I occasionally get mocked by family for the way I am. I can't help some things, I'm autistic and my family really aren't educated on the matter at all and truely don't understand. It's a whole "just do it", "get over it" and "ffs you're useless" type of attitude towards me when I'm struggling. I'm not always struggling, but when I am, they really do make everything worse. Any advise on how I can make them understand? They really upset me by it.
Okay so the reasonable advice to give in this situation is to be patient, keep explaining things to them slowly and in small portions at a time, and hope that it will change for the better. But instead I will tell you how I changed my relatives opinion, at least particially.
You need to rebel. Not suddenly and with no explanation, but gradually and consistenly. Stim in their presense, and when they ask you about it, calmly explain why stimming is important for you and keep doing it no matter what they say. Follow your routines and ask them to warn you about changes in plans: refuse to sarcifice your comfort for their comfort. Talk about your special interest and don’t apologize for being annoying.
At first it will be hard, you will meet a lot of backlash and complaints. But remember, you were autistic from birth. Just because you may have learned to supress and control some of your traits, doesn’t mean they aren’t still there. Stand for yourself, and eventually your family will have to give up. Be an autistic punk.