slaughtered, I stopped completely and became vegan. The method they use in your country might be a little more human than what they do in the rest of the world, but it's still killing the animal. I've ridden horses since I was 2 or something. I still can't believe people eat them. How would you feel if you were to eat your dog? I'd kill myself first

So I’ve waited a long time to answer this, cause I’ve been really busy and such.. And I think this message deserves a proper answer.

So I am assuming this is bout the whole I eat horse meat posts. And I will talk about the horse meat industry in Norway exclusively. 

There is nothing you can call horse meat industry in Norway. It is an option to when you have to put down your horse. No one breeds horses for meat here. Seriously.

When you get the to the point where you have to have your horse put down, you have a choice, will you have the vet euthanize it or will you drop it off at the slaughter house. 
Lets have a look at the vet first: You have two choices, a needle or a bullet. It has been argued back and forth a lot, but pretty much everyone comes to the conclusion that for the horse, the bullet is better. The needle is better for us onlookers, but for the horse it will be over sooner with the bullet.
When the horse is dead (yes, i am not bubble wrapping this, it is indeed dead) a cadaver car will have to pick it up, cause it is illegal to bury these big animals privately in Norway. Something most horses don’t have the option to do anyway. And the horse gets lifted up by its hind legs, and gutted and emptied, think it is to stop pressure building up in their belly when they start decomposing. Especially when it is warm. 
Did i mention this car might not be able to come pick up the horse the same day? It might lay there for hours to days.

When my old horse died(colic) it was they day before christmas, so it could not be picked up for a week. It was behind our barn under a tarp for a week. Luckily it was winter and he was frozen, so he did not start to smell. Also he did not get gutted cause of this. 

The total cost of having my horse put down 8 years ago.. about $500 dollars.

 If you decide to have the horse delivered to a slaughterhouse, You load your horse on a trailer and drive it there yourself. You lead the horse up to the door, and they you get the choice to go in or not. If you choose not to, someone will lead him in, and within a minute he will be dead. You get your halter back. And that is it. That is the whole process of it. 

You will get paid about $300-$500 for this. (couldnt find the exact prices.)

There is NO animal cruelty involved in horse slaughter in Norway. None what so ever. If there is, it is cause of the owner. 

This is why I have no trouble eating horses slaughtered in Norway. 
What we agree on, you and me, is that we are against animal cruelty. What we dont agree on is what is the right way to deal with the body after.

But if we are going to go there, why is it ok to make bracelets of the horses hair and not eat the meat? 

I personally think horse slaughter is good. It keeps the population of unwanted and lame horses down. We can argue about what is more humane, a horse being lame sold off as a pasture ornament or having it put down. 

The truth is, a animals have no ambitions or a sense of time like we humans do. They live in the now. If we find it best to have them put down to make sure they dont get a bad fate.. They have no idea. 

What we can agree on, is that the focus on animal cruelty needs to be there. And I bow down you all the activists that make sure it is. 
I am completely on your side when it comes to how animals are treated while they are alive. I just don’t agree on the part after they are dead. 

I dont think there is anything bad with hunting for food (not trophy hunting), or animals being slaughtered as long as it is done as humanely as possible. 
One girl once argued that if the breed goes extinct if we stop eating their meat, its better than being slaughtered. I dont agree with this. I believe that having a big variety of animals on this planet is important. And a healthy slaughter cycle helps with this. As long as it is done properly, and the animals are happy while alive.

Sorry i rambeled a bit. But this is my view.. Prop left some important things out.. But think i covered the horse part properly at least. 

This is me saying goodbye to my man for the last time. (he was overdosed with anesthetics cause he was already drugged down severely)

anonymous asked:

I've been a writer for my whole life, but I'm not too confident in my ability. I don't know if you have time and I feel kinda bad for asking, but if I were to send you an excerpt from my project of three years, would you tell me what you think?

Hello, dear anon~ ♥︎

As it says in my about page, I don’t read manuscripts— not because I’m evil, but because I get (now) about 10-15 messages everyday from people asking me to read their stuff. The worst ones are the people who just send me links. Like, I sure ain’t gonna click that link, it could be a virus for all I know :0

Now, since I dragged out all the way my queue, I think I should at least tell you something.

I used to cheat. Badly. People used to send me stuff, a couple years back when I didn’t know better— and I wouldn’t read it. I was working 60+ hours a week. I was nearly killing myself… but people online wanted to know if their stuff was good, and I wanted them to write. So I thought of a compromise.

I would lie to them. Make up a convincing piece of advice, and go on with my life. I would tell them I loved their piece, and that I really enjoyed their characters. Oh, especially that one bit with the protagonist, they were just very authentic there. And they would… keep writing. They would finish entire books. Eventually I read them, and gave feedback (giving the justification that I hadn’t been too hard on them the first time). And nobody was the wiser. It was a pretty shifty thing to do, I still feel bad about it.

Ultimately… my feedback was not what they were looking for, and what you’re looking for right now. You want me to tell you that your work is good. You want me to tell you that you should keep writing. Because if I told you it was worth fighting for, you would keep fighting?

Let’s play a game.

Let’s pretend I read your work.

And I didn’t like it. There’s promise, but you need to clean up more. Also less adverbs, they take the punch away from some of your lines. Additionally, I feel that things just happen too easily for the main protagonist. I was never worried for their safety. I think you should revise the climax to make it more intense. Oh, and could you give your antagonist a more believable goal? I mean, does he really only want the protagonist dead? Is there seriously nothing else in the world that makes this character happy? It’s just a kid. Who cares. The antagonist has SO many resources, why don’t they just go buy an island and enjoy life instead of worrying about that shitty kid who ruined their plans once?

There. That’s my feedback. What are you going to do now? Are you going to give up on your art, your passion, your writing? Just because pink-haired, queer-as-fuck, M. Kirin didn’t like your writing? Fuck that guy. I hate him. He’s pretentious as fuck and his hair isn’t actually pink. Fuck him. Who is that fucker to say your writing is not good? He’s just a fucking fucker— and you’re AWESOME. You’ve been writing for way longer than him. You’re going to keep writing, because the opinion of one ASSHOLE is not going to compromise your art. You’re going to write for yourself, and you’re going to be proud of it— because no other writer in the universe could have written that. No one. It may not be finished, and it may not be perfect, but its YOURS. You made it. You worked for it. You forged words and characters out of the depths of your imagination and created something that the world had never seen before. Who are FUCKERS like M. Kirin to tell you that you’re not great? YOU ARE GREAT. EVERY PAGE YOU WRITE MAKES YOU BETTER, FASTER, STRONGER. YOU ARE GREAT, AND NOBODY CAN TELL YOU OTHERWISE. NOT YOUR PARENTS, NOT YOUR SCHOOL COUNSELOR, AND CERTAINLY NOT THAT FUCKING-FUCKER M. KIRIN ASSHOLE.

You ARE great. Your writing may not be perfect, but you ARE a great writer— because you want to get better. You ARE great, and NOBODY can tell you otherwise.

((ps: okay sorry for yelling at you, i just really needed to get that point across. sorry about that. i didnt meant to offend you if i did. also that is not really how i give feedback, it was all done in favor of further expressing my point. what i want to get across is that you don’t need me to tell you that you’re a good writer, anon, you are a good writer— because you’re writing and you want to get better. that’s all it takes. take pride in what you make. it doesnt have to be perfect, but if you dont believe in your writing how can you expect anyone to believe in it? be strong. i know you can be strong. okay now here are some hugs and kisses again sorry for yelling at you :c))

anonymous asked:

I've lost track of SHINee but honestly I miss them so much and I want to get into them again but I don't know where to gather information about what's going on atm and it makes me so sad. T^T


ok so this is whats going on idk when u stopped following but lets do a 2014 recap and 2015 so far

jinki had to do a surgery in july bc he has nodes and he was away from promotions for like ¾ months and they came to brazil which is the country i live in also in july but i didnt go see them bc i am poor rip 

uhh minho became one of the mcs for music core and he is the CUTEST THING srsly when taemin and jonghyun won on mucore minho was so happy and uwuwuwuw i thought i was gonna explode

anyway in 2014 shinee as a group was mostly inactive when it comes to releasing korean music BUT there is japanese stuff for u to listen to 

lucky star in may
downtown baby in september 
and the new album i’m your boy that you can download on k2nblog if you havent already (jams u must listen to are picasso and 365)

AND ofc that in 2014 there were also 2 amazing things for shiny wol 

  • in march, Key released his first collaboration/sub-unit album with Infinite’s Woohyun, under the name of Toheart. The album is called Delicious (tHIS LOVE THIS LOVE I SWEAR THAT ITS DELICIOUS I SWEAR THAT ITS DELICIOUS CMON GIRL LOVE IS SO NUTRITIOUS CMON GIRL LOVE IS SO DELICIOUS)
  • Delicious mv
  • Delicious dance version
  • Tell me Why mv
  • also, in August, Taemin, released his first sOLO album how about that the antis can suck my ass. Its entitled Ace, and the single is called danger and its so good and i am 3000% done w taemin
  • Danger mv
  • Danger dance practice (feat ian eastwood taemins tru boyfriend)
  • Ace concept video
  • Ace of ace

anyway then there was after ace and downtown baby were out there was JAT and jinkis and chois birthday and yeah 

taemin was also on a musical called goong in 2014 where he kissed guys on the lips god is real and god is good

okay 2015 

kim jonghyun killed every single one of us by releasing his first solo album called Base (ace, base haha jonghyun ur a noob)

the title track is called crazy (guilty pleasure), but everyone pays more attention to the other song on the album called deja-boo. the whole album is rly rly good and the mv for crazy is glorious oh god i love base so much

Crazy (Guilty Pleasure)
Déjà-Boo (stay oh cool)
Hallelujah dance practice (hallelujah is also my fav song on the album)
SHINee’s surprise party for jonghyunnie hyung jinki looks so good holy shit

ALSO like a week ago they released the new japanese single “Your Number“ and its so lame and so good and i love it so much and the dance is so good fuck my ass and oh lord look at jonghyuns hair eu não sou obrigada a lidar com ester tipo de coisa 

AAAAAAAANDNNDNDNDNDNDDNDDNDNDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD in like a week shinee is gonna perform for the first time ever on Tokyo Dome which is a rly big deal and everyone is sO EXCITED 

  • oh yeah taemin also performed for the president of south korea this year thats my boy my beautiful son i am so proud
  • kibum also fell in love with a nike headband and is using a middle part and i bet if anyone else tried to pull it off they would look stupid but key looks perfect he is jesus christ
  • jinki is still looking as daddy as ever
  • jonghyun  hosts a radio show called blue night idk if u know i dont remember when it started lol
  • uhhh taemin and key were on we got married and now taemin is gonna be on another dating show called match made in heaven and i think its gonna be cool bc the show is nicer than wgm so im excited for it
  • minhos hands are still my religion also pls i need justice for choi he is wonderful he deserves better put him on another kdrama or smth i nEED more minho
  • choi got into konkuk university on his own i am so proud my son is so grown up
  • jonghyun had blue hair for like 3 days
  • jonghyun also created memes this year when he wore an outfit that is the shinee world fandom color right but he also said its the listerine color and it was a mess the only problematic thing kim jonghyun has ever done was creating memes
  • jonghyun got instagram follow him @jonghyun.948
  • also he got a youtube channel which is realjonghyun90 what a surprise
  • idk what else to say

im sorry if i forgot something or if a date is wrong my memory is trash but i tried 

anonymous asked:

Sorry if this is a random question but i read you liked going to the gym and i'm just wondering how?I've been wanting to lose weight/take care of myself for ages (as they say exercise helps your mental health) but I just hate the gym and exercise in general and I was just wondering how you motivate yourself?

Sorry if this is lenghty I just have a lot to say on this!!

Yes, I work out almost every day yo. My motivation isn’t to lose weight in particular, I’ve been visiting the gym frequently for almost a year and I honestly haven’t lost a pound, But I still look different, a lot different, than when I started. I don’t do it for my weight, I do it for my health and that I want to be stronger. Your weight doesn’t have a direct corrolation to how much fat you have compared to how strong or healthy you are, for instance if you gain a lot of muscle without losing much fat you’re gonna gain weight (muscle weighs more than fat!) and the fat is gonna stay on top of your muscles.

It really helps for me that I genuinely like going to the gym like. Like challenging myself to lift as heavy as possible is just enjoyable to me. I think they key to excercise is to find something you really like doing. For instance I know tons of people who go to the gym just because they want to look fit and lean and are actually bored to death there. Try new things, eventually you’ll probably find a sport or activity you really like! 

And if you reeeallly don’t know where to start, try to do something active for 15 minutes every day. Like take a walk/jog, do some excercises at home, anything just to activate yourself.

When it comes to weight loss in general there are several things that could affect you (since I don’t know anything about you or your body) so Imma make a bullet list:

  • You eat sugar on a daily basis. I’m serious, cut that shit out, it’s so bad for your health and it causes your body, esp ur tummy, to look swollen. There is a ton of hidden sugar in almost every pre-prepared food you can buy in the market, try to cook your own and make snacks that arn’t based on sugar like candy and chips. There’s a lot of recipies out there! For more info on sugar and how it affects your body I would suggest watching the documentary “That Suga Film”.
  • (sidenote) It’s really really hard to stop eating sugar. Once you’re in it your body craves it. When I came back from Thailand last month I didn’t care about my diet at all I was like… yeah I’ll go back to eating healthy soon… .. When I finally sat myself down and went like ok stop ruining your body it took me 2 weeks to stop craving sweets. Once you’re out of it you feel almost no craving to eat sweet stuff at all. It sounds so fucking cliché but it is true, it really is.
  • If there’s a specific area that you think have more fat than your average you could have an hormone imbalance. It’s really common, and can be caused as well as fixed by a specific diet. You can easily find tons of research of it on google.
  • Your metabolism is really slow. You can speed up your metabolism by for instance eating more often but less than you would otherwise. This keeps your metabolism going through the day. Skipping a meal wont slow it down again and “ruin your flow”, remember that. Also eat more slowly. Then of course the obvious ones: gain muscle and do tons of cardio. Cardio in particular is the winner when it comes to increasing your metabolism. Gaining muscle helps burning more by doing nothing, the more muscle you have the more calories your body need.
  • You just like to eat. And by that I mean eating two or three portions when one would have been enough, eating cause you’re bored and have nothing else to do. This one I struggle with myself, I just fucking love food. But if you’re always over eating it could really help to narrow down your meals to one portion at a time and not eating in between meals (I suggest you eat 4-5 smaller meals a day. I eat 4)
  • Eating less meat, especially red meat, can really help you keep your weight in check. I’m not telling you to become vegan I’m just telling you to not rely solely on meat for food.

Do not by any means skip meals or starve yourself for extended time periods, it will only make your metabolism go kaputt and can cause metabolic disorder. Always make sure you eat but you eat right.

Sorry again that this is really lenghty, but I hope you got something useful out of it! Also dont hesitate to msg me again if you got more questions!!

irisparkwests  asked:

Is it too much to keep asking for overtime when i work more than 40 hrs a week? I work at a diner-type restaurant and i often work way more than 40 hrs a week, but I often don't get paid overtime unless i bring it up to my boss. I've looked it up and afaik I'm supposed to be paid that, but most of my coworkers are like, "most other restaurants dont pay overtime so as long as you're still making money it doesn't matter." I'm just tired of asking all the time. Am I asking for too much?

one direction // preference // he sees you after the breakup
  • harry: it'd been two months since you'd last seen each other - and that was when you were leaving his apartment for good. there had been too many fights since you were both getting more and more stressed and just taking it out on each other, so you decided it'd be best if you split. you were doing okay, not great or anything, but you were okay. that was until you saw him at one of the clubs you'd gone to with friends, him across the room and clearly having noticed you. a part of you wondered whether he'd known you'd been there all night, since he was watching you so intently. and after you tried to ignore his presence for a good half-an-hour, you eventually walked over to him and said hello, where the two of you went on to chat just like the old times, and somewhat fall back in love; even though you never fell out of love.
  • zayn: the breakup was messy, filled with tears and yelling and you storming out of the apartment and never returning. you had ignored all his texts and calls, not wanting to fall back in love with him only to get hurt by his career again. you still loved him though, but the lack of calls made it easier for you to resist all urges to see him. and then you ran into him while you were shopping. at first he just apologised and went to keep moving, but as soon as he relised who he had just bumped into, he held your arms, shaking his head with a smile. 'so good to see you.' he nodded and you couldn't help but smile, agreeing. you really had missed him, and a huge part of you just wanted to invite him back to your apartment so you could spend the night watching movies like you used to. so you did.
  • louis: it had been over a year, and while you were doing much better than you were doing when the breakup happened, you still weren't 100% over him. it was strange, no matter who you dated, you just couldn't stop comparing them to what it was like to date louis tomlinson. no-one was ever good enough to compare to him. there hadn't been any texting all or calling, and honestly, you missed being able to see him in person and behind the closed doors. so when you bumped into him at a coffee shop, you couldn't wipe the smile from your face. the two of you chatted for a while before louis offered to take you out for dinner in a few nights, and not one part of you even though about saying no to that offer.
  • niall: the break up was a mutual decision - well as mutual a break up can be - but that didn't mean you weren't still hurting. it'd only been a few weeks since you broke up, and between then and now, the two of you had text a few times when you were both missing each other. however, you were still majorly surprised when he walked through the door of your work, hands in his pockets as he walked straight up to the counter where you were standing. with a soft sigh he looked down, before looking back up at your face, 'i dont think i can be without you anymore. i think this breakup helped us sort of... get out bearings, but i feel incomplete. and i know most breakups are like that and most people would just say i'm still getting over it - but i don't think i'll ever get over you. i'll always want you. so... i think, if it's okay with you, we should get back together.'
  • liam: he had spotted you across the room at an event, seeing you standing with a few well-known faces that you'd become friends with after meeting liam. everyone knew about your breakup, and the magazines had a great time displaying pictures of liam with any girl that wasn't you. sure, it kind of hurt, and although magazines had never told any truth while the two of you were together, there was a large part of you that couldn't help but think that perhaps liam had moved on and was seeing another girl, or sleeping with a few. but as you caught his eyes across the room, all you could manage was a sad smile, lifting your drink in a sort of 'cheers', before turning back to your friends. that was until liam was beside you, whispering in your ear to speak to you in private. as you followed him out to the hallway that lead to the bathrooms, he held you close and pressed a kiss to your lips, shaking his head, 'i've wanted to do that again for so long.'
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anonymous asked:

So I would love a random lady's opinion and I've been following you on here for a while now and I think you're pretty real. So I've been single for a while,I have no problem talking to girls or asking them out on a date or talking literal nonsense. Most the girls I do end up asking out on date usually are taken, then the ones who do give me their number don't reply or follow through plans. I usually text the next day, dont believe in 3 day rule I'm funny about it. Am I just unlucky? lol

I wouldn’t say you’re unlucky at all.

It may be your approach or the girls you are choosing to pursue. I am assuming you don’t get to know the girls very well before you attempt asking them out based off of what you said about how some turn out to be taken and not waiting when you receive their number so this could be where you’re going wrong. 

Most women who are looking for a meaningful relationship won’t jump into the idea of a date with a stranger right away. Women want to give their time to people they can trust and enjoy wasting hours with, we even choose our friendships usually based off of these two key points.

When you start talking to a lady, just get to know her for a couple of weeks. Don’t give off the idea that you are looking for any sort of commitment right away because that might scare them off considering they don’t know you and you are trying to get serious too soon, just have fun (I don’t mean just become fuck buddies, I mean actually go out and do fun things together) but don’t call them dates either.

Take them out to cool places you enjoy that aren’t considered “romantic” either by yourself or with other friends so they feel important because they know you want them to be involved in social activities even if you aren’t getting anything out of it other than their time. When a girl really wants to meet a nice guy, she wants to feel like the guy isn’t just taking her out or doing nice things for the exchange of sexual favors. She wants to feel like hanging out with her is a good enough of a reason to, well, just hang out.

Take time out of your day to just talk to her, find out how her day was and help cheer her up if it  wasn’t too great of a day by giving her a small pep talk but don’t be aggressively flirtatious. It’s important to feel heard and understood but it’s even more important to feel like you can vent or talk to someone who has your best interest in mind because they want to know who they are confiding in will try to help and not just allow their concerns to go in one ear and out the other. If you flirt with them and you two don’t know each other well, it’s safe to assume that you flirt with just about anyone who gives you the time of day. I cannot tell you how annoying it was when I would tell someone about my bad day and they would just respond saying something like “oh i’m so sry bby that sux but at least you’re cute!!!!” Calling me baby and and telling me I’m cute isn’t going to help me feel better when I’m financially unstable or when I got into an argument with someone close to me. Helping me through it by researching small solutions, giving me levelheaded advice, or by suggesting ideas to help me overcome whatever I am going through will though. 

After you’ve been corresponding with each other for a couple of weeks and / or have spent enough time with each other where you no longer feel like strangers, if you feel like you are still interested in her (remember, it’s not whether or not she actually is interested in you but also whether or not you’re interested in her) ask her when she has a free night and then ask her if she’d like to go out for dinner or whatever you have in mind that night. She can’t use the excuse “I can’t, I’m busy.” because she just told you she’s free. Because you have never asked her to do something together that is exclusive or date-esque, she will probably get the idea that you are romantically interested in her pretty quickly and she will either say yes or no.

In case you decided that you are not going to pursue her after getting to know her, no hard feelings involved! You have only treated her like a friend, therefore you have not led her on in anyway and she won’t feel low about herself because you didn’t go from flirting with her to never responding to her. Friends understand when a friend becomes busy with other things in life and can’t talk as often, that happens to the most of us as we grow up. I have tons of friends I used to talk to everyday but as time went on, we stopped talking as regularly but I know they are always there if I need someone to talk to or see. And trust me, you will feel a lot better about yourself  because if you decide you only like her as a friend, you won’t feel like all of your efforts have been wasted. You didn’t lose someone in your life, you gained a friend and we can never have enough good friends.

If she says she will, awesome! You’ve got yourself a date with someone who you know is reliable because you’ve been talking and / or hanging out with! You have an idea of what their life is like so any unusual behavior like blowing you off will be easy for you to read. If you do take her out, give her a subtle idea of what you two will be doing but plan a little more for the night (again, I don’t mean sexually. You need to show her that you have an adventurous side that isn’t just in bed) so you catch her off guard and because she didn’t anticipate it, she will be even more excited because you set the bar low but aimed high to show her a good time. I love when I’m expecting a great night with someone but I love it even more when they surprise me with an even greater night. You will know some of her likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests etc. as well because you took the time to get to know her, so you will have a pretty sharp idea of what type of date she would enjoy.

If she says she won’t, it’s okay! She got to know you and obviously likes who you are as a person because you’re still communicating but maybe she doesn’t think you are compatible or maybe she doesn’t know you well enough. You never actually said it was a date yet, so the awkward level won’t be too intense for you to handle. I’m not saying doing all of this is going to land you dates but it is going to help you rule out who is worth chasing after and who isn’t. Always keep in mind that if you want a meaningful relationship, you need to find a girl who always means well. Not a girl who is always out doing stupid or crazy shit, she is in a stage of her life where being wild is a priority. Find someone who focuses most of their time doings things for their future, those are the people who take every decision into account when it comes to what they want in life.

Hope this helps!