hey cassie!! kinda weird question but even tho gay couples are some of the purest, most precious things in the world, do you have any pet peeves about how they are portrayed in tv shows and books? like, for example, I've noticed that most canon gay couples usually starts with them hooking up right after they've met, which sucks bc I love slowburn romances so I usually don't ship the gays that much even tho I love the rep (fyi I'm gay/bi, so don't mistake me for a fetishizing straight, bc ew).
okay so i can’t speak on behalf of mlm but my biggest wlw pet peeve is that, well, we literally don’t exist lmao htgawm couldn’t even bring themselves to say the word bisexual and lesbians are either killed off or/and villainized… and don’t get me started on pansexual wlw bc i’ve literally never seen any rep - not just good or bad - for them and it’s very very upsetting (to say the least). now APART from that (and the whole “bury your gays” trope which is still present in this day and age and it’s disgusting and tiring), i feel like the wlw rep we get (as minimal as it is) is usually super tumblr based and off? like yeah girls are softer and nice and we compare them to greek goddesses and constellations but that’s not?? how?? all wlw relationships are?? at all?? sometimes girls just wanna have sex with girls, sometimes girls even want to FUCK girls without the whole braiding hair sapphic aesthetic the media’s trying to sell. it’s like mlm = SEX! HOT! STEAMY! EVERY STRAIGHT FANGIRL’S DREAM! while wlw = soft! pure! uwu girls would never just wanna fuck and be intimate with each other bc they’re always so vanilla! gal pals! girls just wanna have fun but not if it’s smth representing real life! and it’s such a nasty, toxic way of thinking/image for both sides and it’s doing us more harm than good. we’re not just striving for rep - and yes we’ve learned to be satisfied with crumbs and that’s why we sing hallelujah everytime an author/director so much as insinuates a wlw rep but truth is, it’s damaging. it’s disheartening and cruel and they should hire actual representatives so we can get good rep, instead of fetishization and faux interpretation/portrayal. same with book writers - i’m a firm believer that they should AT LEAST consult with a wlw/mlm (depending on which one they want to cover bc most authors can’t do both, they really can’t) before they so much as open a new word file. lgbt rep shouldn’t be just word vomit bc the author thinks it’s ~trendy~ or ~important~. yes, it IS important - but it also has to be done right.