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anonymous asked:

I definitely suffer from extreme body dysmorphia, when I look at myself in the mirror I feel so HUGE, so fat. But when I look in candid photos others take of me, I look skinny. Not abnormally, but normal. How do I get over this?! I constantly obsess over my body image. I hate my thighs and always will. This sucks.

i have bad body dysmorphia too and it’s rly rly rly not fun !! i’m so sorry ur going thru this as well :( the first thing to remember is that ur weight doesn’t define you, as cheesy as that sounds . try not to let looking fat affect ur self confidence bc there is absolutely nothing wrong with that !! being fat is beautiful too !! whether u actually are or not !! second, my old therapist who i love and miss dearly gave me this list of things to do/think to help change your inner voice:

-see things on a continuum, not all or nothing

-change loaded thoughts: “i am fat” to “i am not comfortable with my body”

-what is the evidence, other than your own harsh judgement that i am _____

-replaces shoulds, woulds, and oughts with less demanding language. “it might be nice if i felt better about my body”

-be adamant in a stance like “i refuse to buy into this societal ideal of attractiveness”

-are you dwelling on what you don’t like and forgetting that parts of you that you do like?

-acknowledge something you like about your appearance every time you look in the mirror

-catch yourself blaming your looks, see that you have no evidence for your conclusion and tell yourself “STOP BLAMING”. then move on to something you enjoy doing

-do the thoughts and opinions you suspect others are having about you sound strangely similar to your own opinions of yourself?

-talk back to yourself. “i can’t read minds. i need to stop thinking about what others might be thinking. instead i need to change what i am thinking.

-have all your negative thoughts been true? (no!)

-don’t deprive yourself of involvement in activities you enjoy because of negative feelings about your body

-catch your negative thought before the discontent spreads

-”i’m not feeling really good about my body right now. this isn’t a good time to focus on my looks, it’s just going to make me feel worse. i am going to stop this”

-replace “i am” thoughts with “i feel” thoughts

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Happy Birthday Baekhyun ♡
Thank you for working so hard this past year, regardless of all the hate. I hope you always remember that there are people who love and support you, and we’ll be here every step of the way. I’m so proud of you, and I hope you never stop smiling.
Happy birthday my angel, I love you ♡

anonymous asked:

People who call manga "comics" should not be associated with.

Sorry to burst your bubble, friend. Comics come in all kinds of forms for all kinds of people.

I kinda get what you mean like, there’s a reason we call manga “manga” and not “comics” because of the difference in culture and to be able to differentiate them. (Heck, you read them backwards, that’s a hard adjustment for new readers.)

Let’s put a western comic next to a manga. Batman and Ratman.

Obviously there’s a difference at first glance, but they’re both from the super hero genre and both have panels in a sequential form that tell a story from the hero’s point of view and that’s kinda the definition of a comic. (Well, except “comic” was taken from the word “comedic” and a lot of comics are anything but funny nowadays but that’s beside the point.)

Point is, yeah, there’s a culture difference so it’s easier to name them differently but in the end they’re both comics and instead of putting your chin up and saying “don’t associate with someone who calls manga ‘comics’”, maybe you should politely educate them that there’s some differences and you’d rather they not call manga “comics” around you. Because maybe they just see a series of panels on pages and know that’s a comic but don’t know the term “manga” yet and honestly, if you’re snooty about someone who honestly didn’t have prior knowledge and make a big deal out of it, there’s a huge chance you’re gonna make them hate it. Not everyone went through the weeaboo phase at the same time and you probably lost a potential good friend you could have recommended manga to.

(Also, you kinda sound like you’re badmouthing comics but have you ever read a Spider-Man comic because Peter Parker is hilarious ok.)

((Also also, western comics aren’t just Marvel or DC Comics. There’s a ton of really amazing individual comics as well. Here’s two my friend owns that she absolutely loves and promised to let me read. Please broaden your horizons or you’ll miss out on hidden gems.))

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