i'm sorry for being a bad person

A story from the line at McDonald's
  • Me: okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell
  • Friend: nono I wanna know can't you explain it
  • Me: well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive
  • Friend: right right
  • Me: but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky
  • Friend: right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right
  • Me: exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship
  • Friend: I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different
  • Me: yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-
  • Lady behind us in line: excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?
  • Me: *awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining
  • Lady behind us in line: that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?
  • Me: well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...
  • Lady behind us in line: so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?
  • Me: oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!
  • Lady behind us in line: *smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*
  • Friend: wow that was... Amazing
  • Me: see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.
  • And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.

queenjuliette  asked:

Alright. What are some of your favorite Sterek headcanons, then? :)

ok listen, like i have so many and this is a dangerous question because you have open the floodgates. (also, i’m so sorry that i’m so late to answer these. life is getting in the way!) 

  • derek hale and stiles stilinski fall in love with all of each other 
  • derek likes to chase stiles’ lips when they’re kissing because every single taste of him is addictive and derek’s never felt so much need
  • stiles likes to trace derek’s tattoo when they’re resting on their bed, his fingers languidly following the lines while he murmurs, “alpha, beta, omega. past, present, future.” and derek will have this gentle smile as he replies, “you’re my future.”
  • derek’s head automatically turns to stiles’ heartbeat even if he’s in roscoe still heading up the street. he can pick it out of a thousand heartbeats, knowing which one thumps in his ears when he goes to sleep at night
  • stiles will never miss any opportunity to touch derek
  • stiles and derek find the most support from the sheriff 
  • when john looks at derek, he doesn’t see an adult werewolf, capable of ripping people to shreds, he sees the same young man who’s eyes were red-rimmed and lost at the station, soot covering his body
  • stiles sometimes wonders if derek will stop loving him 
  • derek wakes up every morning to make stiles a cup of coffee
  • they fight a lot. usually it goes something like this, “derek, stop being a self-sacrificing dolt. erica can handle it. allison and lydia are backup. they’ve got this. plus, the rest of the pack is gonna be with them.” “i’m not letting erica walk right into the line of fire. i’m not letting her get hurt.” “you’re so fucking stubborn!” 
  • but they always talk things through, refusing to go to bed angry with one another
  • i love yous are constantly being shared between them and they never hesitate to say anything to the pack either
  • stiles and derek are happy together
  • and they’re a forever and always kind of love
Reason #84936293 Why I Love Leverage:

This fandom. This whole freaking fandom. The people.

It’s been over four years since the series finale of Leverage and people are still watching and rewatching and starting it for the first time every day and I think I love that. It’s amazing. No other show is like that.

Going on the Leverage tag on tumblr, you can still see people going “Just started Leverage. The obsession is beginning.” And that’s how you know it’s really a good show. How, even now, people are obsessed and amazed at how good it is, four freaking years later!

And also, the fact that when you go through the tag, looking at what people have to say, none of is bad. Usually in a fandom, there’s that one person who is just like “Ugh. The writers are such idiots! What an absolute mistake they made!” But not in the Leverage fandom. All comments are insightful and full of adoration for this show because it’s so good and will never cease of being so.

So, yeah, I love Leverage, and I love this fandom, too.

anonymous asked:

I'm kinda having a bad day, I'm extremely sensitive to being yelled at so my question is If the boys accidentally snapped at their gf and they were sensitive too, and they take it personally, and shut the boys out because they got scared of them, what would they do?

Oh my goodness, anon, I’m sorry that you’re having a rough day. I hope it gets better soon! <3 Sorry that these are super long, but maybe they’ll make you feel a bit better! 

Leo: As tears well up in her eyes and she mouths an apology, Leo’s face goes slack. He curses at himself and then reaches out and takes her in his large arms as gently as he can. Leo tucks her head under his chin the best he can and he rests one hand on her back, drawing soothing circles in between her shoulder blades. He apologizes, multiple times, but she gives him the silent treatment. 
 Eventually they part and she leaves the lair, leaving Leo to marinate in his own thoughts. At this point he would go through stages of guilt, annoyance, guilt again, then anger, then acceptance. He didn’t mean to snap at her, he knows that she’s sensitive, but she should understand that he wouldn’t hurt her, right? (“It’s almost like she doesn’t even trust me!”) But he’s supposed to be the levelheaded one that keeps his cool, that’s the whole reason why he’s the leader. Leo stays up that night with the events of the previous day haunting him.   He would think of all the ways to try and make it up to her, and text her an apology, asking her to come back to the lair whenever she’s ready and that they’ll talk then. 
 It might take her awhile, but when they finally do meet face to face, he would be the one to show up with a list of grievances that he’d want to voice, but end up just hugging her and reassuring her that he’d never hurt her, that she’s safe, and that he promises never to raise his voice at her again.

Raph: As soon as the words leave his mouth, he wishes he could suck them right back in and then hide under a rock. She look like she touched a hot stove top the way she retracted and held her arm to her chest. He bites his lip and against his better judgement, he turns right back around and locks himself in his room. How could he recover from something like that? How could anyone? When she, his girlfriend, looked at him, someone she should be able to trust inexplicably, with fear…it broke his heart. 
  When his gf avoids him, or gives him the cold shoulder for a bit, he gets angry. How dare she act like this! He broods around the lair, he practices more, and is generally like a walking time bomb. He starts thinking up excuses for his actions, even though he knows that it’s wrong. (And he thinks she’s being childish. Yeesh.) He just doesn’t want to accept the fact that, even for a brief second, his girlfriend was scared of him.
  When he finally sucks it up and texts her, with the encouragement of local love guru Michelangelo, to come back to the lair to talk, his palms get clammy and his stomach churns. Once she arrives the tension is terribly thick, but he begs her to hear him out. Eventually as he explains, he starts crying as he reveals that he’s scared of losing her. Though it’s difficult for her, for fear of getting another volatile reaction, his girlfriend explains her side of the situation and he listens with intense focus. All is well in the end, but he’d be scared to touch her for awhile, for fear of rejection. “Do you really think I would hurt you?”

Donnie: Shit. Holy shit. He curses himself a thousand times over. He stares at her face for any sign of emotion, but regrets it when her bottom lip starts quivering on its own accord. Donatello knows that his girlfriend is hypersensitive and isn’t prone to snapping at her anyway, but today he just lost it. He knows full and damn well that that’s no excuse, and when she flinches away from his touch his stomach dropped. Suddenly all those times she asked if he’s killed come to mind and his breath hitches. Surely she couldn’t believe that….but when she hightails it to the lair’s exit, he doesn’t bother following because he already knows. Donnie puts his head in his hands and shakes his head. “What have I done?”
He goes over the probability of every outcome if he apologized in different ways, but nothing seemed high enough. Snapping at her wasn’t fair, she didn’t deserve it and he knew that, but she also wasn’t responding to any of his texts and it’s been three days. THREE. Donnie starts getting even more worried and tries to call her. 
 She responds, but not exactly how he’d like, but it’s better than nothing. When she agrees to come back to the lair to talk, he is relieved, but also nervous. Would she still be scared of him? He straightens up the lab a bit and turns off the monitors (aside from the surveillance ones) before she gets there so she won’t be overstimulated during their conversation. She shows up unimpressed, but by the end of it they’re both shedding a little tear. 

Mikey: He’s not usually one for angry outbursts, and especially not around his gf, who he knows is more sensitive than she’ll let on, but it was an accident. It should be fine, right? HA. She bites her lip to look strong, but he could see her eyes watering, and her cheeks grew hot. “Babe, I’m sorry, i didn’t mean to-,” She hits him with the “No it’s fine, I get it.” Before grabbing her purse and making a beeline for the exit. He chases after her, but stops short of the door. He could still see her swiping aggressively at the tears falling down her cheeks. 
 Mikey would feel like absolute GARBAGE for the rest of the day, and then some. But this sweet boy is very in tune with his feelings and he knows that she’s gotta come around eventually, right? HA.
  After three days, Mikey begins to lose hope and chooses to take a visit to her apartment. Standing on the fire escape, he knocks on her window, using their special rhythm (two knocks followed by three knocks) He waits and watches for any movement from within, but there is none. He waits. He waits for two whole hours before an idea hits him full force. He leaves her apartment to run back down to the lair to get a secret weapon. 
  A couple hours later, armed with nothing but a retro boombox, Mikey stands once more on the fire escape. He clicks play and lifts the boombox above his head as it blares Peter Gabriel’s In Your Eyes. A couple of minutes pass before the blinds shift and Mikey sees a flash of her hair. Hope swells inside him when he hears the window lock click and suddenly she’s standing there with a knowing smirk, one eyebrow raised. In a dramatic event that rivals any Cusack or Hughes movie, Mikey apologizes and promises to do better in the future. 

anonymous asked:

I got into an argument with someone about your name. I say wiishu cause I'm sure I can't pronounce Signe right (plus it's your handle) but this person said I can't be a true fan if I don't use your real name. I'm 'not respectful, only like them as an idol instead of a person if you don't use their real name' or whatever. She made me feel real bad, like I'm no longer allowed to be a fan. (She made me cry when Jack/Sean came into it). But you like being called Wiishu.....right??

Yes absolutely! I think it’s incredibly unfair to assume that you are not a “real fan” of someone because you choose to address them by their online name and not their given name. I prefer people call me Wiishu because that’s who I’m known as to most people!

All in all; I’m sorry you felt bad about it but know you’re totally good! 👍

anonymous asked:

I remember a few years ago I sent you an anon defending Jontron for saying a "Not all men" comment, and I thought you were treating him unfairly with a post you made (I didn't even have a tumblr then, I just went on here to look at your stuff) I'd like to say that after three years of changing as a person and realizing things (I was very ignorant, and defending sexism despite being a girl), holy frick you were right and I'm sorry to have ever cluttered your inbox with something ignorant-

it’s okay, i don’t think any of us anticipated just how bad he’d become

Remember when Robert tried to hide behind the life his Dad wanted for him instead of being his true self. He spent 15 years hiding who he really was and now he can be who he really is with the person he loves most. The person that no matter how many times he treated him badly, no matter how many times he pushed him away. The person that said yes and who’s going to be his husband in less than 2 weeks, even though Robert still wonders if he’s dreaming.

Remember when Aaron hated who he was. Tried to believe he was straight, dated girls to “prove” to himself that he was straight and he wasn’t gay. He tried to kill himself because he couldn’t be who he truly was and he thought the worst thing in the whole world was for him to admit who he was to himself. And now he’s accepted who he is, he has his sister, his mum and the person he loves most right by him, for the good and the bad times. Aaron can’t believe he’s getting married. Aaron Dingle who hated the idea of even being seen romantically involved with a man, is getting married to Robert Sugden. He sometimes thinks he’s dreaming.

marmotje  asked:

Hi! I'd like to ask you a question! I talked to the woman who cleans our school yesterday and we talked about clothes and everything. Suddenly she told me that green is considered an evil colour in Poland? But I couldn't understand her explanation! I asked my mum later (who was born in Silesia and a friend of hers but they didn't know anything about it. Now I'm confused and apparently I'm a bad person now, because my favourite colour is green? (Seriously, my classroom was flooded today!) Help!

(2/2) I really really hope that you can help me! (Even if it turns out it was just a joke) And thank you for your time!

***

Sorry for a late reply but I had to think about your ask for a little bit.

Okay, so before I start to elaborate about it, you have to know that I’m not so sure about my answer because I’ve never heard about green being an “evil colour”. So this is only my assumption. 

Firstly, we need to “divide” Polish culture into 2 parts - after christianity and before it (Slavic beliefs), because many symbols changed their meanings after the Christianisation of Poland. 

Let’s start with pre-christianity period. Then green was a colour of a new life, animals and plants, farming. It was believed that green could save people from injuries. On the other hand this was a colour of immaturity. I’m not sure about it (because there is little historical facts about images of slavic gods and deities) but I’ve read that green was be considered to be a colour of wild places (and holy at the same time) and their inhibitants like deities or demonic creatures.

After the baptism of Poland the meaning of green colour could have changed. Even so, green can’t be such an evil colour since even in the Bible (creating a world) it is a colour of life (green plants as a food for ppl and animals). But mind that there is also a description of the Apocalypse in the Bible where we’ve got “an ashen horse; and he who sat on it had the name Death”. In Polish most popular translation of the Bible the colour of this horse is “trupio blady” (deathly pale) but in some images Death sits on a green horse. The translation from can also differ - it doesn’t have to be pale, it might be also yellowish or pale green. So maybe that’s why pale green can be considered as a colour of illness, sickness or disease and death. A bright green symbolises a poison or venom. Maybe it is also about reptiles that are, let’s say, the enemies of christianity (a snake or dragon - for instance Saint George who fought a dragon, a satan in fact).

Right now green is rather a positive colour but I’m not so surprised that this Polish woman finds it negative or even evil. But once again, this is only my guess, I’m not sure if my assumptions are correct. 

Maybe some of my followers have sth to add. Also @lamus-dworski - maybe you are able to say sth more about this.

anonymous asked:

Black Limes sensei ;; I've been diagnosed with clinical depression. May I please get a message from each of the Matsuno bros that everything is going to be just fine? (It took me a lot of courage just to ask anonymously. Im so sorry to bug you.)

Sorry this is kind of messy, it’s been a busy holiday season! It’s all I have time for…Hopefully it’s okay!

Either way, a lot of people have been sending me asks, messages, and notes saying they’re not doing too well this year, which is very unfortunate. I’m not the best at comforting people, but for those who’ve reached out to me I’d like to say that everything will be okay. I don’t know what you might be going through or what may be happening, but all things come to pass with time, and if it seems bad now that just means it’ll be alright  later.

For all those folks who have requested me to draw them a Matsuno bro giving words of encouragement, hopefully this is alright. I’m sorry that I cannot reply to every single message personally–I hope it makes you smile either way.

Merry Christmas, and good luck anon-chan~

(Ah, I feel like Karamatsu hehe””)

Bisexual Percy Headcannons

It’s bi-visibility day, so I thought I’d write some bisexual Percy headcannons!

- Okay so since he was 12 Percy has been so preoccupied, as a result he literally never got time to even question his sexuality.

- It’s not until he turns 17 after the giant war that it even occurs to him that he might actually be attracted to guys, like he had a crush on Annabeth for so long and heteronormativity and internalised biphobia/homophobia made him just assume he was only attracted to girls.

- Plus Percy is pretty embarrassed about being attracted to anyone anyway, and gets embarrassed so easily about it.

-he probably realises he’s attracted to guys because of Nico saying he had a crush on him to be honest

- once he starts to think about it, he realises that he is definitely bisexual (he totally realises his huge crush on Luke from when he was younger)

- He definitely talks to Sally about it straight away, who of course is an absolute Saint about it.

- I reckon he tells her that he’s worried what people will think, and she tells him he doesn’t have to tell anyone if he doesn’t feel comfortable 

- (and that if he wants too he shouldn’t be friends with anyone who doesn’t accept him anyway)

- I think it’s quite a while after until he tells anyone else. He definitely has some internalised biphobia.

- after a while, I think he tells Paul next?

-I’m not too sure how close they are, I like to think they are and he seems to be in canon, but I’m not 100%. 

- but assuming he tells Paul, Paul is totally understanding and nice too.

- I think he’d be really nervous to tell Annabeth at first.

- this could be totally self-indulgent but I like to think he talks to Nico about it, and he comforts Percy by saying how nice Annabeth was to him when he came out as gay.

- I think he would be worried she’d get jealous or something?

- which I don’t think she would, I think she’d be totally nice and accepting of it, she knows Percy loves her and him being bi doesn’t change that or make it more likely he’ll cheat. 

-I mean Annabeth is quite a jealous person, but she wouldn’t get more jealous because of this.

- basically after that is just Percy being happily and openly bisexual and totally smitten by Annabeth Chase at the same time, and Annabeth chase is just an amazing person as usual too.

- once Annabeth gets used to the idea her and Percy totally talk about guys being attractive (read: Jason) and Annabeth is bi too (so they talk about girls as well, PIPER).

mas-quecoisa  asked:

Did you already spend time without drawing absolutely nothing? Like, like you quit? Like me, for example, I was a drawing person for almost 9 straight hours, and now I can not stand 5 minutes. If you've been through something like that, how did you get out of it? And I'm sorry if my english came out bad, I'm not fluent x-x

Of course. There were months I didn’t have time to draw anything or even think about it xD While I was studying (taking two courses) there wasn’t much time for art. I drew during summer.
Now I draw very often, even when I don’t have time for that (which is bad) and I can’t imagine not being able to draw. When I don’t draw I think about drawing or dream about it xD I just need it to function.
But I understand you. There are times when I have no desire to draw, when I don’t need it because it makes me more frustrated and nervous. Nothing turns out the way I want but I don’t want to spend time on it so it looked better. And I feel guilty not drawing which makes it all worse.

I think you might burned out a bit. Drawing 9 hours a day (every day) is… not a good idea. On one hand you improve (probably very fast) but on the other hand you’re just killing yourself artistically.
That’s why you should have some other hobbies, something that will help you recharge, stop thinking about drawing for a while.
Then, after some time, you can go back to drawing. I can see you really want to draw again. Is it because it’s your job or you miss it? Either way, if you want to draw again you need to force yourself to do it at first. But maybe try something you haven’t tried yet. Art can be interesting once you find something new in it.

Recently, I don’t like drawing very much because:
- I feel I don’t improve
- I think I stuck a bit in one style
- I feel like people are expecting me to draw particular things I don’t feel like drawing.
But I fight it, I try to draw full bodies and understand anatomy better, I try new styles, I try to draw what I like and not to worry about what other people would probably prefer to see. When I don’t feel too patient I pick something that requires a lot of effort but I also do everything to make it pleasurable (e.g. I choose the subject I like).

I don’t know why exactly you don’t draw so it’s hard to give a nice advice. Just calm down, get rid of art from your head for some time and try not to feel like you have to draw. Then be gentle with yourself, try to get excited again with something you love :)

anonymous asked:

If its not too much, I would love something Jared x Evan? Preferably cuddling, maybe some angst? Jared and Evan make me melt so..

Enjoy!

~

“Tired?” Jared questioned as he wrapped an arm around Evan. Evan’s panic attack had subsided and now the two were just laying in Evan’s bed. Evan still had tear tracks down his cheeks.

Evan nodded as he curled closer into Jared. “Thank you.”

“For what?” Jared asked as he brushed a stray piece of Evan’s hair aside. He loved this boy more than anything and seeing something like a panic attack happen to him was not something Jared enjoyed.

“Being here for me.” Evan muttered, his face buried into Jared’s side. He didn’t deserve someone like Jared, but he was thankful the boy was there for him.

“I love you Evan Hansen, never doubt that.” Jared kissed Evan’s forehead.

“And I love you Jared Kleinman.” Evan smiled softly. “Even if I don’t deserve you.”

“If anything Evan, I don’t deserve you.” Jared sighed. “I’m not a nice person, I’m a dick, I’m an awful guy if I’m being honest.” Jared pulled Evan even closer to him.

“But you aren’t  a bad person, no matter how much you think you are.” Evan assured him. He leaned up and kissed Jared. The two would be there for each other, through all of the anxiety attacks, panic attacks or bad thoughts they had.

“You’re perfect.” Evan told him.

“Thank you.” 

anonymous asked:

Percabeth, as a ship, it's a Hetero ship. but that doesn't means that Percy and Annabeth, as individuals, are straight, they could be bi/pan/poli/etc. but people often portrays them as Hetero. is that what you're saying? JKFHAK i'm just a confused person. (excuse my english jshdk) (also, I'm really sorry if this is messy, I suck at redaction)

alright it’s okay i’ll actually elaborate…i just get Tired and frustrated and sometimes it’s difficult to tell who is actually asking/curious and who is being obnoxious

what i mean by Painfully Hetero is this:

heterosexuality and hetero couples, in real life, but more specifically in fiction (bc fiction carries over to real life and obviously fiction is written by real life people), are a basket case of sexist and heterosexist tropes. they are put into these bad, boring, sexist dynamics and fall into these overly cliched patterns of behavior that are boring, which i am very much sick of seeing forced into percabeth when we could actually be having a lot more fun with them as a couple.

Annoying Hetero Dynamics exist bc they’re sexist tropes repackaged in a romantic relationship, honestly. the most annoying ones that come to mind (particularly in fanon percabeth):

weird passive aggressive “teasing” dynamic where people can’t just like…admit that they love each other and enjoy each other’s company. they’re always putting each other down to…save face? be “teasing” and trying too hard to be ~~~cute~~~ and…i don’t even honestly know bc i find it weird and unappealing. and sexist!! woman becomes a “nagging wife / crazy girlfriend / ball and chain” for voicing any kind of valid criticism of her male partner, man is allowed to behave disrespectfully and dismissively towards his female partner (just watch a sitcom. any sitcom.)
always talking about how In Love they are but never actually shown like….. enjoying each other’s company. their love story doesn’t actually make a whole lot of narrative sense, we rarely see them doing anything other than having sex or staring into each other’s eyes or almost dying for each other. sexist, usually, because it just makes man appear obsessive and creepy and the woman usually becomes wildly out of character bc she’s not actually getting anything out of the relationship and we all can’t explain what she sees in him. (kara and mon-el, bella and edward, stereotypical YA dystopian novels, quite honestly han and leia like i love them too but…cmon)

anonymous asked:

I 100% understand why trans people/genderqueer people wouldn't be comfortable dating cis people, but I guess that makes me feel really bad? I can't really explain it, but it's probably bc I just don't really like being disliked or hated or anything, and idk. this isn't a guilt trip (if anything I feel second-hand guilt because most cis people can be terrible, I'm sorry you guys have to put up with that crap) but I just kinda feel bad? Is that like unfair to you guys or transphobic in anyway? :(

Okay, I’m going to try and be not-too-harsh in my response to this, but I can’t make any guarantees. I got like four hours of sleep so I’m not great at tone. 

Anyways, to be honest, this ask does in fact make me (personally) vaguely uncomfortable. I’m going to try to break it down line by line.

“I 100% understand why trans people/genderqueer people wouldn’t be comfortable dating cis people”

The first thing is vaguely nitpicky but like, it’s vaguely uncomfortable and feels performative for you as a cis person to claim that you 100% understand why trans/genderqueer people might not be comfortable dating cis people, especially when the rest of this ask has been steeped in cis guilt. 

“but I guess that makes me feel really bad? I can’t really explain it, but it’s probably bc I just don’t really like being disliked or hated or anything, and idk. this isn’t a guilt trip (if anything I feel second-hand guilt because most cis people can be terrible, I”m sorry you guys have to put up with that crap) but I just feel kinda bad?”

Okay, now while I, a borderline individual, can understand where you’re coming from in not wanting to be disliked or hated, this is cis guilt, plain and simple, that comes from a place of cisgender privilege. Trans/genderqueer/nonbinary people should not have to do emotional labor to reassure you that you’re One Of The Good OnesTM and that you’re Not Like Those Other Cis PeopleTM because you feel bad for being cis. 

At the end of the day, being a cisgender person, you still have cis privilege.

Instead of feeling guilt and feeling sorry for us and feeling bad for yourself and drawing the focus of this conversation to yourself, do something. Learn to push past it or work around it and take action instead. Because, quite frankly, your guilt does absolutely nothing to actually help trans/genderqueer/nonbinary people and is rather performative. 

Take action and use your cis privilege to help trans/genderqueer/nonbinary people in whatever ways you can (being disabled, I emphasize doing what you can).

Listen to us and our experiences.

Don’t center yourself or your feelings in these kinds of discussions.

Be aware that you have cisgender privilege, don’t consider yourself One Of The Good OnesTM and Not Like Those Other Cis PeopleTM. 

Allyship is not a badge you can slap on to make yourself feel like a good person; allyship is a continuous process of unlearning your biases and supporting marginalized groups you are not a part of in their struggle without making it about yourself. 

That got kind of rambly and ranty, oops. But yeah, tl;dr: you’re not a bad person for having guilty feelings, but this whole thing very much comes from a place of cis privilege and is vaguely uncomfortable and please learn to deal with your Performative Privileged GuiltTM in a more productive way. Idk. Hope that helps !!

(If any other trans/genderqueer/nonbinary people would like to add your thoughts, please feel free to do so !!)


Mod Wesley

RANT TIME

okay no one is going to care about this but I’ve just noticed something lately. I have friends okay, but sometimes it just seems like I’m just that one person who awkwardly hangs around and isn’t actually part of the group?

I don’t know, it’s just whenever im talking to someone, even if they’re friends with me, they don’t seem too interested in me. What am I, boring? I know a bit timid and shy but if you talk to me I’ll do my best to carry on a conversation.

Like someone will talk to me and seem very uninterested and I’ll walk away to go do something for a moment and someone else will walk up the person I was taking to and they’ll light up like a fucking Christmas tree and laugh their ass off, and it happens all the time with so many people!! All of my friends are a bit silly and goofy and you know I’m kinda the more mature and reserved one and sometimes I think people don’t like me because of that. That’s just my personality, I’m not some wild party animal like my friends are. I’m never going to change my personality for someone because I am who I am but it would be nice if someone liked me for who I am

People always tell me I need to lighten up or let go, and sure I could afford to be a little less tense all the time, but sorry I’m not loud and funny like everyone else.

I just wish people wouldn’t take me for granted. I can be a great friend to you but friendship is a two way relationship and sometimes I feel like no one else wants to put effort into getting to know me

anonymous asked:

I'm an afab non binary person but I'm afraid maybe I'm not because I'm still 14 so maybe I'm just rejecting female stereotypes? I know you can be a girl without being feminine and stuff like that. So then what does being a girl mean. I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense or is bad I'm just so lost. Thank you guys for all you do!

Charlie says:

for better or worse, there’s no concrete definition of being a woman, as womanhood means something different to everybody.  Maybe you shouldn’t look at whether or not you’re trans in terms of if you fit a definition, but how you’re comfortable being perceived.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY @alexloehr !! ヾ(〃^∇^)ノ♪

NILSA MY ANGEL thank you so much for always being so kind to me, you are a wonderful friend and always manage to make me feel better whenever I have a bad day! I LOVE YOUUUUU !! (´▽`ʃƪ)♡

PSA

I hate all kind of fandom drama and I feel truly sorry for the people whose ships didn’t become canon, but I will also defend Thomas Hamilton with my life and will literally punch the next person that says something bad about him.