Go read my fic. I have 60 of em (and only TWO, that’s right TWO are still in progress) and some of them are really sappy and dumb (if you’re into that garbage :D :D :D) and some of them are angsty and some of them are all about gettin’ that D in, and maybe one? (maybe?) is rpf, but basically what I’m doing to cheer myself up is reading good old johnlock fic. And if you haven’t read mine, well, read mine, because I’m desperate for attention and I think my stuff is as least pretty good? And might put a smile on your face?
Oh, and I have one about Sherlock watching John play rugby and then they bone. So. Yeah.
Extreme extroverts need to learn to not talk over introverts or just generally quiet people. They literally add to the stereotype that quiet people never talk by not giving them the chance to speak. They’re literally attempting to erase people different from them by not giving everyone the chance to be heard.
The woman I work with always seeks out the spotlight. Always. She actively speaks over me and has to be the center of the conversation, citing the reasons that “well I’m just a social butterfly and you’re so quiet, so you must not want to talk”.
You can say all you want that “it’s not an extrovert thing, that’s an asshole thing” but she’s being socially rewarded for her extroversion. So it’s not just an asshole thing, it’s because society values extroversion over people who aren’t. I should not have to change who I am, and make a change that is detrimental to my mental health, to find a place in society. Society should be for all of us, not just one personality type.
Introverts, particularly those like me who struggle with mental health problems, can benefit from socializing. But when you shut us out of the conversation because “I probably don’t want to be involved anyway” you’re making some very serious, false assumptions and potentially adding to the problem where we increasingly feel like we don’t matter and that there’s no place for us.
I have no friends. No one. I work such long hours that I don’t have time to socialize outside of work, and even when I do have time I’m so emotionally drained that I can’t. My classes are all online, so I don’t have a chance to socialize with my classmates. My job is the only place I can actually make friends but I am being actively shut out.
I’m horrifyingly lonely. I go to work, and I got home. No one texts me, no one contacts me. I have an online relationship with a guy who is often too busy to spend time with me. So to be shut out on top of all of that is absolutely painful.
She always rants about racism, which I get. But she doesn’t realize that for as aware as she is about that one topic, there’s a whole mass of other social issues she frankly ignores, that she adds to. It’s shameful.
okay folks there are too many people over in my house like there are two families there right now in addition to mine and it would be fine but a. There are other t e e n a g e r s who don’t get my very awkward not-so-funny humor style, and also some people are staying the night and it is just stressful and bad and i want it all to stop and