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I’m not ready for this series to be over 😭❤️

I’m crying ok you know that Barbie Girl song? the super annoying one that gets stuck in your head like musical gum in your hair? ok so when that song came out, the company that makes barbie dolls tried to sue the singing group Aqua for portraying barbie in a bad light. except then Aqua tried to sue them back?? so there was a whole court thing and both lawsuits were thrown out and the judge’s ruling was, and i quote, “the parties are advised to chill”

Life after menopause is exceptionally rare in animals. It can evolve only in creatures where grannies help younger family members survive. Only human, killer whale, and short-finned pilot whale females routinely live for substantial periods after they stop breeding. Like humans, killer and pilot whales have roughly twenty-five to thirty childbearing years, then can live another thirty or so. And as Ken’s just explained, some live a lot longer. Up to a quarter of the females in a group are postreproductive. These whales are not waiting to die; they are helping their children survive.

As human children often benefit from their grandmothers’ attention, killer whale grandmothers boost their grandkids’ survival. A rather bizarre twist of killer whale society is that killer whale mothers remain crucial to the survival of their adult children. When older killer whale females die, their adult children start dying at high rates, especially males. Male killer whales who are under thirty years old when their mothers die suffer a tripling of the annual mortality rate compared to males in their age group whose mothers are still alive. Male killer whales who are more than thirty years old when their mothers die face death rates more than eight times as high as males in their age group whose mothers are still living. Daughters under thirty show no mortality increase after their mothers’ death. But daughters older than thirty when their mothers die have more than two and a half times the death rate of same-age females whose mothers are alive.

Males’ handicaps of the extra drag of their huge dorsal and pectoral fins and the extra food required for their immense size (at around 20,000 pounds, males can be one-third more massive than females) seem to make them reliant on their working mothers for food. Females don’t have the males’ impediments, but while raising young, females may rely on food shared by their no-longer-breeding mothers. Adult females share essentially all the fish they catch, and more than half goes to their children. Adult males share their catch only about 15 percent of the time—usually with their mothers.

While no one fully understands their strange death pattern following the loss of a mother, extreme parental care is likely at the root. Toothed whales are the world’s champion nursers. Short-finned pilot whales continue to produce milk for up to fifteen years after the birth of their last calf, likely nursing other females’ young. In bottlenose and Atlantic spotted dolphins (further study might reveal others), some females never give birth. Denise Herzing dubbed them “career females,” because their role in society does not include motherhood. They might be infertile. They might be gay. But their contribution is crucial: they do a lot of babysitting.

When Herzing entered the ocean with a visiting nine-year-old girl, “White Patches, the eternal babysitter herself, had never seen me babysitting a young human before. Her excitement vocalizations were audible and electric and she continued to swim around us, eyeing the human youngster attached to me.” (Researchers sometimes call babysitters “aunts.” That’s precisely who they often are.)

—  Beyond Words, by Carl Safina

Y’all if i can recommend a really good book series right now, please read When Women Were Warriors by Catherine M Wilson, its about women warriors who love women and they fight and lead armies and strive for peace and save their people and guess what THEY DON’T DIE. Its well written, there’s multiple love stories, 90% of the characters are women and of all character types. 

Its really an amazing story, i love it a lot i’ve read it many times (its a 3 part series, i only linked to the first part) and i don’t think its spoilery to say it has a genuinely happy ending. We deserve to have happy endings. 

Good morning! ☕️📚

I finished Carrie’s book in about an hour last night. It was fine. Funny in parts and (obviously) quite a quick read, but it lacked depth. It was like watching a sitcom–a decent, brief, amusing diversion but something you’d barely remember by the end of the day. I feel like a bit of a jerk writing that right now, but it doesn’t diminish who she was as a person–she’s awesome.

The husband went back to work this morning and Conner is at his dad’s for a couple days. (He’s at the age now where I allow him to choose when and for how long he visits. He said he’d prefer to have Christmas with us and be home again for the weekend, so we’ll pick him up Friday.) The house is all mine and I’m so enjoying my coffee, the quiet, the lights, and the promise of some reading time before I head over to visit my dad. I remember @fatbastich recommended this book to me (forever ago)! I’ve been wanting to read it but they never have it at Half Price Books. 😞 So, I got it from the library! I’m hoping to finish it this morning because I’m taking The Underground Railroad back today and picking up The Wolf Road–my hold that just came in.

I do love the library, but does anyone else feel pressured by library books? I especially hate when there are other people waiting–I feel rushed. If I own the book, I can wait to read it until I’m in exactly the right mood for it–and then I can share it with other people (one of my favorite things).

LIKE IF YOU HAVEN'T HAD TIME TO BUY/READ THE NEW RA BOOK AND YOU'RE TRYING TO AVOID SPOILERS I WANT TO KNOW WHO ELSE IS S U F F E R I N G LIKE I AM

seriously there are so many unmarked spoilers right now ;-;

He [Mandelson] provided Brown with some strategic nous, presentational flair and emotional support. ‘I know it sounds strange, but Peter has made Gordon much more relaxed and confident,’ said one member of the Cabinet. 'At the same time, Peter can be blunt with Gordon about his faults in a way no one else can.’ Another minister who saw the two men together marvelled at how 'they spoke to each other like brothers.’ A third noted that 'they have their own little code’ often impenetrable to anyone else, a semaphore which could convey a thousand words of meaning in a look or a phrase. At New Labour’s time of gravest crisis, Brown and Mandelson had found something which surpassed even the oceans of poison that had flowed between them. They were thrown back together by their mutual desperation to save the project itself.
—  Gordon and Peter after The Resurrection 

This book has gotten so much hype this year! I’m finally getting to read it!! @laceeejo gave it five stars, so I’m encouraged!! So far, it’s good!!!In a half hour we’ll put up our Christmas tree and then Conner is nagging us to watch Elf, so we’ll probably do that, too. Right now, my two dingbats are out in the garage filming a video for the husband’s how-to/DIY YouTube channel and I can hear them from here. 😍

There are times when I’m so happy I feel like my heart could just burst. I feel like I have more than my fair share of those times and I try never to take them for granted. ❤️