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what to do if you are feeling gross

so sometimes I’m just sitting around being lazy, watching tv or getting distracted by internet things, or I’ve eaten too much or I’ve just had a super long day. and sometimes I’m even aware of how much of a blob I am being, I’m sure this happens to other people, too. anyways I wanted to share this little list to motivate me/others to stop being a blob:

1. very very first thing. shut off your internet. put all the tv and stuff out of reach. this is really important, but you will feel 100% better afterwards.

2. uncover your windows, let natural light filter in. if you can/want to open them, that’s also fantastic. it really helps lighten your mood, always makes me feel more connected with the rest of the world.

3. put on some music. it’s ok to use your phone/computer for this, but remember to just keep it away from arm’s reach. also, you can use whatever music you’d like, but I suggest something soft, like Frank Sinatra or Beegie Adair or Jack Johnson.

4. take a walk. look at the colors and plants people surround themselves with. pick out houses/buildings you like. look at the sky, listen to what’s going on around you. I don’t generally listen to music for this because I like to feel grounded when I walk, but if you’re more of a song person that’s okay, too. it’s really easy to forget how long it’s been since you’ve had some fresh air.

5. take a bath. if it’s hot out, turn on a fan and cool down the room so you’re all cosy in the water, put in some bubbles and scents. grab a book or magazine. exfoliate, do your nails, put on a face mask. throw yourself a little spa day. when you get out, put on lotion, put on new underwear and soft, comfy clothing.

6. make your favourite cup of tea or coffee, or maybe pour yourself some lemonade or just cold water is fine too.

7. go sit in a common area of your house, like a living room or dining table. if you’re not home alone and don’t want to be bothered, gently voice it to the people around you or go sit somewhere else where you feel comfortable and relaxed. just get out of the same walls, find a change of scenery. you could even leave and go to a café or a park if you’d like.

8. do some writing/doodling. whenever this happens, I always like to use a spare piece of printer paper or something not connected to a notebook so I’m less attached to it and less likely to care about the way it looks. let the pen do its own thing, don’t worry about messing up. if you feel that you’re getting frustrated, step away and do something else.

9. make some lists. this is one of my favourite pastimes. list nice things that you’ve seen recently that you think you’ll forget later on. list little details of your dreams, list things you want to do in your favourite season, list recipes you’d like to try. the possibilities are endless.

10. cook/bake something. important reminders—if you don’t find this relaxing, don’t do it!! find another hobby that you love where you can enjoy doing something productive. also, even if you’re making something fantastic, be sure not to snack too much or overeat (I’m very prone to this). you could also make something for a friend or a neighbour!! people always enjoy a heartfelt craft made by someone who cares.

11. catch up with an old friend or family member. ask them out for coffee or something, it’s always nice to talk. trust me, they will very much appreciate you reaching out.

12. write a letter to someone. you do not have to send it.

13. go to a park and look at the flowers or sit in the grass. grab a sketchbook, some sudoku, a book, a puzzle, your thoughts, or anything else you could tinker with while enjoying the fresh air. something to make your brain work a little.


there’s more, of course, but this is all I can really come up with at the moment—I hope it works! now get off that web and have a good time!!

anonymous asked:

I'm not sure if you've covered this somewhere before, but is Danny left or right handed? Does he seem to have a preference? Is he ambidextrous? It's been ages since I've watched the show but I seem to recall him using his right hand more as a human but his left as a ghost? Any confirmation that he flipped the switch in the Portal with his left hand or is this just a head cannon thing I came up with/saw on the internet?

I have actually talked about this before, but only briefly. This gives me the chance to cover things in more detail, so I’m fine with talking about it again.

Danny seems to use his right hand exclusively for writing/drawing. However, in Public Enemies, he’s shown eating with only his left hand. Then, in Fright Night, we see him use both his left hand and right hand to swing a sword around (regardless of which form he’s in.)

I’d say he’s ambidextrous with a preference for his right hand. In particular, I think he only uses his right hand when holding a pencil. For anything else, he’s comfortable using either hand.

And to answer your other question, yes. Danny is always shown hitting the “on” button with his left hand.

This is consistent in the opening and both times shown in Memory Blank.

Ironically, in Phantom Planet he uses his right hand to try and reverse the accident. I doubt that means anything, but it’s a bit of trivia for anyone who’s curious.

Full transcript of Adam Lanza's 2011 radio appearance
  • BEGIN TRANSCRIPT:
  • (music fades out)
  • Host: Hello! We got the collapsible headphones here, but uh... we're back.
  • Co-Host: (inaudible) we got Greg on the phone.
  • Host: Oh! Greg. Okay. How's it going?
  • Lanza: Hi, good. Um, I'm a fan of your writing.
  • Host: Thank you.
  • Lanza: I'm sorry to bring up such an old news story, but I couldn't find anything that you said about the topic, and it seems relevant to your interests, so I thought I would bring up Travis the Chimp. Do you remember him?
  • Host: I don't.
  • Lanza: Well, um, he was a highly domesticated chimpanzee, who lived in a suburban home in Stamford, Connecticut.
  • Co-Host: Oh, yeah.
  • Host: Oh.
  • Lanza: And he was raised just like a human child, starting from the week he was born. By the time that he was fourteen years old, which would be somewhere around age twenty in human years, um...
  • Host: Uh-huh.
  • Lanza: ...he slept in a bed, he took his own baths, he dressed himself, he brushed his teeth with an electric toothbrush...
  • Host: (laughs) Really? When was this?
  • Lanza: Um... well.. (chuckles) this happened in early two-thousand-and-nine.
  • Co-host and Host: Oh!
  • Lanza: He ate his meals at a table, and he enjoyed human foods like ice cream, and used a remote control to watch television, and liked baseball games... and he even used a computer to look at pictures on the internet.
  • Host: Huh.
  • Lanza: And... (chuckles) it goes without saying that Travis was very overweight; he was two hundred pounds when he should have been around the low hundreds. And he was actually taking Xanax.
  • Co-Host: (laughing)
  • Host: Amazing.
  • Lanza: I couldn't find any information about why he was taking it, but it just seems to say a lot that he was given it at all. And, basically, I think Travis wasn't any different than a mentally handicapped human child.
  • Host: Hmm.
  • Lanza: But, anyway, one day in February 2009, he was acting very agitated, and at some point grabbed the car - his owner's - car keys, and went outside and started leaping from car to car, apparently wanting to go for a car ride. And he was acting very aggressively, so, his owner called her over to get her to help calm him down and get him to go back inside, and once she arrived, he immediately attacked her, and his owner tried to stop him, but couldn't, and she even resorted to stabbing him with a knife, but nothing worked.
  • And she said that after she stabbed him, he looked at her as if to say "Why'd you do that to me, Mom?" Because apparently that was what their relationship was like; no different than between a human mother and child.
  • So, after stabbing, she called the police, who arrived twelve minutes after the attack, at which point her friend was... pretty close to dead. And once the cruiser came up, Travis went over to it, tried to open the locked passenger door. He smashed off the side mirror, went over to the driver's door, opened it, and the cop shot him. He fled back into the house, where he went to his playroom and bled to death.
  • Host: Hmm.
  • Lanza: And... (chuckles) um, it might not seem very relevant, but I'm bringing it up because afterward, everyone was condemning his owner for, saying how irresponsible she was for raising a chimp like it was a child, and that she should have that something like this would happen, because chimps aren't supposed to be living in civilization, they're supposed to be living in the wild, among each other. But, their criticism stops there-
  • Host: Mmm-hmm.
  • Lanza: -and the implication is that there's no way that anything could have gone wrong in this life if he were living in this civilization as a human, rather than a chimp.
  • Host: Ah, indeed.
  • Lanza: Because, uh, he brings up questions about this whole process of child-raising.
  • Host: Yeah.
  • Lanza: Civilization isn't something which just happens to gently exist without us having to do anything, because every newborn child - human child - is born in a chimp-like state, and civilization is only sustained by conditioning them for years on end, so that they'll accept it for what it is, and since we've gone through this conditioning, we can observe a human family raising a human child - and I'm sure that even you have trouble intuitively seeing it as something unnatural - but when we see a chimp in that position, we immediately know that there's something profoundly wrong with the situation. And it's easy to say there's something wrong with it simply because it's a chimp, but what's the real difference between us and our closest relatives?
  • Travis wasn't an untamed monster at all. Um, he wasn't just feigning domestication, he was civilized. Um, he was able to integrate into society, he was a chimp actor when he was younger, and his owner drove him around the city frequently in association with her towing business, where he met many different people, and got alone with everyone. If Travis had been some nasty monster all his life, it would have been widely reported. But, to the contrary, it seems like everyone who knew him said how shocked they were that Travis had been so savage, because they knew him as a sweet child, and... there were two isolated incidents early in his life where he acted aggressively, but... summarizing them would take too long, so basically I'll just say that he didn't really any differently than a human child would, and the people who would use that as an indictment against having chimps live as humans do wouldn't apply the same thing to humans, so it's just kind of irrelevant.
  • Host: Uh-huh.
  • Lanza: Bu anyway, look what civilization did to him; it had the same exact effect on him as it has on humans. He was profoundly sick in every sense of the term, and he had to resort to these surrogate activities like watching baseball, and looking at pictures on a computer screen, and taking Xanax. He was a complete mess.
  • Host: Mmm-hmm.
  • Lanza: And his attack wasn't simply because he was a senselessly violent, impulsive chimp. Uhm, which was how his behavior was universally portrayed. Um, immediately before the attack, he had desperately been wanting his owner to drive him somewhere, and the best reason I can think of for why he would want that, looking at his entire life, would be that... some little things he experienced was the last straw, and he was overwhelmed at the life that he had, and he wanted to get out of it by changing his environment, and the best way that he knew how to deal with that was getting his owner to drive him somewhere else.
  • Host: Yeah.
  • Lanza: And when his owner's... owner's friend, arrived, he knew that she was trying to coax him back into his place of domestication, and he couldn't handle that, so he attacked her, and anyone else who approached them. And dismissing his attack as simply being the senseless violence and impulsiveness of a chimp, instead of a human, is wishful thinking at best.
  • Host: Mmm-hmm.
  • Lanza: His attack can be seen entirely parallel to the attacks and random acts of violence that you bring up on your show every week, committed by humans, which the mainstream also has no explanation for-and-
  • Host: No.
  • Lanza: -and, actual humans... I just- just don't think it would be such a stretch to say that he very well could have been a teenage mall shooter or something like that.
  • Host: Yeah. Yeah.
  • Lanza: And-
  • Host: Wow. Thank you, Greg.
  • Lanza: Yeah.
  • Host: That's quite a story. That's, uh, really apropos, isn't it? Travis the chimp.
  • Lanza: It's just that I'm a little surprised that I haven't heard you bring it up all because... (laughs) maybe I'm just seeing connections where there aren't any, but-
  • Host: Not at, I uh, think not. No, I just... I didn't catch that one. I didn't uh... maybe I was out of the country or something, I don't know, but I missed that it. Thanks very much, man.
  • Lanza: Thank you. Bye.
  • Host: Take care.
  • (Lanza hangs up)

anonymous asked:

I can't stop thinking about the soulmates AU you posted! I really love the premise, and Barry's "promise to dump my body somewhere else" pulled at my heartstrings too. Except now I'm wondering how this would have played out without the soulmark conveniently (well, or inconveniently, depending on the perspective) the encounter, because Len already seemed somewhat reluctant about killing Barry before that. Ack, why is this so intriguing?!

I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s been thinking of it, to be honest. I enjoyed filling that prompt more than I expected.

And it’s a neat question, what would happen were it not for the Deux Ex Machina of them Bonding…. 

Let’s copy/paste and edit the scene to find out, shall we?

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anonymous asked:

I'm not sure that the Undercover Lover Jon thing is true, even though I get why people believe it. If it isn't true tho, what is the third treason that Dany's going to suffer? I thought it was pretty much agreed that it was going to be Jon.

Hokay I know I said I wasn’t going to talk about this, but I am nothing if nothing contrary af. SO anon I am going to use your ask as a kind of like ~general layout~ of my thoughts on the potential of UCJ.  I’m going to maintain though that I would prefer not to discuss any potential consent issues for personal reasons. 

I am also gonna shout out to the other few anons as, well as @ladyanyawaynwood and @lyanna-mormont, who also sent me asks on this topic. 


SO all right folks *drum roll* It’s the new favorite fandom Disc Horse! Either you love it or you hate it! Either you want to have its babies or want to kill it with fire!… It’s THE UNDERCOVER JON THEORY!

Before I start rambling, you should all totally check out the bottom part of this really excellent post by @him-e about some of the details and possibilities of this theory, because Claudia is so much better at words and explanations and life than me. There’s also this post by @blindestspot, whose no nonsense approach I always really appreciate.

Ok, first of all: I would like to go on record once more in saying that God I really dislike the name Undercover Jon. I primarily hate it because I feel like it’s misleading, at least in terms of what I personally would consider this theory to be. I feel like “undercover” implies deliberateness and ill intent and malice aforethought that I generally don’t really think is involved here. Also, I guess I don’t really subscribe to the Undercover Lover theory at all, because I don’t think Jon’s feelings for/sexual relationship with Dany have anything to do with it (i.e. I do not think Jon purposefully and deliberately seduced Dany for the sole purpose of manipulating her, nor do I think he is merely pretending to have feelings for her for the sole purpose of personal/political gain). 

I truly don’t believe Jon is in any way maliciously gaslighting Dany as part of any Grand Scheme. Personally, I feel that would be too much at odds with the Honorable and Noble character and narrative established for Jon. But that’s not to say that I don’t think the general theory is totally with out merit. I actually think some elements of it could definitely make up a potential plot line. I have explained my take on it as more Flying By the Seat of His Pants Jon- I think “scheme” would be way too strong a word, I think “plan” would probably even be too generous. It’s probably more along the lines of “ok so this is what we are doing now.”

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anonymous asked:

Hi there! Could you possibly turn your considerable talents to prompts 27 and 57, please? (if nobody has got in ahead of me!) Tom-verse if possible, but I'm happy to leave the artistic decisions to the artist :-) Ellis

I tried for Tom-verse, but I just couldn’t make anything fit (though, I mean, if you squint, it could maybe fit in there before the first ficlet in the series).  Sorry! For some reason the unicorn prompt just tripped me up (I’m even reusing a bit I had written and scrapped for the other one because I’m just coming up empty).  I’m so off my comedy game and all aboard the train to angstville, apparently.  Also, just pretend the chronology fits with the actual timeline of the show and Surrey has the year-round summer of LA.

“Sometimes I just don’t want to exist”/ “You asked me if unicorns were real”

“Did you ever wonder if unicorns were real?  Like one horse somewhere in prehistory with some kind of keratinous carcinoma or something that started it all?” Molly said, staring at the 14th century ‘unicorn’ horn (that of a narwhal, most likely) mounted on the wall of the study.

“Probably something along those lines, could have been an oryx or a rhino that someone saw while in an altered state.  Between ergot, mushrooms, natural fermentation, and all manner of disease and naturally-occurring poisons, added to the fact that there was no reliable way to record an experience, it’s amazing we as a species ever came to any consensus about the nature of reality,” Sherlock said as he searched the club treasurer’s desk.

“Say that at a physics conference sometime,” she said.

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anonymous asked:

I love your blog but don't forget weed is still illegal in most countries. People look up to you. Don't encourage them to break the law or at least mention that they should remember that when you praise weed. I know it's not your problem and you don't need to care but you should. My parents would kick my ass and punish me quite severly if they caught me using drugs and I'm sure my parents aren't the only ones. With great power comes great responsibilty, it's cheesy but true pls remember that

aah sorry! you’re totally right. i don’t think of myself as someone with great power, haha, i honestly forget how many people see what i post. plus i sometimes forget that a lot of people on tumblr are younger and more impressionable than i am because i’m 25 and have been active on the internet for like… way too long… and i’m so fcking jaded at this point, haha.

i’m definitely not trying to encourage anyone to do anything that would be illegal or anything that will get them in trouble!! don’t break the law. unless you’re looking to get in trouble, it’s generally a good idea not to break any rules, whether they’re your parents’ rules or the country’s rules. 

and assuming your consent isn’t compromised, please don’t ever try anything that you don’t feel 100% safe and comfortable with. you can say no and should say no if you don’t want/can’t smoke (or drink, or do whatever it is that you’re being offered). it won’t make you ‘less cool’, i promise. if you’re hanging out with the right people, they’re not going to judge you for not participating. and guess what? you can still have plenty of fun without it. i know i did.

as i mentioned in my previous ask, i only started smoking once i moved to california, where it is legal, largely because i didn’t want to get in trouble for it before. i know how it goes not wanting to get in trouble with your parents or school (or the law), or even just not wanting to feel sneaky or guilty!! definitely don’t do anything that i do just because i say i like it, what works for me and is good for me won’t automatically work and be good for everyone. don’t be afraid to try new things, but if you don’t like whatever it is, you don’t have to keep it up.

i just want my blog to be somewhere that people feel comfortable talking to me about things like this, especially because when i was younger i literally thought weed was like, the devil, mostly because of the conservative catholic environment i grew up in. i wish i’d been more educated about the positive effects instead of just thinking smoking was instantly gonna turn you into a lazy stoner or make you want to do other harder drugs. i wish i had known sooner because of all the positive things it does for my mental health, so i’m really happy that people feel okay coming to my blog to talk to me about it <3 but as you pointed out, it’s not legal everywhere and it’s not something everyone should do!! my bad if i gave the impression that everyone everywhere should just be like, lighting up 24/7 regardless of their situation haha. it wasn’t intended.

Haters gonna hate
  • Sherlock: *furiously typing on his laptop*
  • John: *Just got in with little Rosie on his hips, sees tall, dark and brooding slamming the keys in his laptop. Turns to his daughter.* Well, Rosie looks like Uncle Sherlock is in a bad mood again. Should we just go down and see if Nana Martha has some delicious cookies?
  • Molly: *Exits from the kitchen and walks up to them* Hi John. Hi Rosie, my sweetheart *goes to take the giggling baby from her father* He's doing it again. I already tried telling him to stop but he's in too deep now.
  • John: *Sighs deeply then worriedly looks over at his former flat mate* How deep?
  • Molly: *Frowns then leans closer* I think he is tracking their IPs now.
  • John: Okay, that's scary but also routine. He always does that when things like this happens.
  • Molly: *Huffs* No, I think he's...well, I think he is tracking them down *Leans even more to whisper* and is shutting them one by one.
  • John: *whispers* He can't do that! *Looks at his best friend who is still abusing his keyboard* Can he?
  • Sherlock: *Still very much engaged in his laptop* Doing it.
  • Molly: *Jumps away from John* Okay, that's my cue. I'll just take Rosie down to Mrs. Hudson for some sweet treats. *Turns to the little pod of cuteness in her arms* Come on sweetie, let's leave Daddy and Uncle Sherlock to do their serious grown up talk. *Looks up to John and whispers before leaving* Do something, please!
  • John: *Pats Molly in the arm as she turns to leave then slowly walks to his chair* So...
  • Sherlock: *Still karate-chopping his keyboard* Nope.
  • John: *Lowers himself in his chair* You haven't even heard what I was about to say.
  • Sherlock: *Without looking away from his computer* Didn't need to. And the answer is still no.
  • John: *Beginning to feel frustrated* Sherlock, this is not healthy. You've been at it for almost a week now. Surely you've realized by now that engaging with them only makes things worse.
  • Sherlock: *Still drilling through his keys* Yes, which is why I am about to finish them off now. Except, you are bothering me so I have to portion part of my brain cells just to talk to you, instead of using all of them to finish this.
  • John: *definitely frustrated now* How are you finishing them off? By shutting them down? That's hacking, Sherlock! That's illegal!
  • Sherlock: *still hammering away* We both know I have done far worse.
  • John: *Sighs and then begins to massage his temples* Yes. Unfortunately, yes. But Sherlock! These are trolls, haters! As long as there is internet, they'll keep popping out no matter how many times you try to shut them down!
  • Sherlock: *Noncommittal voice* Yes. Yes. Uhuh. I agree. You are right.
  • John: *Huffs and sinks in his chair* Aaaaand you are not listening anymore. You know one of this days, that act of yours will get you in trouble.
  • Sherlock: *Definitely not paying attention* Yes. Yes. Uhuh. I agree. You are right.
  • John: *Throws his arms in the air* That's it, I give up. *Reaches for his phone* I'm telling Mycroft what you are doing, just so he knows why there is a sudden increase of angry customer service calls on internet providers.
  • Sherlock: *Hammers through a few more keys before finally stopping and shutting down his laptop with a loud snap* No need.
  • *As if on cue, approaching footsteps could be heard from the staircase*
  • John: *glares at the consulting detective* What did you do?
  • Sherlock: *Shrugs then looks around* Where's Molly?
  • John: Sh-
  • Sherlock: Ah yes, you brought your sprog. Did you tell her to bring up some gingernuts here?
  • John: *disbelievingly* No I di-
  • Mycroft: *Appears out of nowhere* William Sherlock Scott Holmes! What do you think you're doing?!?
  • Sherlock: *Turns to look at his brother* When Mrs. Hudson let you in, did you tell her to bring up some gingernuts with the tea?
  • Mycroft: *Strides in and stops in the middle of the room* Need I remind you that I have far more important things to do than arrest these *takes out a piece of paper* haters of yours.
  • Sherlock: Hmmm...guess you didn't. *Shouting out* MRS. HUDSON, PLEASE BRING SOME GINGERNUTS WITH THE TEA!
  • *From Below* NOT YOUR HOUSEKEEPER SHERLOCK!
  • *Sherlock's phone rings immediately after*
  • Sherlock: *Answer's his phone* Molly can you tell her to bring some hob-
  • Molly: Sherlock! Rosie's here! Don't scream! And Mrs. Hudson is not your housekeeper!
  • Sherlock: *Rolls his eyes* Mrs. Hudson screamed too! And she's down there with Rosie!
  • Molly: I covered her ears! Now stop being a petulant child and listen to John and Mycroft. And no, Mrs. Hudson is not going to serve you tea. Go to the kitchen and prepare it yourself!
  • Sherlock: *whines* Bu-
  • Molly: There is also a plate of gingernuts and hobnobs in there.
  • Sherlock: And custard creams?
  • Molly: And custard creams.
  • Sherlock: *Smiles* I love you
  • Mycroft: *groaning* Oh for Christ's sake!
  • Molly: And I, you. *hangs up*
  • Mycroft: Now that we are done with that cringe-worthy display of sentiment. Can we go back to the topic at hand?
  • Sherlock: *puts his phone away then immediately shots up from his chair to go to the kitchen* Nope
  • Mycroft: Sherlock, you cannot keep doing this! You cannot keep disconnecting people and taking away their internet connection. You're disrupting the flow of information and the system.
  • Sherlock: *returning from the kitchen with a heaping plate of cookies* What flow of information? That apparently John and I are secretly engaged and that Molly is just my beard. That she is just here to hide the fact that John and I are secretly raising Rosie together? That Molly Hooper is a little morgue mouse that needs to be shut down because she's interfering with our great love? That Mary's dea-
  • *looks guiltily at John before turning back to his brother* There is no flow of information Mycroft. There is however, systematic character assassination towards important women in our lives. *plops down his chair and shoves biscuits in his mouth*
  • John: *grave* What are they saying about Mary? *reaches for Sherlock's laptop*
  • Sherlock: *stops eating and reaches out to firmly place his hand above his laptop and stare solemnly at his bestfriend*
  • John: *holds his bestfriend's gaze for a few seconds before leaning back and turning to Mycroft* You know, if people can't properly use the internet, maybe it's for the best if they are kept off of it for a while.
  • Mycroft: John, the internet is a complex system of neural net-
  • John: Off of it. For. A. While. *stares at Mycroft as if daring him to do otherwise*
  • Mycroft: *Meets Dr. Watson's heavy gaze before turning to look at his brother who is also looking at him in the same way*
  • ...
  • Mycroft: Fine. I suppose there's a solar flare that could be cooked up somewhere. *Approaches Sherlock's work table and puts down the piece of paper* I am, however, drawing the line with arresting people. Unless they do something illegal, no one is going to jail. They'll simply have to live without internet connection for a week.
  • Sherlock: *still munching despite consuming half of the treats* Based on their psychological profiles, a week without internet is a worse punishment than jail.
  • John: Speaking from experience?
  • Sherlock: *raises a gingernut in the air before tossing it in his mouth*

anonymous asked:

I always appreciate how much sanity you add to all those loaded discussions. It's like you've got x-ray vision and see right through bad arguments! And I feel encouraged to work on my own critical-thinking skills, especially because I'm always afraid of offending others and usually stay silent. Do you perhaps have advice for improving critical-thinking?

I’m flattered anon, thank you. I’m really glad you’re looking to get more critical! My advice is to ask questions, seek out different perspectives and gauge your emotions.

Okay so first, asking questions! There’s a good chart somewhere that I will find for you about asking questions, but the basics are always who, what, when, how and why. Who is affected, what is the topic/issue, when is it discussed, how is it discussed and why might that be. In feminist theory this basically translates into “always ask who benefits” and sometimes it can be easier to work backwards.

An example using abuse: who is affected? Primarily women. What is the issue? There may be several, such as abuse is unacceptable, abuse is physically, emotionally and financially harmful and/or abuse is not prosecuted effectively. When is it discussed? Primarily by women’s organizations. Also, men often bring it up in discussions of male abuse. How is it discussed and how is it such a problem? The terms “male violence” or “male violence against women” are basically censored on both sides. It affects a large percentage of girls and women, and men can get away with it easily. Now why is this the case? You may have several thoughts. Do all those reasons connect somehow? Some reasons could be 1) we do not properly educate our children, particularly girls, and this continues into adulthood, 2) men are making, interpreting and enforcing laws, 3) we romanticize and glorify violence as a society, 4) abusive men back other abusive men and abusive men go all the way up to the top of society, government, law, etc. 5) it is in all men’s interest to keep women subordinate, i.e. we live in a patriarchy.

One part of critical thinking that I think too often gets overlooked is seeking out different perspectives. There is no one person who will ever know everything there is to know even about only one topic. There will always be someone who will think of things you did not see. Especially when you are first learning about an issue or you are unaffected by it, it’s very important to read and listen to others. You don’t have to agree with everything they say, but you should try to understand where it is coming from. Also, while I think it is worthwhile to listen to or read up on what groups we oppose think, like mras, this by no means is a reason for you to continue submerging yourself in their bs once you understand their points. The idea is that if you want to effectively combat something you have to actually know what is going on first not that you must always engage.

Now with your emotions you need to be able watch, listen to and think about your feelings when you are thinking of whatever topic and when you are listening to or having a discussion with others. Often our first response when we just begin to critically think about something we hadn’t before is basically a knee jerk “wtf no” reaction. Pay attention to these because they are likely topics you need to work on. The goal is to be able to sit with that negative reaction and try to see why you are feeling it and how it fits in with the topic being discussed. The goal is not to not feel, but be able to remove your feelings from the discussion if necessary.

It can be hard to learn on the internet because of the hostility, but it really is a valuable place full of information and there will always be people there who want to help if you want to talk so don’t be discouraged. Keep in mind that you will make mistakes and you probably will hurt other people’s feelings. It’s my opinion that what matters is what you do afterwards. Oh, and one more thing, critical thinking takes a lot of work, it can be very tiring and depressing to see how things are 24/7. Make sure you give yourself a break, practice good self-care and stay connected.

of piano players and restaurants

Genre: can you guess it?

Words: 7.970, Jesus Christ. I need to be stopped.

Warnings: Alcohol is mentioned like… twice…

Summary: Phil is a waiter working in his best friend’s restaurant. One day, when the owners decide to hire a new pianist since their last one was a complete fail, Phil is kind of skeptical about it — can you blame him? The last pianist was insane — but once he meets Dan Howell, he realizes it’s not as bad as he thinks.

a/n: Again. One of those stories that I could’ve left at 2k but then I went, “THESE CHARACTERS DESERVE MORE AND SO DOES THE STORY AND I CARE ABOUT IT TOO MUCH TO LEAVE A NORMAL ENDING,” so yeah. God. I need lessons on how to not let myself get carried away.

This is also for my beautiful beautiful friend/wife Ravie, whose birthday is in like two weeks and a couple of days but I like to give her earlier presents. (also hi Ravie. It’s just a habit to give you longfics as presents whoops.)

(also it’s getting really ironic how I can only write cheesiness when I hear Hyper Music.)

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TFLN Sentence Starters (Part 4)
  • [text] Do you ever get high and look at your cat and feel like you know them on an intellectual level?
  • [text] Three of my exes and one of my exes' brothers have hit me up and it's only been a week. I hate semester break.
  • [text] Remember when I got punched in the face on NYE last year? I don't
  • [text] I wasn't going to just ask my parents for a damn vibrator for christmas
  • [text] I put chex mix in your purse for when you get hungry while doing your walk of shame tomorrow!
  • [text] I snuck out three pillows from the hotel i was rolling so hard. They are like little clouds. I regret nothing.
  • [text] Went out with the family last night and some 40 yr old lady wanted to take me home. My mom was not happy with me
  • [text] If it snows I'm making an igloo and getting wasted in it
  • [text] new years resolution: more sex, less car punching, more chipotle.
  • [text] He's interpretive dancing to Crazy by Britney Spears and expressing his feelings for either me or the guy next to us
  • [text] He puked in the middle of it and I still wasn't disappointed.
  • [text] Well I've made a drinking game out of the Wiggles but I think I've got this babysitting thing down
  • [text] You are the jesus of drinking
  • [text] Never underestimate the power of loudly proclaiming you want to make out with someone
  • [text] Pretty much gone. He was in the backseat and kept whispering that his "toes felt like pigtails"
  • [text] Holy shit, add "successfully got stoned secretly at a party where a cop was" to my list of accomplishments.
  • [text] I'm smoking a bowl in my bathtub. I'm meant to be alone.
  • [text] friends are allowed to bang on New Years, I read it on the Internet somewhere.
  • [text] I hope my margaritas pass through security.
  • [text] Go have fun. I'm gonna go shower off the regret.
  • [text] Never again let me pretend to be australian for free booze.
  • [text] woke up this morning with a pool of champagne in my purse. apparently i was saving it for later.
  • [text] just had a flashback of you pouring champagne into my mouth from someones balcony..
  • [text] Unless you can cure my hangover with your penis I'm not interested.
  • [text] They tried to dine n dash at dennys and the waiter jumped on their car and broke their windshield
  • [text] The first thing I did in 2015 was suck a dick.....so.....
  • [text] Woke up with champagne in my hair and honey mustard on my hands. Strangely, I'm okay with this
  • [text] For future reference, don't put tape on your nipples. Ouch.
  • [text] I wish I could take a screenshot of how things literally look from my eyeballs right now
  • [text] I'm gonna write a book. Almost Awesome: all the times I ALMOST got laid.
  • [text] Dude you asked your tattoo if it wanted to go swimming
  • [text] Called my dealer in tears and we talked for an hour until I felt better. That's the way it should be.
  • [text] Mmm. Champagne. Weed. 17 pounds of animal crackers.
  • [text] Just scratched my head and I basically rained glitter.
  • [text] Did the walk of shame past her kids. I'm younger than one of them.
  • [text] its not facebook stalking, its market reasearch
  • [text] I've never been so excited to have my ass in so much pain.
  • [text] Drunk me just left a note for sober me apologizing for all the fucking crumbs in our bed
  • [text] I feel like I was playing penis roulette last night nd I landed on the wrong one.
  • [text] but I'm still not sure how you became more and more fluent in Spanish the drunker you got
  • [text] The vodka told me to go iceskating on my frozen pool. I may have attempted.
  • [text] Remember the girl I had sex with in the dorm stairwell? She got married!
  • [text] I haven't had an orgasm since 2014. So you can see why I'm having a bad year.
  • [text] do you have any idea how expensive it is to have the munchies at Disneyland?
  • [text] I'm drunk in your building find me and we can have sex.
  • [text] Dude. I don't even want cuddles. I just want an acknowledgement that I just had balls in my mouth.
  • [text] I'm getting "congrats on your engagement" shots. I need to get engaged more often!
  • [text] I wanna snuggle with you as we feed each other chipotle burrito bowls and that's just where I'm at right now
  • [text] I don't know. I'm drunk and dressed as a pirate but ill do the math tomorrow morning.
  • [text] woke up to the trail of sugar cubes leading to my bed........was i that uncooperative last night
  • [text] I'm serious-it was like trying to deep-throat a minivan.
  • [text] I would say that that is the last time I ever drink a bottle of jack in two hours, but really who am I kidding?
  • [text] I'm honestly wondering if my vagina did something to offend the universe
  • [text] if becoming an adult is chugging a bottle of wine in your bed and crying about your stresses while your dog watches you, sign me up
  • [text] i cant believe we used adam and eve as a sexting theme last night
  • [text] I'm trying to be sexual and you're sending me smashmouth lyrics
  • [text] I saw your dick pic and thought there goes the last thread of my heterosexuality.
  • [text] I mixed Jack with hot chocolate. This may be the best or worst idea ever. I have yet to find that out
  • [text] Listen. I'm a changed woman. I have no problem using him for sex.
  • [text] do you think your dog feels awkward being in the background of your nudes?
  • [text] his ex girlfriend sent him a pic of her naked in the bathtub so I sent her a pic of me sucking his dick
  • [text] I knew it was time to stop when you guys were playing a drinking game called "every three steps take a drink"
  • [text] You couldve had sex with 2 drunk chicks on an alligator slide.

anonymous asked:

prompt: jack makes a lot of bad puns (to bitty, in particular). extra points if you can fit "i love you to BITS" in there

send me check please prompts!

you, anon, are my new favorite person. also, this turned into almost 750 words of ridiculousness, so i hope it’s everything you hoped for <3

    The thing is, Jack doesn’t mess around with reporters the way his teammates do, the way a lot of NHL guys do. He’s straightforward, not rude, but he doesn’t crack jokes or get enthusiastic in front of cameras–and Bitty’s pretty sure nobody’s ever heard him make a pun. Which is why, when he hears it, he has to pause the program and rewind a few seconds, just to make sure.

    “I mean sure, forward’s a tough position, but no team in the world can play without a good goalie; you need a man in the crease who can say ‘the puck stops here’ and mean it.” There’s a chuckle from the commentators as the post-game interview cuts away, and Bitty clicks off the television with an expression his mother might’ve called ‘befuddled’.

    “It was a pun.” Jack’s pretty sure he’s never seen Bitty look so offended and so proud at the same time, and he feigns innocence just to hear the indignant tone again. 

    “That thing you said, in the locker room interview–about Snowy–it was a pun.”

    It takes about six seconds for the expression on Jack’s face to betray how proud he is of himself for making the pun (and of Bitty for noticing it), but his maybe-a-little-bit-smug grin is soon buried under a flood of kisses interspersed with laughter.


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anonymous asked:

Hello fandom guru! With the recent news that Tumblr has failed to meet Yahoo's expectations and has just been devalued by nearly $250million, should fandom be worried? The WSJ article on it has Yahoo stating about there are gonna be changes to try to make it profitable. Is it possible it means making it less fandom friendly, since fandom and business profits don't usually go well? Having gone through the LJ and delicious drama, I'm nervous. Should I be?

(The news in question, which you should all be aware of: Yahoo Writes Down the Value of Tumblr by $230 million)

Hi, anon! I was gonna make a post about this anyway, so I appreciate the question! But even more, I appreciate you thinking about these issues, because as a culture, we need to be thinking about these issues, as you well know. My answer basically falls along two lines of thought, so here they are.

1. Owning what we build

I keep thinking about this idea of ownership and profit in terms of fandom creating its own infrastructure. To me, fandom as a whole has suffered a bit because we’re currently relying largely on for-profit structures with WYSIWYG interfaces to build our communities. (I say as I type this directly into Tumblr’s wysiwyg interface.) I’m not saying that we should return to the dark ages of mailing lists and internet forums, but I think culturally and communally we lose something by not having to go in and physically build the spaces we inhabit. We’re looking at a generation of fans who have mostly grown up on Tumblr and Wattpad and expect these pre-made hosting spaces to just kind of be here forever—and to be cool about hosting fanworks and fan communities.

Whereas those of us who’ve been around forever know from experience that listservs can vanish overnight, web hosts and server owners can kick you off and delete your website, corporations can and will attempt to delete your communities because they think you write and draw illegal material, businesses can fold and collapse and leave you with years of fandom infrastructure completely demolished. 

I think that it’s dangerous to be fully disconnected from the backend, from the code. The main reason I even learned more than basic code way back when is that LJ’s early codebase sucked and was tinkerable with, and you couldn’t really participate effectively in the community unless you also learned how to physically build the community, whether it was by creating your own LJ style, making your own icons or theme, making your own LJ comms, or whatever. Like, I learned how to use Photoshop because I had to use it to make perfectly square 100x100 icons with a 1 pixel border. And I learned the value of tagging and curating because Delicious allowed us to basically build an entire fandom community around self-curated fic recs. And then there’s the AO3, which has essentially been hand-coded from the ground up by female-dominated fandom out of the principle that we need to own the damn servers because owning them ourselves is the only way to guarantee longevity. 

That can’t be said enough: owning and yes, even building, our own community spaces is the only way to guarantee longevity. If anyone who actually lived through Strikethrough and Boldthrough and LJ in general, much less the nightmare of Delicious shutting down, actually came to Tumblr with the idea that it would be our shiny new forever fandom home, I would be very surprised. But we’ve all been really content to just be here without seriously looking for alternatives and backups. And meanwhile, ask any Tumblr user under, idk, 16 or so, what the next fandom blogging and discussion platform will be after Tumblr, and I’m not sure they’d have any more of an answer than I do. 

2. Valuing female-dominated fandom spaces

It’s not like Reddit hasn’t been going through this same question of how to monetize its huge userbase, but the huge difference is that Reddit essentially already owns itself. Its community members chip in to help it keep running both infrastructure-wise and financially. Its male-dominated spaces are vastly more likely to have adults who want to hop in and get their hands dirty keeping the ship running, rather than jumping ship to go somewhere else. There were plenty of doomsday predictions about Reddit last year that came to nothing because at the end of the day, the community a) is willing to fight for its survival and b) has a major stake in the direction of the website by virtue of having built the Reddit community on a model of volunteerism, hand in hand with its management.

Tumblr’s userbase, on the other hand, essentially joined a ready-made platform that was already operating under a start-up model. The goal of Tumblr has always been to be a profitable business, so instead of viewing its users as the reason it exists, Tumblr sees its userbase as a byproduct of its existence. And I think we see that reflected in the lack of respect Tumblr users get (especially compared to Reddit’s users, who are typically revered in new media as some kind of pinnacle community of the Internet). Even though Tumblr’s userbase is the wealthiest demographic of any social media platform, it’s been repeatedly derided by industry experts as a site for tweens and dumb memes and not a source of revenue potential. In part, Tumblr’s business problems are due to the social devaluation of female-dominated communities and activities—which is literally translating to an economic devaluation. 

But half the problem, IMO, is that the businesses who understand Tumblr culture are smart enough to know that they can successfully engage Tumblr users without spending a bunch of money because the whole site is free, and the things Tumblr users value about the site are things smart and savvy businesses & people (like Mic, Dennys, Buzzfeed, Grimes, etc) can tap into without spending any ad dollars. Whereas the advertisers who spend a lot of money trying to reach Tumblr through traditional banner ads are out of touch and don’t seem to have a clue what Tumblr users value. And why should they? Outside of Tumblr, things like an amazing reblog chain or gorgeous fanart or discussions about diversity aren’t seen as cultural capital. As a community and a culture, we can’t expect our work to be viewed as “profitable” work. 

The takeaway:

For me, the takeaway is that if we want to maintain social media communities around fandom in the future, we either have to figure out ways to build our own communities ourselves, or ways to talk about fandom that increases the visibility of fandom culture and increases respect for it among the mainstream, so that investors of potential social media platforms realize the value of what they’re investing in. This is something that so far Wattpad has been able to do really well, so it’s definitely something that’s possible. But Wattpad also evolved its business policies by building its services around its userbase, which Tumblr has never really done.

Does that make sense? Sorry for the long reply, but obviously this is kind of a big deal. :)

anonymous asked:

Might be an old topic for you, it's about the artist source post. Just kinda wondering why so many people on tumblr give a shit about sourcing and reposting, I'm guessing the majority of people on here have illegally copied some music or program without giving proper credit to the creator, why is some random-ass wannabe artist on tumblr worth changing the way I treat media on the internet but say.... the creator of winrar or whoever made some funny gif (extremes) can be copied just fine?

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anonymous asked:

I know that capitalism right now is unethical. But why isn't it possible to make capitalism ethical? We could just ensure that even the poorest person on this planet has water,food,housing,healthcare etc. for example with an unconditional basic income that takes all that into account. Yall are laughing about ethical capitalism and say it's an oxymoron but my leftist history teacher really thinks it's possible and so i'm not sure. And he is a leftist; he even gives our grades based on solidarity.

lmao if the state gives everyone a basic income thats not capitalism, if you’re giving everyone healthcare regardless of their skill or work put into the economy thats not capitalism, if you’re giving everyone food regardless of their exchange for it thats not capitalism, if you give everyone water when they have nothing to give for it thats not capitalism. And who is this thats giving everyone food water housing medical care etc. If it is a government then that is not true capitalism.

under capitalism everyone has to work in some degree there has to be a voluntary exchange that benefits both parties. If you cannot work and you didn’t get lucky enough to live with rich people who have decided your company is enough exchange for their caring then you’re fucked and will die. period. 

don’t really think your teachers a leftist if they think capitalism is ethical, none of my marxist professors have thought capitalism could be ethical, etc. its literally…. the opposite of what leftists think lmao? if capitalism could be ethical then why would they be leftists. They sound like a liberal to me. and grading based on solidarity?? has nothing to do with anything? I don’t know why you think that’s a leftist thing.

theres always going to be a loser in capitalism because not everyone is equal in skill or in resources, there isn’t equal opportunity for everyone, and one person who magically decides they want to save the world and provides out of their own pocket for all these people would not be able to use their wealth alone to provide for the billions of people on this planet, there’s no way they could get that rich without already exploiting everyone effectively creating the problem theyre trying to eradicate. They have to siphon that wealth from somewhere. there are finite resources. 

there would have to be a system in place that conglomerates many peoples resources in order to help the whole. pure capitalism doesn’t do that, every single multi-billionaire capitalist would have to individually decide to conglomerate their resources to do it and even then it wouldn’t really be enough to provide housing, food, medical care, water, clothing, etc. to every single person on this planet WITH NOTHING ELSE IN EXCHANGE.

our bastardized version of capitalism has done this shit and people are still dying lmao. 

A capitalist has nothing to gain by making people live comfortably, they make more money from exploitation and desperation, it just wouldnt happen. Poverty has to exist under capitalism for a lot of reason I haven’t even gotten into because I don’t feel like doing the math for you bcuz i am a lazy person.

so pure capitalism wont work, the capitalism we have right now doesnt work, and the shit youre talking about would jeopardize capitalism and would still be fucking shitty granted better than what we have now, still shitty. people still need transportation, and what kind of food are we giving all of these people are they having all of their dietary needs met, is the housing adequate and livable and what of internet and electricity etc. not everyone would be able to work for that shit because not everyone can work. 

So what are we going to claim is a luxury you can only get if you work. where do you draw the line? someones still gonna get fucked over. we’re still dependent on monetary exchange for goods, we’re still dependent on these private corporations to treat their workers well and agree to this shit, which they provably have not and do not treat their workers well because its not as profitable to the people at the top, which means we’re still dependent on a shitty system. It’s a fucking bandaid on gangrene. 

Little Reminder: Aaron & Privacy

Now that we’re posting ancient history today, it’s pretty exciting to look around at how much more active Aaron’s tag is after Grease: Live, and how many new people there are in our little fandom! We’re just a small blog, and I’m posting this untagged because it’s not my place to say what one should or shouldn’t post, but I thought (as an Anon recently reminded us - thanks, Anon!) that it could be a good juncture to reiterate things that might not be common knowledge for everybody, now that we have a few more people following us (thank you!): Aaron is a pretty private person, who doesn’t like photos from his personal life circulating around the internet, and is somewhat leery of stalkers (for good reason!). It has also been heavily implied that his management does keep tabs on social media about him, including his Tumblr tag (he’s gotta have learnt about his old man social media habits from somewhere…!).

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ofthatcolossalwreck  asked:

Hi Mollyhall. You are the most me-like adult I know. I moved back in with my parents after graduation last May and I'm contemplating moving out, but I keep being told that it's a bad idea and I can't afford it and I should stay home. I'm going a little crazy, though. What should I do??

oof!!!! this is a HARD QUESTION that doesn’t have a RIGHT ANSWER, especially because there are so many nuances to it. i also just want to be up front here about where i, personally, am coming from, because my perspective is DEFINITELY not standard.

i have had a lot of support from my parents, both financially and otherwise. i am incredibly lucky in that regard, because it means that i was able to do things like up and move to chicago without being worried that if worst came to worst i wouldn’t be able to pay my rent. if you’re using me as a barometer for what is normal/what you “should do” with regard to that, don’t. i have a safety net that not everybody does.

my situation is not normal. i know that. before you listen to any thing i say, YOU should know that. AS SUCH, audjpodge has been awesome enough to say that if you want some more advice from the perspective of someone who did move out, despite student loans and a less extensive safety net, etc., she’s totally willing to talk to you about it. i really recommend that you pay 5X more attention to what she says than what i say.

so i guess the best i can do for you is to ask you a series of questions. these are real talk questions, not Gentle Loving Mollyhall questions, so please know that i’m not trying to be accusatory or anything. i honestly have no opinion on what is right for you, because i don’t know your situation. these are just things you need to consider.

  1. what is your relationship with your parents?
    1. are you being driven crazy because you’re a college graduate and they’re treating you like you’re 14 again, or is your relationship actually unhealthy/complicated to the point where it’s genuinely messing with your mental health?
  2. CAN you afford to move out?
    1. i don’t mean “can you literally afford rent somewhere.” i’m not sure if you’ve ever lived on your own before, but if you haven’t, there are a LOT of small things that cost money that you might not expect. rent, utilities, small things going wrong in the apartment, groceries, internet, cleaning supplies, plates, furniture, parking maybe, move-in fees, etc. etc. etc.
    2. these things HELLA ADD UP, even if you have a roommate.
  3. do you have a job? is it a job you want to stay in for the duration of a lease?
    1. leases are, typically, one year. do you want to be at this job for at least one year?
    2. does this job pay you enough that you could pay for rent, et all, AND save a little money? if your relationship with your parents isn’t a dangerous or unhealthy one, seriously do NOT underestimate how much of an advantage it is to be able to stay with them and not pay rent so that you can put some money away (and/or use a larger portion of it to start paying down your student loans).
  4. are you going crazy because you’re living with your parents, or are you going crazy because you’ve graduated and just feel adrift?
    1. it’s okay if it’s the latter. i felt that way, too (sometimes i still feel that way). you just have to be honest with yourself about which it is. if you don’t know what you want yet, don’t know what you’re doing, if the world seems kind of like that scene in the bell jar where she’s looking up at the tree with all the plums and can’t pick one so they all die, hey. it’s okay. we’ve all been there. but i promise you that moving out of your parents’ house isn’t going to solve that feeling. 
    2. seriously. i promise.

if you answered all those questions, and you DO think that moving out is what’s best for you, hey! that’s great. best of luck, and do you. (SERIOUSLY GO TALK TO audjpodge FOR SOUND ADVICE ABOUT IT.) if not, that’s okay, too. maybe try sitting down with your parents and having a honest conversation about how you’re feeling.

it’s really, really hard to redraw the lines about parenting when you grow up. your parents love you and are used to being YOUR PARENTS in all caps. it’s hard to figure out how to just be your parents, lowercase, where you listen to what they say and consider their advice but don’t necessarily take it. i remember, for example, a time last year when my mother told me i couldn’t do something and i had to be like, “well, i understand where you’re coming from, but i’m an adult and i’m going to do it anyway.”

that was hard. and unpleasant. but you learn and move on and grow, which is just a part of any relationship. remember that it’s just as hard for your parents to figure out how to be the parents of this shiny new adult you as it is for you.

…so THAT was a long answer. i hope it was at least a little bit helpful!

anonymous asked:

I have a question, what do you think it means that the writers in the scripte (from the people are posting their copies rn) write Dean and Cas as "brothers" or otherwhise platonic? Including in Carvers era? Cause I like many, didn't think romantic Destiel was intentional before that but do the scripts "prove" that it isn't in Carvers era as well? I dont have any idea how the backround of a TV show works so I'm not sure what an inside these glimpses into write give or what we can take away fromit

I assume that the only “glimpses” we’ve seen have been were of 8x02, right?  Those are the only ones I’ve seen, so I’m going to go based on those.

Look.  I honestly believe that we shouldn’t take anything from it- except for maybe that the writers are still very fond of spelling it Cass instead of Cas.  There are three reasons why I really don’t care that the script said Dean was hugging a lost brother, rather than the romantic scene that we all saw.

1. This script was from the very, very beginning of season 8.  There have been two full seasons worth of episodes between then and now.  A lot changes in terms of the direction of the show in that time- hell, even in just half a season.  And you know when the Dean/Cas subtext really picks up in season 8, with very pointed parallels?  Not until at the earliest 8x05.  By the time 8x05 was being drafted, they had already started filming season 8, and had already gotten the woah-hey-this-is-romantic scene that had been written as brotherly.  And by the time the really romantic overtones started, somewhere between 8x07 and 8x11, 8x02 had already aired and gotten the reception within the fandom that it did- namely an explosion from a side of fandom that had essentially been sidelined for an entire season while Cas was off the show.

Basically, 8x02 was still coming off of Gamble’s era, still finding its feet.  Honestly, the entire first half of season 8 comes across as finding its feet, struggling a little with pacing and the direction the show should go, and eventually getting into stride after the midseason break.  I mean, take the difference between say, 8x02 and 8x08, both of which were written by Andrew Dabb (cowritten, I should say, as Dan Loflin cowrote 8x02 before their duo was split and Loflin eventually left the team).  Or better yet, take the difference between what we know was in the 8x02 script (ie the “brotherly” hug) and what we know was in the 9x22 script, also by Dabb (ie Metatron mocking Cas’ heaven with a bunch of naked Deans slapped on the walls).  That’s a huge change in the tone of the script, and pretty indicative of the direction the show has been moving.

2. The script isn’t what ended up on our screen.  We’re talking about canon here, right?  Since what we’re all concerned with is whether or not Dean and Cas are canonically romantic with one another, then that stands to reason.  Well, the bottom line is that the script isn’t canon, the show is.  What ends up on screen is often drastically different than what it started out as on paper.  Seriously, there are screenplays all over the internet- find the one for your favorite movie and you will see the difference between what’s on the page and what’s on the screen.  And at the end of the day, what you care about is what’s on the screen, because that’s what media this is.

And the thing is, what ends up on screen has to be approved by the showrunner.  So if you’re thinking about this in terms of what will happen or what interpretation the show is encouraging, then the showrunning is pretty much the guiding light of the whole thing.  In light of that, I invite you to look at this less as “oh no they called Dean and Cas brothers in the script oh no Destiel will never be canon oh no” and more as “Holy shit, even with a script describing them as brothers Jeremy Carver decided that he liked the version of the scene where Dean caresses Cas’ face and there’s romantic overtones on every shot.”  Trust me, it’s a much more accurate way to look at it.

3. I’ve spoken before about my opinion of the word “intent,” but I guess it bears repeating.  Personally, I don’t give a shit what was the intent.  Intent is the excuse of a teenager who doesn’t want to do their English homework and so they argue that the author couldn't possibly have intended the red curtains to symbolize the character’s anger (word to the wise, high schoolers who happen to read this- the author is most likely well aware of what the color red symbolizes, thank you very much).  Especially with TV shows, the word intent doesn’t even make sense to use.  Because whose intent are you talking about?  The showrunner?  The writing team as a whole?  The network?  The directors?  The actors?  The set designers?  The costume designers, the location managers, the cinematographer, the editor, the composer, the unpaid fucking intern who brings everyone coffee?  Because not a single one of those people has complete creative control over what happens in the show.  Not a single one.  Not even the showrunner- yeah, even with what I said before, the showrunner still has to submit to the network execs who tend to be pretty pig-headed.  There is no single intent that goes into even one moment on a TV show.  There’s no interpreting based on intent because intent is so fucking impossible to define that it might as well not exist at all.

But Sara, you might hypothetically say, don’t we have to know intent in order to predict what will happen in the show?  And my hypothetical answer to that is no fucking way, of course we don’t need to know intent.  We need to know how to look at trends, and at the structure of the show, and the tendencies of the writers- but like I said before, a lot changes over the course of a season, let alone a few years.  Intent changes.  I’m pretty sure that the first time they introduced Spike onto Buffy TPTB didn’t sit there stroking their beards saying “Ahh yes, Spike and Buffy will fuck like bunnies in about four seasons.”  They thought they were going to kill Spike off- and yet in the end, Spike saved the day as a redeemed hero, then went off to be on Angel for an entire season after Buffy ended.

The point is, intent is utterly useless no matter what way you look at it.  You’re better off enjoying the show the way that you see it, rather than trying to figure out some mystical “real” way the show should be watched.

ok, you may hate me for what i’m going to say but i’m going to say it anyway because of reasons. if you ask me to reblog something that requires giving money to you i most certainly will not do it unless you’re my friend and the person i know. that’s not because i’m a heartless bitch, that’s because of several reasons. first of all this is the Internet, i can never be sure that you’re telling people the truth. second (and i’m sorry for saying this but it’s true): i may understand people who ask money for the life or death issues, for health problems, etc. but i will never understand those who ask for their personal pleasures such as going somewhere, doing something with the way the look, going to the university in another country and so on. why do i have to pay for such things for you and not for myself for example? i know this sounds rude but if you really need something, like really hard, you can always go to work and yes, maybe you won’t get the whole amount of money within a week but you’ll get it at the end and it’ll be done by no one but yourself. i find such posts offending and i’d call it swindle more than ask for help. there are many people here who’d give you money and yes they may give you a dollar or two and help you alltogether and maybe they won’t suffer from the lack of this dollar in their life but we all want something we can’t get at this very moment, but we don’t ask strangers to help us buy a dress or anything. if it’s a serious problem with health (with proving documents and stuff) i will help you of course, but if it’s not please don’t come to me and don’t ask. thank you. and sorry if this post offended anyone.