Headcanon A: what I think realistically: This is going to be a bit salty but: Nesta would never allow herself to be trained as a warrior. Still after acowar there are sooo many fics and headcanons of Cassian training Nesta and moulding her into like….Feyre 2.0 (and I’m not saying anyone is wrong for this like u can write whatever u like, DON’T MISTAKE ME) but in realistic terms that’s just…Not who I think Nesta is. Or who she wants to be.
There are different kinds of strength. Hers lies in her intelligence and her magic and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact it’s good that we have that and this was one of the things I actually actively liked and approved of in ACOWAR.
Because a female character does not have to swing a sword around or hit things really hard to be a strong, complex, compelling, loved character. And Nesta embodies that idea tbh, it works so well with her character to not have her be physically strong and domineering. Her strength lies elsewhere and she knows that and owns it and I love it.
Headcanon B: what I think is fucking hilarious: NESTA READING ROMANCE BOOKS AND QUIZZING AZRIEL ON SEX TO BETTER NAVIGATE/UNDERSTAND HER RELATIONSHIP WITH CASSIAN. GOD BLESS.
Headcanon C: what is heart-crushing and awful but fun to inflict on friends: Oooooooh interesting. Honestly this kind of builds on canon but I genuinely think that Nesta suffered a lot more because of her Making than she let on. (See: her reveal that didn’t come until like chapter 50 or something that she can’t bathe anymore because she’s too traumatised) I feel like there are maybe a lot of things like that that Nesta has bottled up and pretended that she’s okay with and has internalised and just tried to deal with on her own because she can’t acknowledge her own vulnerability with other people. I don’t think it’d be hard for Nesta’s trauma to go a lot deeper than what we’ve seen on the surface and that just makes me…Sad thinking of her suffering and alone without any help.
I feel like the older you get the younger you realize you are?? Like at twelve you think you know your shit and you’re practically an adult but then at 23 you realize you’re just a child and adult responsibilities are too much and you’d be content with juice, naps, and cartoons forever.
What if I really am just a late bloomer? When I came out to my mom, she said that she never experienced sexual attraction until college. I'm only sixteen... How am I supposed to know?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again until my throat is dry and hoarse. There’s no such thing as being a late bloomer. People saying that you’re a late bloomer is a form of invalidation against any sexuality that isn’t straight. Elementary school children are allowed to know they’re straight, but anyone else who’s not is just “too young.” No. That’s not okay. If asexual is how you feel now then you are asexual. That said, sexuality can be fluid and change over time. But if it does change and you develop sexual attraction later it’s not because you’re a “late bloomer.” Sexuality is just fluid.