i'm so sorry if i upset someone

the thing about writing a ship is like y’all realize there are aspects that AREN’T supposed to be realistic, right? this was something i learned way back in the day when i watched how i met your mother and i realized the writers had no clue how to keep barney and robin together and make it interesting and engaging. the thing that worked with barney and robin was the almost-maybe-will they-won’t they aspect of it. once they got together and stayed together, their relationship grew stale and boring. and that’s not to say it couldn’t have been interesting and well done, but the writers, in my opinion, sort of failed in that regard. where they succeeded with marshall and lily, they dropped the ball with barney and robin.

that stupid show is the reason why i’m very conscious of how i write ships and especially how i write slow burn. i don’t want to have all this build-up, chapters and chapters of build-up, only to get the two characters together and have them be constantly together all the time and everything is perfect and then you get bored of their relationship. or maybe bored isn’t the right word for it; it’s more just like you’re accustomed to them being together so it doesn’t feel like a big deal anymore. 

like, when an author only has the ship kiss once every three chapters, then i’m going to cling to those kisses with all i’ve got. i’m going to cherish those kisses and get a tingly feeling inside when i read those kisses. if the characters kissed every paragraph, i’d get used to it pretty quickly and then it wouldn’t feel special anymore. is it more realistic to kiss a lot? probably. is it better storytelling? debatable. 

there is of course a place for these characters fuck all the time!!! fuck for four chapters straight!!!! nothing but sex!!!! but there’s also a place for gentle touches and small gestures and refraining from constantly touching each other. 

is any of what i’m describing “realistic”? probably not. but sometimes you have to sacrifice realism for the sake of good narrative engaging storytelling, and hopefully you do it well enough that the audience suspends their disbelief and forgives you for not writing something 100 percent realistic. 

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As someone who grew up in a country with a diversity of different cultures (including the Indian culture), I just want to say that Jonghyun did not mock them - that’s almost how all Bollywood movies are like, and if you’re someone who isn’t exposed to them, then maybe you’re just being butthurt and/or self-righteous by making a huge deal out of this - but yes, he still shouldn’t have, in the words on people nowadays, ‘appropriated’ that culture in any way.

That aside (and no, I am not saying Jonghyun is right or fine to do that at all, that is a different discussion), he has already issued an apology.

This was pretty much the first thing he addressed since his concert ended. He didn’t wait and decide to speak up after the series ended. He didn’t let SM or his managers speak for him. He could have easily done all that - let SM represent him or talk about this AFTER everything, but no. He took it to his Twitter on the first night of the concerts and apologised himself. He realised he’s wrong and even assured that that bit will be taken out of the video. What more do you want from the man?

Okay, maybe someone found it really offensive or insensitive, and you have every right to be upset. You can point it out and tell him about it, but you have no right to bash him after he’s publicly apologised. You don’t get to put him on a pedestal and destroy him when he took the time to explain that he knew he was wrong and he would not make such a mistake again.

We are all humans. He is as much a human as you are. You are, by no means, superior to him just because you’re socially aware of such issues. Not everyone gets the same exposure. Everyone is ignorant in some way, and different races/countries/cultures perceive things differently. For example, in America, because of its history and racial diversity, you might learn that joking about skin colour is wrong, but in some parts of Asia, it’s perfectly normal to joke about it. 

For Jonghyun, he grew up in Korea. Maybe this wasn’t something he learned while growing up. I don’t know, but maybe. I certainly wouldn’t if I didn’t grow up in a racially diverse country and didn’t have Indian friends. Yes, the world is global, but everyone grew up with certain ideals and beliefs, and you need to be aware that just because it applies to you doesn’t mean it applies to someone else. 

You preach about the need to educate and to fight for what’s right. Yes, you’ve done that. He is aware and has admits that he’s wrong. Just because he’s an idol doesn’t mean you can go on and on about how he intends to hurt people or etc. He’s an idol, yes, but it doesn’t mean he naturally knows about everything and everyone.

To those who are hurt by what he did, you have every right to be upset. If you feel like his apology isn’t good enough, I’m sorry, but what do you expect him to do? Go down on his knees and beg until you forgive him?

He’s an idol and an adult, and I think the fact that he spoke up about his mistakes himself, at the first moment possible, is commendable. It speaks a lot about who he is as a person. He’s a human, like all of us. Everyone makes mistakes. Can you honestly say that you have never been accidentally/unintentionally ‘racist’ at some point in your life? How would you like if people bash on you even if you gave a sincere apology about a mistake you did not intend to commit?

We all know him. He’s a sensitive soul. Do you honestly believe he’s done this on purpose? He apologised. Give him a freaking break. He’s a human with feelings. Don’t be a jerk just because he’s an idol whom you expect to be a ‘PERFECT’ role model. Nobody is. People learn and change. 

I'm upset

I’m upset with America but I’m even more upset with myself.

I don’t understand how the USA could choose to elect someone so misogynistic, homophobic, racist, and xenophobic. It just was starting to feel like we were making progress and really heading towards something better.

But then again I DO understand why this asshole is now the president elect, because the reason I got any sleep at all last night is because at the very least I’m white and I’m not an immigrant. And it’s so unfair to me that I have the privilege of thinking “the next 4 years won’t be that bad if you just lie low” only because of my skin color.

But I don’t want to lie low. I want to scream and I want to fight. And I will spend every moment of the next 4 years fighting for my rights as a woman, and everyone else’s rights like my gay best friend and friends of color.

To those of you who do not have the option to float under the radar for the next presidential term because you aren’t white: I’m sorry. I’m sorry that my people don’t listen and won’t take the chance to be anything but the most privileged, because you’re right: this election IS a backlash to the first black president.

so in today’s class, my lecturer said “i read readers digest, and it said that if you hold your s/o’s hand while they’re angry, there is a high chance that their anger will dissipate.” 

  • jeremy was angry, and it was probably jean’s fault
  • jean had muttered something under his breath that made jeremy very upset, and jeremy had just shut. down.
  • his lips were pulled into a tight line, and his shoulders were rigid with tension
  • “jer?”
  • they were sitting on the sofa, both of them claiming either ends of it
  • jeremy didn’t answer, but jean knew jeremy was listening
  • “i’m sorry”
  • jeremy flinched. 
  • “i don’t want you to apologize,” jeremy started, and his hands that were fisted loosened up as jeremy continued. “I don’t want you to do things you think is okay, but isn’t.”
  • “you risking your ankle while its still sore just to continue for the championships is not worth it. we are not ravens, jean.”
  • “but i’m the best backliner you have.” its quiet, and disheartening. 
  • “if it means you’ll have to be hospitalized, then no.” 
  • “jeremy, my ankle is fine”
  • “i am not riko.”
  • jean was kneeling on the sofa now, facing jeremy. he reached out to grab one of jeremy’s hands as he continue rattling on with anger. the moment their hands touched, jeremy’s voice softened almost immediately.
  • “we can give up the championships this year. we don’t run our players to the ground, jean.” jeremy doesn’t realize his voice had gotten softer, but jean has, and he’s fascinated.
  • “but it’s your last year, i want it to be worthwhile.” jean replied
  • he let go of jeremy’s hand, and jeremy’s voice rose again
  • “jean, no. we have a goddamn good goalkeeper, and amazing strikers. they can cover for the defense line.”
  • jean took jeremy’s hand again, and his thumb brushed lightly against his knuckles as he murmurs, “mon amour, thank you for being so considerate, but i am really fine.”
  • jeremy shook his head, and jean can see the anger in his eyes fading.
  • jean let go again, and asks, “why are you so angry, jeremy?”
  • jeremy huffed, and jean was almost amused to see the anger returning again. “jean, we are trojans. we respect our players, we treat them like humans. we don’t work our players till they burn out–”
  • jean reached out to grab jeremy’s hand and this time, he holds it firmly. 
  • “goddamn it jean, stop grabbing my hand. i can’t focus properly”
  • jean laughs, harder when jeremy looks at him confused, and kisses jeremy
  • “thank you, jer. for always being so considerate.” 

anonymous asked:

Im so sick of people always been so nasty towards jjong tbh.

same anon, same. That’s how I see it every time someone drags him:

Jjong: *being the cutest, sweetest guy ever* I love you guys so much. No one loves you more than me!
yall: Omg, how offensive didn’t he think of our families? Obviously they love us more. *sighs* Jjong is being problematic again, don’t try to defend him!!!
Jjong: I’m sorry. I should’ve thought about your families as well, I’m so sorry I understand I made a mistake and might have offended some of you, I’ll be more careful from now on. I’m really sorry
yall: At least he owned up to his mistake and apologized tsk tsk. He’s human too so he makes mistakes. we’ll keep an eye on you tho

I exaggerated a tiny bit. (rly tiny bit)
He’s literally apologizing for everything, soon he won’t be able to say a single word without people jumping to conclusions and twisting his words. Jonghyun is a great guy, let him off the hook. If you want to drag him for ridiculous things please leave the fandom, you will not be missed.

anonymous asked:

How would Boyd react if Vivienne was killed? Would he care? Would he go on a rampage and take out whoever was responsible?

I think probably no matter the time that would happen in his life, it would upset him. The time of his life might affect his reaction if it (had) happened–whether he just shuts down and gets depressed, or whether he tries to do something about it like track down who did it, or whether he lashes out at the moment it happens, or whether anything else. I’ve thought about it a lot, though.

Actually, there was a thing (not death but another thing) I really wanted to happen to Vivienne in ICoS and originally it was my plan for her to end the series in that situation. In fact, for years I planned on her story ending this way in the series (not ENDING-ending like she dies, just ending in the manner of “the last time we saw  her she….”) but when we worked on the plot together it just didn’t quite fit by the time we got to the part where it would have come up. Which is sad because I thought it would be really cool to explore. Maybe because I wasn’t able to do that ending for Vivienne that I really wanted to do, I have a lot of thoughts about different things to explore if we ever were to write a sequel. And one of the things I would like to look at is the Beaulieu dynamics in terms of how they think about each other by that point in time.

That’s probably all I can say without giving any potential spoilers.

But anyway yeah I don’t think there’s a time in his life where he wouldn’t have cared–even when he was furious with her in early Fade, he probably still would have had some sort of reaction to her being killed. He’s always been the sort of person who was more loyal to her than she was to him.

“I’m surprised your not upset about you best friend leaving”~ someone says
“Mhm” I reply
‘I’m actually having a mental breakdown and Iv though about pills and cutting and starving myself because I feel as if everyone leave me no one cares and I’m utterly useless’ I think
“I’m fine” I say

  • mom: let me know what stresses you out so I can help you with it. even if I'm contributing to it, just let me know.
  • me: okay, well, sometimes you yell at me and it makes me upset, because you always blame me for it and I'm not allowed to disagree with you or else it's all my fault.
  • me: that's not what I'm saying.
  • mom: YES IT IS.
  • me: .....anyway

Credit to @pinkquinn for the photo !

Guuuys these are just my theories about what’s going on in this scene, taken from the Suicide Squad Movie Novelization! Shortly before Deadshot asks Harley “When’s the last time someone was nice to you?”, they were having a conversation and she says “you like me, you really like me.“ Also she looks upset so it could have been when he asks her why she acts like an idiot. Sorry I just freaked when I seen this and had to put this out there.

i don’t particularly want to go back to any time in my life, but thinking about how i can’t go back is kind of upsetting.

HP Thoughts

I’m probably going to ruin your night here so if you don’t want to get upset about Harry Potter, scroll down fast.

So I’ve been rereading (relistening really) to all the HP books. Just finished Order of the Phoenix and I have some thoughts…

So Thestrals…you can see them if you’ve seen someone die. Does that mean that when Harry, Hermione, Ron, Neville, Luna, and Ginny get back from the Ministry that most of them can see them now? Because they saw Sirius die?

Does this mean the school year after the battle of Hogwarts, the majority of the students who stayed and fought can now see them?

I keep everything to myself, because once, someone lied to me, someone left me, and I couldn’t fill the empty space inside me.

Originally posted by shcd17

Tagged by @alaynas

RULES: Always post the rules. Answer the questions asked, then write 11 new ones. Tag 11 people to answer your questions, as well as the person who tagged you. 

What was the last fight you got into about?

I’ve actually never gotten into a fight before :0. Unless you wanna consider the time in 1st grade where a friend got upset at me cause I ate all the carrots lol. The last time someone was upset at me though is a bit personal and complex so I’d rather not say. But it was about relationships.

Coffee or tea?

Definitely tea. I don’t really like coffee

Favorite eye/hair combination? 

Ummm…..hmmm that’s a toughie….Blue hair, green eyes? lol

Least favorite show?

Hmmmm if out of the shows I do watch….I guess the Pokemon Sun/Moon anime. I like it but it’s currently at the bottom of my favorite show/shows I’m watching watch list. But like show I don’t like in general, I guess Teen Titans Go?

Most attractive celebrity?

I don’t know a lot of celebrities so :/

Least favorite celebrity?

I still stand at not knowing a lot of celebrities lmao

What’s your favorite food?

SPAGHETTI. HOLY FUCK DO I LOVE ME SPAGHETTI. Very close second is Ramen though. And Udon :3

Can you walk in heels?

lmao nah bruh

How often do you wear makeup?

Never. I don’t really like wearing makeup. I’ve tried it and yeah no :/ Can’t even stand nail polish. It makes me feel irritated and uncomfortable and I end up peeling at it.

Have you ever accidentally cursed in front of your parents?

Mhhmmm. Several occasions. It slips out when I’m super upset at them or myself.

If there was a zombie apocalypse, which two friends would you like to fight it with and why?

Hmmmmmmm hard to saaaayyyy since a lot of people would be way better at fighting than me lol. I’d definitely wanna be with @waffelwollust​ since she’s my best friend and girlfriend and I would wanna make sure she’s ok. And prolly @wcd-95​ cause he my good father and can fuck shit up. If not him though, maybe @bluegrump​ cause she a hardcore egg and I’m sure she can fuck shit up too. I mean anyone can fuck shit up better than me so :P

Alright! My turn to ask the questions!

  • Do you have a middle name? If so what is it? If not, would you like one and what would it be?
  • Favorite drink?
  • Do you like going outside? If so, where’s your favorite place to go or what’s your favorite thing to do outside?
  • Favorite show at the moment?
  • Weirdest experience you’ve had in public?
  • Have you ever weirded a stranger out in public so bad you could see the uncertainty in their face? If so, what did you do and how did they react?
  • Any birthmarks? What do they look like?
  • Do you relate to any characters/animals/people/etc?
  • Do you play video games? What’s one of your favorite games?
  • Strangest habit?
  • What’s something you’d like right now? It can be absolutely anything.

I’m taaagggiiiinnngggg:
@erotesianangel@bluegrump@forsaken-skies@kookiemastah@waffelwollust@kingoffantasy516@no1fan15@cobwebheadache@athensthid@loveforluna​ aaaannnnddd @madmanjayslim

(Y’all don’t have to if you don’t want to :3)