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Chapter 136

People. People, this chapter was so good!

I can’t really explain why I feel this way. Perhaps there are people out there who will say “But there didn’t happen much in this chapter!” and I will absolutely agree with them. And disagree right in the same breath. Because while we haven’t even switched places or perspectives much, while there hasn’t been a fight or a sudden revelation in this chapter – there was so much in there.

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stardust-stims  asked:

I have a relatively new pixel art blog that's looking to start selling stuff on society6 soon and I was wondering if you're okay with saying about how much money you make from your shop in a certain amount of time? If you even keep track of such things in the first place. I've been wanting to see how much bigger artists are able to make so I know about how much I might be able to make. I'm a poor young adult so I really want to know how much an art shop helps out with money ^-^;

Sure, I’d be happy to talk about this.

I made about $300 combined last month across both my print-on-demand shops. That’s the best month I’ve ever had (and hopefully part of an upward trend, but could just be a one-off).

A couple things to note: 1.) I still need to pay tax on this money, so the actual pocketable amount is smaller. 2.) I’ve been doing this for several years, and it took me a long time to get to this point!

Everything you ever wanted to know about selling Print-On-Demand art 

(actually not nearly everything, but at least some things!)

There are a lot of print-on-demand (POD) services out there. A POD service means that you have a digital art file, you upload it to the site, and the site makes it available in an online shop. When a customer buys your art from the shop, the POD will process the customer’s payment, manufacture the item, and ship the item to the customer for you. You never actually see the product! It goes directly from the printer to the customer.

Some POD stores are society6, Redbubble, CafePress, Zazzle, and fineartamerica.com. There are probably many more! They don’t all offer the same products: for example, you can buy this dress on Redbubble, but not society6, even though I have the same file uploaded to both. Society6 doesn’t print on dresses (yet).

Which site should I use?

I dunno!  I use society6 and Redbubble, not because I’ve evaluated all the others and found them lacking, but just because I knew people who were using them.  And knowing someone who’s tried something and liked it made it easier to try.

Different sites have different audiences, so I’d look at a few and try to find which one fits you best.  Redbubble skews a little more tumblr, society6 skews a little more hipster, Fine Art America skews a little more art major. You want to sell your art where your audience is already buying things!

My pixel art does way better on Redbubble than society6, even though I’ve been active on society6 much longer and have a more established presence there.  My non-pixel art (this is one of my long-time best sellers) still does pretty well there, even though I haven’t done promotion for most of it in years. There’s just an audience there that likes it!

How much money will I make?

Profit margins vary from site to site, and from product to product. Society6 mandates a set price and artist profit margin for most products across their site. Redbubble allows artists to choose their own profit margins and prices. Probably other sites are a mix of the two. This tote bag is $20.00 on society6 (I get $2.00) and $23.98 on Redbubble (I get $10.65.). This iPhone case is $38 on society6 (I get $3.80) and ~$37 on Redbubble (I get ~$12).

Of course, it doesn’t matter what your profit margins are if you don’t sell anything.

How do I get noticed and make sales?

Short answer:  make art, and make a lot of it—often and consistently.

I can only speak directly of my experiences with s6 and RB, but probably other services are similar. (And honestly, the same strategy holds true for growing an audience on tumblr!)

If you have 30 pieces of art, it’s better to upload them one at a time (once a week for thirty weeks, or twice a week for fifteen weeks) than all at once.  Both s6 and RB have a community aspect, which means your art will show up in the feeds of other artists, or may be curated into collections by staff or volunteers. 

Every day that you upload a new piece is a day that someone might notice and promote your work.  

If you post thirty things all at once, someone who likes your work will probably only promote one or two of their favorites (and may even be annoyed that you’re dominating their feed).  If you post thirty things one at a time, that same person might promote every piece they see.  (They probably won’t see all of them.  It won’t be 100%.  But still, much greater visibility for you.)

I try to upload one new thing every week.  If I have a really productive week and finish three designs, I’ll usually hold on to the extras to give myself a buffer for future weeks.  If I can, I maintain a buffer of 3-5 designs.  It means I’m under less pressure to produce, and I can have more fun creating.

Anything else I should know?

Originally posted by sp8cebit

Making money from art is hard!  And oh, gosh, there is constant self-doubt.  I follow some of my favorite (independent!  commercially successful!) artists on Twitter, and they still post about how discouraged they feel sometimes.  It comes with the territory, I guess.

Just keep going.  Show up for yourself.  Set easy goals and reach them.  Set hard goals and reach those, too!  Keep trying!

When I first set up a shop on society6 several years ago, my goal each month was to sell anything.  Any single thing.  When I was doing that consistently, my goal was to make $20/month.  Then $50/month. 

Have a dream goal in your mind, but a “next step” goal in front of you.  

For me, the dream goal is “I want to be able to support myself by selling art!” and there’s a dollar amount associated with that.  I’m not nearly there!  My next-step goal is “sell enough art in a month to pay my share of the rent” and I’ll achieve that by the end of the year.  The next-step goal after that is to be able to make rent consistently.

The dream goal keeps you going.  The next-step goal keeps you focused.

(You’re gonna do great.)


shellynikohara  asked:

Hey may I am you something? How does someone get noticed and popular like you? I've been trying a lot but nothing seems to ever work. My art never gets noticed and I'm starting to get desperate. Please tell me how to get noticed!

Okay from what I have noticed a lot of people get popular on youtube or tumblr by doing the following: 

A. Appealing to children. Yall are gonna dislike this one, but the majority of people who have time to be involved fans of things are underage. Typically around 12-14. The majority of my audience probably falls in this range, and as such I tend to tailor my content towards that. AKA I do a lot of ship videos, since 12-14 year old fans like to squeal over them, and I do a lot of edgy shit, since 12-14 year olds are typically pretty edgy. 

B. Consistent storyline/schedule. You’ll notice that the videos of mine that have the most views are parts of a series. Ask blogs also tend to do well if they have a set schedule and update very frequently, honestly you don’t even need to be that good. Like I’ve seen a lot of people who I’ve honestly thought are not that talented get extremely popular because they do really popular fan comics and update a lot. Same goes for undertale comic dubs. I’ve seen a lot of people who are bad at making videos and bad at acting in general thrive because they chose a series no one else had seen and stuck to it. That brings me to the third thing actually

C. Do things no one has seen yet. You’re not going to get popular by releasing worse versions of things people have already done. This applies moreso to youtube I think, getting to the series first is a BIG part of getting popular if you’re not a very well known youtuber. Like I’m gonna hear some of you say “buT YOU DO SERIES PEOPLE HAVE ALREADY DONE WHY AREN”T YOU FOLLOWING YOUR OWN ADVICE” well let me counter that. I currently have around 240000 subscribers, so most of the views we bring in now are directly linked to the popularity of our channel, and not necessarily the comic itself anymore. Don’t get me wrong, the comic is a huge part, but we are a pretty huge channel. However, I got popular due to underline, there’s really not much denying that. I loved the series, and I still am fully indebt to the creators for being such amazing people, because they truly got me to the place I am now. This is because everyone had done underline part 1, but no one had continued it. I did, and that alone got me around 20k subscribers. 

D. Actively try to improve. It honestly doesn’t matter if you start out weakly, or if you don’t really know what you’re doing or how to do it. Take a look at my first videos, they were AWFUL. Everyone starts out not really knowing what they’re doing. Don’t let that deter you from actively trying to become better. And remember, the best way to do that is practice. Sure you’ll get some haters in the beginning, but try not to let that affect you and push forward, I promise you its worth it! 

E. Sometimes there isn’t a secret to success/Focus on your own work. Sometimes people will just like something that you think is absolute trash, and you’ll ask yourself ‘how on earth did they get popular??’ but the internet is a weird place, and people can just spontaneously become popular sometimes. If their art/content has worth to someone, you can’t deny that. And because of that, I recommend not getting super invested in that and being like ‘THIS PERSON IS POPULAR BUT IM NOT???? THEYRE GARBAGE THO? I QUIT’ like just try to focus on your own work and don’t get too caught up in other popular blogs/content if you dont have a similar format. If you do however, I actually recommend keeping an eye on them and see what they do, since it can be really fun to do some crossovers or possibly get to know them.

F. Make friends. that one’s pretty self explanatory. 

ANYWAYS this was my very long and very indepth guide to my “secrets to success”, although the important thing is to not get too caught up in this kinda stuff and just have fun making your content. I wish you all luck~ 

also the only reason I really gave such an indepth answer is a lot of yall have been asking me similar questions, so I thought it would be nice to sit down and fully explain. 

imthepunchlord  asked:

I have a request, or could just count as a question instead; but I'm kind of curious to see feral!Adrien's reaction to a sick Marinette, even more so since I don't think he'd ever come across someone sick before with humans keeping to their homes when sick. So I'm curious on what he'd do and how he'd respond.

…. You just… totally went there didn’t you?

You’re right that Adrien hasn’t had interaction with other humans, so he wouldn’t notice it at first. It’s Plagg who does.

Plagg is the one who notices most things before Adrien. Whenever Marinette makes her way from the camp, Plagg’s ear twitches before Adrien hears or sees her, even though it’s Adrien who sits staring at the direction she would come from. It’s always Adrien who jumps up when she does arrive, though; Plagg usually just yawns and stays comfortable in his perch in the trees.

But one day when the weather is cool and gloomy, Plagg actually lifts his head and sniffs the air. Adrien follows his example, but picks out nothing amiss except for the impending rain. When the awaited sound of shuffling leaves come, it’s much louder and conspicuous than usual. Marinette finally stumbles into the clearing and Adrien bounds up to her, standing up to his full height before giving her a sweeping bow.

He greets her with a perfectly executed, “Good afternoon, My Lady!”

Adrien might not be able to always speak in long, properly full French sentences yet, but he makes sure he gets that one right, if only for the face Marinette makes whenever he does. Her expression is always somewhere between impressed and amused and also unimpressed. (Alya says it’s called, “endeared”. (Marinette only rolls her eyes. (Alya says that one is called, “in denial”.)))

“Lend me your arm for a minute?” she asks the moment Adrien takes his seat beside her.

“Okay,” Adrien readily agrees, holding his arm out. This isn’t new, he thinks: Marinette has already done lots of sketches–“studies”–of him before. But instead of inspecting the exact curves of his muscles as she usually does, she instead ducks her head under his arm and leans her head on his shoulder. Adrien very nearly jumps.


“Is this okay?” Marinette asks.

Is she kidding? This is so very okay!!! Usually it’s him who leans on some part of her and he has to ask her especially when he wants to curl up on her lap and even though she does say yes most of the time he still celebrates it when she says yes and now she’s the one asking and she’s the one leaning on him and WHAT IS HAPPENING????

“It’s okay,” he says.

“I’m sleepy,” she mumbles.

“Sleep,” he tells her.

He hesitantly puts his arm around her shoulders.

She smiles, then closes her eyes.

Around them, the jungle is still.

Hours later, Adrien wakes to Plagg nudging him urgently. Something is wrong. On Adrien’s shoulder, where there should be the gentle warmth of Marinette’s cheek, there is an alarming heat on Adrien’s skin instead. Adrien tries to wake her. She doesn’t. She shivers, her breath coming in rapid puffs as the delicate wrinkle between her eyebrows tightens. Adrien has seen this before. He’s seen animals breathe like this right before they- Before they-

No. No, nonononono.

“Marinette! Marinette, wake up, wake up, MARI–”

She emits a quiet whimper, too similar to the sound Plagg made that one time when he was seriously wounded and bleeding, and Adrien feels a numbing coldness shoot through his veins.

What does he do? What should he do, what’s he supposed to do– he knows how to take care of Plagg– Adrien just needs to make sure he’s warm and he has water nearby and Plagg always licks his wounds clean but Marinette isn’t doing that humans don’t do that do they does she even have wounds what’s hurting her what’s hurting her?

Plagg snaps a growl, snapping Adrien out of the maelstrom of his panic. In one powerful leap he climbs up on a tree branch, before pausing to look back down at Adrien, making sure that the human boy is paying attention. Then he launches to the next branch, cutting through the jungle’s understory and towards Marinette’s camp.

Marinette’s camp, where the other humans are.

Adrien catches Plagg’s meaning. He gathers Marinette up in his panther pelt and forces his limbs to stand. As thunder rumbles above them and raindrops fall from the sky, he runs after Plagg.

“You’ll be okay,” he whispers to the precious weight in his arms, “please be okay.”  

anonymous asked:

How would Suga, Oikawa, Bokuto, and Kuroo react to an S/O who uses morbid/self-depricating humour? But like its just their sense of humour? Like they don't actually want to die or think they're that bad at everything, it's just what they joke about? (i.e. "at least if I die I don't have to do exams lol" "lol cause we all know I'm an incapable mess haha" y'know that sorta stuff)

Okay, so I decided not to put in anymore examples of these kinds of jokes other than the ones that you’ve provided, Anon, I only focused on the boy’s reaction to them. Mainly because I know how this kind of joking can get out of hand really fast and the last thing I want is for people to think that these types of comments should always be taken as jokes - they shouldn’t, get to know the person that is saying them.

I hope that makes sense? I primarily don’t want anyone to think that I take comments like these lightly - I don’t and my anxiety won’t let me when I hear others use words like this, but I do find myself saying similar things, especially when it comes to my schoolwork or my workplace in general.

Anyway, I hope you enjoy, Anon.

P.s. Please remember to always let me know if I have done anything to offend anyone. It’s the last thing I want to do and am always willing to change it. As someone who is striving to write for my career, I take these things that you guys send me and try to challenge myself to shove my mind into that characters thought process, even in touchy situations. There are certain topics that I am not ready to breach yet - which is why you’ve seen me deny some requests - but I know that there may be a day in my career when I might have to. Until then, I’ll do my best to represent everything as accurately as my knowledge will allow. So, really, never feel bad to let me know when things did not add up well. It just means that I need more time to research as a writer and that I am not prepared to tackle a certain/controversial topic. Sorry, I’m always worried about things I post.

Sugawara Koushi

  • Legit, I feel like he kinda has this sort of humor as well. Like, he makes these kind of comments to Daichi and Asahi all the time (Asahi usually freaks out) and so when they start using them as well, he completely understands. He’d just nod his head and play up the talk with them.
    • But I feel like this is also something he had to check on when he discovered that it was their main source of jokes. Occasionally, he got it, then when it just kept coming, he felt the need to pull them aside and ask them seriously. He just wants to make sure. He loves them and doesn’t seriously want anything bad happening to them.
    • I’m sure he stills checks in every now and then - even with being reassured all the time. It’s just one of those things that’s always edging at the back of his mind and he needs to be told that they love themselves.

Oikawa Tooru

  • Would have idea how to respond the first time one of those lines comes out of their mouth. They’re probably sitting there having a good time and then next thing you know his face completely crumbles and he stares at them with those large brown doe eyes. But he wouldn’t know what to say cause they said it so nonchalantly and yet it’s not something you just say nonchalantly??
  • He’d totally let it go the first time and when it popped up the next time, he’d just give them this look and get all serious. He’d need them to tell him that they didn’t feel that way about themselves and that they believed themselves to be a wonderful person!
    • I feel like Oikawa’s dealt with self-hate before, so this is something he takes very seriously when he hears it from them. He might even have a really hard time with their humor for quite a while even with the constant reassurances that it’s not what they really believe about themselves.

Bokuto Koutarou

  • His instant response would be to start listing everything about them that was beautiful and magnificent. It doesn’t matter that they’re joking, they mean everything to him and he won’t sit back and let them talk bad about themselves in any way, shape, or form.
    • Seriously, I think the first time they say something like that he’d be so close to tears, he wouldn’t know what to do. Those are the last kind of words that he wants coming from them because they are so beautiful. Precious boy might end up weeping with relief when they tell him they don’t really mean it.
  • It would be a constant thing of reassurance every time they make a joke like that. He’d turn to them with panic in his eyes every time and they’d have to quickly reply with ‘joking’ lest they want him to start getting all emotional over all the reasons he loved them again.

Kuroo Tetsurou

  • He’d laugh the first time a joke like that came from their lips, just like, yup I’ve felt that way before kind of reaction. But when it happened again he might even call them out right there about easing up on the self-abuse. He’d definitely watch them carefully from there, seeing how they hold themselves and comparing their words with their actions.
    • He’ll notice the way that they don’t really line up? Like, they hold themselves too confidently to really feel the way their speaking, kinda thing? But he’d of course question them just to be certain.
  • The joking would continue and he’d always keep an eye on them and when they’re having a bad day, he won’t let them even say things like that. There’s no reason to be saying those thing - even as joke - when their already feeling bad. He loves them and cares very deeply about their mental health and will be there to protect them even when they don’t think they need it.

anonymous asked:

I have a question. I'm currently working on my own webcomic and I actually really want to start publishing it. I have thought through the main plot (how it'll start, go (roughly) and end), but one friend of mine tells me not to start the comic yet, because I have to think it through FULLY first as I might miss some plot twists. And I have a question for you : have you already fully thought backlash through or just the main plot? Or do you come up with some things while drawing? I need your help;


I want you to know that I read this ask and as soon as I got to the line “have you already fully thought BACKLASH through or just the main plot” I let out a noise similar to a goose honking. My guy. Let me tell ya. I am not the kind of writer that waits until I know even 1/3 of my story before I jump into making it.

BACKLASH is a story I’ve been working on since 2012. The very first try at this story I ever did was in 2012, and all I knew about the story was the characters, and vaguely that there was some kind of big bad guy who was oppressing humanity or something. This version of BACKLASH didn’t last long. I got maybe a chapter and a half through it (like 45 pages?) and then I stopped, realizing I didn’t know what I was doing and didn’t have a direction. I was just drawing comics for the sake of ‘I want to make something with these characters’. It was good practice, but wasn’t shaping up to be the narrative I wanted it to be!

I took a few years off, sat down and wrangled in my story and characters, and then started again in 2014 (I think? shoot my timeline is all hecked up, it might have been 2015).

I want you to know that I did not figure out the lowest, ‘dark night of the soul’ moment until like three months ago, and I didn’t figure out the final rising actions/final confrontation/exact ending until last month. Literally. I was sitting at my day job and it just, boom, hit me like a ton of bricks, and NOW I know the exact timeline for my entire comic. I’ve been doing this comic for 3-4 years and I only just now figured out almost everything. So take that information however you want.

Everyone writes differently, everyone tells stories and builds worlds differently. You have to know how your brain works and what type of groundwork you need to do before starting, but you also need to know what you can come up with and what blanks you can fill in as you get to them.

Some people need to know every single story beat and every single moment of their entire story’s timeline, and that’s totally fine! Some people (like me) only really need the general direction of what their story is leading to, and prefer not knowing every tiny detail until the story is finished.

I will say that no matter what kind of writer you are, I think you should definitely know what your story is leading toward before you start. You should have a general idea of what the plot is, and how the end might play out. Your ending can change a thousand times as you’re working on the story, and that’s okay! If you have the idea of ‘okay these characters are going to eventually get in a fight with this big bad character because they need to be stopped’, then you know what your story is building toward and it will help you keep things on-track and relevant. It will help you avoid rambling and going off on weird tangents. If you aren’t building to anything, your story will just be whatever you think is cool or would be funny, and it might be fun for you to make, but as a narrative it might not be great.

I personally enjoy leaving things for future me to figure out! It keeps me interested in the world and story and characters. But I make sure that I know enough about each of my characters that I can lay subtle groundwork that foreshadow big reveals and twists that will happen later on in the story! Even if I don’t know EXACTLY how something is going to play out, I know enough about the characters and their dispositions and relationships that I can drop hints and clues in dialogue and in the environment. (This coming from someone who is definitely a character-first type of writer. All my stories are character driven and the character arcs and storylines are the most important aspects of my stories! So knowing my characters makes writing a story in which they all interact a LOT easier, haha~)

I’m also a very avid supporter of “JUST DO IT” with regards to webcomics. If I waited until I knew every little thing about my story to start, I still wouldn’t have started my comic. The best way to get better is to not wait and jump in feet first.

If you feel like you’re ready to start your comic, I say go for it! You know what’s best for your story, and you know if you’re ready or not. Webcomics take a LONG TIME to make too, so, by the time you’re done writing and drawing the beginning, you’ll have had all that time to think about the future events of your comic. You’ll have a lot of time to think about how you’re going to build your story WHILE you’re making it. That’s the curse and the blessing of webcomics.

I wish you luck!! Listen to your heart!!

I just have to get this off my chest before my episode review. (This and at least one other thing, actually, because there are a few things that are taking up so much space in my brain that I have to separate them from the rest of the review… or else the review is either going to be a billionty words long or it’ll just never get finished because I’ll be typing it up for the rest of my life.)

For me, on a personal level, 12x20 Twigs & Twine & Tasha Banes picked up a thread that was thrown out there last season in 11x19 The Chitters. I talked about the really unusual spot that The Chitters grabbed me here, but to sum it up, when Dean wanted Jesse and Cesar to go with them, and the ensuing regret that just takes over Dean’s face when he realizes that he can’t pull them away from the promise of a happy life - that reminded me of me.

I was fortunate enough to be raised in a liberal town, by a liberal family, while attending a liberal church. It was still incredibly difficult to come out as bi because being anything but straight was (is) considered abnormal. In the time where I knew but before I began to actually tell anyone, I found myself reaching out to as many LGBT folks as I could find because simply being around them helped me feel like I was still normal.

I realize we have absolutely no confirmation on if Dean actually knows that Max isn’t straight (which I will continue to say because even though it appears that Max leans towards guys, I don’t think we actually know if he’s gay or bi, and not having a firm confirmation of that is actually a really nice reminder to STOP ASSUMING that people can only be gay or straight), but it’s pretty easy to headcanon that Dean knows without any stretch.

And in this episode, Max compliments Baby, and Dean immediately offers to give him a tour of her. We ALL know how important Baby is to Dean, and this car was also blatantly sexualized in the first episode of the season (with the inference that Mary was remembering getting it on with John in the backseat). He immediately reaches out to Max, pulling Max away from their siblings, so they can go have a private conversation about grenade launchers. On top of that, Dean is pretty much glued to Max’s side during the entire climax of the episode.

This feeling of Dean reaching out to Max didn’t hit me as strongly as it did when he suggested Jesse and Cesar come with them, but it’s definitely pinging me along those exact same lines. I again saw it as Dean reaching out to someone who is out and who is comfortable being out, because being closeted with absolutely nobody to talk to about it so incredibly lonely and immensely difficult.

My “shipping” of Max and Dean is mostly tongue-in-cheek. (And I’ve already gone off on three different posts addressing the apparent age difference between them, so I’ll refrain here.) But the little interactions of these two also brought back my personal wish for how to canonize Dean/Cas… but more importantly (to me), how to canonize Bi!Dean.

A disclaimer: if we absolutely have to label ourselves as “canon positive” or “canon negative” when it comes to where the show is actually going with romantic Dean & Cas, can I firmly place myself in the seemingly non-existent “canon neutral” camp? I don’t KNOW what the future holds, and I’m OKAY with that. I enjoy discussing the hell out of it, but I am incredibly cognizant of the fact that the show isn’t over, and no matter what (if any) decision has been made, that decision could be changed at any time. (It’s like my joke about being an angry agnostic to stand up to militant Christians and angry atheists: I don’t know for sure and neither does anyone else.)

I also think that the exploration of Dean’s sexuality to be the more important story being told, because if it’s done correctly it would potentially cement The Little Show That Could as something historic. This show is in the rare position where it actually can sell this story – the story that sometimes people come to terms with their sexuality later in life, that their sexuality doesn’t define them as a person, and that sexuality isn’t the only part of a person’s story. I can’t think of another show that’s been on for 12 years that has several years of subtext to support that storyline. This show is literally the only show on the air that can tell that story. (We’ve had lots of shows with a “coming out” storyline, but 9 times out of 10 that IS a character’s defining storyline, or their origin storyline… and that bothers me. My sexuality is not the only thing about me, nor the most important, nor the very first thing I’d like people to learn about me.)

I know that there may be a tendency to say “fuck ‘em” about the very large part of the audience that is just in complete denial that there really are multiple layers of subtext that thousands of people are seeing. But to me, those are the ones that need to see that story the most. Many of you reading this would have no problem believing it because we already know that this is a thing that sometimes happens. If this story is going to be told, I want it to be sold to the people that DO have a hard time believing it.

A character like Max – to Dean – is the perfect way to sell this story. A character that is so similar to Dean in so many ways but is comfortable being who they are – and more importantly, someone who can show Dean (and the audience) that sometimes people really like one thing but sometimes enjoy another – would be so vital in solidifying that story. The sheer existence of Max does help solidify it, but all that does is give the people who already believe it more backbone.

So, yes. I root for a Max/Dean fling, or a one-night-stand. In general, I root for Dean to have a fling with any dude prior to actually giving Cas a big wet one on the lips, or any heart-felt confessions. Max is literally the first time the opportunity has even really presented itself.

(That opportunity may have been almost immediately squashed by what happened later in the episode, but that doesn’t mean it won’t present itself again… say, next season?)

anonymous asked:

Hannah can I ask for your advice? I had a terrible terrible friend fall out four years ago and still feel insecure in my relationships today, especially people I'm v close too. I'm working on it and I'm better but I still feel like my worth is tied to being other people's favourites and I'm very sensitive to rejection and worried about offending others. I'm so jealous too! It seems like you have wonderful friendships now, how did you manage to let go of the effects of toxic friendships? 💕

Oh my god I see SO much of myself in this message, love. Honestly, it’s been two years for me too and I still find that I’m insecure in new relationships and also that I’m drawn to toxic people in new situations.

In Greece, for example, I made immediate and close friends with someone who I didn’t realize was super toxic. Two weeks into the trip, she dropped me and her and another girl tried to get everyone to stop talking to me. I immediately settled into the mindset of thinking “oh hey everyone hates me and I’m incapable of making nurturing, loving friendships” until my sister 100% called me out. It took one phone call with her to realize that in new situations, I’m drawn to toxic personalities because it’s what’s most familiar and comfortable for me.

So first, I definitely recommend making sure you aren’t making that same mistake. Just make sure you aren’t being drawn to the same types of personalities who hurt you so badly. For this girl, the major red flags were gossiping really maliciously about other people and also telling ME not to hang out with certain people because “no one likes her” or whatever selfish nonsense.

I really learned a lot from that experience because it was such a strange microcosm of similar experiences I’d had in the past. I learned a lot about my weaknesses and the type of person I want to be. It made me realize that I need to do better at holding myself and others accountable for speaking badly about others behind their back and acting exclusionary (which are both faults of mine and mistakes I’ve made in the past). Instead, I started hanging out with a really open, kind, and accepting group of girls. That sort of toxic behavior just wasn’t on their radar because it wasn’t who they were. In turn, I found myself being much more open and accepting of others. I was a better person for being around such lovely people.

Another thing that has been very, very, VERY important for me to realize is that how other people treat you is a reflection of them not you. The people who have hurt you are just. people. They have their own flaws and fears and life experiences that inform their behavior. It isn’t a reflection of you or your worth. 

My sister always tells me that when other people say or do mean shit to you, ask yourself what their motivation is. It’s usually motivated by fear. They exclude you because they’re afraid of being excluded themselves. They point out your flaws because they want to distract from what they perceive as their own.

With most of my current  friendships, I’ve told them about both my history of abuse and friend trauma as soon as it felt right and I was comfortable. With my friend trauma, MOST PEOPLE I know have gone through something similar. And because my friends are literally just the best, they have responded with gentleness and understanding and love. They’re even more sensitive to triggering behaviors in the future (like accidentally excluding me from group outings, e.g.) and are willing to listen when I express that I feel rejected, abandoned, etc. The people who love you will do the same!!

When you are open, honest, and vulnerable to lovely people, they will know that they can be open, honest, and vulnerable with you too!!! Then you’ve got yourself a healthy, mutually beneficial human interaction :’-) 

Finally, the best thing I’ve done for myself is work on myself. I know how hard I work on myself every day. I try to be honest with myself about both my flaws and positive characteristics. That way, you realize your inherent worth. You realize that you’re a complex, dynamic person just like everyone else who is worthy of compassion. When you’re already well-versed in exploring yourself with open curiosity, criticism, and compassion, rejection isn’t scary because you know it’s a matter of circumstance, opposing interests, etc. rather than a damnation of your inherent worth. 

And tbh, opening yourself up to rejection is an important part of that! The summer after my big friend fallout, I just started asking people I thought were cool to coffee or lunch. Think about how STOKED you’d be if someone you already admire wants to hang out with you??? 

Me n Emily’s friendship started because she walked up to my desk at work and dead ass said, “Hey I think you’re really cool and I’d love to get coffee sometime. Do you have my number?” AND THEN WE HUNG OUT FOR 2 HOURS AND SWAPPED DORKY BAND STORIES.

Sometimes I’ve gone out on a limb and hung out with someone and we just didn’t click. I literally can’t overstate how utterly, completely fine it is to not wanna be someone’s friend or to have someone not wanna be your friend. Y’all are different! Different is good! Just be open and honest and it’s a-ok. 

Lastly (for real this time haha), I have not come to these realizations without therapy. It’s always okay to ask for help. A “friend breakup” is so easy to downplay as something that ~just happens~ but it’s a real trauma that can effect your life so deeply. I definitely encourage you to get yaself a great therapist. 

Okay I think that covers it. Always remember: you’re complicated and have flaws because all people are complicated and flaws — AND YOU ARE A PERSON!!! You, like all people, deserve empathy and respect and love. Never lose sight of that. 

Sending you all my love. My ask box is ALWAYS open if you need me (as it is for anyone who has gone through something similar!)

a-friendly-ghoul  asked:

I'm actually going in two days and I didn't want to be annoying ><.... But I can't get this out of my head. I remember you didn't play far harbor so I'll keep it simple. In a quest you have to drink water from a very radiated source. So what if.. After doing that Nate doesn't actually feel good and he slowly turns into a ghoul?? How would Hancock, and maybe Nick and some other close friends, feel? (I'm so mad you can't be a ghoul ingame)

Hye, I’m also mad you can’t be a ghoul ingame! Which is why I had a great time writing this!! :D Maybe I’ll write some Bonus Content sometime.

Nate didn’t understand what was happening at first. Then he didn’t want to believe it.

It was a month before he noticed anything was wrong, and it started with his knuckles. His skin began to crack and flake, leaving his hands red and tender. Within days it spread to his elbows and knees, and soon it was going up his arms and legs.

Hancock couldn’t take it once the cracking was making its way up Nate’s neck.

“You need to see a Doc. This isn’t normal, this is serious.” He said, clenching his arms with a worry he rarely felt.

“C’mon, It’s a rash or something.” Nate said as he scratched the spreading rough patches on his neck. The skin flaked off, and he winced as he touched the wound left behind. “It’ll get better on its own.”

Hancock leaned against the wall and looked at Nate’s hands, where this “rash” had started. “Well if it’s supposed to get better on its own, why does it still look as fresh as the day it started?” He said. He ran his finger across the red skin on Nate’s hand, making him yelp and pull away.

“I don’t know, I don’t know. I don’t want to deal with it.” Nate said, looking embarrassed as he tried to soothe stinging pain on the back of his left hand.

Hancock sighed and tipped his hat back. “Okay, I didn’t want to get scary with you, but I guess I gotta. Ya see, all this,” he motioned up and down Nate’s wounded skin, “happened to me too.”

Nate looked confused. “When?”

“Well, uh… right before I got this way.” He poked a finger into the scarred and pitted skin of his cheek.

At this, Nate’s eyes widened. “How- what- why would I turn ghoul? I didn’t do anything crazy! I’ve just been-”

It hit him. The water. The water from Atom’s Spring. He drank that water without a second thought. Sure, it made him sick for a day or two afterwards, but he thought that was it. Hancock probably felt the same about whatever radioactive cocktail turned him ghoul.

“Oh, god, uh…” Nate ran his fingers through his hair, which he was suddenly very attached to. “…yeah, I should go see Dr. Amari.”

The face she made after she finished her exam made Nate’s heart drop to his stomach. It was a sort of tight lipped smile with sad eyes. The type of face you make when you have to turn someone down on a third date, or say someone else got the job, or-

“You seem to be showing all the typical signs of ghoulification. It was likely brought on by the water in Far Harbor, like you said.” Amari said, placing her hand on his shoulder. “I’m very sorry, I know this must be difficult.”

Nate stared at the ground. Hancock held Nate’s head close to his side.

Amari looked up to Hancock. “Would you two like a minute alone?”

“That would be great, thanks.” He said, with a similar tight-lipped, sad-eyed smile.

As soon as she shut the door behind her, Nate’s heads went into his hands. “Jesus Christ, I’m an idiot.” He said, choking on sobs.

Hancock hugged Nate tightly. “No, no you’re not. I wouldn’t have thought that would turn you ghoul either. It’s bad luck. Bad, dumb luck.” He said in a soft voice.

Nate didn’t respond for a while, just crying and holding Hancock close. After a minute or two, he pulled away, wiping his eyes and clearing his throat. “Can I ask you something John?” He said.

“Anything at all.” Hancock replied.

Nate paused, then sighed. “How much does it hurt? The ghoul stuff, I mean.”

Hancock thought for a good long time before answering. “Well, I won’t beat around the bush here. Turning ghoul sucks. It fuckin’ sucks. It hurts like shit inside and out, and it takes for-fuckin-ever. But once it’s done, it’s normal shit. Maybe my knees hurt more than they used to, but it’s also been a few decades since I was in my twenties. It might just be ‘cause I’m old.” He said. “It’s like being a normal human, except you’re ugly and you can’t die by natural causes.”

Nate nodded and let out a shaky sigh. “I can deal with it.” He said, sniffing and wiping his eyes. “I’ve dealt with worse. I’m sure I can handle it.”

He was absolutely not sure if he could handle it.

Doctor Amari came back a minute later and gave Nate a long list of tips for a “successful” ghoulification. Take lots of showers so your skin doesn’t get infected. Try to eat even though you’re not going to be hungry. Don’t strain your voice too much. Wear sunglasses. Don’t run anywhere. A laundry list of dos and don’ts capstoned by an “Of course it will still be terrible, but this will make it easier.” Just hearing about it was so bad, he couldn’t imagine feeling it.

When he and Hancock got home that night, they barely spoke to each other. The next morning the skin on Nate’s face was cracking.

Nick Valentine came to town about three months after Nate had gotten the news. By now he was, as expected, fucking miserable. The cracked skin was gone, leaving him with nothing but the tender new flesh beneath. All he was supposed to do now was wait for it to scar up, which seemed to be taking about a lifetime too long. He still couldn’t move without tearing up.

“You already lost your nose, huh?” Nick said, giving Nate a sad look up and down. Nate was lying as still as he could on the cleanest mattress they could find in the Old State House. He glanced up at Nick from where he was.

“Yeah, that was a couple weeks ago. And my ears kind of just… fell off too.”  He said. He turned his head to show Nick, letting out a small gasp of pain.

Nick had braced himself for the usual ghoul symptoms, but the new voice threw him. It didn’t sound as bad as a lot of ghouls- Hancock, for example- but it sounded completely different. Nate seemed to notice his surprise.

“I’m not supposed to talk much. Amari said it’ll help it sound better.” He said. “But if I don’t talk I could lose my voice all together. So it’s a tightrope walk.”

Nick nodded and went to sit next to the mattress. He noticed the way Nate’s eyes had changed. The whites had gone red and his iris had gone a sort of cloudy-yellow.

“Your vision still good?” Nick asked, looking closer at Nate’s eyes. “I can hardly see your pupils.”

Nate blinked a few times and gave a small shrug. “I can see you fine.”

Nick nodded. “Good. You shouldn’t be worried about going blind, you need to focus on getting better.“ Nick said. "Or well, better is a strong word.”

Nate laughed, then broke into a coughing fit. Nick stayed silent until he finished.

“Sorry,” Nate said, “it’s been happening a lot.”

Nick shook his head “You’ve got nothing to be sorry for. You know who should be sorry? The goddamn Children of Atom. You deserve a handwritten apology.” He said, an angry look creeping onto his face. He’d admit it: he felt somewhat at fault for what was happening to Nate. If it hadn’t been for him, Nate wouldn’t have gone to Far Harbor, and he wouldn’t have even known about that toxic spring. He wouldn’t be here now, barely able to move and being thankful that his lips hadn’t sloughed off.

“You’re gonna be fine kid, I’m sure.” Nick said. “Once this all heals up, it’ll be different, but you’re gonna make it work for ya. Like Hancock.”

“Maybe.” Nate replied. He glanced out the one window in the room he’d been cooped up in. As usual, he saw a plain brick wall, and no sun.

Nick could see the look on Nate’s face. He seemed restless, yet despondent. Like he wanted nothing more than to run out and take on the world, but he couldn’t find the energy if he tried.

“You feeling down?” Nick asked.

Nate would’ve spit out his drink if he had one. “That’s an understatement. I’d rather be dead.” He said. He chuckled a little, but at the same time, he was almost in tears. “I mean, I  basically already am. I’m like a fucking zombie.”

Nick gave Nate a sorry look, taking a long while to respond. “I could never understand how this feels, so I’ll open with that.” He said. His voice was hushed. “But, uh, I do understand the feeling of being different. Being a part of a group that most people wish didn’t exist. And that’s… that’s scary. It’s really scary”

He reflexively wiped his eyes, even though he hadn’t been able to cry in hundreds of years. “I can tell you this, though- I am always going to be in your corner. And so is Hancock. And all the other ghouls in town. You’re always gonna be less alone than you think, I promise.”

Nate looked up at him, holding back tears so the wouldn’t sting his cheeks. “…Thanks, Nick.“ He said, his voice tense and quiet with effort. "Thank you so much.”

Nick smiled. “Don’t mention it, kid.”

Nate smiled. He hadn’t realized how long it had been since he’d had a good time with another person.

He’d missed it.

By the time a year rolled around, Nate looked like any other old ghoul. His skin had scarred up, his voice had stopped changing. Now people might actually start to believe him off the bat if he said he was pre-war.

There was a sentiment that was tossed around a few times while he was turning. “One day, you’re going to look back on all this, and be grateful.” At the time it made him want to scream. He was sure as shit that he would never be grateful for any of the pain and trauma of becoming a ghoul. And in a sense, he was right. There was nothing worthwhile about being unable to comfortably move for several months. That fucking sucked.

But, he was willing to admit it: being a ghoul wasn’t terrible.

As a human, if things went as nature intended, he would die before Hancock by a longshot. They same went for Nick, and Codsworth, and Curie and all the other ghouls and synths and robots he’d grown close to. Now he didn’t have to worry about that. He didn’t have to lose them.

Of course, there was a steep price to pay. What about Piper? Deacon? MacCready? Preston? There were plenty of humans he loved- and who loved him. Again, if things went as nature intended, they would all pass away long before him.

It was tough. Like everything in this godforsaken modern-day Earth.

And he’d learn to deal with it, and accept it, and even like it a little. It was how he’d always survived.

“How’re ya feeling?” Hancock said one day, getting Nate’s attention with a pat on the back.

Nate wiggled his fingers and furrowed his brow. “My fingers are kind of tight. Is that normal?”

Hancock thought for a moment, wiggled his own fingers, and shrugged. “Probably. I’ve been this way for a while, I must’ve gotten used to it.”

Nate nodded and gave a similar shrug. “Hey, if I can still shoot a gun, I can handle it.” He said.

Hancock smiled and laughed. “Now that’s what I like to hear!” He said

Nate smiled back. Things were almost starting to feel normal.

anonymous asked:

Pia, you are such a good writer. Do you have any books or fanworks (or other writers) that you take inspiration from? I used to copy phrases of 'interview with a vampire' so I could get a feel of how the prose worked, so I'm curious to know where you aquired such amazing skill. (and how i can get in on some of that action 👌)

Hiya anon!

I’m not sure I’m a good writer, but I’m glad you enjoy the writing! I still have so much to learn. So much, heh.

Nothing too specific, like I never went through a phase of copying phrases for example? But at university we sometimes had to write things in the style of someone else, so I’ve definitely done it for like…assignments. Just not privately.

By the time I was about 13 years old, I’d easily already read about 500 books (like, books with no pictures, lol), and by the time I was 18 that number was somewhere around 2,000. I had favourite authors, for sure, but there were so many at that point, that I no longer had specific prose styles I wanted to copy.

Like I remember I really wanted the childhood anguish I felt while reading The Monster Garden by Vivien Alcock (that fucked me up), but I know there were at least 15 other books I loved and adored and wanted to sink myself into. I don’t remember what they were now. And also like, TV and film? I wanted to write the feeling of watching The Last Unicorn as a child. I wanted dialogue that could be snappy and fast like what I saw in Press Gang (*sighs at Moffat these days*).

And that was like, as a young teenager. From there I just added and added to it. Like, okay, for example, in my study where I write - I have prints up on the wall. I look at them for motivation more than I’d ever read a favourite author before writing (the latter I think can pollute the integrity of my work these days, which isn’t to say it’s bad to write like them, it’s that these days I want to write like me). So I look at these prints. I have a ship in a sky to make me remember whimsy. I have a forest filled with moss to remember cool places, a whole lot of trees that make a gateway into a green sacred space that remind me of the Seelie and Unseelie Court, a lone house in the fog by a single tree, because I always want to imagine who lives there, a raven-woman, with a shaggy crest of multi-coloured feathers to remember shapesfhiting and magic, I have a fox lurking at night, a waterhorse-unicorn, a white raven soaring towards a golden moon, a phoenix-firebird, a sea-dragon.

That’s just some of it. I suppose because I need to evoke visual things in my brain before I can write.

I’ve cited clear influences for some things. Like I’ve said that Augus is somewhat an homage to Laurent from Captive Prince, which I’ve said since the beginning. But Augus isn’t a true strategist like Laurent, I still wanted him to be his own character. Robin Hobb’s Farseer Trilogy in particular has helped me remember to anchor epic scope stories down into very real, small details - finding food and eating, getting dressed, sorting out the minutiae of the day to day. But I haven’t reread that trilogy in over 7 years. Cecilia Dart-Thornton’s Bitterbynde Trilogy is a huge influence (I highly recommend it, start with The Ill-Made Mute) because of the way she uses syncretism in her worldbuilding, with Australian native plants and animals found alongside characters like the Raven King and the Each Uisge (no really, it’s a strong influence, lol).

I don’t know how I got to where I got to. There’s really only two things that stand out: I consume creative content hugely, across a broad, broad sprectrum (music, movies, TV, plays, scripts, poetry, books - novels, short stories, fanfiction, art, sculpture), and I’ve written a huge amount. Like not-poignant wasn’t my first attempt at writing fanfiction, I’ve written over 300,000 words under another name, and I used to write privately before that.

And I’m sure if all of you privately wrote some 500,000 words, you’d all be really great writers (and probably a lot better than me!)

(And to be honest there are people who don’t even need to write that much to achieve that lol). 

I feel like I’m missing out on so many influences. But I am. How to describe that I want to capture in words that train scene from Spirited Away? Or that I want the first time I had Scottish poetry read to me in lunchlines to be the feeling I convey when I write about cold, rocky landscapes?

And this is just skipping out on fanworks entirely. I wouldn’t even know where to start. I’ve read well over 10,000 fanfics, I don’t know how much fanart I’ve looked at. I have writers I love, but I’m not sure how much they influence me. A lot of the time I love things I can’t do, or don’t want to do, or don’t want to do like that. Like, porn done in brevity? Great skill! I find it boring as a writer, and interesting as a reader, lol.

Long sex scenes have definitely come from fanfiction though. Not just specific authors, but this global sense that it’s just okay and won’t ruin your story structure, worldbuilding or pacing to sometimes spend 10,000 words on a physically intimate scene that can contain characterisation, growth and so on. Fanfic taught me that. But which ones? Idk. I have a vague sense that Harry Potter and Thorki fandoms were the two biggest contributors to that concept. But I like over 100 authors who all do that in both fandoms.

Tl;dr - there’s no secret. Read a lot. Write a lot. Everyone will get better if they do that.

anonymous asked:

Hey! I'm not sure if you've ever addressed this or not (cause I haven't been on tumblr very long) but what are your thoughts on how Keith knew that Pidge was a girl? I think about that a lot, but I wondered how you viewed or how you think he figured it out. (LOVE your art by the way!! :))

I think I’m gonna write a short one shot about this, I’m intrigued as well but I think it went like in this fic wrote :

“Curious case of Pidge Gunderson”

Keith walked towards his room. He was tired and sweaty after another exercise with the team on training deck. Allura didn’t get him a chance to even rest for a second, but nobody can’t blame her being desperate to finally form Voltron, the only hope Universe has at this moment. Boy walked to his room, opening closet searching for towels and some clothes to change after a shower he is planning to get.

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anonymous asked:

Well if this is a thing similar to honesty hour, I've had a problem. And I'm too ashamed to talk about this to people I know because I feel like this shouldn't be a problem. I am a cis woman. There are people who are not cis and are non binary. I don't think there is any problem with that. But I can't help but sort people who are non binary into male or female categories. Do you have any tips that could help me over come this? It has made it even harder switching to they/them pronouns

Well, I’m a non binary pal and one of my sets of pronouns are they/them and I do this sometimes. Society has engrained in you certain things that you’re going to have to unlearn. Something that helps me is putting a face to it.

So, think of a non binary person you know of. Someone that uses they/them pronouns at least sometimes. Maybe a blog you like or a YouTube person like Thomas Sanders’ friends Joan and Talyn and think about them. Talk about them to yourself.

“Wow, I do like Joan’s beanie. I wonder where they found something like that. They are a pretty funny person too.”

“Oh, this nb person I respect posted more artwork. They are so talented. I wonder where they learned. You Mx, are very good at what you do.”

It may seem stupid at first, but it conditions the brain. And you probably already use they/them pronouns for hypothetical people or people you don’t know the gender of yet.

“I’m meeting my friend’s cousin. I don’t really know anything about them.”

“Hey! That person nearly crashed into us! What were they thinking?”

“Okay if you guys could construct the perfect boy/girl/datefriend, what would they be like?”

It’s not completely easy and most of us understand that. Society has done its darndest to make sure we all think in binary ways. But you should put in the effort. And if you can’t right away, fake it till you make it. Try to catch yourself when you misgender people and move on. It’ll get more natural the more you do it. And most importantly, defend non binary folks if you’re with them in public. People take trans/nb people so much more seriously if a cis/cis passing person stands up for us.

Bottom line: just keep trying. It’s not easy to rewrite your brain but it can be done.

mayumizoldyck  asked:

Umm could you do the demon kings reactions if their s/o found out they were cheating? And then their s/o kills them self?....I'm sorry if this sounds to dark..but I love you Tumblr and I hope you do this...

Ya sure, I’m up for the darkest shit, feel free to send in your most disturbing requests, I’ll get too them eventually

Maybe trigger warning? Idk whats triggering for some people? Mentions of suicide.

I honestly can’t imagine any of the known demon kings cheating on you if you were in a serious relationship, maybe Amaimon would fuck up and summon a succubus when your busy, maybe Astaroth too, but I can’t imagine anything other than that so I guess I’ll have to try… 

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Breaking the Rules

for @platonicvldmonth

Day 15: Change

Wordcount: 1754

Summary: In which Hunk is an undiagnosed autistic having a meltdown, and Shiro is that one (diagnosed) autistic that actually knows how to explain feelings. Or: Shiro helps Hunk through a meltdown.

Warnings: internalized ableism. 

Notes: Me? Writing self-indulgent fics? It’s more likely than you think. Okay but seriously, I’m autistic, but it’s been a while since I’ve had my last meltdown, so if I did something wrong, please tell me.

All in all, Hunk thought that he was handling this rather well. Sure, he was a bit freaked out. A lot freaked out.  But that was understandable. Everyone would freak out a bit (or a lot) at being flung out into space in a maybe-somewhat-magical mechanical space cat, especially if they ended up fighting in a space war as a couple of Chosen Ones.

And, alright, he’d almost chewed through his hand during the first night, biting on it anxiously without even noticing what he was doing. And, yeah, maybe he was getting a bit hyperfocused on food, more so then usual. And, yes, he had thrown up at least once a day since the initial ride to Arus.

…Yeah, okay. Maybe he wasn’t doing so well.

But there was nothing he could do to change this situation, so he did what he always did when change freaked him out: he fell back on a routine.

Routines were easy, simple to follow, and Hunk had always liked them. He used to scream and cry when they were broken, but he’d taught himself to control his temper, and now, though he still wanted to throw plates at the wall whenever something went wrong, he could stop himself. He hadn’t done something like that since he was nine.

And wasn’t that a record to break.

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anonymous asked:

Hey witch mums!! I'm having some trouble getting over some trauma involving one of my exes. I've cleansed my room and my wardrobe, but every once in a while I'll think about the incidents and my whole day will be thrown off. Any tips for preventing and/or feeling better after the fact?? This morning I used a spell during my morning run which helped some, but I'm looking for more ideas!!

Oh hunny…

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. My heart aches for anyone who has to go through this. I have walked that road, and before I say anything else, know that I am walking with you as you recover. Reach out any time.

First, I want to suggest if you haven’t already, to see someone. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder has a lot of different looks. And if memories of incidents are enough to throw off your day, then from my perspective, that’s enough to warrant even just a one time chat with a therapist to get some coping tools specific to you.

Healing from trauma is a journey. It’s been almost sixteen years since my ex last laid a hand on me. And I would say I’m 99% recovered. There are still things I encounter (particularly images in TV shows and movies which feature assault on women) that bring my past to mind. But now, so removed from all that has happened, I’m able to recognize it for the memory it is, and then put it back in the recesses of my memory.

When something brings a memory to mind, be gentle with yourself. Self care that particularly reminds you of your worth is very healing. I would take long baths, do my hair, paint my nails, and experiment with make up. Anything I could think of to physically reinforce the idea that I had more worth than my ex would have me believe.

I’m not sure how far removed you are from the relationship, how long it’s been. It can take time, and time is what it needs in many cases. However I found putting a distinct line in the sand between the abuse and where I was now to be very helpful. 

Once I was out of the hospital I cursed my ex. And if you would like some help or guidance for something along those lines, you can DM me @madamehearthwitch and we can talk about it <3

But however you accomplish it, doing something tangible to remind your heart and your brain that you are not in that situation anymore can be very healing.

My co witchmum @estfortis suggested a spell for dealing with bullies to another of our family that might be something you could use.

Put in as much detail as you can about what they did and how it made you feel, and while you write, pull up as much of those hard emotions as you can handle. The hurt, the anger, whatever you were feeling while it was happening - pull that up, and channel it directly into the letter.

Pour out so much emotion that by the time you are done writing, you feel empty. (Like I said - it’s a taxing process!). Now, fold up each piece of paper and write the offending bully’s name on it, then seal it - bind it with string, or pour candle wax over it, or even just masking tape over the whole thing. Whatever you have available. As you seal it, you can speak some words, something to the effect of, “[Name] I bind your actions to the past. No longer may they hurt me.” After you have completed this, then burn each one in turn. As each letter burns, say “[Name], your actions are of the past. You may hurt me no more, I am free from your grasp.” As the letters burn, visualize the pain and anger being burned away and the actions being dissolved in the smoke.

After you have completed the ritual, scatter or dispose of the ashes so that you no longer have any connection to the bullying events. Then, take a ritual bath to cleanse and replenish your own energy. If you can, add it some epsom salts or sea salt, essential oils such as lavender or rose (for calming and self-love) or perhaps a sachet of chamomile and/or lavender. As you soak, let your body relax as the herbs soothe your senses and fill you up with a calm and serene energy. Afterwards, use a gentle lotion to symbolically heal your old wounds (add a drop or two of essential oils, if you like) and then rest with a cup of tea and perhaps a bit of chocolate to feed your soul.

I have done similar spells for a variety of hurts and found it exceedingly helpful.

The last thing I want to say is that it’s okay to dig into feelings of sadness. You don’t have to go from being abused to being the happiest, most cheerful person in the blink of an eye. If there are days or times when you want or need to lie on the couch, eat chocolate, and binge watch some Netflix… do it.

There comes a time when you gotta pick yourself up and get shit done. But sometimes I think in our society that puts such pressure on people to just get over it, we forget to honor our pain and give ourselves room to heal from emotional trauma. When we’re physically sick, we curl up in blankets and let our bodies heal. When we’ve been abused we need at least as much compassion for ourselves.

Find the balance that works well for you <3

This has been a really long post, but I felt like it was a topic that needed particular attention.

And I want to tell anyone who is now or has been in an abusive relationship that we love you. We, your Witch Mums, have your back. And you can reach out to us either through anon asks, or DMs to our personal accounts if you need to talk. We cannot (and will not) function or take the place as therapists, but we can be there to remind you that you are valued.

We love you <3
Your Witch Mums


But what about….platonic SasuHina……

Sasuke was very lucky to have weekends off.  Unlike with Sakura and her varying schedule at the hospital, or Naruto switching between interning with Tsunade and his part-time job at the fire station, who didn’t even have a set schedule at all. Rest times were very important to him.  He needed time alone in the quiet to catch up on life, run some errands, organize his thoughts, and just breathe.  Just being wrapped up in this super plush comforter in his cat onesie (a gift from his brother, thank you very much), on his comfy couch, his laptop, and a hot, steaming cup of tea.

“Iiiiii’m not the kinda girl, who gives up juuust like thaaaat,” a voice sang from the bathroom, “Oh, noooooo!”

Oh, and his roommate.

Watching The Lizzie McGuire movie.  Again.

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[Ask RPedia] How to Play a Jerk Without Being a Jerk?

Anonymous asked: Hi! I’m sorry if this might sound a bit desperate, but can you help me how to rp an astute, ruthless, and controlling character? A good example would be Tywin Lannister, because my character’s personality is very similar to him. Though i’m always conflicted whenever i rp because I don’t know if I would offend the other roleplayers, nor do I know how to approach people with a character like this. Help? T_T

Hey! Don’t worry I'm definitely here to help. Even if I am literally like a year late on this one, it’s actually something a lot of people have issues with. Don’t worry, we’re actually gonna do it now! So under the cut is how to RP what amounts to an asshole without pissing people off. First part will be HOW TO, and second part will cover HOW TO WELL.

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anonymous asked:

hi, i'm semi new to the twd fandom but i'm crazy about richonne jesus christ i love them so fucking much lmao but i'm curious to understand why do people think richonne is so close to being cannon in 6b? because from what i've read it stems from rick+andrea getting together around this in the comics and people have said that richonne has a similar dynamic to rick and andrea so i was wondering how is the richonne relationship on the show similar to rick and andrea's relationship in the comics?

Hi, I actually haven’t read all the comics yet, so I’m not the best person to answer the second question. However, I have my own opinion for the first one, even as just being a part of the tv audience, so let me share that?

From the very beginning, Michonne’s story arc was about her missing her family, not being able to move on from her boyfriend’s and her son’s death. She was lost, didn’t trust anybody, and as she said she “was gone for a long time” until Andrea brought her back. (Until Rick brought her back. Until Carl did.)  She used to miss Mike so much, she still talked to him despite him being dead. When we see her with Judith for the first time, we see her cry and hold her closely, clearly missing her baby son. But we learn the fact that she had a son few more episodes later when she finally shares that with one person - Carl.

In the comics, Michonne actually had two daughters, but the show runners decided to change it to only one son for the show. In my opinion - to make her bond with Carl stand out even more. And it’s obviously a very deep one. After Michonnne knocks on the door where Rick and Carl spent the night in After, Rick laughs against the door and then with a smile tells to Carl “It’s for you.” Right in the first episode of season 4 we can see they already created some sort of bond to start with, she knew he would be happy about her bringing him comics and she even knew which kind. Throughout the entire season, we can see them getting closer - laughing, sharing secrets, playing games. In Claimed Rick asks her to be Carl’s best friend and she eagerly agrees. I wouldn’t hesitate to say she took on the mother role for Carl during this time, even let him sleep on her lap after the traumatic experience in A

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anonymous asked:

apologies if someone's already asked you this, but - do you think any of the inners could have done uranus and neptune did, and pretend to betray usagi?

In reference to events with Galaxia!

I think there’s two ways to look at this. And I know you said “could”, but I want to address the “would” part first. Given similar circumstances facing Haruka and Michiru, WOULD the Inners pretend to betray Usagi?

On that, I would say no way. Even Haruka and Michiru didn’t go into their meeting with Galaxia with this as their top plan. It was a desperate attempt to snatch victory from what they saw as inevitable defeat. The Inners were dead, Usagi was alone (never a great state for Usagi), and their best efforts to defeat Galaxia didn’t even phase her. The entire world was at stake, and there was nothing anyone could do.

That’s the key. Haruka and Michiru did not believe they, Hotaru, Pluto, and Usagi could win.

The Inners wouldn’t be beaten down to that point, not even if positions were entirely reversed and they’d seen the Outers killed. Maybe their attacks were rebuffed, maybe things looked dire as hell. But they BELIEVE in themselves and Usagi. They believe that together they can defeat anything. Pretending to betray Usagi is accepting that standing with her cannot result in victory. And yeah, just no way.

But let’s set that aside. WOULD they? If they believed it was their best (only?) chance to win?

We’ll start easy. Minako could. Whatever else anyone – particularly Usagi – thought of her, Minako could take it. Minako’s practical. Minako remembers what loss – huge final end of everything loss – feels like. But while I say she could take whatever the others thought of her, I think that if they believed, genuinely in their hearts believed that she’d betray them, it’d kill her. Another secret Minako must keep.

Also easy is Mako. I just can’t see any scenario where Mako would lose faith enough to be able to turn on her friends. Mako would be yelling with her dying breath about how anyone could. Mako would believe in the power of her own two fists to beat the enemy into submission before she’d stop believing in any of them. Even if she WANTED to pretend to betray them, she’d fucking suck at it. Mako for Team Good Guys, always.

Ami is a lot more difficult to decide. I think she could, though. I think she’d have to absolutely have no faith left at all. Ami, at her most logically detached. The thing with Ami that we see consistently throughout the series is how she never loses sight of the bigger picture. This isn’t just them (if it were just them, I don’t think she’d ever consider standing apart from the others), it’s every living thing on earth. They know what Galaxia is capable of, there’s no question what she’ll do if she wins. Ami checks the numbers again. WHEN Galaxia wins. Ami’s heart sinks, because math doesn’t lie.

REI YOU DO VEX ME ON THIS. I keep going back and forth, which is a rare burst of Rei-centric indecision from me. The problem is the idea of “could” and “would” again, which feels a bit cheating since I already covered it, right? Thing is, I believe Rei COULD pretend to betray Usagi and the others. “Making The Hard Choices” is Chapter Three of The Rei Hino Handbook. She isn’t going to be swayed by what anyone would think of her for it, not even Usagi. At the same time though, I just can’t think of a scenario, not even this one, so grave that Rei would admit defeat. Because “Telling The World To Go Fuck Itself I Will Never Give Up” is Chapter TWO in The Rei Hino Handbook. Rei has utter confidence in herself. She believes in her friends without hesitation. She’s had faith in Usagi’s capacity to rise above herself from literally their first moments.

I’m not sure it entirely feels i’m answering there, but it’s the most honest response I have. Rei COULD. I just don’t think Rei ever be brought to the point where she WOULD.

Of course the hitch in all of this is Usagi. Part of what sold Haruka and Michiru was that Usagi herself wasn’t sure. There is absolutely no part of Usagi that’s going believe any of her girls are just “Okay, evil now!” Which opens up another facet where Usagi (who is a little quicker and craftier sometimes than given credit for) catches what’s going on and is part of the plan. BUT ANOTHER TIME PERHAPS AS THAT IS ALL A BIT OUTSIDE THE SCOPE OF YOUR QUESTION.