i'm really emotional about all of this

Not to bring up the discourse again, but… 

Katie McGrath is my actual queen. I don’t think some people understand how important what Katie said probably is. For months there have been people saying that “Supercorp isn’t real!” and “It’s just a crackship!” and “You’re silly for seeing a relationship between Kara/Lena!” and “They’re not gay! Lena isn’t gay!” No one on the show has really, explicitly talked about Supercorp (as far as I remember. I could be wrong. I don’t follow all of the actors). They’ve talked about Kara and Lena’s relationship, but Supercorp has always mostly been ignored. And for Katie, as a member of the cast and one of the two actresses involved in ship itself even, to come out (so to speak) and say that we’re valid for what we ship and that she sees it too is so fucking amazing to me. 

To hear validation, explicitly, about Supercorp not being a crackship and being entirely valid from one of the cast is so fucking nice. It’s such a breath of fresh air from the toxicity and hatred flying around the fandom right now. 

So all the Katie haters out there, come fucking at me. Because I will defend this perfect woman with my life until the bitter end.

I’m sitting here just thinking about how I’ve been a fan of his art, his personality, his soul… everything, for so many years. I feel like he’s already doing what he set out to do; to be honest, to put himself out there. It’s already really overwhelming, and we haven’t even heard the album yet. I’m still trying to formulate words for how proud of him I am. I’m just excited to see all the parts of himself he wants to show us: as a solo artist, as an actor, as a fourth of a band. I just really feel honored to call myself a fan.

hanthenerfherder  asked:

...or, you know, some of us think Cap is and was right about the whole thing because we're also opposed to the real-world implementation of similar fascist legislation such as The Patriot Act and it has nothing to do with liking him more?

That quote basically says, yes oversight is the right ethical and logical choice, but Cap is a good person, and that puts us in a quandary and I am saying that that is bad math.

It’s also a similar bad math that comes up in A LOT of 616 CW discussions, where Captain America himself (and the anti-reg side) essentially takes the position to non-metas that they should accept that metas occupy a position above the law/beyond equal prosecution by the law, because, you know, they’re different, and their circumstances are different, but you trust CAPTAIN AMERICA, riiiiight? Let the metas judge their own and police their own, what do you need the Constitutional right of equality under the law for? Obviously, this base position is immediately complicated by the clusterfuck of everything else in CW, but I’d argue that that’s deliberate. It’s one of the reasons I’m not a fan of the event, because I really like Cap, and I hate the things it makes him argue and I find them antithetical to him as a character.

I also don’t exactly get why so many people find a difference of opinion on a comics event, or, apparently, an actor’s opinion on an upcoming film none of us have seen as a personal challenge? I mean?? Yes I hate fascism? And the Patriot Act? And I think Cap’s political position is largely wrong in CW though I understand why, as the plot is manipulated, he fights? These things are not incompatible?

I get what you’re saying, but I’m responding to the quote as written and many, *many* other posts and comics CW itself, which initially sets up the problem as a constitutional legal problem of supers as American citizens whose identities allow them to avoid legal repercussions and prosecution and that’s constitutionally unacceptable under the law. Once that actually gets stated, there’s a problem.  

I’m not talking about the Patriot Act here, which I abhor, because it wasn’t part of the quote or what I was responding to, and I think the CW treatment of post-9/11 politics was really terrible, tone-deaf, and inconsistent in its understanding of xenophobia** and power dynamics. 

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anonymous asked:

I don't mean any offense by this I'm just a little confused as to why you would charge people money to view your posts attempting to educate people about diversity? I'm just confused as to why you aren't just educating for free where more people can get this information?

How dare anyone ask for compensation for their time and expertise?

  • Why isnt university free in all countries? 
  • Why do authors charge for writing conferences and writing work shops?

The answer is simple: people deserve compensation for their expertise. Tirelessly saying the same things over and over again takes an emotional toll on people. Ive been educating for free on my blog for years and I get death threats over it.

I dont owe you or anyone really to be constantly talking about homophobia, racism, and ableism. It takes a toll on my physical and emotional health. I hate talking about it. But I also know that people benefit from my knowledge.

Do you know how much time I put into my blog and social media? Its a full time job with no compensation. I wont be able to afford to blog any longer very soon, at all. I cant physically work because of an illness thats killing me.

Beyond that, my patreon is a way to provide in-depth specific advice for everyone while also valuing my time in a safe environment. Nobody is forcing you to support me. Supporting and tipping creators for their content has been a thing for centuries.

pastelmogar  asked:

Ahhh, hello! Ive never talked to you, but i really love stardew valley too! Im in my second year and I've decided to romance Emily. She decided to dance with me @ the Flower Dance and now its the day after and! In the mail! Perrie tells me about the bouquet, Emily sent me the letter for her 8 heart event, and Demetrius (my closest friend in game) sent me an amethyst, one of Emily's favorite gifts!! It feels like Perrie and Demetri are playing as my wingmen and I'm so excited about this!!

THIS … IS THE ABSOLUTE CUTEST i am 100% in favour of top wingmen pierre and demetrius ……. demetri getting all emotional about his best friend’s blossoming relationship …. pierre delighted that the farmer is really finding a home in the community ……………….

Concept: Kara and Lena’s friendship growing, they learn each others secrets, they have keys to the others apartments, they start having dinner together regularly, Lena started subconsciously referring to Kara’s apartment as home, “I’ll be home for dinner around 7″, Kara starts keeping Lena’s favorite foods in their apartment, Kara starts subconsciously referring to her apartment as Lena’s home, “I wont be home until 8 Alex, but Lena will be home by 7:30″, Kara reminds Lena to eat and go to her doctor appointments, they cuddle at night and end up falling asleep on the couch until Kara carried them to bed….

And their best friends, they tell each other they love each other, the know the other’s hopes and fears and secret guilts, but they don’t realize that either of them have even looked at another person romantically in months, they dont think about other girls/boys/etc, they’ve fallen into a relationship without realizing it

so when the hugs and cuddles turn to cheek kisses and hand-holding and the cheek kisses and hand-holding turn into spooning and the brushing of lips and the spooning and brushing of lips turns into touching and kissing they don’t really notice and they don’t comment because it was all so natural. They fell in love with their best friend and nothing seemed as easy as that. 

Avengers Assemble, 3x26
  • Steve: Tony, you've been the best friend I've had since, well, maybe ever.
  • Tony: I like to think I work best alone, Cap. But the truth is, I'm better because you're my friend.

He fucking stripped the song of the seductive aura and completely made it about emotions, missing someone, wanting them back. In the acoustic version he took his time, slowed it down, let the lyrics really sink in. It was so emotionally driven, man.

I am so overjoyed at the thought of CS finally getting married, but also at the fact that Jennifer and Colin are just as excited as we are. We are so lucky to have two wonderful actors that care so much about their characters and their pairing. They are just as excited as the fans are and are excited to share it with us.
I love them so much and am getting really emotional thinking about how far Captain Swan has come since “I can’t take a chance that I’m wrong about you” and “the time for making deals is done… just as I am done with you” and “that was a one time thing” and having Jen and Colin behind the characters - I don’t think anyone could have done it better. No one else could steer the ship.
I’m just so excited and impatient and I can’t wait to see for the musical episode AT ALL, I HAVE NO CHILL.

Sap post, out.

anonymous asked:

I'm a 2nd year vet student and although I'm absolutely loving it and it's my passion, I'm scared that I'm investing so much and spending 6 (very hard) years to become a vet, only to get there and eventually fall out of love with the profession. I also find myself wondering if I'm really cut out for it - the financial, mental, and emotional strain. I think I'm just doubting myself, but idk. Did you have any doubts? How did you reassure yourself? Thanks so much, it's really really appreciated.

Hey Worrier, let me tell you a secret.

I’m 30 years old, went into vet straight out of high school, have worked for 7 years, moved interstate and back again and published a novel and I still have doubts.

I doubt and I worry and I second guess myself all the time. My default state is ‘worried about something’.

I always doubt my decisions, but the way I practice veterinary medicine is by gathering evidence that my treatment plan will work. I don’t really hope, I don’t have any blind faith, I function by accumulating evidence.

And evidence would suggest that I’m not making the worst calls in the world. Therefor I will continue to do so. 

I think it’s normal to have doubts. I think it’s healthy. If you don’t stop occasionally to question what it is you’re doing, whether these things you believe are truly things you believe or whether they’re things other people have told you that you believe, then you might find yourself very far off track and not know how to get back to yourself.

If you’re feeling lost, I can tell you how I figured myself out, what parts of me were really me and what matters.

  • Take some pieces of paper, at least six. They don’t have to be big.
  • Write one or two words down on each piece, answering the following: I am __________
  • Look at them. Are they right? Is the word you’ve found the correct one for the feeling or concept you’re trying to get down?
  • When you’re done, when you’ve written down everything you think you are, look at them all.
  • Choose three. Throw the rest away.
  • The ones you threw away don’t matter. They might be nice, but they’re not you, not the heart of you.
  • Of the three you have left, pick one. That’s the vital one. That’s you. Put it somewhere safe, don’t lose it.
  • The two you have left are important, but you could lose both of them and still be you.

I know that if I can hold on to the one thing which is truly me, then the rest of the world can change around me and I still wont be lost. If I had to I could let veterinary medicine slide, so long as I still keep the way of thinking that it’s taught me.

Maybe I wouldn’t be cut out for it. Maybe I wont be in the future. But that doesn’t matter, because it’s not integral to my being or my existence. Veterinary medicine is just a think I am doing, and if I do it well, then so much the better. It might be a mighty, nearly all consuming thing, but it is just a thing and not part of me. I hope that makes sense.

Writing it down is what I did, many years ago. I hope it helps you too.

taeyong really thought doyoung was sick and he was so worried about what he should do and as the leader he tried to comfort them and lessen their worries but he himself was really stressed about the whole situation? he bit his gums to hide how nervous he was, but he assessed the situation giving possible solutions like going to the hospital bc it might be stomach flu and telling everyone to not get too emotional and reassuring the others. and when the staff told him to continue filming, he originally mentioned how doyoung was too sick to film with the other four and when they told him not to even mention doyoung i’m sure he felt bad and frustrated about how they can’t just pretend nothing happened to doyoung? this episode showed how well he is as a leader and how much his members really mean to him 

For the first time in months my dash has been hardly anything but Sterek. I’m actually really emotional about this. It’s the first time in weeks I’ve had any kind of fluttery, good feeling in my stomach and that’s all thanks to this wonderful family of Sterekers who have nothing but passion and love for this ship. Thank you for always being there to bring a smile, especially when it’s needed. You are amazing guys, as always.

❤❤❤❤❤

I’m holding out for a hero to awaken the Light,
She’s gotta be strong, and she’s gotta be fast, 
     and she’s gotta be fresh from the fight!
(Racing on the Falcon and rising with the heat,
It’s gonna take a Jedi Knight to sweep me off my feet~! )

Riffing off the Disney/fairytale theme once more, because Rey is the hero we all need and I’ve always dreamed of, I’m in love…….. *__* 

also having fun with potential “level-up” Jedi outfits! (I know this is more PT than OT style, but I really like the PT tunics…) I can’t decide between Rey making her own classic lightsaber, or making a dual-bladed saber to complement her quarterstaff… the dual blade was just fun to draw :D

I don’t know if I’m the only person whose older brother has done this but we have a joke agreement that I’m going to marry his best friend so they can be brothers

And don’t you dare tell me that’s not something Matt and Shiro probably did????

Matt going up to shiro and saying “hey listen I wanna be #brosforlife so you’re gonna marry my sister, Katie, cool?” And shiro just saying yeah sure whatever bc katie is his younger sister by years and it’s a joke so who cares.

And pidge knows about it too, she’s young and has really only briefly met shiro once or twice but whatever you say Matt.

Years later on the ship Pidge remembers but doesn’t want to say anything bc oh shit shiros hot and she’s just the dorky younger sister and Shiro probably forgot all about that

And one day Shiro comes up and says “hey pidge, is the wedding still on?”

anonymous asked:

about your post saying that it's okay to cry when residency gets difficult. In my residency, it's really hard. I've noticed the females crying sometimes, but all the guys always seem okay and put together. i'm a guy and i do not feel that way, i sometimes want to cry too, but i dont want to seem different because people think only girls can be vulnerable and cry while the men have to be strong.

TOXIC MASCULINITY 

So, if you haven’t heard about it, toxic masculinity is the fact that due to societal pressures men aren’t allowed to express their emotions in public the way women are and are expected to be more aggressive/unemotional/etc.   

I think that everyone cries in residency. I think that it’s just more accepted for women to do it in public or with their friends so they have someone who can comfort them or commiserate with them. Men are forced to do this in private and tell no one it happened to them. 

That’s bullshit. 

Everyone struggles to get through residency. I’m sure that everyone in your program has had a moment that brought them to tears. It’s just where they were allowed to talk about that moment. 

Crying is a natural reaction to something terrible or stressful. Human beings are allowed to have feelings no matter what gender they identify with. 

This is just another example of how toxic masculinity is a problem. :/ 

I want to talk about Cassian...

Because of course I do. But I have been having some thoughts about him and his position both within the Inner Circle but also what he does in a wider sense for Rhys and the Night Court and the challenges he must have faced in doing so. 

“And we’re not lesser faeries, though some try to call us that. We’re just—Illyrians. Considered expendable aerial cavalry for the Night Court at the best of times, mindless soldier grunts at the worst.
“Which is most of the time,” Azriel clarified.

I want to consider how this idea must have shaped Cassian (and Azriel)’s time in the Night Court. This is the court a large chunk of which rejected Rhys – the most powerful High Lord in Prythian’s history in part because he was half-Illyrian. I don’t think it’s a huge stretch to imagine that this prideful court might not have reacted altogether that well when their armies were placed under the command of a bastard born pure Illyrian warrior like Cassian.

To them the Illyrians are ‘expendable’ or else ‘mindless soldier grunts’ they’re arrow fodder, they’re the consistent vanguard that does the brunt of the damage and takes the brunt of the blows from the oncoming battle and protects the far more important, far more valuable High Fae and faerie warriors of the Night Court behind them. They’re a shield and a battering ram, a tool to be used and little more.

I can’t imagine that they took well to having Cassian placed over them as commander, no matter how he might have proved himself in battle these sort of stereotypes and ways of thinking aren’t something you overcome because of a few good war stories. I can only imagine the backlash that Cassian suffered as a result of this and how these people he would lay down his life to protect more than likely thought him entirely unworthy of his position, unworthy of respect, unworthy of the honour of command, unworthy to lead them.

But I don’t really want to focus too much on that aspect of it. I want to focus on Cassian. And I want to focus on the way in which I think he would have won these warriors over (because he still commands Rhys’ armies. If he’d been unable to do so, unable to earn their loyalty and obedience he wouldn’t)

Methods of controlling/keeping subjects and inferiors in line is something that is brought up in this series. It’s not given a huge amount of attention but it is there. Tamlin is a good example of the other side of Cassian’s coin.

Tamlin and the Spring Court before him is steeped in a tradition of control and control through fear. This is seen on a small scale with the way in which Tamlin responds to Lucien pushing back, he belittles Lucien, “Did I ask for your opinion?”  and uses his considerable power to punish Lucien for an insolent look (a punishment we’re never shown which adds to the sense of fear) 

But it’s seen on a larger scale with the Tithe. People are expected to pay their dues to him and they turn up and do so yes because it’s a symbiotic balance in a way – they provide for Tamlin and he keeps them safe – but also from the fear of him hunting them down and executing them if they don’t do as they’re commanded.

This method is no doubt successful but in the long term it has some very serious, gaping flaws. Ruling with fear leaves little room for anything else and I don’t think it inspires a whole lot of loyalty or respect.

The flip side of this is I think the method that Cassian would have used to bind his warriors to him. I can’t see Cassian ordering brutal punishments or executions for those who refuse to fall in line with him (largely because initially this would likely have meant executing pretty much everyone) I don’t think fear or brutality would have appealed in the least to Cassian (I don’t think he’s a pushover; and if someone betrays them or acts out of turn he will punish them) but initially, making people fall in because they fear him isn’t something I can see him doing.

I think Cassian would have won them to him with love. With compassion and empathy and that heart of his. I think Cassian, the greatest warrior Rhys has ever known, doesn’t use that aspect of himself to command fear and make his men too terrified of his wrath to disobey them – I think he inspires love in his men and I think this love breeds the loyalty and respect that Tamlin is lacking which is why Cassian has been so successful as a commander in the past.

Rhys loosed a breath. “…I’ve witnessed Cassian rip apart opponents and then puke his guts up once the carnage stopped, sometimes even mourn them.

There’s such compassion in Cassian, raw, strong, utterly unapologetic compassion. I think that in spite of being one of the strongest Illyrians in history and being loaded with the killing power, despite everything that’s been done to him and everything he’s seen Cassian retains quite a tender heart. Which is so rare from this type of male character? The cocky warrior with the skills and title to back that up is allowed to have that gentleness to him, is allowed to respond to the things he’s done in this way, is allowed to throw his guts up after killing, is allowed to mourn his enemy because he feels what he’s done so keenly.

Cassian is a warrior at heart. Born and bred and trained to be one of the best killers in Prythian but I think he’s far deeper and more complex than that. He is not only a warrior. He is a trainer and a brother, a friend, a lover and a dreamer. He is not defined by this warrior status. He is not a bloodthirsty killer who delights in battle and argues for war as the way forward in every instance. He is a fighter – the best Rhys has ever come across – but he doesn’t relish it. He doesn’t relish violence or death. He doesn’t take any pleasure in it. He doesn’t claim glory from the things he’s done or the title he holds.

Cassian shrugged, wings tucking in tighter. “I command Rhys’s armies.”
As if such a position were something that one shrugged off. 

But for Cassian that is the way he responds to it because that may be the title that he holds but it is not who he is. It does not define him. His pride does not lie in the number of warriors he has at his disposal, the number of men he can send to slaughter and die. It does not lie in the great, bloody deeds he’s done in war. It does not lie in the people he has killed. It lies in the people he has saved. Which is why Cassian mourns his enemies, the people he’s killed, the people that need not have died, the people that might have been saved and weren’t. All of them. Friend or foe.

When she finally noticed Cassian, she looked up at him.
His voice was rough as he said, “Five hundred years ago, I fought on battlefields not far from this house. I fought beside human and faerie alike, bled beside them. I will stand on that battlefield again, Nesta Archeron, to protect this house—your people. I can think of no better way to end my existence than to defend those who need it most.”

This I think is one of the most telling and important moments for sussing out who Cassian is and that last line in particular I think is one of the most defining Cassian quotes I can think of. It tells you what he values, it tells you what he loves, it tells you why he fights which is the most important question for someone like Cassian in the position that he’s in. He must always be ready to fight and die; he must always be able to rationalise it and justify it and live with it afterwards especially when he responds to death the way he does: he must know why he fights and what for.

This is a man who fights because he must. This is a man who fights not for glory or honour or riches or legacy or for the simple pleasure of violence and killing. This is a man who fights for love. For compassion. A man who does these things because he has to, to protect those who cannot protect themselves - for this he will die, for this he will blacken his soul and bloody his hands with the acts of war that make him sick to his stomach again and again and again. To defend those who need it most.

The wrappings around my hands were now mere smudges of soot. Cassian’s upraised palms remained before me—ready to take the blow, if I needed to make it. “I’m all right,” he said quietly. Gently.
And maybe I was exhausted and broken, but I breathed, “I killed them.”
I hadn’t said the words aloud since it had happened.
Cassian’s lips tightened. “I know.” Not condemnation, not praise. But grim understanding.

This whole scene is beautifully written and put together and incredibly moving and it’s something I fully intend to meta on and pick apart much more completely than this when I reach it again in ACOMAF. But for Feyre for her recovery, for her grief and guilt this moment where she expresses it out loud is a huge turning point for her and incredibly important. But for Cassian too, for understanding him it’s hugely important for his character as well.

This was one of the first moments where I truly saw Cassian; saw the man behind the fighting leathers and the cocky smiles, saw to that burning heart he has inside. This is a point at which you realise that Cassian is a fighter and a warrior and a killer but in spite of all that, deep down, I don’t think that’s what defines him the most. It’s not the core of him, it’s not the heart of him. It’s an aspect of him, a very important one but it’s not the be all and end all of his character or existence.

Which again is something we very rarely see from characters like Cassian who are built up to be great warriors and fighters. They’re so rarely allowed to have the raw emotion that Cassian has. They would so rarely be allowed to make an admission like this, to respond in this way to an act of selfless heroism. He doesn’t try and rationalise it for her or justify it or offer her glory or try and brush it off. He doesn’t pity her. He doesn’t condemn her. He doesn’t praise her. He just understands her.

This is a man of empathy. A man who looks at Feyre Cursebreaker, the girl they hero worship for the thing that makes her vomit her guts up every single night, the thing that torments her awake and asleep, the thing that makes her feel that ‘it should have been me’ and simply says ‘I know’.

 Cassian understands this, understands her, because when history remembers them their legacy will not be cold sweats and fickle dreams. It will not be their grief and sadness for every death on every side. It will be as heroes. With no thought of the price of that heroism, the weight they carry, the blood they can never wash off. It will remember him as the army leader, one of the strongest Illyrians in history, the greatest warrior of his age. It will remember the people he killed. The great deeds he performed. The slaughter and the glory of the warrior incarnate. I hope it does not forget why. I hope it does not forget his heart. 

Whatever anyone may be feeling about tonight’s ep and the sequences that follow I feel like we’re all in need of a hug so here’s a hug from the two people who are the sole reason for the endless pain and emotion we encounter on a daily basis

Originally posted by justleavemebreathless