(this is basically stream-of-consciousness so don’t hold me to any of it but) I think one of the many reasons i love Finn/Rey so much is because it actually does start out as a friendship?? like so many fictional het relationships come out of nowhere, out of enmity or purely superficial attraction. there’s no real foundation there. or, conversely, when they are built on friendship, one person is already “secretly in love” with the other, which is frustrating sometimes in that it tends to be inorganic when written poorly. you’re told outright person a loves person b, and that you should care, but not why you should care. finn and rey differ from these because they are equals. they are given separate introductions, they are explicitly established as their own people, and when they do finally connect, it’s as equals. and it only builds from there.