I feel like some of the similarities/differences/crossovers between autistic and ADHD people, are a lot like the similarities/differences/crossovers between bi/pansexual people and asexual people.
In all four cases, there are:
people who don’t think it exists
people who think it does exist but wish you weren’t so obvious about it
a lot of people who are one of those four things and pass for “normal” and it feels wrong
a lot of people who can’t pass for “normal” even if they try
a lot of people who are one or more of those things and aren’t sure which they are? maybe I’m one? maybe I’m both? maybe I’m neither? shit.
no but seriously it can be hard to tell them apart sometimes????
people telling you that you’re not permanently different! you just need to try harder! you’re just trying to be a special snowflake! (those people are jerks)